Nzira 10 Dzokupfuura Nadzo Mukurambana

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Kunyangwe iwe wave wakagara pamwe kwemwedzi miviri kana makore maviri, kurambana kunogara kuri nyore mune dzidziso pane kuuraya. Asi kunyangwe zviome sei zvinonzwika, kuva ne "yakachena zororo" uye kudzoka patsoka dzako hazvigoneke-sekureba uine chirongwa chakakodzera. Takataura nenyanzvi nhatu dzehukama, uye nezano ravo, takagadzira chirongwa chegumi-nhanho kubatsira kuita kuti kurambana kwenyu kunamate. [Tita chirongwa ichi!]

Kugadzirira

Nhanho 1: Kuparadzana kwakamwe kamwe kunowanzova kwakaoma kunamatira, saka kiyi yekuzorora kwakachena kuronga pachine nguva. “Kunyangwe ukada kutyora nguva ino, zvipe mazuva mashoma ekugadzira nyaya yakanaka yekuti sei ichifanira kupera,” anodaro nyanzvi yezvepabonde Gloria Brame, Ph.D., munyori we Zvepabonde kune Vakura-Ups. "Usaputsa nekukurumidza, kana kuti unogona kuenda nekudzoka mupfungwa dzako chiuru."

Nhanho 2: Paunenge uchinyunyuta pamusoro pekuti iwe unonyatsoda kucheka tambo, zviende kure naye, Brame anopa zano. "Kana iwe uchiri kunzwa zvakafanana mazuva mashoma gare gare, iwe unozonzwa kusimba pamoyo uye nekuwedzera kutsanangura kuti kurambana ndicho chisarudzo chakarurama."

Nhanho 3: Sechikamu che "kuronga" maitiro, zvakakoshawo kufunga kuti kupatsanurana kuchakanganisa sei zvese zvehupenyu hwako. "Funga nezvekushandisa kwemari pamwe chete nehumwe hukama hwaungave unahwo, uye iva nechokwadi chekuti zvirongwa zvako ndezvechokwadi sengetonton," anopa zano Paula Hall, murapi wepfungwa uye munyori we Ungaita Sei Kuti Uve Nehutano Hwakanaka Kurambana. Kana mave kugara mese munoda kuziva kuti ndiani ari kuenda, ari kugara ani, kana kuti rendi ichavharwa sei.

Kuurayiwa

Nhanho 4: Kana waita sarudzo yako, unofanira kubvuma kuti zvapera zvachose. Hall anoti icho chikonzero nei vazhinji vakaroorana vachizviwana vachimboenda nekudzoka ndechekuti ivo vachiri kunzwa vanonetseka nezvekuguma. "Kana iwe waita basa rose raunogona, saka unofanira kubvuma mumusoro wako, uye nemoyo wako, kuti zvapera."

Nhanho 5: "Usaenderere mberi nekumwe kurwa kana kuderera kubva pahukama," Brame anodaro. "Kana mumwe wako akaedza kuita maitiro asina kunaka, famba." Nharo zvimwe chikamu chikuru chechikonzero nei wakarambana pakutanga-sei uchipisa moto wauri kuedza kudzima?

Nhanho 6: Kutanga kufunga nezveumwe wako senhoroondo: Isa zvese munguva yakapfuura, neshoko nepfungwa. "Kana iwe uchida kuti zvipere, bvuma kuti zvese zvakaitika nezuro uye kuti hupenyu hwako hwave nhasi uye neramangwana," anodaro Brame.

The Aftermath

Danho rechinomwe: Zvemagariro midhiya zvakanaka kuti ugare wakabatana, asi mune ino nzira ndeyechokwadi yemoto yekuzviisa iwe kuburikidza ne roller coaster kukwira kwemanzwiro. "Kumbozorora pasocial network," anodaro nyanzvi yezvepabonde Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., munyori we DzeBonde Dzekupisa MaTips, Tricks & Licks. "Sezvingave zvichiedza kutevera mafambiro ake ese paFacebook, Twitter, uye Instagram, izvi zvinongoita kuti kurambana kuome. Kuvhara, kusatevera, uye kusashamwaridzana zvinogamuchirwa zvakakwana mushure mekurambana." O'Reilly anopawo zano rekutora mugwagwa wepamusoro kana zvasvika kunzvimbo dzekutandarira: "Zviyeuchidze kuti ugare wakasarudzika. Kushoropodza veruzhinji, kunyadzisa, uye kuratidza kushambidzika kwako kwetsvina hakumbovake- uye izvi zvinosanganisira kutaura kwoutsinye." Kutaura marara kunoita kuti uratidzike kuvava, zvinova hazvisi mufananidzo waunoda kuratidza.

Nhanho 8: "Kunyangwe wakasarudza kupatsanura kana wawakambodaro, ucharamba uchipinda munguva yekusuwa nekuzvidemba," anoyambira Hall. "Shanda nemanzwiro ako neshamwari uye nemhuri, kwete ex wako." Tarisira kuti unzwe kusurukirwa pane dzimwe nguva, uye uchinetseka nezveramangwana, anowedzera. "That are normal normal. Hazvireve kuti wakanganisa." Asi nekukurumidza iwe paunogona kudzoka patsoka dzako, nekukurumidza iwe unozokwanisa kuenderera mberi.

Nhanho 9: Unosungirwa kumhanyisa mumamiriro ezvinhu anokuyeuchidza nezvewawakambo-pamwe ari kunhuhwirira mushonga wake kana kuenda kune inozivikanwa hangout. "Kunyangwe kusangana uku kuchikusiya uchinzwa kufara, kusuruvara, kutsamwa, kana kusava nebasa zvachose, usanetseke," anodaro O'Reilly. "Kurambana kwese kwakakosha, uye kunyangwe ndangariro dzeukama kubva kare dzinogona kukuita kuti unetseke. Kupotsa murume wekare hazvireve kuti chiratidzo chekuti munofanira kudzokerana."

Nhanho 10: Nzira yakanakisa yekudzoka kubva pakurambana ndeyekutanga kuita zvimwe zvezvinhu zvaunoda kuita semunhu, uye kumisa zvimwe zvinangwa zvako. "Wakambonzwa here kuti kana mumwe wako asipo, unenge uchiita X? Ita X ikozvino," anodaro Brame. "Kunyangwe kuri kutamba nerumwe munhu mutsva, kuenda kunzvimbo yawaigara uchida kuziva nezvayo, kutora chipfuwo, kana kuenda kujimu zvakanyanya, une rusununguko izvozvi, saka chiite! Nzira yakanakisa yekuenderera kumberi ndeyekufamba chaiko." mberi uye kutora kufarira kutsva kuchaita kuti pfungwa dzako dzigare dzakabatikana. "

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