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1. Unopinda mudariro unongoziva muridzi wehosi. Iwe:

a.

kugara pedyo netafura yebuffet -- unenge uchida kusiya kudya kwako pane kumanikidzwa kutaura nevasingazivi!

b. tanga kutaura nezvezuva rako kumunhu ari padivi pako.

c. kwira kuboka revanhu vanotaridzika kunakidza uye voita mhinduro yakakodzera panguva yakanaka.

Instant nzwisiso Chokwadi, hazvinakidze zvikuru kana iwe usingazive chero munhu, asi usasiye uyu mukana wekusangana nevanhu vatsva. Wongorora chiitiko uye tarisa vanhu vanoita sevanosvikika, vachisarudzira boka diki pane rakakura. Pazvinenge zvaita sekuti nhaurirano yave parinodekara, simuka uzvizivise. "Ingove wakasikwa uye wakasununguka," anodaro Judith McManus, purezidhendi weJudith McManus, LLC, uye mudzidzisi webhizimisi-yekukurukurirana muTucson, Ariz. "Taurira boka kuti uri mutsva, uye bvunza mibvunzo yakazaruka [iyo inogona' kupindurwa hongu kana kwete] sekuzvisuma kunoita vanhu."

2. Uchangodzoka kubva kunoshamisa rwendo rwekuHawaii urikufira kuudza shamwari dzako nezvazvo. Iwe:

a. usataure chinhu. Ndiani ane hanya nerwendo rwako zvakadaro?

b. ramba uchienderera nerwendo kune chero munhu anokuteerera.

c. suma musoro wacho, wozotaura nevamwe nezvenzendo dzavakatora.

Instant nzwisiso Kugovera nyaya yega, kunyanya iyo inokufadza, zvinogona kubatsira kutanga nhaurirano nyowani. Ingongwarira kuti usaise pfungwa dzako dzose pauri. Zvakare, nzvenga izvo Susanne Gaddis, Ph.D., mutauri ane hunyanzvi uye murairidzi mukuru muChapel Hill, NC, anodaidza imwe-OOPS (yedu yega nyaya) -humambo. "Kana iwe uchigara uchitora mukana mukuru kana kuwana chibvumirano chiri nani, uri mumwe-OOPSing vanhu," Gaddis anodaro. Pane kudaro, shandisa nyaya yako uye woenzanisa hurukuro nekubvunza kana mumwe munhu akamboenda kuHawaii kana ane nzendo dzinonakidza kumusoro. "Shingairira mukana wakanaka wekutaurirana nekutaura makumi mana muzana yenguva uye kuteerera makumi matanhatu muzana," Gaddis anodaro.

3. Wakamira nevamwe vakadzi vatatu pagungano unoona kuti mumwe wavo haasi kutaura. Iwe:

a. munzwire tsitsi; mushure mezvose, hausi kupa zvakanyanya iwe pachako.

b. ramba uchienderera mberi nehurukuro, uchifunga kuti achasvetukira mukati.

c. mubatanidze iye nekutarisa maziso, kunyemwerera uye kumubvunza iye mubvunzo.

Instant nzwisiso Tarisa mutauro wemukadzi uye uone kana uchigona kunzwa zvaari kunzwa. Anoratidzika kunge anogutsikana nekuteerera chete here? Kana iye achiratidza kusagadzikana kana kutya, bata pfungwa dzake uye wozopinda mune imwe-yega-yega chat. Chengetedza hurukuro yakareruka. "Kuseka chishandiso chakanaka kune chero mamiriro ezvinhu, kunyanya kana uri kuyedza kukwevera mumwe munhu," anodaro McManus.

4. Uri kutaura newaunoziva uyo asingamiri kutaura nezvake. Iwe:

a. teererai zvakanaka.

b. gadzirai iye kunze uye tsvagai chikonzero chekupinza hurukuro.

c. svetukira mukati kana uchikwanisa uye tora mukana wekutaura nyaya yako.

Instant nzwisiso Iyo isinganzwisisike yekukurukurirana inoita muchiyero chekutarisa, kubvunza uye kuratidza. Kunyangwe kubvunza mibvunzo kunoita kuti hurukuro dzikunguruke, kubvunza zvakawandisa masimba kuti umire pasi. "Nguva zhinji tinofunga kuti vanhu vari kubatisisa nhaurirano, asi panzvimbo pezvo, tangosiya nguva yedu yekutaura," anodaro Susan RoAne, chipangamazano wezvekutaurirana muSan Francisco uye munyori we Maitiro Ekugadzira Rombo Rako (John Wiley & Vanakomana, 2004). Kugadzirisa? Bvunza mubvunzo, teerera mhinduro yake, uye svetukira mukati kuti utaure nyaya yako. Kana ivo vachiri vasingatenderi iwe kuti utaure, bvunza mubvunzo unozoita nyore hongu kana kwete mhinduro wozotora yako nguva.

5. Pachisvusvuro chewaunoshanda naye, wakagariswa padivi pemurume wausingazive. Wazvizivisa iwe, asi haugone kuita kuti hurukuro ienderere mberi. Iwe:

a. shandisa yakawanda yemanheru uchidzikama wakanyarara.

b. taura zvakasiyana-siyana nezve chikafu kana vaenzi, zvisinei nekuti anoita kunge anofarira.

c. suma misoro yakasiyana-siyana usiku hwose mukuedza kumuita kuti ataure nezvake.

Instant njere Kana iwe wakaramba wakagara padyo nemurume uyu, kuita hurukuro ine hushamwari kunogona kuita kuti chikafu chako chitakurike. Kutanga, vhura neyakareruka, "Hesi, uri kuita sei?" Wobva wabvunza mibvunzo inomutsa mhinduro dzechokwadi, senge, "Unoziva sei iye muenzi?" kana kuti "Unogara kupi?" Kana iwe uchiri kuwana mhinduro shoma kubva kwaari, ramba uchisvetuka kune dzakasiyana misoro kusvika wawana nzvimbo yekubatanidza.

Kugovera

Kana iwe ukapindura zvakanyanya A's, uri:

> Zvakanyara Kunyara Kana pamwe iwe unongoshaya chivimbo. Kutanga, bvisa pfungwa yekuti hapana ane hanya nezvauchataura kana kuti hauna chekupa. Kuti ugare uine vanotanga nhaurirano, nyorera kupepanhau kana kuona mafirimu ezvino uye uuye kuungano uine misoro mitatu mupfungwa.

Kana iwe ukapindura zvakanyanya B's, uri:

> Kutonga Hurukuro Zvikunde uye wosiya kutonga nhaurirano. Kunyange vanhu vachida kunzwa nyaya dzako, ivo vanodawo kugovera yavo. Ipa vamwe vanhu mukana wekuti vataure - mazwi avo anoratidza zvavari kufarira kukurukura.

Kana iwe ukapindura kazhinji C's, uri:

> Chipo paGabbing Unoita zvakanyanya kuteerera pane kutaura, uye simba rako guru riri kuita kuti vanhu vanzwe sekunge wakangotarisa pavari chete kana ivo vachitaura. Pasina kupokana iwe uri pane ese evashanyi runyorwa, saka chenjera kuti urege kuzviparadzira iwe wakanyanya kuonda mwaka wezororo!

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