5 Zvinoshamisa Nzira dzeSocial Media Inogona Kubatsira Hukama Hwako

Zvemukati

• 1. Inogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe wakachengeteka-kunyanya kutanga.
• 2. Zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kuratidza kuonga yako S.O.
• 3. Kupemberera zviitiko zvevanhu pachena kunogona kubatsira kuvaka hukama.
• 4. Inokubatsira kuti urambe wakabatana nehurongwa hwakabatikana.
• 5. Inogona kukupa iwe chiitiko chakagovaniswa.
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Social media inowana kupisa kwakawanda kwekukanganisa bhizinesi rehukama hwerudo-uye nekuburitsa kusachengeteka kwakanyanya, maitiro egodo matiri tese. Zvimwe zvacho zvakakwana. Hongu, kuva nevakomana vanopisa vanotsvedza muDM yako kana ex wako anokuwedzera paSnapchat kunogona kusimudzira muyedzo. Uye hapana manzwiro akaipisisa kupfuura kuvharidzirwa nemukomana wawakarambana naye achibuda muInstastory yemumwe musikana. (Uye kune vasina kuroora vanhu, kufambidzana maapplication anogona kuunza pane yakazara hondo yezvepfungwa nyaya. Ona: Kufambidzana Mapurogiramu Hazvina Kwakanaka kune Kwako Kuzvikoshesa)

"Hapana kuramba kwekuti pasocial media yakachinja nzira yatinosangana nayo, kuita bonde, kudanana, uye kudonha kubva murudo, asi zvandinozvitora ndezvekuti pasocial media rava mbudzi yezvinetso zvedu zvevanhu," anodaro Atlanta- based relationship therapist Brian Jory, Ph.D., munyori we Cupid paKuyedzwa. "Hukama hunokundikana nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda, uye isu hatifanire kupomera vezvenhau matambudziko atakazvigadzirira." Touché.

Nguva yese paine hutsva hwekuvandudza tekinoroji-mota, e-mail, vibrators-isu tinofanirwa kudzidza maitiro ekuchinja kufambidzana, hukama, uye hukama hwepedyo, anosimbisa. Jory anonongedzera kuvhoti ya2014 yePew Research Center iyo yakawana vanhu vazhinji-72 muzana-havanzwe senge vezvenhau kana internet ine chekuita nehukama hwavo. Uye kune avo vanozviita, vazhinji vanoti mhedzisiro yakanaka.

Saka hongu, nhepfenyuro yemagariro inogona kuita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuva neukama hwakanaka muna 2019. Asi kunewo toni yepamusoro iyo inogona kuita kuti chisungo chako chiwedzere kusimba. Heano mashanu-uyezve anobatsira ekuita nezvisingaitwe, zvinoenderana nehukama zvayakanakira.

1. Inogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe wakachengeteka-kunyanya kutanga.

Iyo DTR convo zvirokwazvo inokubatsira iwe kuti unzwe kunge uri papeji rakafanana neSO yako nyowani, asi kuwedzerwa kusimbiswa kunogona kuenda nenzira refu. "Pakutanga kwehukama, kugovana pikicha yako pamwe chete kunogona kutaura kuti uri kurevesa nezve uyu," anonongedzera murairidzi wehukama muNew York Donna Barnes.

"Kuita kuzvipira kuve vaviri hachisi chinhu chinoitika muchivande pakati pevanhu vaviri - chiitiko chemagariro pamwezve chinoisa muganho kutenderedza hukama hwavo uye zvinoita kuti vamwe vazive kuti pane kubatana pakati pavo kunopfuura kungoita zvega," "Jory anodaro, achiwedzera iro gumbo rakakosha rehutatu hweshungu, hwehukama, uye kuzvipira.

FYI, nyanzvi mbiri idzi dzinobvumirana ichi chinhu chaunofanira kutaura nezvacho kutanga-kutumira pikicha yemumwe munhu kana kushandura hukama hwako paFacebook usingataure nezvazvo kutanga kunogona kungoita kusawirirana pakati pako.

2. Zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kuratidza kuonga yako S.O.

Zvemagariro enhau zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kwauri kuti ugovane zvinhu zvaunodada nemumwe wako pakupedza mapurojekiti, kuwana kukwidziridzwa, chero chinhu chavakashandira nesimba, anodaro Barnes. "Kubvuma mumwe wako zvakanaka inzira yakanaka yekuchengetedza hukama hwako hwerudo, uye masocial platforms anoita kuti zvive nyore kuvaratidza kuti unovatenda zvakadii," anodaro. (Zvakafanana: Sezviri pachena, Kungofunga nezve Mumwe Munhu Waunoda Kunogona Kukubatsira Kubata Nemamiriro Anoshungurudza)

Zvekare, ingova nechokwadi kuti uri papeji imwechete nezve izvo iwe zvauri wega kugadzikana nenyika uchiziva. Kutumira pachena kunogona kubatsira hukama, asi iwe unofanirwa kuseta mitemo nezve izvo iwe zvauchazogovana online-uye iwo mutemo unofanirwa kunge uri wekuchengetedza iwo roller coaster yemanzwiro kuhupenyu chaihwo. "Ita chibvumirano chekuti manzwiro ako kune mumwe nemumwe ndeewe - kwete pasi rese-uye manzwiro iwayo anozosimba kana ari ega," anodaro Jory.

Kana kuchangotanga kudanana kuti mutange kukurukura, tevedzerai mutemo wekuti musanyanya kugovana: Kutumira zvinhu zvepedyo kana kuti zvakaipa kunoderedza kukwezva kweari kufumura, inodaro imwe ongororo. Makomputa muhunhu hwevanhu.

3. Kupemberera zviitiko zvevanhu pachena kunogona kubatsira kuvaka hukama.

"Kugadzira bhuku rehukama hwenyu pamhepo uye kupemberera zviitiko-rwendo rwako rwekutanga pamwe chete, gore rako rekuyeudzira-yakanaka pakuvaka hukama hwepedyo, kunyanya muhukama hutsva," anodaro Barnes. Uye nepo iwe uchinyatso kugovera zvakawandisa, kunyora makuru ekutanga kunogona zvakare kubatsira shamwari dzako uye mhuri kuti vazive yako itsva SO uye nekupa kuvimbiswa kuti vakakodzera iwe, anowedzera.

"Kusarudza kuti ndeapi mapikicha kana mavhidhiyo ekutumira, nyaya ipi yekutaura, inosekesa nezvisiri mutambo wevakaroora vazhinji," anodaro Jory. Kutamba uchipanana ruzivo uye zviitiko zvakakosha semurume nemukadzi zvinogona kuwedzera kune icho chiitiko chakagovana.

4. Inokubatsira kuti urambe wakabatana nehurongwa hwakabatikana.

Kana iwe wakambotumira yako S.O. Instagram DM yememes inosetsa iyo yakakuyeuchidza zvachose nezvavo, kana Snapchat yeiyo imbwa yakanaka iwe yawakaona munzira, ipapo unoziva kuti vezvenhau inogona kunge iri nzira inonakidza yekugara wakabatana neupenyu hweumwe neumwe, kunyangwe kana uchikwanisa kuve tese panyama.

Chidzidzo chePew chakatsigira icho kumusoro: Vakaroorana venguva refu vakati kutumira mameseji kunoita kuti varambe vachikurukura pavanoparadzana-kubasa kana kuenda parwendo rwebhizinesi - uye vamwe vanotaura kuti kuona vavakaroorana navo kunze neshamwari mumifananidzo kwakavaswededza padhuze. "Vamwe vakaroorana zvakare [vanoshandisa mameseji uye vezvenhau] kuvaka zvishuwo zvebonde nema innuendos kana kutaura kwepabonde kwakajeka-zvinogona kunakidza uye kukurudzira," anodaro Jory. (Unogona zvakare kuedza idzi gumi dzakasiyana dzepabonde nzvimbo kuti uzvirunge manheru ano.)

5. Inogona kukupa iwe chiitiko chakagovaniswa.

"Zviitiko zvakagoverwa ndiyo hwaro hwekugadzira hukama hwakanaka kwenguva refu," anodaro Jory. Izvi ndizvo zvinhu zvinokutadzisa "kukura uchiparadzana" kana kurasikirwa nechido kune mumwe nemumwe. Chimwe chikamu chehukama hwepedyo ndecho chaunogovana pakati penyu vaviri-kumeso kukurukurirana, kuongorora bonde - asi chikamu chikuru chehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwe "ruoko-mu-ruoko" - zvido zvinozivikanwa zvamunogovana pamwe apo kutarisisa hakusi kune mumwe, asi pane zvaunofarira, chinangwa, kana munhu wekunze.

Nyaya iripo: "Paunotumira pikicha yemwana wako, chiitiko chekurera vana," anodaro Jory. Hongu, pamwe ndezvambuyawo, asi zvinogonawo kukuswededza iwe nemumwe wako. (Zvakafanana zvinoenda kune chipfuwo!)

Imwe inokosha kubata? Ingova nechokwadi chekutara nguva isina-skrini neako SO Chidzidzo mu Psychology yeYakakurumbira Midhiya Tsika inoshuma kuti kutarisa foni yako nguva dzose kana iwe uine mudiwa wako kunowedzera godo. "Kuti tive neutano hwepfungwa uye mumuviri, tinodawo kusangana-kutarisana-kubata ganda chairo, kutarisa mumaziso chaiwo anobwaira kana kuchema," Jory anoratidza. Zvemagariro midhiya zvinogona kutsigira hwaro hwaunogadzira isipo, asi hukama chaihwo hunotora hurukuro chaiyo, senzwi rinobuda mumuromo mako nemitsara yakazara. "Ndezve hanya uye kuzvipira mune yakazara-muviri pfungwa."

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