Ita Hupenyu Hukuru Kuchinja

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Kusvira kuita shanduko muhupenyu hwako, asi usina chokwadi kana wagadzirira kufamba, chinja mabasa kana neimwe nzira kusimudzira nzira dzako dzakagadzika dzekuita zvinhu? Heano zvimwe zviratidzo zvekuti wagadzirira kuita shanduko huru muhupenyu:

Ita shanduko kana… Unozviwana wava kurota uchifungidzira zvakanyanya kupfuura zvakajairika.

“Vanhu vanowanzodzidzira vachifunga nezvekuchinja kweupenyu kwavanoda kuita,” anodaro Rachna D. Jain, Psy.D., chiremba wepfungwa uye mudzidzisi wezveupenyu muColumbia, Md. muhupenyu hwako chaihwo kuti iwe ungazowana zvakaoma kutora chiito mune chaicho nyika. Semuenzaniso, kana usiri kufara kubasa, unogona kupedza nguva yakawandisa uchirota pamusoro pezvaizove kuita kuve nashe mutsva kana bhizinesi rako wega zvekuti unosara kumashure pabasa. Nyatsocherechedza zvaunofungira. "Kana iwe uchiramba uchirota nezvechinhu chimwe chete, icho chiratidzo kune izvo zvaungade kuti uchinje," Jain anodaro.

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Ita shanduko kana… Unonzwa kushatirwa, hasha kana kushushikana kazhinji.

Kuva nedambudziko rekuzvikwevera kubva pamubhedha kana kutya kuenda kubasa mazuva ese chiratidzo chechokwadi chekuti unoda shanduko yehupenyu. Iwe unogona kunge usingazivi kuti hausi kufara sei kana zvinhu zvave zvichinyanya kuipa nekufamba kwenguva. Kutaura neshamwari uye nemhuri kunogona kukubatsira kuti uone kana izvo zvauri kunzwa zviri zvenguva pfupi kana chikamu cheyakareba nzira, anodaro Christine D'Amico, MA, murairidzi wekushandura hupenyu muSan Diego. "Mumwe mutengi wangu akabvunza vana vake kuti yakareba sei anga asingade basa rake," anoyeuka. "Vakamuudza, 'Amai, hatigoni kuyeuka nguva apo makada basa renyu.' "

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Shandura kana…Usina kugadzikana kana kusanyatsogutsikana.

Kuora mwoyo haisiriyo chete chiratidzo chaunoda shanduko yehupenyu. Zvakareruka, kusagutsikana kusagutsikana zvakare chiratidzo chakajeka chekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka. "Ndinozviona izvi kazhinji nevakadzi vanoda shanduko muhukama hwavo," anodaro Jain. "Unogona kufunga kuti, 'Mukomana wangu akanaka, asi pane chimwe chinhu chisipo.' Kana kuti 'Hapana chakaipa, asi izvi hazvinzwike.' "Kunzwa usina kugadzikana kazhinji chiratidzo chekuti mukati pasi unoziva kuti unofanirwa kuita shanduko muhupenyu, asi hauna kuziva kuti chii ichocho.

Imwe nzira yekuita izvi kunyora kunze kana kungofungidzira hupenyu hwako hwakanaka. "Gadzira chiono chakakwana chehupenyu hwako hwakanaka: zvaunotaridzika, zvauri kupfeka, zvaunodya mangwanani-ngwanani, zvese," anodaro Jain. Kuenzanisa chokwadi nehupenyu hwako hwakakodzera kunogona kuratidza izvo zvinogona kushandisa kuzunungusa.

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Ita shanduko kana… Une hope dzisina kuzadzikiswa kana chinangwa chikuru cheupenyu chausiri padhuze kusvika pane zvawaive gore kana maviri apfuura.

Zvichida iwe unonyatsoziva kuti hupenyu hwako hwakanaka hunoratidzika sei-hausati waita chero chinhu nezvazvo. Chikonzero chikuru nei vanhu vachirega kutevera zviroto zvavo? Kutya. "Kuita yakakura, inonakidza kutambanudza kunotyisa, uye kutya uku chiratidzo chakanaka-kana zvichinzwika sechisikigo kwauri, hazvina kunaka," anodaro D'Amico. "Tevera kutya-ndiko kwaunoda kuenda."

Kunze kwezvikomborero zviri pachena-basa raunoda, hukama hutsva, nharaunda iri nani-kuita shanduko huru inogona kuwedzera hupenyu hwako nedzimwe nzira zvakare. "Kurarama kuburikidza nekuchinja kukuru kunokudzidzisa nezve kugona kwako," anodaro Jain. "Unogona kudzidza kuti une simba rakanyanya, wakangwara uye wakakurudzira kupfuura zvawaifunga, uye unowanawo pfungwa huru yekuzvimirira uye kutonga pamusoro pehupenyu hwako."

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