Chikonzero cheSainzi Iwe Unovenga Zuva raValentine

Zvemukati

• Neurochemicals Muuropi Hwako
• Mhinduro Yako Yechisikigo kune Zvese Izvo Kuwedzeredza
• Zvakanyanya ~ Chaiko ~ Marwadzo anobva kuMwoyo Wakaputsika
• Ongororo ye

Inguva iyoyo yegore-zvese, kubva kubhaluni kusvika kupeanut butter makapu, akafanana nemoyo. Zuva reValentine rava pedyo. Uye kunyange hazvo zororo richikonzera vamwe vanhu kuzotubuka nemufaro semvura iri mubhavhu rinopisa rakaita semwoyo, vamwe vanodedera pavanoona Kukadzi 14 pakarenda. Mikana ndeyekuti ukabaya baya nyaya iyi, uri muboka rekupedzisira iri.

Hausi wega. An Elite Mazuva ese Ongororo yezviuru zvemazana emakore mazana mana nemakumi mana neshanu yakawana kuti makumi maviri nemasere muzana evakadzi uye makumi matatu neshanu evarume vakanzwa kusava nehanya neZuva raValentine.

Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvatinoda kuvenga Kukadzi 14, anotsanangura Laurie Essig, Ph.D., purofesa wezvematongerwo enyika kuMiddlebury College uye munyori we Rudo, Inc..

Chokwadi, kutengeserana chikamu chayo.Asi kana vanhu vachinzwa zvakashata nezveZuva raValentine, zvinowanzoitika nekuda kwekutarisira kwakanyanya zuva rinoisa-vese kune avo vasina kuroora uye vakamirira mukomana kana musikana wezviroto zvavo kuti auye uye nevaya vari muhukama, futi. "Kunyangwe ukasangana ne"iye," unongofanira kutarisana nemadutu makuru uye zvinhu zvakaomarara munyika," sys Essig. "Zuva raValentine ivimbiso yegore negore isinganzwisisike, uye vamwe vedu tinonzwa kusafara nazvo."

Kuora mwoyo uku kunogona kutsanangurwa, muchidimbu, nesainzi. Ehe, pane zvimwe zvikonzero zvekusafarira Zuva reValentine kunze kwekungogunun'una kana kujekesa. Pano, isu tinoputsa mashoma ezvikonzero-uye tinopa mhinduro dzekukunda iwo manzwiro kumashure kwekuti nei iwe uchinetsekana nekungofungidzira kwerudo panguva ino yegore.

Neurochemicals Muuropi Hwako

Oxytocin ndiyo inonzi rudo mahormone, uye inogadzirwa zvakanyanya mu hypothalamus. Iyo neurochemical inosunga kune neurons muuropi uye inobatsira kuwedzera hukama hwemagariro, kudanana kwerudo, uye tsitsi.

Masayendisiti akaona kuti yakawanda sei oxytocin inoburitswa nemunhu wese yakasungirirwa kumagen'a-vakadzi vanowanzo kuburitsa yakawanda oxytocin kupfuura varume, anotsanangura Paul Zak, Ph.D., neuroeconomist kuClaremont Graduate University muCalifornia. Izvi zviri muchidimbu nekuti testosterone inhibits oxytocin kuburitswa, ichigadzira "hutongi modhi" pane "yekubatanidza nzira."

Yakawanda sei iyo "rudo kemikari" inosunungurwa yakasungirirwawo pahunhu hwako-vanhu vanowirirana uye vanonzwira tsitsi kusunungura yakawanda oxytocin, Zak anotsanangura. Asi izvi zvinogona zvakare kuchinja zuva nezuva, zvinoenderana nemanzwiro ako uye zvekunze zvinhu. "Kune vanhu vasingaburitse yakawanda oxytocin mushure mekudyidzana kwakanaka, taura kumbundira kana rumbidzo," anotsanangura. "Vanhu ava vanogona kunge vachinge vaine zuva rakaipa chaizvo. Kushushikana kunotadzisa huropi kubva mukugadzira oxytocin yakawanda, kubva padanho remaseru," anotsanangura kudaro. "Saka hongu, vamwe vanhu havangakwanise kunakidzwa neV-Day, muchidimbu, nekuda kweizvi."

Asi izvi hazvirevi kuti vanhu ava havagoni kuita zvinhu kuedza kuwedzera oxytocin muuropi.

Zvekuita: Zak anoti kana iwe uri kutsvaga kuti uchinje maitiro ako nezvehoridhe, nzira yakanakisa yekunzwa rudo (uye oxytocin) kurupa kune mumwe wako (kana iwe uri muhukama), mubereki, chipfuwo, kana shamwari. Iwe unowana izvo zvaunopa kana zvasvika kune iyo hormone. "Zvakaoma kwazvo kune vanhu kuti vawedzere yavo oxytocin, asi vanogona kupa chipo icho. Kana iwe ukapa avo vakakukomberedza rudo uye kutarisisa, zvinovaita kuti vakupe zvakafanana kwauri," anodaro Zak.

Kune dzimwe nzira dzakatsigirwa nesainzi dzekuchinja nzira iyo yako neurochemicals inosunga kune mauroni ako kuti ubudise yakawanda oxytocin, se "brain reset," anodaro Zak. "Unogona kugara mutop inopisa kuti uzorore (inodziya temp inokwidza oxytocin), fungisisa, famba famba nemumwe munhu, kana kuita chimwe chinhu chinonakidza uye chinotyisa nemumwe wako kuti ubvise kusagadzikana uye kukurudzira oxytocin: Kwira chinotenderera! Tora kukwira neherikoputa! " Kana edza kurovedza muviri kutsva neako akakosha mamwe. (Iyo post-Workout bhenefiti mabhenefiti akakosha izvo.)

Kunyange kana iwe usina kuroorwa, kuedza zvinhu izvi neshamwari nemhuri kunogona kubatsira kuti oxytocin yako iwedzere uye kushungurudzika kwako (uye zvichida kuvenga kwako kweV-Day) pasi.

Mhinduro Yako Yechisikigo kune Zvese Izvo Kuwedzeredza

Ino nguva yegore inowanzokurudzira PDA uye kubuda Facebook uye Instagram zvinyorwa. Maitiro akadai anogona kukonzeresa V-Day vatsoropodzi, uye imwe ongororo yeNorthwestern University inogona kunongedza nei.

Tsvagiridzo kubva kuNorthwestern yakawana kuti vanhu vakawanza nezvehukama hwavo paFacebook vaive vasingadiwe. Kuwedzeredza kunoreva zvinopfuura kungogovana imwe nguva pikicha newaunoda-iwo akakwirira mazinga ekuzivisa senge, toti, kutamba-nekutamba kweZuva rako reValentine zuva rehusiku. (FYI, heino nzira shanu dzinoshamisa dzesocial media dzinogona kubatsira hukama hwako.)

Uye kwete. Haisi chete curmudgeonly vasina vanhu avo vanofinyamisa pamhando iyi yemafambiro-hapana anoifarira.

"Hatina kuwana mutsauko pakati pevanoona vasina kuroora kana kuroorwa neavo vaive muhukama maererano nekufarira kwavanoita vanhu vanogovana ruzivo rwehukama," anodaro munyori anoshanda, Lydia Emery. "Zvinoratidzika kunge zvisiri zvevanhu vasina kuroora vanonzwa godo kana chigumbu - zvinoita sekunge munhu wese haafarire kuwedzeredza."

Zvekuita: Kunyangwe iwe usingakwanise kudzivirira zvachose vakaroorana mumugwagwa kana kuti kuwedzeresa mukomana mukomana akatakura hofori teddy bere munzira yepasi pevhu, pane matanho iwe aunotora kuti utore zvishoma zveizvi zvinopfuuridza muhupenyu hwako.

Ita social media detox yemwedzi waFebruary. Kuita izvi kunogona kuita kuti uwedzere kufara pazororo rino-ongororo yakaitwa nevatsvaguri vepaNew York University neStanford University yakaona kuti kudzima Facebook mavhiki mana chete kwakaita kuti vanhu vataure kuvandudzwa kwemazinga avo emufaro. Kana izvo zvichinzwika zvakanyanya, edza kuzvimisikidza iwe kune gumi maminetsi e Instagram kubhurawuza zuva rega rega. (Kune zvimwe zvakanakira kudzikisira yako nguva yechiso, zvakare.)

Zvakanyanya ~ Chaiko ~ Marwadzo anobva kuMwoyo Wakaputsika

Zvakanaka-heino iyo yawanga wakamirira. Kuputika kwekushambadzira kutsvuku uye kwepingi kwese kwaunotendeuka kunogona kumutsa pfungwa nezve rudo mukati mehupenyu hwako. Kana uri kutarisana nekurambana kana rudo rusingadzorwi, zororo rinogona kukonzera marwadzo. Hongu, kurwadziwa chaiko.

"Uropi hwedu hautipe nzira iri nyore yekubva kunetsana uku kana kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe munharaunda patinonzwa kana mumwe munhu asingadzore manzwiro ake," anodaro Zak. "Uye iko kunzwa kwekusurukirwa uye kukakavara kunoitwa nenzira imwechete muuropi sekurwadziwa kwemuviri kunoitwa, kuburikidza nemarwadzo edu matrix."

Mune mamwe mazwi, rudo chairwo runokuvadza, uye Zuva raValentine rinogona kuve risiri-rakavanzika chiyeuchidzo cheizvi.

Zvekuita: Zak anoti imwe yenzira dzakanakisa dzekurapa marwadzo aya inodzoka ku oxytocin. "Oxytocin inorwadza," anodaro. "Zvidzidzo zvakawanda zvinoratidza kuti zvinoderedza marwadzo nekuderedza basa mumarwadzo matrix."

Kana iwe usina kuroora, kukwidza ako mazinga ne, iti, kuva neGalentine's Day pati kunogona kubatsira kubvisa mafungiro ako akashata nezvezororo uye kusimudza iwo mazinga eoxytocin. "Chaicho chinhu chakangwara kuita mutambo uye kuenda kunofara neshamwari dzako," anodaro Zak. "Ibva wadzokera kubhodhi rekudhirowa kwegore rinouya. Vanhu havafanire kukanda mapfumo pasi [pakutsvaga rudo]."

Ongororo ye