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Emma Morano ane makore zana negumi nematanhatu (hongu, zana negumi nemanomwe!), Uye parizvino ndiye munhu mukuru pane vapenyu pasi pano. Mukadzi wekuItaly, akaberekwa muna 1899, achangobva kupemberera zuva rake rekuzvarwa munaNovember 27 uye akadya zvese zvaanotenda kuti zvinotora kuti ave munhu mukuru.

Mhinduro yacho inogona kukushamisa. Kwete, hazvisi zvekare, asi kuti "kuva wega," anodaro Morano sezvakataurwa neThe Independent. Morano akagara ega kubva muna 1938 paakasiya murume ane mhirizhonga nguva pfupi mushure mekufa kwemwana wake mucheche.

Inoburitsa sainzi inoratidza kuti kusaroora chaiko kunopa boka rezvibatsiro zvehutano izvo, kana iwe ukazviwedzera, zvinogona kutungamira kuhupenyu hwakareba. Kune imwe, vakadzi vachangoroorana vanowanzowedzera uremu kubva pabheti, maererano nekuongorora kwe2014 kwakabudiswa mumagazini. Body Image. Uye, chaizvo, unogona kunge uri zvimwe zvingangoita kuti uremu muhukama hunofadza kupfuura zvauri mune imwe iri kuenda kumaodzanyemba (kutanga muwanano yako, zvirinani), sekureva kumwe kudzidza kwakaburitswa mumagazini Hutano Psychology. Kunyangwe kuwana imwe "hukama hwehukama" kusiri kukuuraya iwe, kunyanyisa kufuta kunowedzera mukana wako wekuuraya kwese kwezvinetso zvehutano kubva kurudzi rwechipiri chirwere cheshuga, BP, uye chirwere chemwoyo kune mamwe marudzi ekenza, osteoarthritis, uye chiropa uye itsvo chirwere, sekureva kweNational Institutes of Diabetes uye Digestive uye Kidney Disease. Dudziro: hazvina kunaka, kana iwe uchida kurarama kuti uone mazana matatu emakore, saMorano.

Chechipiri, kusuwa kwemoyo chinhu chaicho-uye isu hatingoreve zvekufananidzira. Kuva muhukama hune chepfu kune mukana wekukuvadza chaizvo moyo wako. Michato isingafari yakabatanidzwa nenjodzi huru yechirwere chemoyo, maererano neongororo yakabudiswa mu Journal of Health uye Social Behavior.

Uye, chechitatu, iwe unogona kunge uchifara wega. Iyo "yakasimba, yakazvimirira mukadzi asingade murume" chinhu ichokwadi chaizvo; chidzidzo cheNew Zealand chakawana kuti vanhu vasina kuroora vanosarudza kurega gakava nekusawirirana vaitofara sevaya vari muhukama. Pasina kutaura, kuva wega kunoita kuti uve akatsiga-kunyanya kana uchiuya kubva kuhukama hwematombo, saMorano: "Kupona chiitiko chakadai uye kuzvimisira wega, pasina kuroorazve kana kutsvaga mumwe wepamutemo wekutsigira, zvinoratidza izvozvo ane simba rakakura zvechokwadi, "anodaro Sarah Bennett, vanyori vanyori ve F*CK LOVE: One Shrink's Sensible Advice yeKutsvaga Hukama Husingaperi (Kubata matombo). "Zvinogoneka kuti dai asina kuwana simba rekusiya murume wake, angadai asina kudzidza kurarama kwenguva yakareba sezvaakaita, nguva."

Uyezve, kushungurudzika kwewanano (izvo, ngative vakatendeseka, zvakaoma kudzivisa) kwakabatana nekuora mwoyo uye kunogona kutoderedza kukwanisa kwako kufara pamusoro pezvinhu zvakanaka, maererano nechimwe chidzidzo chakabudiswa mu Psychophysiology.

"Vanhu vanogara vachitsvaga kutsvaga mumwe munhu kuti varege kufa vasina murume uye voga, asi mukadzi uyu ndiye mupenyu muenzaniso wekuti nei kurudziro iri yakapusa; zvirinani kurarama hupenyu hwakareba, hunofadza semunhu asina kuroora pane kungobatirira nejuzi." , kunyanya ine chisimba, kuti usazofanira kutarisana nerufu uri woga,” anodaro Bennett.

Shevedza vasikana vako, bvisa bhodhoro rinoputika, uye pfeka Beyonce: yave nguva yekuti ~ all the single ladies ~ kupemberera.

Asi mira, handizvo: Kune zvakatowanda zvikonzero zvekusaroora zvirinani kune hutano hwako uye nzira dzakawanda hukama hwako hunogona kukanganisa nazvo.

Saka, hongu, Morano aive pane chimwe chinhu. Uye kana iwe uchinetseka kuti ndeapi mamwe mazano aanayo ekurarama hupenyu hwakareba? Kune imwe, idya akawanda mazai. Akadya mazai maviri mbishi uye imwe yakabikwa zuva nezuva kubva paaiva nemakore makumi maviri (nekuda kwekuonekwa kuti ane chirwere chekushaya ropa). Izvo, uyezve anodya makuki (zviyero, duh) uye anosiya kunze kwenyama (nekuti mumwe munhu akamuudza kuti inokonzera cancer). Zvimwe kunze kwaizvozvo? Ingoramba uchiita iyo "Single Ladies" kutamba. (Uye kune vese vasikana vari kunze uko vane rin'i, usanyora mapepa ekurambana izvozvi. Hedzino dzimwe nzira hukama hwako hunosimudzira hutano hwako. Izvo zvese nezve maonero, vanhu.)

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