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Vanosvika mazana manomwe varwere vari paBoston's Beth Israel Deaconess Hospital-chikamu chekutanga kudzidza kuchipatara-havafanire kunetsekana nenguva iyoyo. Ivo vane kugona kuzere kumanotsi emakiriniki avo, kungave panguva yekugadzwa kana gare gare kuburikidza nedhatabhesi repamhepo, sezvakataurwa mune ichangopfuura New York Times chinyorwa.

Uye kunyange izvi zvingaita sechinhu chitsva, Stephen F. O'Neill, LICSW, JD, maneja webasa rezvemagariro evanhu vezvepfungwa uye kunyanya kutarisira kuBeth Israel anokurudzira kuti hazvisi: "Ndagara ndine mutemo wakazaruka. kunyorwa kwavo chaiko, uye vazhinji vedu pano [kuBeth Israel] takazviita pachena. "

Ndizvozvo: Kuwana manotsi emurapi wako ikodzero yako (chinyorwa: mitemo inosiyana nenyika uye kana zvingakukuvadza nokuda kwechikonzero chipi nechipi, murapi anobvumirwa kupa pfupiso). Asi vanhu vazhinji havabvunze kwavari. Uye varapi vazhinji vanonyara kugovana. "Nehurombo, vazhinji varapi vakadzidziswa kudzidzira vachizvidzivirira," anodaro O'Neill. "Muchikoro chekupedza kudzidza purofesa akamboti, 'Kune marudzi maviri evarapi: avo vakamhan'arwa uye vasina."

Kumhanya nenjodzi yekugumbura kana kuvhiringidza murwere kuburikidza nekugamuchidza kabhuku kako, ipapo? Iri bhizimusi rine nharo zvine njodzi. Uye O'Neill anobvuma kuti kuziva kuti uri pamagumo ekugamuchira kwechinyorwa chake kunochinja manyorero aanonyora (shanduko dzinonyanya kuuya muchimiro kuita chokwadi chekuti unonzwisisa chirevo chake, anodaro). Asi kutaura zvazviri, kubatsira kwacho kunopfuura ngozi, anoti: “Kana tikaendesa mashoko akaipa, tinotarisira kuti varwere havazoyeuki zvinopfuura 30 muzana yezvatinotaura. Nemashoko akanaka, tinotarisira kuti vayeuke 70 muzana. , urikushaya ruzivo. Kana varwere vakadzokera shure ndokurangarira, zvinobatsira. "

Muchokwadi, kuwanikwa kwemanotsi kunodimbura zvisina kufanira kufona kubva kuvanhu vanotsvaga kujekesa pachikamu, zvichideredza kunetseka pahurongwa hwese. Uye ongororo ichangoburwa mu Annals yeMushonga Wemukati vakawana kuti vanhu vakaona zvinyorwa zvavo zvegwaro vakagutsikana nekuchengetwa kwavo uye vangangonamatira kuma medhi avo.

Kune vazhinji, kugovana notsi ingoriwo zvakare chishandiso chekuvaka hukama hwevarwere-varapi. Nepo pakutanga ainetseka kuti tsika yacho yaigona kuita kuti varwere veparanoid vatize (shure kwezvose, ko kana vaifunga kuti ari kunyora zvinhu zvakaipa pamusoro pavo?), O'Neill akacherechedza zvakapesana: Kuziva kuti (chero nguva ipi zvayo) murwere aigona kuona zvaaita. akanyora bridged trust mazinga, achiburitsa kudzikamisa mhedzisiro.

Asi maitiro acho haana saizi imwe inokodzera zvese-uye parizvino, mashoma mamwe maitiro ekurapa kutenderera nyika akaiswa kuvhura manotsi kubva kuvarapi kune varwere. "Chikamu chebasa redu kuona kuti ndiani achashanda zvinoshamisa uye ndiani achava njodzi kwaari." Uye kushorwa kuri kwomuzvarirwo. Kana murapi akanyora dudziro yezvavanofunga kuti zviri kuitika kune mumwe munhu, semuenzaniso, uye achida kuti murwere awane izvozvo munguva yake, kuona chinyorwa nguva isati yakwana kunogona kukanganisa kuyerera kwekurapa, O'Neill anotsanangura.

Uye nekwaniso yekuona manotsi kumba kunouya chokwadi chausingazomboziva kuti ndiani ari kuverenga pamusoro pemafudzi emurwere. Mune zviitiko zvemhirizhonga mudzimba kana nyaya, kuva nemubati zvisina kufanira kana mukwanyina asingatarisiri vanokanganisa zvinyorwa zvinogona kuva zvinonetsa. (Tarira: Kune zvidziviriro zvekudzivirira izvi kuti zvisaitike, O'Neill anodaro.)

Chinokosha: Unofanira kuzviziva iwe pachako. Uchafungisisa mibvunzo yakaita seiyi, "Izwi iro rinorevei?" kana, "Ndizvo chaizvo zvaaireva here?" KuBeth Israel, chinenge chetatu chevarwere vakave nemukana wekusarudza kupinda muchirongwa vakaita saizvozvo. Asi vamwe vazhinji havadi. Sokuyeuka kunoita O'Neill, "Mumwe murwere akati, 'Zvakafanana nekuchenesa mota yako kumakanika-kana achinge apedza, ini handidi kutarisa pasi pehodhi.'"

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