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Kana iwe uchida kuti roorano ive mune rako ramangwana, iwe ungangoda kuda kuziva kana hukama hwako hwazvino hwakananga munzira iyoyo. Uye kana iwe uchinzwa kunge iwe nemurume wako musiri kuona ziso neziso pane iyo nyaya? Iwe unogona kunge uchiramba nezvazvo, unowana chidzidzo chapfuura kubva kuYunivhesiti yeIllinois.

Mukutsvagurudza, vaongorori vakaona kuti vanhu mumibatanidzwa iyo yakazopedzisira yatungamira mukuroora vaive nekurangarira chaiko kwekufambidzana kwavo. . regressed pamusoro penguva yekudzidza yakaratidza chimwe chinonzi "hukama hwekuwedzera." Apo vaviri vakaroorana vakatarisa kumashure, vaigara vachiyeuka chikamu chepamusoro che "kuzvipira kumuchato" kunyange kana vasina kunyatsoita. ruzivo kuzvipira ikoko.

Chii chinopa? Kana zvinhu zvisina kumira zvakanaka, asi uchiri kusarudza kuramba uri muhukama, dzimwe nguva unonzwa kuda kupembedza kugara kwako-uye hukama, anodaro munyori wezvidzidzo Brian Ogolsky, Ph.D. Heino chikonzero nei iri dambudziko: Nekusarangarira zvakapfuura, iwe unogona kunge uchizvichengeta kubva pakuziva yakaderera-pane-yakanaka mamiriro (izvo zvingangove zvichiri kuenderera) uye uchizviramba iwe pachako inobatsira, anodaro. Uyezve, zvinogona kuita kuti unzwe sekunge hukama hwacho hwuri kufamba munzira yaunoda iwe.

Zvakaoma kuona hukama zvakajeka-shure kwezvose, ivo vakazara nemanzwiro-asi kana iwe uri munzira inoenda kunoroora (kana uchida kuve), funga pragmatically kuti iwe ugone kuita sarudzo dzakanakisa, anodaro Ogolsky. Semuyenzaniso, usarega matambudziko madiki bhora rechando kuita makuru- gadzirisa zvinhu zvinokutsamwisa kana zvinhu zvidiki zvinoita sezvinowedzera. Teerera iwe kune evarume zviito, kana kuti mazwi ake chete, uye chenjerera kune izvi Relationship Deal-Breakers.

Kana hukama hwenyu huchiita sehuri kudzoka-unonzwa kunge hausi pedyo nemukomana wako sezvawaimbova; hauchisiri pane imwechete peji seumwe neumwe; kana kuti zvinoita senge nhanho yega yega kumberi kutora kwako, unodonha maviri kumashure-kutora nhanho kumashure. "Icho chiratidzo chekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kumira zvakanaka, uye chinofanira kunyatsotariswa, kwete kuvharika."

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