Unofanira Kutaurirana Shamwari Yako Nezve Shady Dating Maitiro?

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Mwaka wechinomwe wa Bachelor MuParadhiso dhirama harina kushomeka, uye chikamu chesvondo rino chakangodaro.

Kurumidza kudzosera kumashure: Chikamu cheChipiri chakaratidza vaviri vakaroora vachiendesa hukama hwavo padanho rinotevera - vanogona kukanganwa "Grocery Store" Joe Amabile naSerena Pitt vachidonhedza izwi re "L" zvinoyevedza - nepo vamwe, vakaita saNatasha Parker, vasina rombo rakanaka. Parker, uyo akatanga kuoneka mumwaka waPeter Weber we The Bachelor gore rapfuura, ndakashinga ku Paradhiso zhizha rino kune rimwe pfuti parudo. Kunyangwe aiita kunge akawana mutambo mune yekare Bachelorette mukwikwidzi Brendan Morais, aingove nemeso aPieper James, a Bachelor alum uyo akasvika pa Paradhiso vhiki rapera.

Asati Paradhiso, zvisinei, mishumo yakanga yabuda yokuti Morais naJames vaiva chinhu. Parker paakanzwa nerunyerekupe urwu, akakumbira Morais kuti ajekese hukama hwake naJames, uye akati vaviri ava vaive vangotandara kakati wandei. Vaviri Morais naJames vakapomedzerwa mhosva yekuronga kusangana pamabhichi e Paradhiso, maererano ne Isu Vhiki.

Muchikamu cheChipiri, zvisinei, zvakasara Paradhiso vakwikwidzi vakajekesa kuti havana kufadzwa nemabatirwo avakaitwa naMorais Parker uye vakamukurudzira kuti abve pagungwa naJames, uyo - muparadzi wekunyepedzera - ivo vakaita. Uye apo zvaitaridzika Parker aizove nemukana wekusangana nemumwe munhu mutsva - mudiwa Bachelorette alum Joe Park, M.D., aka "Dr. Joe" - rudo rwavo ruchangotanga rwakasvika parumananzombe sezvo Dr. Joe ari maBFF naMorais anonetsa. Semuenzaniso, panguva yekutanga kwaParker naPark, waigona kuona kushanduka kwemitauro yemuviri wake mushure mekunge Parker ataura kuti akatadza "kukandirana" naMorais. Mushure mekugocha patafura nemagirazi makuru emargarita, Dr. Joe vanobva pakutaura nezvekutarisira kwaanoita kuti Parker ndiye "munhu" wake, kuenda kutaura zvisinganzwisisike, "chii chichava." (Related: Astrology Inoti 'Bachelorette' Katie Thurston naBlake Moynes Vaigara Vachiitirwa Kuve)

Zvinonzwisisika kuti Dr. Joe akashamisika kunzwa zvakadzika pakati paMorais naParker. Kutaura chokwadi, zvinogona kutyisa kuona mumwe munhu waunoda achifananidzirwa muchiedza chisingafadzi. "Brendan wangu?" akabvunza Dr. Joe panguva yeChipiri. Hongu, Dr. Joe, "Brendan wako" akanga akonzera kurwadziwa kwaParker. Asi mune iyi nyaya, chii chinotevera danho raDr.Joe: anovimbisa kuvimbika kuna Morais zvakapihwa nhoroondo yavo yehukama, kana anoenderera mberi achidanana angangodanana naParker nekubata pal yake kuzvidavirira?

Kutanga, ngatitaurei nezve hushamwari kuzvidavirira. Pane pfungwa iyi nehukama (uye kazhinji hukama muhukama) hwokuti "ude munhu chero zvodii" zvinoreva kutarisa kupfuura sarudzo dzinogona kupokana dzavanogona kuita. Asi pane a hombe musiyano pakati pekuita kuti mumwe munhu azvidavirire nokuda kwezviito zvake nokumira nomumwe munhu usingaoni nemhaka yokuti muri shamwari. Kuve muhukama ndezvekugadzira nzvimbo yerudo nekugamuchirwa, tisingarevi huwandu hune hutano hwekuzvidavirira. Panyaya ye Bachelor MuParadhiso, izvi zvinoreva kuti Dr. Joe ane mukana wekuita Morais kuti azvidavirire nekuda kwekusauya zvachose naParker. (Zvakabatana: Maitiro Ekuita Nekuchinja Kwenzvimbo dzeHushamwari Hwako)

Asi sei unobata munhu here? Hechino chinhu: Kukonana kunogona kunzwa kusagadzikana uye kusagadzikana. Inogona zvakare kunzwa inonyadzisa kana iwe uriwe uri kutarisana newaunoda nezve chimwe chinhu chaungave watadza. Kunyange zvakadaro, chiitiko chacho pachacho hachidi kuva chakaipa. Kunetsana, pakati payo, ingori nhaurirano. Iwe sei Sarudza "kutarisana" nemunhu anogona kuisa inzwi, saka tora nzira yetsitsi kana izvozvo zvichinzwa zviri nani.

Kunyangwe Dr Joe vakapa kuzvidemba kuna Parker panguva yavo, vachiti ane "hurombo" akapfuura nemuedzo wekuyedza uyu naMorais, mamiriro pakati pe Bachelor bros inogona kubatwa nekukura IRL. Muchokwadi, kutaura kwakataura kunogona kutaridzika sekuti: "Hei, Brendan. Ini ndangodzoka kubva kudanana kwangu naNatasha ndikanzwa ndavhunduka pamusoro pekuti wakagadzirisa sei mamiriro acho naye naPieper. Tinogona here kutaura zvimwe pamusoro pazvo?"

Kana, sezvo Morais nehunyanzvi anga asiri mukati Paradhiso pakasvika zuva racho, Dr. Joe aigona kunge akati kuna Parker: "Wow, zvinonzwika zvakaoma chaizvo. Ini handidi kuzotaura nezvazvo futi ndongotarisa patiri kusvika ndazogona kutaura naBrenden. Kwakanaka here?" Kunzwira tsitsi kudiki kunoenda kure, uye zvingadai zvakaita mutsauko wese panguva yekubatana kwaDr Joe naJark Parker pazuva ravo rekudya. (Inoenderana: 6 Matipi Ehutano - uye Zvishoma Zvinokuvadza - Ukama Nharo)

Unogona - uye unofanirwa - kusangana neshamwari dzako nemutsa uye nechinangwa. Muhurukuro yokufungira iyi pakati peshamwari mbiri idzi, Dr. Joe vaigona kutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai sokuti: “Ndinokuda uye ndinokutsigira, murume, asi handifungi kuti wakabata mamiriro ezvinhu aya nenzira yakanakisisa. Ndinokuremekedzai noushamwari hwedu uye ndinoda nguva dzose. kutaura chokwadi kwauri pamusoro pekutadza kwaunotora. Uye zvakafanana kwauri kwandiri!" Iyo haifanire kunge iri yekuwedzeredza kana yekumhan'arira - inogona kunge iri yakadzikama, yekuremekedza hurukuro. (Ona: Sei Kukurukurirana Kwichienda Zvakashata uye Maitiro Ekuzvigadzirisa)

Hukama hwakashata, uye dzimwe nguva, nyonganiso iri chikamu cherunako. Asi izvo zvakati, vanhu vanogona kukurudzirwa kuita kuti vadikani vavo vazvidavirire. Nekubata vepedyo uye vadikanwi kuzvidavirira, ivo vane mukana wekuchinja maitiro avo ave nani, ayo anogona pakupedzisira kuvabatsira kunatsiridza hukama hwavo zvakare. Hechino chimwe chikonzero nei: Kana iyo Bachelor MuParadhiso mabasa akadzorerwa, uye kana Dr. Joe aive mushangu dzaParker, zvingangoita kuti angazoda kuti mumwe munhu ave akatendeseka uye anoteerera nzira dzaakakuvadzwa nadzo.

Pakupera kwezuva, zvinokwanisika kuda shamwari yako uye kwete kudzorera 100 muzana yezviito zvavo. Shamwari yakanaka ndeye uyo anogona kutendeseka kwauri, handiti?

Rachel Wright, MA, L.M.FT., (iye/iye) inyanzvi yezvepfungwa ine rezinesi, mudzidzisi wezvepabonde uye nyanzvi yehukama inogara muNew York City. Iye mutauri ane ruzivo, mubatsiri weboka, uye munyori. Akashanda nezviuru zvevanhu pasi rese kuti avabatsire kuridza mhere zvishoma uye nekukwenya zvakanyanya.

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