Une Shamwari Iine Mhosva Here?

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Isu tese tanga tiripo: Une zvirongwa zvemanheru neshamwari, asi chirongwa chinoputika pabasa uye unofanirwa kunonoka. Kana pane pati yemabiko, asi iwe uri kurwara zvekuti haugone kana kukambaira kubva pasofa. Chero chikonzero, iwe unofanirwa kukanzura zvirongwa-uye unonzwa kutyisa kuita kudaro.

Kuita uku kunonzi "shamwari mhosva," uye nyanzvi dzinoti iri kuwedzera. [Tweet chokwadi ichi!] "Kuva nemhosva kweshamwari kuri kuwedzera pakati pe20-zvimwe," anodaro Carlin Flora, nyanzvi yehushamwari uye munyori webhuku. Hushamwari: Nzira Dzinoshamisa Shamwari Dzinotiita Isu Tisu. "Zvisinei nezvavanoita, vanonzwa kunge havasi shamwari yakanaka zvakakwana." Panogara paine munhu waunofanirwa kunge uri "kufona, nguva inofadza iwe" yaunofanirwa kunge uchienda, kana email yaunofanirwa "kunge wakapindura kare-kana saka iwe unofunga. Asi heino kubata: Kunyangwe kunzwa nenzira iyi zvichireva kuti une vavariro dzakanaka, kuedza kufadza munhu wese hazvigoneke-kusvika pakuti zvinogona kukusiya uchinzwa zvakanyanya.

Yedu "Yakawanda" Sosaiti = Yakawanda Mhosva

Chii chiri kuita kuti tese tifunge tiri shamwari dzinotyisa? Kutanga, pane zvakawanda zviri kuitika. Pamusoro pekushanda kwemaawa akareba, pane zvimwe zviitiko zvekuenda-uye nekudaro, zvakawanda zvekusuwa. "Zvese zvinodzokera pakumuka kweInternet tsika," anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., nyanzvi yekuzviremekedza uye muvambi webasa rekudzidzisa hupenyu Wise Women Rock. "Vanhu vanogona kuwana ruzivo rwakawanda, saka vari kubatanidzwa mune mamwe mabasa. Uye zvino vari kukoka munhu wose mumagariro avo evanhu kuti auye kuzviitiko zvavo, saka inoguma ichive ichi kurwisa kukuru kwekuungana kwakawanda." Uye sezvo iwe usiri kutarisa kukurumidza-kufambidzana kuburikidza nehupenyu hwako hwemagariro uye edza kurova chiitiko chimwe nechimwe, unopedzisira wava kunzwa uine mhosva nezve izvo zvaunosvetuka.

Chimwe chikonzero mhosva yeshamwari iri kuwedzera ndeye, zvinoshamisa, narcissism. "Zvemagariro venhau zvashandura vanhu vazhinji kuita zvisikwa vanozvitutumadza," anodaro Christine Hassler, nyanzvi yemamireniyoni uye munyori we 20-Chimwe chinhu, 20-Zvese. "Vanhu vanofunga kuti kuvepo kwavo kunokosha kupfuura zvazvinoita uye nekusauya, bato harizove rakakwana kana muridzi acharwadziwa, kazhinji kazhinji munhu wese anonzwisisa."

Iva Nehana Yakajeka

Sezvineiwo unogona kusiya shamwari rwendo rwemhosva: Izvese nezvekuisa mabuds-mumusoro mako, hongu, kwete zvinonzwika!-uye kuisa ako akanakisa pekutanga. "Vazivikanwi neshamwari dzepamwoyo havangatakure huremu hwakaenzana saka havawani kurapwa kumwe chete," anodaro Flora. Kana iwe uchiramba uchitadza kuwana nguva yemumwe wako anga aripo kuburikidza nekurambana kwese, basa nyowani, kufa kwembwa yako, uye nezvimwe, iwe anofanira unzwe zvakashata nekuti iye chikamu chikuru chehupenyu hwako, Flora anotsanangura. Asi nekuremekedza kuramba kukoka kwemumwe munhu wawaizivana naye kana kupota uchimurambidza hachisi chinhu chekuzvidemba.

"Kuisa mhosva zvisirizvo nezve shamwari dzechitatu nerechina uye vavanozivana navo zvinogona kukonzera kushushikana zvisina basa uye kupedza simba rako," anodaro Flora. "Kana iwe uchingogara uchishushikana nezve vanhu vasina basa newe zvakanyanya, zvinogona kukanganisa kuzvibata kwako uye kukuita kuti ufunge nezvako seshamwari yakaipa zvachose, izvo zvausiri."

Kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti izvi hazviitike, usatore pfungwa uchibvuma kukokwa. Funga nezvavo padanho rakadzama, sarudza kuti ndechipi chiitiko chinokoshesa, uye wozoenderera zvichidaro hongu kana kwete-usambofa wakamboita. [Tweet this tip!] "Munyika yanhasi yeFOMO, hatidi kurasikirwa nechinhu chero chipi zvacho, saka tinoti pamwe pane zvese kuzvibvumidza isu pachedu mikana. Asi kusava munhu anozvipira kunokuvadza kune yako psyche nekuti unopedzisira wagadzira tarisiro dzenhema, izvo zvinoita kuti unzwe uine mhosva zvakanyanya kana ukasatevedzera," Hassler anotsanangura.

Kana iwe uchiti hongu, maka zuva riri pahurongwa hwako uye yambuka zvigunwe zvako kuti hapana emergency-miniti yekupedzisira inobuda. Kana iwe ukaramba, chengeta zvinhu zvine hunyoro uye zvipfupi. "Tsananguro refu dzekuti sei usingakwanise kuenda kusimbisa kunzwa kwako kwekuva nemhosva nekuti zvinokuita kuti unzwe sekunge waita chimwe chinhu chisina kunaka," anodaro Hassler. Uye iwe hauna-saka kuzvirega.

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