Lindsey & Tiger: Sei Vakadzi Vakasimba Vachifambidzana Nevarume Vasina Simba

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Iwe ungafunga kuti makumi maviri makumi maviri emadzimai akaenzana nemakumi maviri nemaviri anopenya mireza yakatsvuka-yakafanana neayo ealpine ski racer Lindsey Vonn ane hunyanzvi anonzvenga pane hofori slalom-kugara kure, kure neTiger Woods. Panzvimbo pezvo 28-gore-okuberekwa Vonn akasarudza kufuratira izvo zvinonyadzisa uye zvinokanganisa zvikuru chokwadi, kusanganisira iyo pamusoro pekuti iye akasarudzika sei akafanana nemukadzi wekare ane makore makumi matatu nemanomwe mudzimai Elin Nordegren.

Kwete kuti hapana chinhu chakadai semukana wechipiri kana kuregererwa kwakakwana, asi pakati penhau idzi uye muimbi Rihanna achidzokerana nerapper Chris Brown, uyo akamurova zvisina kunaka muna 2009, hatigone kubatsira asi kushamisika: Chii chiri kumusoro nesimba. vakadzi vachinyengerwa nevarume vanonyengera?

"Chikonzero chinoita kuti vakadzi vagare vachinamirana nevanokwezva, saTiger Woods naChris Browns vepasi, imhaka yekuti vanovabata pamazuva akanaka," anodaro Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., weLA-based. ane rezinesi wezvepfungwa uye munyori webhuku idzva Ndiwe Sei Uchidya. "Nekuti varume ava vanowanzo budirira zvakanyanya, vanokwanisa kukubata zvakanaka, uye ndozvinoita iwe kuti uzviwanire wakangoerekana wakabatirira kune mumwe munhu ari hure."

Pane imwe nguva pasi pehuroyi, vakadzi vamwe chete ivavo vanowanzo kukanganisa zvisizvo maitiro akashata-akadai semhirizhonga, kutukwa, uye kusavimbika-kwekuda. "Ndiyo chirauro chekare uye switch," anodaro Durvasula. "Kana varume ava varipo, varipo, asi kana vabva, kanganwa nezvazvo."

Vatsigiri vaDhiyabhorosi vanogona kukakavara kuti Woods naVonn vaviri vakakwana. Esquire munyori Chris Jones akatotumira kuti ivo "mutambo wakagadzirwa muchiroto kudenga." (Woods inotsigirwa naNike, ane sirogani inoti "Ita chete," nepo Vonn ari neUnder Armour, iyo inoshandisa "Ini ndicha.") Zvichida chinoshanda kune ava vatambi vepamusoro ndechekuti vanogona kutemwa kubva kune imwechete inopenya. , jira remakwikwi ega ega.

"Vatambi vazhinji vepamusoro vanofanirwa kuve ma narcissists kuitira kuti vatsigire zvinoonekwa nevakawanda sezvingaite hutsinye," anodaro Durvasula. "Kazhinji, narcissists vanoita shamwari dzakanaka kune mumwe nemumwe nekuti vari kutamba mitambo yakafanana, saka hapana anonzwa sekunge ari kurasikirwa." Kana zvasvika kune celebs, kunyanya, chero kushambadzira kwakanaka kushambadza, saka kukunda-kuhwina mapato ese, anowedzera. Muchokwadi, sevaroorani vane simba, kuva pamwe chete zvinongowedzera kune yavo inoshamisa chinhu (pamwe chakakwezva Kim Kardashian kuKan West), izvo zvinoita kuti hukama hwacho huwedzere kunakidza. Ichi ndicho chikonzero vanyori vemafirimu vachifambidzana nevamwe nyeredzi dzemufirimu.

Nekuti zviri nyore kudonha-jerik-isu tese tinoita pane imwe nguva-heino zviratidzo zvitatu Durvasula anoratidza kutarisa kunze kwekudzivirirwa kukwezva neanokundwa:

1. Wakarambira Munyika Yake

Iwe wave nemwedzi mishoma uye haasati asangana neshamwari dzako, asi iwe unoona shamwari dzake nguva dzese. Unoratidzika kunge unogara uchidya kumaresitorendi aanofarira. Uye kana iwe ukatanga kutaura nezve rakaoma zuva kubasa, iye haanyatsoita seanobatikana. "Teerera zvinhu izvi nekuti zvinoratidza kushaya hanya newe uye kushaya kubatana," anodaro Durvasula. "Vanhu vazhinji vanokanganisa kuti anongoda kuti iwe uve chikamu chenyika yake, asi izvi zvichave dambudziko mukufamba kwenguva."

Kumuda kana Kumusiya? "Taura nekukurumidza, usingaishandure, kuti ungangoda kuti iye azive shamwari dzako uye ayedze chikafu chako chaunofarira munharaunda yako yeguta," anodaro. "Kana kuzviunza zvisingaite kuti aite shanduko shoma, ndiko kumuka kwako."

2. Iwe Unoda Kumuchinja

Mafungiro evakadzi vazhinji ndeekuti "Ndinoda kumununura" uye "Ini ndichave mwanasikana wake," anodaro Durvasula. "Vanoona mumusoro mavo kuti vanogona kubatsira varume ava kuti vachinje kuti vave nani, asi iwe unoda chaizvo kuva nemumwe munhu anoda kununurwa here?"

Kumuda kana Kumusiya? "Funga kurapwa kana hukama uhwu huchireva zvakawanda kwauri, asi zvikasadaro, bvisa gehena kubva kunzvenga," anopa zano. "Vanhu vanogona kuchinja kusvika padanho asi kwete zvakanyanya sezvaungafunga."

3. Unonzwa Senge Doormat

Chinhu chimwe chete kana akanonoka kuenda kumabiko emanheru nekuti akanamira mumugwagwa, asi ndeimwe kana akagwinya zvakanyanya kana kupwanya zvirongwa zvako zvachose asingakupe misoro kumusoro. Chinoita kuti zvinhu zviwedzere kuipa ndechekuti haungamboita izvi kwaari-iwe unoratidza kune ese zviitiko zvake, nguva dzose panguva.

Kumuda kana Kumusiya? Kana uine hanya nehukama uhu, unofanirwa kutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, 'Handigadzikane nenyaya yekuti unogara uchinonoka,' "akadaro Durvasula. uye muudze kuti zvinokuvadza.Usamirira zvinhu kuti uzvigadzirise.

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