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Danielle * mudzidzisi ane makore makumi mana nemana ekusekondari ane mukurumbira wekubvunza vadzidzi vake nezve manzwiro avo. "Ini kazhinji ndiye anoti," Zvakanaka, iwe unonzwa sei? "" Anogovana. "Ndizvo zvandinozivikanwa hangu." Danielle akakudza hunyanzvi hwake hwekuteerera pamusoro pemakore gumi nemashanu enzira yakanyanyisa uye yepamusoro-soro yekuteerera kune ariko: kupindura mafoni kune veSamaria 'maawa makumi maviri nemana ekuzvidzivirira kuzviuraya, ayo akaisa mafoni anopfuura mamirioni 1.2 mumakore makumi matatu apfuura . Danielle anobvuma kuti kunyangwe basa racho richinetsa, anokurudzirwa neruzivo rwaanopa rutsigiro runogona kuponesa hupenyu kunevasingazive munguva dzakaipisisa dzehupenyu hwavo.

Mutungamiriri weSamaria, Alan Ross anoenderana naDanielle apo anosimbisa kuoma kwekutaurirana nevaya vari mumatambudziko. "Makore makumi matatu ezviitiko zvakatidzidzisa kuti pasinei nokuti vanhu vane vavariro dzakanaka sei, pasinei nemamiriro avo ezvinhu kana dzidzo, vanhu vazhinji havasi vateereri vanobudirira uye havaiti maitiro ekutanga ekuteerera anoshingaira ayo ari kiyi yekubata vanhu, kunyanya. avo vari munhamo,” anotsanangura kudaro. Danielle, zvakadaro, anonzwisisa kuti rake basa harisi rekupa mazano asi kuperekedza. Takataura naye nezve maitiro ake ekutora nhare, ndedzipi dzaanowana dzakanyanya kuomarara, uye nei achiramba achizvipira.

Iwe wakave sei unoshanda hotline?

"Ndave ndiine vaSamaria veNew York makore anenge 15. Ndaifarira kuita mutsauko ... Paiva nechimwe chinhu pamusoro pekuona chiziviso chehotline chakandibata maziso. Ndakanga ndine shamwari dzakaedza kuzviuraya makore apfuura, saka Ndinofunga kuti izvo zvaive mupfungwa dzangu dzimwe nguva zvakare, nezve nzira yekubatsira vanhu vari kubata nemanzwiro iwayo. "

Kudzidziswa kwacho kwaive kwakadii?

"Kurovedza uku kunonetesa. Isu tinoita kwakawanda kutamba-kuita uye kudzidzira, saka iwe uripo ipapo. Kudzidziswa kwakasimba, uye ndinoziva kuti vamwe vanhu havaite. Inoenda kwemavhiki akati wandei nemwedzi- kutanga, imhando yekudzidzira mukirasi, uye wobva wawana zvakawanda pabasa nekutarisa. Zvakanyatsoita."

Wakambopokana here kugona kwako kuita basa iri?

"Ndinofunga kuti nguva imwe chete yandakambofunga kuti ndingadai ndakava nezvinhu zviri kuitika muupenyu hwangu izvo zvaindinetsa kana kuti pfungwa dzangu dzakanga dzakabatikana. Paunoita basa iri, unofanira kunyatsoisa pfungwa dzako uye kugadzirira kuita basa iri. tora chero kufona-pese painorira foni, unofanirwa kungotora chero zvazvingava, saka kana usiri panzvimbo yakakodzera pane izvozvo, kana musoro wako uri kumwewo, ndinofunga ndiyo nguva yekumbozorora kana kuenda.

"Hatiiti mashifts back-to-back; une nguva yekuzorora kubva pazviri, saka hazvina kuita sebasa rezuva nezuva. Shanduko inogona kuve yakareba maawa akati wandei. Iniwo ndiri mutariri, saka ndiri mumwe munhu achange aripo pakufonerana nevakazvipira.Ini [uye] nguva pfupi yadarika ndakatanga kufambisa boka ravanaro revanhu vakafirwa nemudikani wavo kuzviuraya-ndizvo kamwe chete pamwedzi, saka ndinoita. zvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana [pavaSamariya].”

Ko kufona chaiko kunganetsa sei munhu anenge afona?

"Dzimwe nguva, kune vanhu vari kudaidzira nezvenyaya yakati rebei, chimwe chinhu senge kurambana kana kudzingwa basa kana kuita nharo nemumwe munhu. Vari munyatwa, uye vanofanirwa kutaura kune mumwe munhu. Kune vamwe vanhu vane chirwere chiri kuenderera mberi kana kushushikana kuri kuenderera mberi." kana mamwe marwadzo.Irworwo rudzi rwakasiyana rwekurukurirano.Dzimwe nadzo dzinogona kuva dzakaoma-iwe unoda kuve nechokwadi kuti munhu iyeye anokwanisa kutaura manzwiro aanoita.Vanogona kunge vari muchimiro chakakwirira chemanzwiro uye zvakasiyana-siyana zve manzwiro.Vanogona kunzwa vakasurukirwa chaizvo.Tiri kuedza kuderedza kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe.

"Ndinogara ndichifunga nezvazvo sekuvabatsira kuti vapedze nguva iyoyo. Zvingave zvakaoma-mumwe munhu anogona kunge achitaura nezvekurasikirwa kwavo, munhu akafa, [uye] pamwe mumwe munhu akafa [munguva pfupi yapfuura muhupenyu hwangu]. kwandiri. Kana anogona kunge ari wechidiki [akafona]. Zvinogona kunge zvakaoma kunzwa kuti mumwe wechidiki ari kutambura zvakanyanya. "

Iyo hotline iri kubatikana pane dzimwe nguva kupfuura dzimwe?

"Pane fungidziro yekuti zororo raDecember rakaipisisa, [asi hachisi chokwadi]. Kune mabhebhi uye kuyerera. Ini ndazvipira panenge pazororo rega-rechina raChikunguru, Evha wegore Idzva, zvese ... Haugone kuzvifungidzira. . "

Ungatsanangura sei nzira yako yekubatsira vanhu?

"VaSamaria vanotenda kune vanhu vanokwanisa kutaura zvavanofunga uye manzwiro avo pasina kutonga. Hazvisi zvekuti 'iwe unofanirwa,' 'iwe unogona,' 'ita izvi,' 'ita izvo.' Hatipo kuti tipe mazano, tinoda kuti vanhu vave nenzvimbo yavanogona kunzwikwa uye kuvaita kuti vapfuure panguva iyoyo... Zvinoenderera mberi mukukurukurirana nevanhu muhupenyu hwako, kungokwanisa kunzwa zvinotaurwa nemumwe munhu uye pindura kwazviri, uye ndinovimba vachazviitawo, asi havasi vese vane dzidziso."

Chii chinoita kuti urambe uchizvipira?

"Chinhu chimwe chakaita kuti ndirambe ndiine vaSamariya nebasa rakadai, ndechekuti ndinoziva kuti handisi ndega. Kuedza nechikwata, kunyangwe iwe uri parunhare, ndiwe neafona... ziva kana ini ndichida rutsigiro, ndine back-up. Ini ndinogona kudetemba chero kudenha kufona kana imwe foni iyo ingangondirova neimwe nzira kana kukonzeresa chimwe chinhu. uye ivai ikoko uye mutsigire.

"Iri ibasa rakakosha, basa rakaoma, uye chero munhu anoda kuzviedza anofanira kuzvitsvaga. Kana iri iyo yakakodzera iwe, ichaita mutsauko wakakura muhupenyu hwako - kuvepo kune vanhu pavanenge vachifamba nhamo uye havana mumwe munhu wekutaura naye. ndakakwanisa kuvabatsira kuti vapfuure nenguva iyoyo. Ini handigone kuchinja hupenyu hwavo, asi ndakakwanisa kuvateerera, uye vakanzwikwa. "

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