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Zvemukati

• "Handigoni Kuderedza Kurema"
• "Handifi Ndakawana Rudo Rwechokwadi"
• "Ndakanyanyokura Izvo"
• "Ini Handife Ndakabuda
• Zvikwereti "
• "Handigoni Kuchinja Zvandiri"
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Kuvimbika kungave gwara rakanakisa, asi ngationei kuti bhurugwa remunhu wese riri kutsva nguva nenguva. Uye isu hatisi kungokanganisa chokwadi neshamwari dzedu, mhuri, uye vatinoshanda navo - tiri kuzvinyengedzawo pachedu.

"Idziviriro yemanzwiro uye yemuviri kukanganisa nzira yatinoona nayo zvinhu nguva nenguva," anodaro Simon Rego, Psy.D., mutungamiriri wezvidzidzo zvepfungwa paMontefiore Medical Center. "Idzi pfungwa otomatiki dzinogona kuzadza misoro yedu isu tisingatomboziva nezvadzo kana kusarurama kwavo."

Kwete chinhu chakanaka kubva kuName Dame vaongorori vakawana kuti idzi tambo dzinogona kukanganisa hutano hwako. Muchidzidzo chevanhu vakuru ve110, avo vakaudzwa kuti vasanyepa havana kungotaura chokwadi kakawanda, vakashumawo kuvandudzwa kwehukama hwavo, kurara zviri nani, kuderera kwekunetseka uye kusuruvara, uye kuderera kwemusoro uye kurwadziwa kwehuro.

Kuti uvandudze hutano hwako nehupenyu hwako, zviratidze pachako zvisirizvo pamusoro peshanu idzi dzakajairika nhema nemazano edu ehunyanzvi.

"Handigoni Kuderedza Kurema"

Kana iwe usingakwanise kuita senge uchinongedza chikero mukufarira kwako, mukana wekuti uremu hwako chiratidzo chenyaya yakadzama. "Zvakaoma kutaura chokwadi pamusoro pezviri kutambudza munhu, asi zviri nyore kuwana chinhu chekudya," anodaro Portland-based psychotherapist Didi Zahariades. "Unogona kuzvinyepera wobva wati, 'Ndine nzara,' apo zviripo iwe uri kuzadza manzwiro ako nekugutsikana nekukasira uye nguva yekukanganwa nezvematambudziko ako."

Kutendeseka ongorora kuti wanga uchitevedzera sei kudya kwako uye magariro zvirongwa. Wakave uine rupo zvishoma nezvikamu munguva pfupi yapfuura? Kusvetuka yako Chipiri mangwanani bootcamp nekuti iwe "haunzwi sekuda kwayo"? Kana zvirizvo, iwe unoziva shanduko dzaunoda kuita kuti utange kuona huremu hwako huchidzokera pasi. Chinokosha apa kushivirira. "Hapana anoisa mapaundi makumi mana mumazuva makumi matatu, asi kana zvasvika pakurasa mapaundi aya, tinotarisira kuti zviitike nekukurumidza," anodaro Zahariades. Bvuma kuti inogona kunge iri rwendo rurefu asi imwe yakakodzera nguva uye simba, uye funga kuona murapi kuti akubatsire kugadzirisa chero matambudziko auri kuedza kugadzirisa (kana kusateera) nekudya.

"Handifi Ndakawana Rudo Rwechokwadi"

Tichifunga kuti, sekureva kweReuters, kune fungidziro dzinosvika mamirioni makumi mashanu nemashanu muUS uye vamwe makumi mana emamiriyoni avo vakaedza kutsvaga rudo pamhepo, zvingangoita kuti kune vanhu vazhinji vanopfuudzira kuzvinyepera uku. Dambudziko apa nderekuti "rudo rwechokwadi" rakaoma kutsanangura. "Vanhu vazhinji vanofananidza rudo rwechokwadi nekuwana mudiwa akakwana, asi nyika izere nevanhu vasina kukwana," anodaro Cristalle Sese, Psy.D, chiremba wezvepfungwa muLos Angeles. Vamwe vanogona kunge vasingasarudze asi vanozeza kuzvivhura kuti vade nekuzvifumura uye zvavanofunga kuti zvikanganiso zvavo. "Vamwe vanotenda," Kana ndikazviratidza uye ndikarambwa, zvinoreva kuti handikoshi, "uye vanozvisimbisa kuti vakagadzirirwa kusurukirwa kuti vadzivise izvo zvinogona kukuvara," anodaro Sese. "Asi kuzvimonera kwakadai kunoba mukana wekuti iwe uwane mufaro wechokwadi wepedyo uye hwepedyo."

Saka tora mukana uzviise kunze uko, uye uve shuwa kuti zviroto zvako hazvibvi pane imwe yeasinga-gonna-kuitika-mu-chaiye- hupenyu rom-coms kuyedza kukuita kuti ufunge kuti yanhasi knight ichauya kutsvaira ibva patsoka dzake. "Kana uine tarisiro yechokwadi, ungasawana chaunofungidzira kuve rudo rwechokwadi, asi unogona kuwana rudo rwakanyanya," Sese anodaro. Kana mukomana achikuremekedza uye achikukoshesa uye achishanda nesimba kuti ataure newe, zvakanetsa here kugamuchira bvudzi rake rakaonda uye nenyaya yekuti anokupa macaration panzvimbo pemaruva?

"Ndakanyanyokura Izvo"

Kushandisa zera rako sechikonzero kazhinji kunoitika kana mumwe munhu akangoneta nekushandira zvinangwa, anodaro Cathy Holloway Hill, munyori we Nhema, Rudo & Hupenyu. Asi pane mienzaniso yakawanda inoratidza nhema idzi, kusanganisira Golda Mier, uyo akazove mukadzi wekutanga Mutungamiriri weIsrael aine makore makumi manomwe chete ekuberekwa. Kana kuti zvimwe wakambonzwa nezvazvo Betty Muchena?

Paunoona iwe uchirega zuva rako rekuzvarwa richipinda munzira, zvipikise nekutaura, "Ndini kwete ndakura uye kana ndichida, ndinogona kuva nazvo, "anodaro Lisa Bahar, chiremba wewanano nemhuri muNewport Beach neDana Point, CA. "Zvinonzwika zviri nyore, asi ndiko kuseka-kunyangwe chimwe chinhu chiri nyore chinogona kushandura pfungwa kuita. zviito chero bedzi tichizvidzokorora kwatiri kakawanda. Pakupedzisira tinotanga kuzvitenda. "

Kuti uwedzere kuzvishingisa kuti zera harina basa, zvitenderedza nevanhu vane izvo zvaunoda uye uvabvunze kuti vakasvika sei ikoko, Bahar anodaro. Uye yeuka cliché "haumboregi kudzidza." "Kukura kwevanhu uye unyanzvi kunosanganisira dzidzo yeupenyu hwose. Tinoramba tichikura sezvatinokura, uye zvinangwa zvehupenyu uye kubudirira hazvina muganhu wezera, "anodaro Holloway Hill.

"Ini Handife Ndakabuda

Zvikwereti "

Sezvo mabhiri ari kuunganidzwa uye vateresi vachiuya vachigogodza, zuva rausingachararame mari yekubhadharira kubhadhara rinogona kuita sekunge harizombofi rakauya. "Zviri nyore kupiswa nezviitiko zvako wobva wanzwa sekunge wakavharirwa zvachose," anodaro Zahariades. Uye kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinetseka.

Zvinonzwika kunge zvakazara, asi nzira yakanakisa yekukwira kubva mutsvuku kugadzira bhajeti kuti urarame mune zvaunokwanisa. Kurwisa makadhi echikwereti uye zvikwereti kutanga, kunyangwe kana zvichireva kuvabhadhara zvishoma nezvishoma, anodaro Sese. Anokurudzira Mint.com yekutevera mashandisiro ako kana kuona akaunzi akaunzi akaunzi kana chipangamazano wezvemari kuti akubatsire kuronga hurongwa.

"Handigoni Kuchinja Zvandiri"

Nepo kusangana kutsva kuchigona kuita kuti vamwe vawedzere kuvhurika pfungwa, kunogona kuita kuti vamwe vave vakaoma musoro uye vagadzirise nzira dzavo. Zvipingamupinyi zvehupenyu, kubva pakurasikirwa nebasa kusvika pakurambana kuenda kuhutano, zvinogona kutiita kuti tirambe kuchinja, Holloway Hill anodaro. "Hapana munhu anoda kusangana nemarwadzo akadaro, saka isu tinotanga kuyedza kudzora mamiriro edu nekuramba tiri pabasa kana hukama husiri kuzadzisa kana kushaya hanya nenyaya yehutano nekutya kugamuchira nhau dzakaipa." Uye zvino dzimwe nguva tinozvikurudzira isu kuti hatigone kuchinja hupenyu hwedu, pachedu, kana mamiriro ezvinhu, anowedzera, saka tinogara pasi totambira zvinhu sezvazviri.

Kunyange usingakwanise kunyora zvekare, unogona kutora matanho madiki ekuva munhu akasiyana kana ari nani mune ramangwana. "Gadza zvidiki, zvakajeka zvibodzwa zvinokwanisika," anodaro Therapist-based Therapist Paul Hokemeyer, J.D., Ph.D. Kupwanya zvishuvo zvako zvakakura pasi kuita nhanho-ne-nhanho maitiro zvinotungamira kune mini-zvinoitika izvo zvinokukurudzira kuti urambe uchiedza-uye kuwedzera kusvika pakuhwina kukuru, anodaro.

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