Nei Munhu Wese Achifanira Kuedza Therapy Pasina Kamwe

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Pane chero munhu akambokuudza iwe kuti uende kurapi? Haifanire kunge iri kutuka. Semunhu aimbove murapi uye akareba kwenguva refu-anorapa, ini ndinowanzo tenda kuti vazhinji vedu tinogona kubatsirwa kubva pamubhedha wevarapi. Asi ini ndinofanira kujekesa chinhu chimwe: Usaende kunorapwa nekuti iwe anofanira. Semutemo wenguva dzose, hatiwanzo tevera kuburikidza nezvinhu nekuti isu anofanira. Isu tinoita chimwe chinhu nekuti isu vanoda kana isu tinogona kuona nzira dzatinozowana kubva kwazviri.

Ini pachangu ndinogona kupupurira mibairo yekurapa, zvese kubva pamaonero emurwere uye nezano. Sezvinoita zvinhu zvakawanda muhupenyu, kana ukaita chitsidzo, uchaona mhedzisiro. Tinodada nekushanda nesimba kuti miviri yedu igare yakasimba. Isu tinodya zvakanaka, kurovedza muviri zuva nezuva, kutora mavhitamini, uye nerufaro kugovera yedu tisati uye mushure me selfies nenyika (mhoro, Instagram). Asi, kazhinji, isu hatina kudzidziswa kuona hutano hwedu hwepfungwa sechinhu chinoda kutarisirwa zvakafanana uye kutarisirwa.

Musiyano uripo pakati pemaonero edu pautano hwepfungwa nehwemuviri une chekuita nekuserwa. Kana iwe uchienda kuna chiremba kune yako yegore rezvehutano kushanya kana nekuti iwe watyora chigunwe, hapana munhu anotambidza akanyarara kutonga kana kutora iwe uri kushaya simba. Asi matambudziko emanzwiro atinosangana nawo akangofanana nemapfupa akatsemuka, saka hapana chinhu kupenga nezvepfungwa yekutsvaga hunyanzvi hwenyanzvi yakadzidziswa inogona kukubatsira kukura, kudzidza, uye kusimba. Kunyangwe iwe uchinetswa nehurwere hwakakomba hwepfungwa kana kutarisana nebasa rebasa rawave wakakanganisa, kurapwa chishandiso chevanhu vane hushingi uye gumption yekubvunza, "Chii chandingaite kuti ndirarame hune hutano, hunofadza hupenyu?"

Mumweya wekunyunyuta nezvekurapa, hezvino zvinhu zvishoma zvaunogona kutarisira kana iwe ukafunga kutora nguva yako pamubhedha wechiremba.

Iwe unotora nhanho imwe panguva.

Pane mhinduro yekukurumidza kuzvinhu zvakawanda munyika yedu yanhasi. Paunenge uine nzara, chikafu chako chinotevera chingori nekudzvanya kure (ndatenda, Seamless). Uber kazhinji iwe wakafukidza kana iwe uchida kusvika kune imwe nzvimbo nekukurumidza. Maiwe, kurapwa hakusi kumwe kwekukurumidza kugadzirisa. Murapi wako haazi mashiripiti, chisikwa chose chinoziva chinogona kurova tsvimbo, kutaura chirevo chechiLatin, uye kukuita iwe insta-zvirinani. Shanduko chaiyo inoitika zvishoma nezvishoma. Iyo marathon, kwete sprint, uye kuva netarisiro chaidzo nezve maitiro ekurapa kunogona kukuserera yakawanda yekushushikana. Chimbofunga: Kana iwe ukatarisa mamaira 13 iwe uri pamutsetse wekutanga, rwendo rwacho rwunogara rwuchinyanya kurwadza. Mukurapa, iwe unodzidza kugadzikana mune ino yazvino nguva uye kuva nemoyo murefu newe-tsoka imwe pamberi peimwe, inononoka uye yakasimba.

Unogona kudikitira.

Iwe une inoshamisa shamwari yepamoyo anoteerera kwazvo. Une amai vanova nyanzvi yekutaura kwepep. Tsigiro yerutsigiro yevanhu vaunovimba nayo yakakosha kumufaro wakakwana uye kugara zvakanaka, asi hukama hwemunhu hahufanire kuvhiringwa nebasa rinoitwa nemurapi. "Imwe yemabhenefiti ekutaura nemurapi ndeyekuti anogona kunzwa akasununguka kupa dzimwe nzira dzechiitiko kana zvichienzaniswa neshamwari inogona kunge ichibvumirana newe kana kukunyaradza," inodaro New York City psychotherapist Andrew Blatter. Ehe, varapi vanozopa nzeve inonzwira tsitsi kana zviri izvo zvaunoda, asi basa ravo nderekukupikisa pane dzimwe nguva, vachinongedzera zvisina kunaka pfungwa uye maitiro. Kuziva chikamu chaunoita mumatambudziko ako haisi nyore piritsi kumedza. Unogona kumhanyisa nekusagadzikana uye kunzwa chishuwo chekubhadhara bhera, asi shanduko ibasa rakaoma. Varapi havazokugadzirisa kana kukuudza zvekuita. Pane kudaro, vanoremekedza kuzvitonga kwako kuzviitira sarudzo dzakaoma uye vachakubatsira kuronga izvo zvakakunakira iwe.

Iwe unodzokorora mapatani mune ekurapa aunoita muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva.

Vanhu zvisikwa zvine tsika. Vazhinji vedu tinonamatira kune zvezuva nezuva maitiro ekuchengetedza hupenyu hwedu munzira. Iyi miitiro inokanganisa zvese kubva pane zvatinodya pakudya kwemangwanani kusvika kurudzi rwemunhu watinosarudza kufambidzana naye. Dambudziko nderei? Haasi maitiro ese akanaka kwatiri. Kana zvasvika kuhukama, isu tinowanzo dzokorora zvisina kunaka mapatani kazhinji uye zvakare-pamwe iwe unoramba uchisarudza vehukama vasingawanikwe vavakaroorana kana husahwira hukama kana vasvika padanho rehukama husina kugadzikana kwauri. Kazhinji mukurapa, aya mapatani anokura, kunyanya kana iwe wagara muhukama hwekurapa. Musiyano ndewekuti mukurapa, une mukana wekutarisa zvakanyanya kuti sei uchidzokorora zvinhu zvaunoita. Sekureva kwaBlatter, kana maitiro emunhu akabuda muhukama hwekurapa, nzvimbo yekurapa inopa nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekuvanzwisisa: "Ini ndaive nemurwere aive nedambudziko rekusimbisa hukama muhukama hwake," anodaro. "Sezvo iye neni patakasvika padhuze, kunetseka kwake nezvehukama hwedu kwakatanga kuzviratidza.Nekugona kuiongorora munzvimbo yakachengeteka yekurapa, akakwanisa kuvhura zvaaitya uye nekudaro akazarura hukama hwepedyo nevamwe vanhu muhupenyu hwake. " hukama hwekurapa, iwe unenge uine maturusi ekushandisa zvawakadzidza kunze kwekamuri yekurapa.

Une rusununguko rwokuedza.

Iwe haufunge kufunga nezvekurapa seyekudyira yemwana mukuru, asi mune dzimwe nzira zviripo. Nekukura, tanga takanganwa maitiro ekutamba tichizviongorora isu pachedu. Isu tinowanzo kuve vakaomarara, vanozvifunga, uye vasinganyanye kuda kuyedza. Therapy inzvimbo isina kutonga-yemahara kwaunogona kuedza zvinhu zvitsva munzvimbo yakaderera. Iwe unogona kutaura chero zvinouya mupfungwa, zvisinei kuti zvakapusa sei kana kushamisa iwe ungafunge kuti zvinonzwika. Muhofisi yemurapi wako, iwe wakasunungukawo kuongorora zvakachengeteka manzwiro uye maitiro ekuita izvo zvinokonzeresa kusagadzikana muhupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva. Iwe uri kungoita uye unowana zvakaoma kutaura zvaunofunga here? Dzidzira kusimbisa pamwe nachiremba wako. Une dambudziko rekudzora hasha dzako here? Edza maitiro ekuzorora. Paunenge uchinge wadzidzira hunyanzvi uhu muchikamu, unogona kunzwa uine chivimbo nekubata nyaya dziri kunze kwehofisi yekurapa futi.

Unogona kuzvishamisa.

Unogona kuve nechimwe chinhu chaunoda kuti ubve pachifuva chako. Iwe haugone kumirira chirongwa chako chevhiki nevhiki chekurapa kwaunokwanisa kutaura zvese nezvazvo, uye, zvino, kana nguva yasvika, chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi chinoitika-unobvisa musoro uye mazwi anodurura mumuromo mako matsva uye anoshamisa. "Pave nenguva dzakawanda kwazvo zvekuti varwere vakatangisa kutaura kuti 'Handina kumbobvira ndaudza munhu izvi' kana kuti 'Handina kutarisira kuunza izvi,'" anodaro Blatter, uyo anoti kumwe kuzvirumbidza uku kuvimba kwakavakwa pakati pechiremba nemutengi. Sezvo hukama hwehukama hwekurapa hunowedzera nekufamba kwenguva, unogona kuve wakasununguka kutaura nezve zvinhu zvawanga uchidzivirira kana kuwana zviyeuchidzo zvaimborwadza zvakanyanya. Kuongorora yako isina kudzidza nzvimbo kunogona kutyisa uye kunetsekana. Unogona kuwana nyaradzo nekuziva kuti vazhinji varapi vanga vari mune kwavo kuraira (muchokwadi, kune psychoanalysts mukurovedza, kuve mune yekurapa chinhu chinodiwa), kuti vagone kunzwisisa zvazvinonzwa kunge uri kumagumo ako uye zvirinani kukutungamira kuburikidza maitiro.

Unoona vamwe nenzira yokunzwira tsitsi.

Nekuva mukurapa, haungotanga kufunga zviito zvako zvakadzama, zvine mufungo, asi zvevamwewo. Sezvo kuzviziva kwako kuchikura, iwe unenge uchinyanya kufunga nezvekuti munhu wese ane yakasarudzika, yakaoma nyika yemukati, uye kuti inogona kusiyana zvakanyanya kubva kune yako. Blatter anoyeuka ruzivo rwake rwekushanda nemurume aifarira kuturikira hunhu hwevamwe sehwakakomba uye hune hutsinye nekuda kwehudiki hwake hwekushungurudza. uye asiri kuda kushoropodza.Pamwe mukuru webasa anga ari pakumanikidzwa kwakawanda saka mhinduro dzake 'pfupi' dzainyanya kuratidza izvozvo pane kushoropodza murwere. Nokufamba kwenguva, murwere wangu akatanga kuona kuti kwaive nemamwe malenzi ekuti utarise "nyika iri pamusoro pezviitiko zvake zvekutanga zvevabereki." Kugadzira zvirinani kuedza kuona nyika kuburikidza nemeso evamwe kuchaenda nenzira yakareba mukuvandudza nekudzamisa hukama hwako.

Unogona kugumburwa.

Unogona kufunga kuti wagadzirisa imwe nyaya, uye paunenge usingatarisiri, dambudziko rinomukazve. Kana chimwe chinhu chakadai chikaitika, nekuti chinogara chichiitika, usaore moyo. Progress haina mutsara. Nzira yacho inomonereka, kutaura zvishoma. Zvigadzirire iwe pachako kuwanda kwekukwira nekudzika, zvakawanda kumberi uye kumashure, uye pamwe kunyange mamwe madenderedzwa. Kana iwe uine kuzviziva kwega kuti ucherechedze kudzoka kwemaitiro ako asina hutano uye chii chazvikonzera, iwe uri kutotora nhanho munzira kwayo. Saka, nguva inotevera paunofamba, dzokera patsoka dzako, tora mweya, uye udza murapi wako zvese nezvazvo.

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