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Kuronga nguva yekurovedza muviri kunogona kuva kwakaoma. Basa, mabasa emhuri, masocial program, uye zvimwe zvakawanda zvisungo zvinogona kupinda munzira. Asi hapana anoziva kutambura kupfuura vanaamai vakabatikana. Kubva pakuvira kwezuva kusvika pakuvira kwezuva, vanamai vari panguva "yemahara" zvakashata, saka vachizvipa nguva yavo vega, ndoda kurovedza muviri kunogona kunzwa kusingabviri. Saamai vakabatikana pachangu ini ndinoziva kuti kuita chero zvazvinoda kuti ugare uchishingairira-kunyangwe zvoreva kuti kusvina mumapapu kana kusundidzira-kumusoro chero uye chero nguva-kwakakosha.

Ichi ndicho chikonzero nei, makore mana apfuura, ini ndakavamba Living Kamuri Workout Kirabhu, yepamhepo nharaunda yemamama vanoda kuita nguva yekushanda kwavo, kana kurasikirwa nehuremu hwevacheche, kana kungonzwa hutano uye kugadzikana muganda ravo zvakare. Kuburikidza neblogi, mapoka akati wandei eFacebook, uye makamuri ekusangana chaiwo, ini ndinogadzira mavhidhiyo ekurovedza muviri uye kunyange kufambisa mamwe maekisesaizi ari kurarama, kuitira kuti pamwe chete, tigone kutsigirana uye kukurudzirana. (Dzidza zvakawanda nezvekuti nei kujoinha boka retsigiro repamhepo kunogona kukubatsira pakupedzisira kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvako.)

Ndakaziva kuoma kwazvakaita kuti moms vawane nguva yavo vega. Panguva iyoyo, ini ndaive amai vatsva, ndichishanda izere semudzidzisi, ndichivaka bhizinesi rangu rekudzidzisa padivi. Chinhu chekupedzisira chandaida kuita kupedza imwe nguva kujimu uye imwe nguva kure nemwana wangu mucheche. Nzvimbo imwe chete yekuti ndizviitise kwaiva kumba muimba yangu yekutandarira, ndichishanda ndisati ndarara kana kuti naye achitamba padivi pangu. Ndakaita kuti zvishande.

Aya maekisesaizi akafanana uye anoshanda andakazvigadzirira muimba yangu yekutandarira yakava hwaro hweLiving Room Workout Club. Vanamai vese kutenderera pasirese, kuburikidza nemashiripiti ekushambadzira vhidhiyo, vakatanga kujoina neni vangangoita kubva kumakamuri avo ehupenyu kwemaminetsi gumi nemashanu kusvika makumi maviri ziya ziya. Takatanga kuita kuti ishande pamwe chete.

Kurumidza kuenda kumberi, uye mashandisiro acho akachinja zvishoma. Ini zvino ndine mukomana ane makore mana anoshanda, tinogara mukaravhani yekufamba-famba makumi matatu nemashanu, uye ini chikoro chekumusha patinenge tichifamba nguva yakazara yebasa rechikomba changu. Ini ndoda kuita yese yangu yekurovedza kunze. Imba yangu yekutandarira ye6-ne-4-tsoka inopinda mukati memazuva anotonhora kana kunaya, asi kana zvisina kudaro, ndinowana kudikitira kwangu kunoitwa paki, panzvimbo yekutamba, kana chero kupi zvako.

Pandakatanga kuita shanduko kubva mune yangu yakagadzikana, yega, yekutandarira imba, ndakashamisika kunzwa zvimwe ari oga. Panhandare yekutamba, ndaizviisa kure nevamwe vanaamai sezvazvaigona. Ndakanzwa kusagadzikana kushanda kunze uko, ndichifunga kana vaindiona.

Ndakaona kuzengurira kwangu kwakabva pane zvandakaona semaonero eruzhinji nezvevakadzi vanoshanda munzvimbo dzeveruzhinji. Ndakafunga kumashure kune pikicha yandakaona ichitenderera pamhepo: Mumwe murume akange atora mufananidzo waamai vachirovedza pamutambo wenhabvu wemwanakomana wavo ndokuutumira pasocial media achiti, "Zvingave zvakaipa kwandiri kumuudza kuti baba vese vari munhabvu Field anofunga kuti akamira pamberi netambo yake yekusvetuka kwemaawa maviri chete achiridza mhere yaanoda kutariswa? Uye ndinogona kungofungidzira izvo vanaamai venhabvu vari kufunga."

Pakave neimwe nyaya yaamai vakatumira vhidhiyo yavo vachiwana kurovedza muviri mukati nemumikoto yeTarget. Kutaura kwakashata kwakauya nezviuru. "Ichi ndicho chinhu chisina musoro chandati ndamboona," akadaro mumwe munhu. "Usandirwadzise nekufamba-famba mumaharaisi uchinwira pamadhoo echizi," akanyora mumwe. Mumwe akataura akamudaidza kuti "benzi."

Kunyange hongu, nzira dzeTarget kana nhandare yenhandare padivi dzinogona kunge dzisiri nzvimbo dzakanaka dzekurovedza muviri, izvo hazvipe chero munhu mvumo yekuseka vanamai ava-izvo zvinogona kunge zviri izvo chete zvevakadzi panguva iyoyo. (Inoenderana: Vanaamai Vakakodzera Govera Idzo Dzinodzokororwa uye Dzinongoitika Nzira Dzavanoita Nguva Yekushanda)

Haisi chete vavengi vanohwanda kuseri kwekhibhodi futi. Ndakazvionerawo pachangu. Imwe nguva, vakadzi vakadeedzera kwandiri apo ini ndichigadzira makumbo angu kutenderera nzvimbo yekutamba, "Will ya stop! Urikuita kuti tese titarisike!"

Aya mazwi asina kunaka akaramba achipinda mumusoro mangu panhandare. Ndakazvibvunza kuti, "Vanofunga kuti ndiri kuedza kushamisira here?" "Vanofunga kuti ndinopenga here?" "Vanofunga kuti ndinozvida nekushandisa nguva yake yekutamba sa zvangu Ita kuti zviite?"

Zviri nyore kwazvo kuti vanaamai vatange kudzika nekuzvidzora pamusoro pekurera vana, uye kuzvitarisira kunoenderana neizvozvo. Zvadaro, kuwedzera kushushikana kweizvo vamwe vanhu vari kufunga pamusoro pako pamusoro pazvo? Ivo amai-mhosva vanogona kuoma!

Asi iwe unoziva chii? Ndiani ane hanya kuti ndiani ari kuona? Uye ndiani ane hanya nezvavanofunga? Ini ndafunga zvese zvisina kunaka chatter hazvisi kuzondimisa uye hazvifanire kukumisa iwe. Kuzvichengeta kwakakosha, uye kusimba chikamu chikuru cheizvozvo. Kugara uchirovedza muviri kune mabhenefiti akawanda kupfuura kungovaka bhati yakasimba, kunyangwe iri bhonasi yakanaka. (Onawo: The 30-Day Butt Challenge) Hutano hwemabhenefiti hunosefa pasi mune angangoita ese ehupenyu hwako. Kwete chete kuti iwe usimbe uye uve nesimba rakawanda rekuramba uine vana vako, iwe unoderedza kushushikana, kuwedzera moyo wako, uye kuwedzera kuda kwako (kukosora, uye moyo murefu). Kuekisesaiza kunoita kuti uve nani iwe, saka unogona kuva amai vari nani.

Chinokosha ndechekuti manzwi asina kunaka anogara achiwedzera ruzha. Saka vanhu vazhinji vane zvikonzero zvakadzika zvikonzero zvekuti nei vasingakwanise kuita kuti kugwinya kushande muhupenyu hwavo. Apo pavanoona vamwe kunze uko vachiita kuti zvishande (hongu, kunyange panhandare yekutamba), maitiro avo emakumbo ndeokuwana chimwe chinhu chakaipa nazvo. Asi ndauya kuzokuudza kuti mazwi akanaka, anokurudzira ari kunze uko, zvakare. Unogona kutokurudzira vamwe chinyararire nekuratidza kuti unokwanisa kuwana mhinduro dzekugadzira kuti uwane nguva yako uye hutano hwako.

Uye yeuka, kana iwe uchiita basa rinokosha, iwe uri kuenzanisira maitiro ane hutano kune vana vako. Uri kuvadzidzisa kuti hutano uye "ini" nguva inogona kushandisirwa mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu. Rimwe zuva kana vari vanhu vakuru vakabatikana, ivo vanozoziva kubva pamuenzaniso wako izvo zvinotora kuti zviitwe zvese.

Iwe unoona, kuzvichengeta-pachako hachisi chinhu chaunofanira kuita kunyangwe kuva mubereki, ndizvo chikamu zvekuva mubereki. Paunotanga kufunga nezvazvo nenzira iyoyo, zviri nyore kuti usapfuure kurovedza muviri.

Pandinopedza chiuno changu kutenderedza nhandare, mwanakomana wangu anoti "Iye anokunda ndiMai!" uye anondipa yepamusoro shanu. Uye ndinorangarira kuti izwi rake rinonyanya kukosha. Saka ko kana zvikaita kuti iro bleacher rioneke serakaipa? Vanogamuchirwa kuti vabatane neni.

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