Nei Uchifanira Kufungisisa Usati Wese Wekutanga Zuva

Zvemukati

• 1. Ichadzikamisa vese ~ tsinga ~.
• 2. Iwe unenge wakatarisa pano uye ikozvino.
• 3. Richavhura pfungwa dzako nemoyo.
• 4. Iwe unenge uchinyanya kubata pane zvaunoda uye zvaunoda.
• 5. Chill chill your date out futi.
• Ongororo ye

Machende anodikitira, maoko anodedera, kumhanya pamoyo, rakarukwa mudumbu-kwete, iyi haisi yepakati pekudzidzira HIIT. Maminetsi mashanu zuva rekutanga risati rasvika, uye ungangove unotya AF. Pane chimwe chinhu nezve chekutanga zuva (kunyanya rakapofumara zuva kana zuva reInternet, kwauri kusangana nemunhu IRL kekutanga nokusingaperiiyo inogona kukutumira iwe yakazara tizzy. Kutora chipfeko chinowedzera chivimbo uye kuita maekisesaizi kunogona kufashamira muviri wako ne "Ndawana izvi" kunzwa uye kunzwa-zvakanaka endorphins, asi izvo hazvifanirwe kunge zviri izvo chete zvekuita pane yako yekutanga date prep cheki.

Kunobuda, kufungisisa kungangove kuve chinhu-chimwe chinhu icho pfungwa nemuviri wako zvinoda kugadzirirwa roulette inova yemazuva ano kufambidzana nyika: eharmony yakangobatana pamwe neyekufungisisa app Mira, Kufema & Funga kuitisa chidzidzo chevashandisi vavo uye wakaona kuti kufungisisa kune zvimiro zvehupenyu hwako hwekufambidzana.

Ivo vakafananidza 311 eharmony nhengo dzakashandisawo Stop, Breathe & Funga nerimwe boka renhengo 311 vasina kushandisa iyo yekufungisisa app (asi vaive vezera rakaenzana, murume kana murume, nzvimbo uye vaive vasaina eharmony panguva imwechete iyoyo). Vakaona kuti vashandisi vekufungisisa vaipinda muapp yekufambidzana 81 muzana kakawanda, vakatsvaga 92 muzana yakawanda yemitambo yavo 'maprofiles pane vasiri-meditaters, uye vaionekwa nemitambo yavo 53 muzana kakawanda. Uye anorova: Mira, Kufema & Funga vashandisi vaive ne85 muzana mamwe machisi mukutaurirana-nzira mbiri nemabhoos avo anogona (verenga: ivo vaitumirana mameseji kumashure).

Asi usangotora shoko eharmony racho. Pano, zvese zvikonzero zvaunoda kuti ufungisise chinhu chakakosha pane yako yekutanga-zuva yekutarisa (Zvakanaka, izvo, uye kukwikwidza kuna Beyonce).

1. Ichadzikamisa vese ~ tsinga ~.

Nguva diki yeneni inogona kushanda sepiritsi risati ratara rakadzikama nenzira imwechete iyo yaunogona kudzikamisa iwe usati warara kana panguva yekusununguka, kana kubatsira kubvisa kushushikana zvachose.

"Zuva rekutanga risati rasvika, pfungwa dzako dzinogona kutanga kumhanya zvisingaite," anodaro Amy Baglan, muvambi weMeetMindful, chirongwa chekufambidzana chinobatanidza vanhu vakazvipira kurarama nehungwaru. “Kukurukurirana mupfungwa uku kwakatsauswa ndiko kunonzi nevaBuddha ‘pfungwa dzetsoko.’” Edza kugara uye kufungisisa kwemaminitsi gumi. "Zvinogona kuita zvishamiso kudzikamisa simba iro risingazorore uye kuti udzoke kune yakadzikama kuitira kuti uratidze semunhu wako chaiye, anoshamisa," anodaro.

Tsitsi dzakapfava (iwe unoziva, ~ butterflies ~) dzinotarisirwa. (Kushamisika-ivo vakanakira iwe futi!). Nekudaro, kushushikana zvakanyanya nemamiriro ezvinhu kunogona kukanganisa zviri pamutemo zuva: "Mazuva ekutanga anowedzera kunetsa kana munhu achinetseka zvakanyanya," anodaro Jill P. Weber, Ph.D., ane rezinesi chiremba wepfungwa uye nyanzvi yeMindsail, smartphone. app yekufungisisa."Kunyanya kufunga uye kuongorora zvakanyanya imhondi ye libido uye inokuendesa kure kure nekuratidza iwe chaiye." Saka kana iwe uchipenga kuzvidya mwoyo, zuva racho ringangoenda zvakanyanya, uye iwe unotanga kuvhunduka zvakanyanya-kukutumira iwe mune inotyisa yakaderera.

Kana iwe uchinetseka zuva racho richafanana nechinhu pa Mazuva kubva kuGehena, kushandisa kuona panguva yekufungisisa kunogona kubatsira, anodaro Sanam Hafeez, Ph.D., ane rezinesi chiremba wepfungwa uye nhengo yefekisheni paTeachers College, Columbia University. "Iyi inzira yakanaka yekutamba kuti unoda kuti zuva racho riende sei zvisati zvaitika." Zviri nyore: Ingovhara maziso ako kwemaminetsi gumi kusvika gumi nemashanu, fema, uye fungidzira uchisangana nemunhu akanaka, kuita hurukuro dzinonakidza, uye kunzwa zvakanaka.

2. Iwe unenge wakatarisa pano uye ikozvino.

"Kufungisisa kunobatsira kuti uzviise pari zvino," anodaro Hafeez. Kutora maminetsi mashoma ekufungisisa kunokutumira iwe muzuva uine pfungwa dzakachena kubva kune clutter (sezvakasara zvezuva rinoshungurudza rebasa) uye chengeta pfungwa dzako pamunhu uye hurukuro pamberi pako (kwete pane wako wekare, kana zuva iro rinotyisa. waive nawo svondo rapfuura). Zvichabatsira nix kunetsekana nezvekuti urikuuya sei kuzuva rako uye kuti uchanzwa kubatana here kana kuti kwete, anodaro Weber, saka iwe unogona kunyatso kunakidzwa nenguva ichiitika ~organically~.

BTW, kana iwe uchifungisisa, icho chinangwa hachisi icho mira kufunga. "Pfungwa ndeyekuita nzvimbo muhupenyu hwako kuti ubatanidzane newe neimwe nzira inosanganisira kufunga kushoma uye kuziva zvakawanda nezvezviitiko zvako zvemukati," anodaro Weber. "Usazvishoropodza nguva dzese pfungwa dzako padzinokutora pane imwe nzira kana kuti unokanganiswa ... asi ziva kuti pfungwa dzako dziri kukuendesa kupi." (Heano ese matipi aunoda ekufungisisa.)

3. Richavhura pfungwa dzako nemoyo.

Kufungisisa hakungobatsiri chete kukutadzisa kubva padanho rinodikitira, risingazungunuke, asi zvichagadzirira pfungwa dzako nemoyo wako mukana wekubatana chaizvo nemumwe munhu. (Uye fembera chii? Kune mamwe mafungidziro akanangana nekubatsira iwe kuvhura moyo wako.)

Kuva nehanya kunoita kuti uwedzere kuziva manzwiro ako uye kuti uri kunzwa sei. Kana iwe uchinzwa zviri nani, unokwezva zvinhu zviri nani muhupenyu hwako-uye izvo zvinosanganisira vanhu, anodaro Hafeez. Iwe ungangove waitoziva kuti karma inodzoka yakatenderedza, asi positivity inodarowo. "Kuva nehanya nemafungiro edu kunotibvumira kubva pamafungiro asina kunaka, asina tariro, anoshungurudza kuenda kune akanaka, ane tariro anotisimudza kubva mukunetseka kana kuora mwoyo kuenda kune tariro uye nechido," anodaro.

Uye kukanganisa uku kunopfuura kupfuura zuva rekutanga: Kukurudzira kungwarira kunokurudzira kuti uwane kujekeswa uye kubata zvinhu zvaimbonzwa senge chivharo chemugwagwa-kana zvakanyanya, magumo, anodaro Baglan. "Kungwarira kunogona kubatsira mukubata nenyaya dzekuvimba, kugadzirisa matambudziko sezvavanomuka, kudzamisa hukama hwepedyo, uye kutyora maitiro ekare ehunhu. Hazviitike nehusiku, asi nebasa nekuvapo unogona kusangana nekuchinja kukuru muhupenyu hwako hwekufambidzana."

4. Iwe unenge uchinyanya kubata pane zvaunoda uye zvaunoda.

Kunyanya kufunga kana kuzviziva kunogona kukubatsira kuti usanyanya kuzvifunga pakutanga - zvinoreva kuti zviri nyore kwazvo kuratidza kusvika kune zuva rekutsiva chaiye iwe, anodaro Weber. Izvo zvinobatsira iwe zero mukati kuti ndiwe ani uri mukati-uye wauri kutsvaga kunze.

Kungwarira kunogona kukubatsira kuona kuti ndeupi munhu waunoda kukwezva, anodaro Hafeez. "Paunokwanisa kutarisa zvakanyanya pane zvauri kuda pane izvo iwe handidi, chii iwe unoda zvinopinda muhupenyu hwako, anodaro.

Kuva nekutaurirana nezvaunoda kunogona kukubatsira iwe kuti uone kuburikidza neiyo cocktail (kana ina) uye nekuvimbika sarudza kana munhu uyu akakosha zuva rechipiri.

5. Chill chill your date out futi.

Runhare runogona kuenda nenzira mbiri, asi zvinongotora *mumwe* munhu ane hanya kuti achinje mamiriro acho nenzira yakanaka. "Kana munhu akafungisisa achinzwa kujeka uye akasununguka kupinda mukudyidzana, simba iro rinogona kukanganisa mumwe munhu, vachiita kuti vagadzikane," anodaro Hafeez. Chinokosha: Iva netarisiro yakanaka kuitira kuti ufarire zuva, maringe nekushandisa nguva yese uchitsvaga zvikonzero zvausiri mutambo, anodaro.

Uye, sezvaungafungidzira, kana zvese vanhu vanoratidzira neiyi inoshamisa mindset, sparks dzinenge dzakavimbiswa kubhururuka: "Isu takaona kuti varoorani avo vaviri vane tsika yekufungisisa vanowanzo kuve nehukama hwakapfuma kune mumwe nemumwe," anodaro Baglan. "Pakupera kwezuva, kufungisisa hakurevi kuti ive bullet resirivheri yekugadzirisa matambudziko ekufambidzana, asi zvinogona kukubatsira iwe kuratidza wakagadzirira zvakadzama, zvinonakidza chiitiko."

Nguva yekutsvaira paTinder, wedzera "mudiwa wekufungisisa" kune yako Bumble bio, kana hop pane MeetMindful. Wako Muchinda kana Mwanasikana-uye wekufungisisa mudiwa-anogona kungova kunze uko uchitsvedza (uye kufungisisa) iwewo.

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