10 Mameseji uye Online Dating Mazano eTech-Savvy Singles

Zvemukati

• Usanyore Mameseji Kusvikira Wave NeZuva Rokugadzika
• Tora Nhare Kana Yakakosha
• Funga Usati Watumira
• Rega Kutumira Mameseji Frequency Kuvaka
• Teerera Hunhu Hwake
• Usatambe Mitambo
• Iwe Haudiwe Kuti Upindure
• Shandisa iyo Emoji
• Vaka Nheyo Usati Watarisa
• Kutamba!
• Ongororo ye

Vhiki rapfuura, Match.com yakaburitsa yayo yechishanu yegore maSingles muAmerica kudzidza, ichitipa inonakidza nzwisiso yekuti varume nevakadzi vanofambidzana sei. Fembera chii? Iyo inopenga, tech nyika kunze uko. Makumi matatu nerimwe chete evarume nevakadzi vakasangana nezuva ravo rekupedzisira online (zvinopesana nezvitanhatu muzana mubhawa), 34 muzana yemadatha mumakore avo makumi maviri vanotarisira mhinduro kune chinyorwa pasi pemaminitsi gumi (!), Uye vashandisi vemoji vakawanda Akaenda pazuva rekutanga gore rapfuura pane avo vasina kumbodonhedza kumeso kwakasvinuka pachinhu chavanodisa (52 muzana maringe ne27 muzana).

Zvese izvi zvinobvunza mubvunzo: isu tinonyatso fambidzana sei munyika yedhijitari? Neraki, isu takakomberedza dzimwe nyanzvi dzekufambidzana kuti dzidurure maitiro ekuve iwe wepamhepo-nyanzvi dater iwe yaungave iwe. (Asi usakanganwa izvi zvitanhatu Pamhepo Kufambidzana Dos uye Zvisingaitwe zveInternet Kuchengetedza.)

Usanyore Mameseji Kusvikira Wave NeZuva Rokugadzika

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Laurel House, munyori we Kudzora Mitemo, inopa zano rekudzivirira kudzoka-uye-mberi kusvikira wawana zuva chairo pamabhuku. "Zviri nyore kwazvo kutakurwa, kuve nemagwaro anotungamirwa pabonde, uye kuuraya hukama usati wawana mukana wekusangana," anodaro. Mumatanho ekutanga ekudanana, funga zvekutumira mameseji chete sekutanga kwechibvumirano chaicho: musangano we-mu-munhu.

Tora Nhare Kana Yakakosha

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Kunyangwe iwe uri kungozviita nekuti ndizvo zvawatanga (kureva online), kana nekuti iwe uchida kudzivirira kutaura zvinonetsa misoro zvinonzwika, "hapana chakanaka chinouya kubva mukuedza kukurukura nezvenyaya dzepfungwa nemuchina wemagetsi," anodaro murairidzi wekufambidzana. Neely Steinberg, munyori we Ganda muMutambo. Izvi zvinogona kukonzera nyonganiso kana chigumbu (zvinoenderana nedanho rehukama hwako). Kana zvakakosha, tora foni! Kana kubatisisa kusvikira wamuona anotevera.

Funga Usati Watumira

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Pakutanga, iwe unofanirwa kungwarira. Munhu wauri kutumira mameseji hazvireve kuti anokuziva kana pfungwa yako yekuseka. Saka verenga zvekare, wongorora kaviri, uye chenjera: "Zvinyorwa zvako zvakabviswa toni uye kumeso kumeso-kunyangwe uine mangani emamonisi aunosanganisira," anodaro House. "Imwe nzira yekuyedza matauriro ndeyekufungidzira kuti ari kukutumira chinyorwa. Itaure nenzwi nenzwi, bvisa machinjiro ezwi, uye sarudza kana ichiuya sezvaunoda." (Iwe haudi kupedzisa seimwe yeaya online Dating Njodzi Iyo Inoita Kuti Ufare Iwe Usina Kuroora.)

Rega Kutumira Mameseji Frequency Kuvaka

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

"Sezvo hukama hwakawanda hwevanhu hwarasika, ndinokurudzira vamwechete kuti vangoshandisa mameseji zvishoma pane zvavangade," anodaro Steinberg. "Mushure mezuva, zvinofadza kutumira chinyorwa chekutevera. Kana iwe wakanamatira mumigwagwa, muite azive kuti uri kunonoka. Tumira chinyorwa chinosetsa kana chakanaka kutaura kuti chimwe chinhu chauchangobva kusangana chakakuyeuchidza nezvake." " Iwe unongoda kudzivisa akareba-akadhirowewa mameseji kumashure-uye-kunze kutanga.

Teerera Hunhu Hwake

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

House inoti vanhu vazhinji mameseji mameseji nenzira yavanoshuvira kutumirwa mameseji-saka tarisa kuti anonyora sei zvinyorwa zvake (ndinovimba achakuitira zvimwe chete!). Kana iye achirumbidza chitarisiko chako, pamwe anoshuva kurumbidzwa kwemuviri. Kana iye akaichengeta ipfupi, pamwe haasi iye ari kutumira mameseji dude. Ingo ita shuwa kuti iwo matanho ekufarira akaenzana. Imwe nzira yakanaka yekuita izvi: tarisa kureba kwemagwaro ake zvichienderana nehurefu hweako. Kana iwe ukadzokera shure uye ukaona kuti une mazwi uye iye anopindura neshoko rimwe chete, zvibvunze kuti: "Matanho angu anofadza kunyange neake here?" Vanofanira kuva.

Usatambe Mitambo

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Paunenge usina chokwadi, shandisa 1: 1 ratio-iye anofanira kutanga hafu yenguva, uye newe unofanirwa kudaro. Zvakadaro, kana uine chekutaura kana kupindura, usaite zvekutamba naye. "Zvinyorwa zvinoitirwa kunge iri nzira yekutaurirana nekukurumidza, saka usamirira mazuva maviri usati wapindura," House anodaro. "Ndiko kutumira chiratidzo chekuti haufarire zvechokwadi, uye kuti uri mutambi-mutambo." (Uye verenga 6 Magwaro Ausingafanire Kumutumira.)

Iwe Haudiwe Kuti Upindure

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Steinberg anoti anoona imwe dzvinyiriro mazuva ano yekupindura mameseji nemaemail ipapo. Uye kana wakasununguka, enda nazvo! Izvo zvataurwa, usafunge kuti une chikwereti chemhinduro mukati memaminitsi gumi-senge data rinoratidza vazhinji vanotenda. "Une hupenyu hwakazara uye hausi pamubhedha wemunhu mutsva uyu," Steinberg anodaro. "Muchokwadi, inovaka kutarisira kana iwe ukatora nguva yako kupindura." Icho chinonyanya kukosha: rarama hupenyu hwako. Kutumira mameseji kunofanirwa kuitika chete pazvinenge zvakakodzera, zviri nyore uye / kana zvinonakidza.

Shandisa iyo Emoji

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Iwo Match.com stats anotaura ega: Hushamwari emoji vashandisi vari munzira yakawanda yekubuda pamazuva chaiwo, ehupenyu. Kunyemwerera kana kuchonya kunobatsira muverengi kuti aratidze kuti une moyo wakareruka kana kuita zvekutamba, zvese zvakanaka zvemavara maitiro uye nzira zviri nani pane "haha" kana "lol," iyo Steinberg anoti inogona kudzima zvachose kune vamwe. "Ingo chenjerai kuti mamoniki mazhinji anogona zvakare kuva turn off," anodaro. "Chokwadi usashandise zvinopfuura imwe murugwaro rumwe chete. Kushevedzera kwakaiswa zvakanaka kunobatsirawo." Asi, zvakare, shandisa "mutemo weumwe" kare kune avo. “‘Ndichitarisira kukuona!’ zviri nani pane ‘Kutarisira kukuona’ kana kuti ‘Kutarisira kukuona!!!’” anodaro Steinberg.

Vaka Nheyo Usati Watarisa

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Imba inoti vakomana vazhinji vanozomira kana ukakurumidza kutumira mameseji. Izvi zvinoreva kuti hapana nguva dzose yekutarisa-kutarisa kune mukomana mutsva uye hapana kutsvaga kuti akunakidze iwe pese paunenge wakafinhwa. "Izvo zvakati, kana hukama hwacho hwanyanya kusimbiswa, avo, 'Hei akanaka ... kufunga nezvako,' 'Kumuka kwauri mupfungwa dzangu kunoisa kunyemwerera pachiso changu,' kana 'Kutapira zviroto, mudiwa,' mese munogamuchirwa, kunyaradza, uye kuongwa, nekuti mune hwaro uye munoitirana hanya," House inodaro. (Zvakare, cherekedza izvi zvisere Mazano Akavanzika ekuenda kubva kuCasual to Couple.)

Kutamba!

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

"Unofanira kutamba mumagwaro. Kutaura zvazviri, zvakanaka!" anodaro House. Asi hapana chero chinyorwa chidiki chinonakidza chichaita. Heino muenzaniso wezvinyorwa zvakanaka, paImba imwe neimwe: "Mushure memusangano unofadza chaizvo nemukuru wangu nezvebasa rangu idzva (yay!), Ndakaenda kunomhanya kunodzikamisa muviri nepfungwa dzangu. Ndinoshuva kuti dai wanga uri pano wakazorora negirazi re waini neni. Wanga uri sei musangano wako nhasi? Ndine chokwadi chekuti wauroverera! "

Nei ichishanda: haisi bland kana makani. Zviri kuita, uye pane nzwisiso yakadzama pamusoro pemunhu ari kuziviswa, ayo anogona kukweretesa kune yakareba foni kana kutaura-mukati mevanhu gare gare, anotsanangura. "Uyezve, pakange paine zvekutamba uye kufarira nemashoko anopupuma." Fomula yakanaka: kutanga, govera chimwe chinhu chawakaita kana chauchazoita kukwidza kufarira kwake, uye wobvunza mubvunzo. Zvino, chibudai munodzvanya send, madzimai.

Ongororo ye