Kukurukurirana Kwaunofanira Kuva Nako Usati ‘Ndaita’

Zvemukati

• Iyo "Hupenyu Hwevanhu" Kukurukurirana
• The "Tichaguma Kupi?" Kukurukurirana
• Kukurukurirana kwe "Vana"
• Ongororo ye

Zvakaitika nokukurumidza. Nezuro wanga uchiparadzanisa zvinyorwa zvake neshamwari dzako uye muchitsvaga chechitatu zuva, uye nhasi imi vaviri munogovana furati. Imi mose munoziva kwamuri kunanga-yay!-uye kana asati akumbira, une chokwadi chekuti achakurumidza.

Asi usati watora mwoyo, inguva yekukurukura nyaya shomanana idzo dzaiita sedzakakodzera kuunza pawaingova kudanana. Sei? "Unogona kufunga kuti uri papeji rimwe chete, kana kuti uchakwanisa kushandira zvinhu izvi mumugwagwa, asi fungidziro iyi yakatungamira kumichato yakawanda isina mufaro," anoyambira Karen Sherman, Ph.D., hukama hwepfungwa uye munyori we Kuroora Mashiripiti! Zviwane, Zvichengete, uye Uite Kuti Zvigare.

Saka usazviisa pasi rimwe zuva: Ita nhaurirano idzi nhatu ikozvino kuti uve nechokwadi chekufara zvachose gare gare.

Iyo "Hupenyu Hwevanhu" Kukurukurirana

Kufunga

Kana ari shavishavi yemagariro uye iwe uri munhu anogara pamba-kana iye ari nezve basa-hupenyu huremo iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchikwanisa kuita basa - isu tine mamwe mashoko akashata: Usatarisira kuti chero cheizvozvo chishanduke nekuda kwekuti warohwa , maererano naSherman. "Ndinotaura nevakawanda vakaroorana vaifungidzira kuti mumwe kana mumwe wacho aizogadzikana munzanga, kana kuti aizogadzirisa tsika dzake pashure pokuroorana. Asi kazhinji izvozvo hazviitiki, "anotsanangura kudaro. Usanetseke-pane mhinduro: Izvo zvese nezve kubvumirana.

Ingorangarira: "Tinofanirwa kutaura" ndiwo mazwi mana anovengwa nevakawanda, Sherman anotsanangura. Saka svetuka matangiro api neapi wongomubvunza kana achiona basa rake kana kuti purogiramu yemagariro ichichinja kana maroorana. Kana izvo zvaanokuudza zvisingawirirane-nezvakanaka-zvaunoda, saka pamwe anozobvuma kuenda husiku humwe chete pasvondo, kana iwe uchavimbisa kurega kushanda pakupera kwevhiki. Imi mose munofanira kunge muchida kupa mvumo, Sherman anodaro.

The "Tichaguma Kupi?" Kukurukurirana

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Saka iwe wakatamira kuguta nyowani rebasa uye ipapo wakasangana naVaWondishamisa. Pane imwe nguva, iwe unozotarisana nesarudzo: Gara, siya, kana kuenda kumabhureki, Sherman anodaro. Uye usati wamubvunza zvaanoona, unofanira kuziva chii iwe kuda. Kutanga, zvibvunze, "Ndiri kuda kugara kupi makore mashanu kana gumi kubva zvino, uye zvakakosha zvakadii kwandiri?" Sherman anoti. Uye kana iwe uchida kuva pedyo nemhuri yako-kana kufunga kuti angada kuva-taura kudaro! Mushure mezvose, kana iwe uchigara muNew York-uye iwe wakakurira muBrooklyn apo iye akarererwa kuMidwest-iwe unogona kunzwa "kumba" iye aine mazano akasiyana nezve kwauchange uri muma30s nema40s, Sherman anoti .

Kukurukurirana kwe "Vana"

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Pane mimwe misoro yakakosha zvikuru kutamba, Sherman anodaro. Uyu mumwe wavo. Uye kana nhaurirano dzenyu pamusoro pevana dzisina kupfuurira kunze kwechibvumirano chokuti mose muri vaviri munoda vana rimwe zuva nokukurumidza, izvozvo hazvina kukwana. Mushure mezvose, kana iwe uchiziva kuti mangani aunoda, uye uchida kutanga kuedza nekukurumidza kupfuura gare gare, iwo madhata anogona kuve makuru mhinzwa muwanano yako yechidiki kana ukasaona ziso neziso, Sherman anodaro. Kunyangwe iye angave asingaite senge ane shungu, zvakanaka-uye zvine zvibereko-kukurukura zvakanangana, Sherman anosimbisa. Usakanganwa kukurukura kuti ungarera sei vana vako-zvinhu zvakadai sezvitaera, zvikoro, kana chitendero zvakakosha. Usati wabvunza, tarisa kumhuri yake uye kurera-vese vanopa zano rakanaka rezvaangangoda (kana asingade!), Sherman anokurudzira.

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