Pfungwa Dzinofunga: Ini Ndinokunda Sei Nyaya Dzokuvimba kubva kuhukama Hwakapfuura?

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Kunyanya kungwarira mushure mekutsva muhukama hakusi kwechinyakare, asi kana hukama hwako hwekupedzisira hwakakukandira nekuda kwechiuno chakadaro zvekuti unonzwa uine vanga zvachose-senge hauzombokwanisi kuvimba zvakare-ipapo inguva yevamwe. kuzviratidza uye kuraira.

Tora nguva yekuporeswa, nyatso nyora, uye unzwisise hukama hwako hwekupedzisira kuti usatakure mukwende kubva pauri kuenda kune unotevera.

1. Gadzira yakatemwa yakachena. Yemazuva ano magariro enhau anoita kupora kwakatosiyana zvachose kubva kune chero imwe nguva munhoroondo yerudo. Dzako nyaya dzekuvimba dzinogona kunge dzakakonzerwa nenyaya yekuti kunonoka kusangana, kunyangwe epamberi, kunoita kuti kugadzirisa kwakazara kuite senge kusingakwanise. Kunyangwe zvingareve kuti iwe ucharasikirwa nemavhidhiyo epamusoro ekatsi egore, vhara pasi kana kudzikisira Facebook kudzamara waenderera mberi.

2. Nzwisisa kuvimbana. Dzimwe nguva isu tinowira kuvanhu zvichibva pahunhu hwekupokana: Kuongorora paCharles University muPrague kwakawana vakomana vane maziso ebrown vachipa fungidziro yekuvimbika. Sezvineiwo, 2010 University of St. Andrews in Scotland akawana vakapindura vaive nerusaruro rwakakura rwekuvimba zviso zvechirume zvitete. Usamhanye nekukurumidza, asi kana murume akakupa chikonzero chekuvimba-anoteera, anoita zvaanotaura kuti achada, uye anokutsigira-tora iye pane zvaanotaura pane kufunga kumashure kune zvakamboitika zvinorwadza.

3. Usaite mhosho imwechete kaviri. Kazhinji vakadzi vanosarudza murume mumwe chete achiedza "kudzora" kana "kumushandura" (mune zvepfungwa izvi zvinonzi "kudzokorora kumanikidzwa"). Izvi zvinogona kupedzisira zvave basa renguva yakazara pasina mabhenefiti. Kana murume ane nhoroondo yekubiridzira akaputsa kuvimba kwako, uye iwe wotanga kudanana nemumwe mukomana anozivikanwa neziso rake rekudzungaira ... iwe unoziva kuti izvi zviri kuenda kupi.

4. Ziva kutenderera kwako. Kunyangwe iwe uchida kufunga kuti une rusununguko rwekusununguka, kuenda kwako kumwedzi uye mahormone senge testosterone mune yako system inogona kuve chinhu chikuru muhukama hwako hwekuita sarudzo. Chinhu chinonakidza kucherechedza ndechekuti oxytocin, yakambofungidzirwa kuva gumbeze "kushamwaridzana kwevanhu" mahormoni, yakanyanya kuomarara. Nezve dambudziko rekusara kwekuvimba, oxytocin inogona kunge iri mhosva: Inowedzera ndangariro, zvese zvakanaka nezvakaipa. Sezvo zviri nyore kurwa nemukomana mutsva kuunza pfungwa dzisina kunaka nezvehukama kubva kumashure (kana kuti nguva dzakanaka dzekunzwa kujaira), gara uripo. Kurega pfungwa-dzakanaka nedzakaipa dzichipinda murudo rutsva zvinogona kukanganisa zviito zvako nekutenda kwako.

5. Ramba wakarinda kusvika kumativi maviri. Kana iwe uri kuyedza zvakare nemurume mumwe chete, iwe uchaona zvichinakidza kuti tsvagiridzo nyowani kubva kuRudzikinuro University College muOntario yakawana kuti kuvimba kunogona kukukanganisa iwe ndangariro, zvichikonzera isu kuti tione kudarika kwewawakaroorana naye wekudanana seasina kukuvadza kupfuura zvavaiita pakutanga kana uchikwanisa "kumutendazve". Asi kune avo vasingavimbe nemumwe wavo, ndangariro dzekuparara kwemudiwa dzinongowedzera nekufamba kwenguva.

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