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Paunotanga kusangana nemukomana kana kungoenda naye pamazuva mashoma, zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kuti utaure kana iye ari mukomana akanaka-kana kungoita senge iye kusvikira iye aratidze zvaari chaizvo. Zvakanaka, usatya, nekuti pane akati wandei maitiro ekukubatsira kuti unzwisise kana ari iye chaiye dhiri.

Saka ndeapi maitiro ekupedzisira emurume akanaka? Iye akatendeka, ane mutsa, uye akavimbika. Kana murume aine hunhu hutatu uhwu, achabudirira mune imwe neimwe yenzvimbo dzinokurukurwa pasi apa. Kungwarira uye kungwarira pamusoro pekumurega muhupenyu hwako nemoyo zvinokutendera iwe kuti uchengete vanhu vakaipa kunze, uchisiya nzvimbo yevakomana vakanaka vanokodzera mukana chaiwo.

1. Nhoroondo yebasa. Maoko pasi, chimwe chezvinhu zvakakosha pakuona mhando uye hunhu hwemukomana zvine chekuita nenhoroondo yebasa rake. Kana iwe uchida ramangwana-risina rudo ramangwana, tanga nemukomana ane basa uye anoziva mabatiro pariri. Muchokwadi, kuenda kuchikoro-undergrad, akapedza kudzidza, kana kuita zvehunyanzvi-kunogona kuverenga sebasa, zvakare, nekuti zvinoratidza kuti akazvipira kudzidza uye kutsvaga basa rinoenderana naye. Chokwadi, vamwe varume vanogona kunge vasiri pabasa nekuda kwehupfumi hwenyika, saka musazvitorere izvozvo. Zvamunoda kuona nevarume vakadaro, zvisinei, kushingirira kutsvaga imwe. Iwe haufanire kuomesa hupenyu hwako nekutarisira nekupa murume akura!

Mibvunzo yekubvunza: Varume vazhinji vanovenga mubvunzo webasa ("Unoitei kuti urarame?"), Nokuti vanotya kuti vakadzi vari kuedza kufunga kuti mari yakawanda sei yavanoita. Panzvimbo pekumubvunza iye kuti anoitei nezvehupenyu, mubvunze kana achifarira basa raanoita kana kuti anga ari mubasa rimwe chete kwenguva yakareba. Wana pfungwa yekuti anoda basa rake here uye anogarisana nevamwe vaanoshanda navo. Mubvunze kuti akazopedzisira sei kubasa kwake kana akatanga kufarira mutsara webasa rake. Murume akatsiga pabasa anowanzogadzikana muhupenyu hwake hwose, zvakare.

2. Hukama nemhuri yake. Vanhu vazhinji vanotenda zvisirizvo kuti mukomana akanaka ane hukama hwakanaka nevabereki vake uye nevanin'ina, asi chii chinoitika kana vabereki vake uye / kana vanin'ina vari nzungu diki, uye akafunga kuzvisunungura kwavari kuti aponese pfungwa dzake? Chokwadi ndechekuti simba remhuri rakaomarara, saka usamutongere nekukurumidza nehukama hwake nemhuri yake.

Mibvunzo yekubvunza: Bvunza, "Hukama hwako hwakaita sei naamai vako nababa?" kana "Unoungana kangani?" Kana paine zororo riri kuuya, bvunza kana ari kusarudza kurishandisa nemhuri yakawedzerwa. Kana asiri, mubvunze kuti sei uye nyatsoteerera mhinduro yake. Iwe unoda kuona kuti murume ane hanya nevabereki vake uye vanun'una, uye kuti anoita nhamburiko yekusimbisa kana kusimudzira hukama ihwohwo. Kutonga murume nehukama hwaanako nemhuri yake yekwakatangira kazhinji-asi kwete nguva dzose-chiyero chakanaka chekuti iye murume akaita sei.

3. Hukama neshamwari. Shamwari dzinosarudzwa nemurume muupenyu hwake dzinokuudza zvakawanda nezvake. Pamusoro pezvo, mhando dzezviitiko zvaanoita neshamwari zvinotaura zvimwe nezvake. Semuenzaniso, anowanzo tenderera pabhawa yemitambo pamwe neshamwari dzake, kana iye anofarira mutambo wetenisi mupaki yemuno? Ndiye here mumwe munhu anofarira kufambidzana neshamwari imwechete kana vaviri, kana iye anofarira chiito chemapoka akakura anopa kukurudzira?

Mibvunzo yekubvunza: Bvunza kuti, "Mazuva mangani pasvondo rega rega aunoda kuungana neshamwari dzako?" Kumukurudzira nenzira iyi ("Mazuva mangani ...") zvinopesana nezvakawanda ("Unoda kutandara neshamwari dzako here?") zvinozoguma nekuwana mhinduro yakarurama. Iwe unogona zvakare kumubvunza iye kuti iye nevamwe vake vanoitei kana vari pamwe chete. Pakupedzisira, chiyero chikuru chemukomana akanaka kuve neshamwari uye kuenderera mberi nehushamwari ihwohwo kwemakore mazhinji. Bvunza, "Unozivei [nyora zita] kubva kupi? Uchiri kutaura nevanhu vekuchikoro chesekondari here?" Mukomana akanaka anowanzo taura neimwe shamwari yakanaka kubva kusekondari, nekuti vakomana vakavimbika vakavimbika uye vakazvipira kuvanhu vavanotarisira.

Kana iwe uchida shamwari dzemukomana wako mutsva, enderera; kana usinga, nyatsofungisisa kupedza hukama. Kuziva kuti mukomana munhu akanaka zvechokwadi here kana kuti mumwe chete anoti haasi iro rakareruka kuedza. Kutaura zvazviri, zvinoda kutaura nomurume kwenguva refu kuti uzive kuti ndiani uye kana akakodzerana newe. Asi kutarisa pane nharaunda nhatu dziri pamusoro kuchakupa pekutanga pekuvaka. Sezvaunosvika pakumuziva, taura nezvake kushamwari dzako kuti unzwe mhinduro yavo. Dzimwe nguva shamwari dzinoita dzakanakisa kufambidzana makochi!

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