Matanho ehukama kubva kune Nyanzvi Dzekurambana

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• Zvibate zvakanaka
• Tora Nguva Yekusaroora
• Funga Kurapa Kana Zvinhu Zvakanaka
• Chengeta maEx munguva yakapfuura
• Ramba Uchitaura, Kunyangwe Pazvakaoma
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Kunyangwe iwe uchifara muhukama hwakakomba, wakatarisana nedambudziko muparadhiso, kana uchangoroora, pane zvakawanda zvehungwaru zvinobatsira kutorwa kubva kune nyanzvi dzinoita raramo yavo kubatsira vakaroorana kuburikidza nehurongwa hwekurambana. Pano, matipi avo ehukama hwakanaka-uye kuputsa-kumusoro.

Zvibate zvakanaka

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Kana iwe wakaroora kana uchingogara neSO yako, zvakajairika kukamura mabasa epamba, asi kusaziva hakusi mufaro. Ziva magadzirirwo emotokari, furati kana kugadzirisa imba, uye zvakanyanya kukosha-mari, anodaro Karen Finn, Ph.D., musiki weFunctional Divorce Process. Kwete chete iwe unozviponesa kubva pakuvharwa meso mumugwagwa kana ukatarisana nekurambana, asi zvakangonaka zvakanaka kune hukama hwakakwana kune mumwe nemumwe wenyu kuziva mativi ese ekuita basa remumba, anodaro Finn.

Zvinogona kuita sezvisinganzwisisike, asi anoraira kubata hukama hwako sebhizinesi nekuisa parutivi manzwiro ekukurukura mari, mari, uye midziyo kamwe pamwedzi. Kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti wakurumidza, tarisa 16 Mari Inotonga Mukadzi wese Anofanirwa Kuziva Nezera 30.

Tora Nguva Yekusaroora

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Kurambana kunogona kukuvadza kunyange kuzvivimba kwemukadzi - ndosaka chero nyanzvi ichipa zano rekusvetukira muhukama hutsva ipapo. "Isu tinokurudzira zvikuru kuti usanyanye kufambidzana kwegore," vanodaro mai-uye-mwanasikana vaviri vaviri Nicole Baras Feuer, M.S., naFrancine Baras, L.C.S.W., vakavamba yavo yavo yekuraira kurambana uye vachangobva kunyora 37 Zvinhu Zvandinoshuva Dai Ndakaziva Ndisati Ndarambana.

Kunyange gore rimwe ringave rakanyanyisa kuhukama husina kunyanya kukosha, mutemo mumwe chete unoshanda. Mushure mekubva kune chero kuparara, tora nguva yekutarisa maronda ako uye uone kuti ndeapi awakonzera uye ndeapi aunogona kuporesa, anodaro Finn. Endai pamazuva asina kujairika kuti muedze uye muone zvaunoda kubva pahukama hwako hunotevera, kana kuti uchafanirwa kuita chikanganiso chimwe chete kaviri.

Funga Kurapa Kana Zvinhu Zvakanaka

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Neyero yechatanuro inosvika 50 muzana munyika ino, vanhu vazhinji vari kusvetukira mukati-kana kuti kubuda muwanano nokukurumidza zvikuru, anodaro Talia Wager, murapi weroorano ane rezenisi uye mhuri. "Pane maitiro izvozvi apo vanhu vari kuuya mukurapwa pamberi vanoroorana,” anodaro Wagner. “Kunyange zvazvo ichi chisati chiri chinhu icho vanhu vakawanda vanoita, inzira yakanaka yokuti vakaroorana vagadzire hwaro hwakanaka hwokuvaka upenyu pairi.”

Kana iwe uchinzwa uri kumagumo ehukama hwako uye uri kufunga nezvekurambana, Feuer naBaras vanonyevera nezve kushandisa gweta rako sechiremba. Panzvimbo pekufonera gweta, funga kurega chipangamazano kana wekurapa kuti aongorore mamiriro ezvinhu nekukutungamira mune anotevera matanho usati wadonhedza zviuru zvemadhora mumari dzepamutemo.

Chengeta maEx munguva yakapfuura

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Hazvina kunaka kutarisira kuti tsvarakadenga yako ingove yako yekare-kunyangwe zvichireva nzira yake yekurara yemhondi kana hunhu hwekubiridzira. Pazasi mutsetse, anodaro Finn: Vanhu vazhinji vanotsungirira zvishoma zvinoshungurudza vasati vawana Iye, saka usaunza hukama hwako hwekare mune yako nyowani kana kuti uri kuzvigadzirira kukundikana usati watombotanga.

Ramba Uchitaura, Kunyangwe Pazvakaoma

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Iyo miniti iwe yaunonzwa kuti chinhu chiri kusaririra muhukama hwako, taura, anodaro hukama hwehukama Rachel Sussman, LCSW. Kunyangwe iwe uchifanira kusarudza yako hondo, zvakakosha kuti ugare uchiratidza manzwiro auri kuita uye nezvako zvine chekuita newe. Kana iwe uchinzwa sekunge iwe haugone, inogona kunge iri hombe tsvuku mureza uye presursor wekurambana (kana kurambana), anodaro Sussman. Kuti udzivise mumwe wako kuvhara kana kuti azvidzivirire, teerera kune zvaari kutaura uye gonesa maonero ake, kunyangwe iwe usingabvumire, Sussman anopa zano.

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