7 Mudiki-Hurukuro Matipi ezororo Mapati

Zvemukati

• Prep Talking Points
• Taura Wako Kumusoro
• Ridzai "Nhaurirano Yemutambo"
• Rangarira Kutevera
• Dzivisa "Vaurayi Vekutaura"
• Gwadamira Nyasha
• Tora Kufema
• Ongororo ye

Boka rekutanga rekukoka kumapato ezororo rakatanga kusvika. Uye kunyangwe paine zvakawanda zvekuda pamusoro pekuungana kwemhemberero idzi, kusangana nevanhu vatsva vakawanda uye kuita hurukuro diki diki zvinogona kunetsa-kunyangwe kune avo vakazvarwa vaine chipo chegab.

"Vazhinji vedu tinozvifunga isu mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, uye tinofunga kuti munhu wese ari mukamuri anoona kuti hatina wekutaura naye kana anoziva kuti tinonzwa kusagadzikana," anodaro nyanzvi diki yekutaura Debra Fine, munyori we Beyond Texting uye Hunyanzvi Hwakanaka Hwekutaura Diki. Nomufaro, anoti izvo inhema. Kumapati, munhu wose (kunze kwemugamuchiri) ari kufunga nezvavo-zvipfeko zvavo, shamwari dzavo, uye zvirongwa zvavo zvepashure. Ivo havasi kunyatso shamisika kuti sei iwe wakamira wega neshizi mundiro. (Saka usavhunduka-kunyangwe iwe ungada kuverenga Mazano Asina Kushanda Ekudzivirira Kudyisa Pamapato Ezororo.)

Nzira iri nyore kwazvo yekugona hurukuro diki, anodaro Akanaka, inoreva kubuda kunze kwemusoro wako. "Unofanira kugara uchifunga mutoro wekunyaradzwa nemumwe wako," anodaro. Ukangomira kufunga kuti sei uri kuburuka uye kutanga kutarisa pakuita kuti mumwe munhu asununguke, kusachengeteka kunowira kure, zvichikusiya wakasununguka kupenya. Aya matipi masere achakubatsira kuita izvozvo chaizvo.

Prep Talking Points

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Pamberi pepati, funga mibvunzo mishoma. (Zvenguva ino yegore, Akanaka anoratidza, "Ndeapi ako [basa, kufamba, zororo, nezvimwewo] marongero egore rinouya?" tsika?”) Wobva washevedzera misoro mishoma yaungataura nezvayo kana ukabvunzwa. Zvichida urikudzidzira marathon kana uine mhuri iri kuuya kuzoshanya. Neiyi nzira, iwe unenge uine ese ehurukuro yekudyidzana iwe yaunofanirwa kudzivirira inonetsa nguva.

Taura Wako Kumusoro

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Kana iwe usinga zive chero munhu kumafaro, kuzvizivisa iwe pachako kunogona kunzwa kutya. Kuita kuti zvive nyore, Bill Lampton, Ph.D., purezidhendi weChampionship Kutaurirana, anokurudzira kutaura nezvako. Kutanga, ingozvisuma iwe pachako. Wobva waunza nhaurwa yako yesarudzo, inogona kuve yakapusa sekuziva kwaunoita mutariri wepati kana kuomarara sekuti mwaka unokanganisa sei chirongwa chako chebasa, ("Mukomana, ndiri kubatikana here. Mbudzi ndiwo mwedzi wedu wakabatikana zvikuru pabasa!" ). Pakupedzisira, koka mumwe wako anotaura kuti aongorore: "Basa rako rinotora nguva ino yegore zvakare here?" Bam-instant convo!

Ridzai "Nhaurirano Yemutambo"

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Musungo unowira vanhu vazhinji kupindura mibvunzo yevamwe zvisina kukwana, anodaro Fine. Zvinonzwisisika. Mushure mezvose, "Chii chitsva?" inowanzo kodhi ye "Mhoro." Asi kana iwe uri kuyedza kuita diki hurukuro, uchipindura, "Kwete zvakawanda, iwe?" chidziviso chehurukuro. Pane kudaro, Fine anoti kuita poindi yekupa mhinduro chaiyo. "Kana mumwe munhu akabvunza kuti, 'Mazororo ako anga akaita sei?' pane kungoti zvakanaka, ndinogona kuti, 'Zvakanaka, vaviri vanakomana vangu vari kuuya kubva kumabvazuva kuzopedza vhiki nesu. Ndiri kutarisira kwazvo.' "Nenzira iyoyo, anodaro, iwe wakapa kumusoro zvimwe zvehurukuro-vana vako, kufamba kwezororo, vashanyi, zvichingodaro.

Rangarira Kutevera

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Kunyangwe iwe uri kutamba mutambo wekutaurirana sepro, iye munhu wauri kutaura naye anogona kunge asiri. Kana uri kupihwa mhinduro dzeshoko rimwe chete, chera zvakadzika, anodaro Fine. “Unofanira kuratidza kuti hauna kungoreva kuti ‘Mhoro’ pawaiti ‘Zvakadini?’” anotsanangura kudaro. “Kana vakapindura kuti, ‘Zvakanaka,’ gadzirira kutevera, sokunge, ‘Chii chitsva kwauri kubvira pandakapedzisira kukuona?’” (Usarasikirwe Nei Kukurukurirana Kusina Kuipa—uye Magadzirirwo Ako.)

Dzivisa "Vaurayi Vekutaura"

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Mutemo wakanaka wechigunwe ndewekusiyana nekubvunza chero chausingazive mhinduro yacho, anodaro Fine. Izvi zvinoreva kuti "Mukomana wako ari sei?" kana iwe usingazive zvechokwadi kuti ivo vachiri pamwe chete, kwete "Ririko basa rako?" kunze kwekunge iwe uchigona kuvimbisa kuti achiri kushanda ipapo, uye kwete "Wakapinda muPenn State?" kunze kwekunge uchiziva kuti akadaro. Namatira kumibvunzo yakafara, senge "Chii chitsva?" kana kuti "Chero zvirongwa zvegore rinouya?"

Gwadamira Nyasha

Waiswa kona naCathy ane chatty kubva wapinda? Tora nzwisiso kubva kune varidzi vehurukuro. Kana vachinge vapererwa nenguva mukati mechikamu chenhau, vanozoratidzira mubvunzurudzo wavo nekutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Pane nguva yemubvunzo mumwezve," kana "Tangosara neminiti imwe chete ..."

Zviripachena, iwe haugone kuve wakanyatsojeka muhupenyu chaihwo, asi edza kudonhedza mazano-kana, sekudana kwaFine, "uchisimudzira mureza muchena." Kutanga, bvuma izvo zvanga zvichitaurwa nemumwe munhu: "Wow, vana vako vanonzwika vakaita chaizvo." Wadaro wozunguzira mureza muchena: "Ndangoona shamwari yangu ichipinda uye ndoda kuti mhoro ..." Uye pakupedzisira, ipa komero yekupedzisira kana mubvunzo. "... asi ndisati ndaita, ndiudze, Sally akazopedzisira aita sei pamaSAT ake?" "Izvi zvinoita kuti mese mubude muchiremerera," anodaro Fine.

Tora Kufema

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Kana iwe uchizivikanwa, unonyara, kana kunyangwe uchingonzwa kuneta kana kurwara, mapato anogona kunetsa. Ndosaka Fine achikurudzira kuzvipa yakavakirwa-mukati kufema. Asati aungana, anozozvipa chinangwa-kazhinji chimwe chinhu sekutaura kune vaviri kana vatatu vanhu vatsva. Kana achinge azadzisa kota yake, anotora nguva-kubuda, achizorora ega. Izvi zvinomupa imwe kukurudzira kushamwaridzana, pasina kutsva-kuvimbisa kuti achave nenguva yakanaka.

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