Hukama Hunoongorora Vese Vakaroorana Vanofanirwa Kuva neRupenyu Hupenyu Hupenyu

Zvemukati

• Tora Kutya Kwako Kwemanzwiro
• Kumbira Zvaunoda
• Nakidzwai Pamwe Chete
• Unganidza Panyama
• Pedzai Nguva Pamwe Chete
• Shandisa Nguva Wakaparadzaniswa
• Edza Chinhu Chitsva
• Tinotendana
• Ongororo ye

Wati wambotaura nemurume wako here, kana kutomira pamberi pake, uye uine ichi kunetsekana kunzwa kuti chimwe chinhu chidiki off? Idaidze iyo yechitanhatu pfungwa kana isingataurwe undercurrent, asi dzimwe nguva unongoziva kana chitima chiri kutanga kumhanya kubva munzira. "Hakuwanzovheneka marambi matsvuku ekunyevera kutitaurira kana chimwe chinhu chichida kutarisirwa," anodaro LA-based couples therapist Ellen Bradley-Windell. "[Tinofanira] kugamuchira pfungwa yekugadzira chirongwa chekuchengetedza chinoshanda chehukama."

Zviri kwauri kuti uone hutano hwehukama hwako nguva nenguva. Uine izvo mupfungwa, heano mamwe ekuongorora iwe aunofanirwa kuita imwe neimwe nguva iyo yechitanhatu pfungwa inonzwika.

Tora Kutya Kwako Kwemanzwiro

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Windell anoti mubvunzo unonyanya kukosha paukama unowanzova wakapfava: Tiri kuita sei? Nguva nenguva, onai ‘tembiricha yemanzwiro enyu.’ Bvunzanai kuti, ‘Munonzwa sokuti tiri kubatana seshamwari dzepamwoyo here? 'Tiri kuremekedzana here?' 'Tinogona kutaurirana here pachena?'" anodaro. "Kana ukashandisa chiyero chetembiricha ichi paukama hwenyu, mubairo wacho ndewokuti unogona kunge uchikurumidza kukurumidza kugadzirisa dambudziko racho, worigadzirisa risati radzika munhau hombe." (Kutaura nezvehombe idzodzo misoro yekutaurirana inobatsira mubedroom, zvakare.

Kumbira Zvaunoda

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Kuroora uye hukama hwehukama Carin Goldstein anoti vazhinji vakaroorana vanounza zvichemo patafura panzvimbo yemirairo. "Kazhinji, kazhinji, ndichave nevakadzi vanoti," Hamusi kunditeerera zvakakwana! ' Varume vakanangana uye vane kongiri, saka ndinogara ndichivaudza kuti: 'Unofanirwa kumuudza zvinoita.' "Anoda kubata ruoko rwako pane veruzhinji here? Bvunza mimwe mibvunzo nezve zuva rako? Varume vanovavarira kufadza, uye vanozvifarira kana iwe ukavapa nzira yekubudirira.

Nakidzwai Pamwe Chete

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Kunyangwe zvingave zvisingaite mazuva ekutanga ekufambidzana chaizvo, kuzvipira kubatanidza hazvireve mutongo weupenyu hwese wekudzvinyirira uye zvisungo. "Zvinhu zvinogona kunge zvakanaka nhasi, asi mamiriro ehukama hwako angangoda kumutsidzirwa," anodaro Windell. "Tora nguva yekuyeuchidzana nezveyeuchidzo dzakanaka dzawakagovana pamwe chete. Bvunzanai, 'Tiri kushandisa kupera kwedu kwevhiki pamwe chete kungotarisira bhizinesi, kana tiri kuisa nguva padivi kuti tifare uye kuseka uye kupusa?" "Ramba kuudza majee eupenzi emukati aingowanikwa nemukomana wako chete, uye kuveza nguva yakanaka. "Ita shuwa kuti unochengeta mufaro uye kuseka muhukama hwako, sezvo zvichasimbisa chisungo icho imi mose munokodzera," anodaro Windell.

Unganidza Panyama

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Goldstein inotaura kuti imwe yeanowanzo hiccups muhukama ndeyekukanganwa kutarisira kubatana kwemuviri. Ngatitaurei nezvazvo: Ndechimwe chezvinhu zvokutanga kuenda kana wakabatikana chaizvo. "Handisi kuti, 'Unofanirwa kuchengeta murume wako,' kana chero zvakadaro," anotsanangura. "Asi ndechimwe chinhu chekuziva nezvacho - pasina kusangana panyama, anogona kugunun'una. Varume vanobatana zvirinani pamoyo kana vanyatsobatana neumwe wavo wakakosha panyama." Goldstein anoti kana anga ave mavhiki maviri uye iwe ukaona mukomana wako achigwinha zvishoma, unogona kazhinji kuisa maviri-uye-maviri pamwechete-uye iri gadziriso yakapusa. (Kunzwa usina kufemerwa mumba yekurara? Edza imwe ye9 Nzira Dzebonde Kuwedzera Hukama Hwako.)

Pedzai Nguva Pamwe Chete

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Kunyanya kana vakaroorana vari muchikamu chekuchinja, kana mumwe ari kufamba zvakanyanya, Goldstein anoti zvakakosha kuve ne "sweat equity" kuongororwa. "Kana munhu mumwe ari kutakura mutoro uyu kumba, zvinogona kushanduka kuita zvine simba pakati pevaviri," anodaro, achiti vakadzi kunyanya vanogona kuve nehasha. Kazhinji, kugadzirisa kuri kungoita kuti mumwe wako anzwisise hupenyu kubva wako shangu. "Tese tinongoda kuonekwa nekunzwiwa," anodaro Goldstein. Zvakare, anoti izvi zvinouya pakuva chaiwo. Muudze kusavapo kwake iwe unonzwa usina kubatanidzwa, uye iwe unoda kakawanda foni kana zuva reusiku-uye angangove ari pafoni achibvunza nezvezuva rako kuhofisi, kana kuenda kubasa kuronga yako inotevera Chishanu manheru.

Shandisa Nguva Wakaparadzaniswa

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Dzimwe nguva, vakaroorana vanogona kuwana zvakare kuvhara, zvichikonzera rimwe kana mapato ese kuti anzwe kufemerwa uye nit-picky. Space inonyanya kukosha kune varume, avo vane wired yekubatanidza-uye vobva vabuda kunze kwechinguva kudzoreredza kwavo kuzvimiririra. "Ndiwo maitiro anoita varume patsva," anodaro Goldstein. "Vanofanirwa kupinda mubako rerima, vodzoka-asi vakadzi vanowanzo funga," Haiwa, haandide. "" Kwete nyaya. Kana muchinzwa imi pachenyu muchitsamwirana uye muchishatirisana, inguva yekuronga zvine hutano, husiku hwevasikana nevakomana. "Inguva chete iyo dambudziko iri kana zvikajairika," anodaro Goldstein. "Kana chikava 'mhinduro' kuchinetso chese, panzvimbo yekubva nguva yekudzokerazve kuhukama kubva kunzvimbo iri nani." Kana iri imwewo nzira yekuchengeta yako inotonhorera? Zvese zvakanaka!

Edza Chinhu Chitsva

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Ruts. Muhukama hwakagadzwa, zviri nyore kuve nehurongwa; haugone kurangarira zororo rako rekupedzisira, manheru eChishanu chega chega kutora / bhaisikopo/kurara, uye uri kukura zvese-zvakanyanya kujairana nemaitiro ako eSO. "Isa simba mukuedza chimwe chinhu chitsva pamwechete," anodaro Windell. "Joinha jimu nekurovedza muviri pamwe chete, dzidza mutambo mutsva pamwechete, edza resitorendi nyowani kamwe pamwedzi, tendeukai kuronga 'chakavanzika zuva' kubva pakutanga kusvika kumagumo-iwe unowana pfungwa." Tsika dzekare, nzvimbo, uye nzira zvaimbove zvinonakidza uye zvinonakidza zvinogona kutora mukana wekufinha, zvichikonzera hukama hwako kunzwa hwakamira. Gara uchishanda kuti uzvisanganise, anodaro Windell. (Uyezve, wow murume wako pahusiku hwehusiku ne7 Runako Tweaks Guys Rudo.)

Tinotendana

Mifananidzo ye Corbis

Kuchengeta rudo rwako munzira chinhu chinoda kuitika mazuva ese, saka haufanirwe kudzoka kubva mumwaka wese wekusagutsikana kwehukama. Sei, chaizvoizvo? Huya nemafungire ekutenda nekupa-zvese nemuromo uye zvisiri zvekutaura. "Vakaroorana vane rudo vanobudirira kana hukama hwacho hwakavakirwa pakudzokerana. Panzvimbo pekugara uchikumbira zvimwe, edza kupa zvimwe zvisingaite," anodaro Windell. "Ita shuwa yekutenda zuva nezuva kune chimwe chinhu chaive nechinangwa kwauri. Tsvagiridzo yakaratidza kuti tinogona kushandura kemesitiri muhuropi hwedu kusarudza mufaro mune mazuva makumi maviri-ari kuonga, kuva nenguva dzinogutsa. , vachinyemwerera, vachinyora zvinyorwa zverudo uye kufunga kwakanaka. Kunyangwe kunyemwerera kana kutsvoda kunogona kumuratidza kuti anorevei ... saka ita zvinhu zvidiki. Pari zvino. Nhasi.

Ongororo ye