Zvinorevei Kuita Zveungochani?

Zvemukati

• Zvinorevei?
• Chii chine chekuita neexexuality?
• Ndeipi pfungwa yekuve netemu yeizvi?
• Izwi iri rakatangira kupi?
• Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati pengochani uye bonde?
• Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati pengochani uye zvisina-kusangana?
• Nei mumwe munhu angasarudza kushandisa izwi rimwe pamusoro pevamwe?
• Ko kuita ungochani kunoratidzika sei mukuita?
• Kune here mumwe wekudanana naye kune izvi?
• Iwe unoziva sei kana ungochani iri iro rakakodzera izwi rako?
• Chii chinoitika kana iwe usisiri kuziva sewe ngochani?
• Ndekupi kwaunogona kudzidza zvakawanda?

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Zvinorevei?

Vanhu vanoita zvengochani ndeavo vanowana kukwezva kwepabonde chero mhando.

Vose ngochani vanhu vanogona kuziva sevane ngochani, ngochani, bisexual, pansexual, kana imwe tsika yebonde.

Izvi zvinodaro nekuti "allosexual" haitsanangure murume kana mukadzi waunofarira, asi asi chokwadi chekuti iwe unokwezva pabonde kune mumwe munhu zvachose.

Chii chine chekuita neexexuality?

Zvengochani zvakapesana neexexuality.

Anexex munhu anowana zvishoma kusvika pasina kukwezva pabonde.

Vanhu vazhinji vanoona hupombwe se "hafu yepakati" pakati peasexuality uye hungochani.

Vanhu veGreysexual vanoona kukwezva pabonde dzimwe nguva, asi kwete kazhinji, kana kwete zvakanyanya.

Ndeipi pfungwa yekuve netemu yeizvi?

Izvo zvakakosha kusiyanisa hungochani kubva kune asexuality. Kazhinji, hungochani hunofungidzirwa kuve chiitiko chevanhu vese - isu tese tinotarisirwa kusangana nekukwezva pabonde pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwedu.

Saka vanhu vanowanzonzwa nezvebonde uye vanofunga zvakapesana se "zvakajairika."

Dambudziko neizvi nderekuti kunyorera vanhu veasexual se "zvisina kujairika" chikamu cherusarura rwavanotarisana narwo.

Kuita zvepabonde munhu wepabonde hakusi kurapwa, kutsauka, kana chimwe chinhu chinoda kugadziriswa - chikamu chevari zvavari.

Kuti tidzivise kunyorera rimwe boka se "asexual" uye rimwe racho se "zvakajairika," tinoshandisa izwi rekuti "ngochani."

Ichi zvakare chikamu chechikonzero nei tiine mazwi ekuti "heterosexuality" uye "cisgender" - nekuti zvakakosha kutumidza mapoka akapesana, sezvo zvichibatsira kuita mutsauko.

Allonormativity ishoko rinoreva kune pfungwa yekuti vanhu vese vanoita bonde - ndiko kuti, kuti vanhu vese vanowana kukwezva pabonde.

Mimwe mienzaniso ye allonormativity inosanganisira kufungidzira kuti munhu wese:

• ine crushes iyo yavanonzwa kukwezvwa pabonde nayo
• vanoita bonde pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwavo
• anoda bonde

Hapana chimwe cheizvo zvekufungidzira chiri chechokwadi.

Izwi iri rakatangira kupi?

Sekureva kweLGBTA Wiki, izwi rekutanga rinoshandiswa kurondedzera hungochani raingova "zvepabonde."

Zvisinei, kwakakomberedza 2011, vanhu vakatanga mushandirapamwe vachipesana nekushandiswa kwe "bonde" kutsanangura vanhu vasiri veasexual.

Izwi iri richiri rine nharo zvakanyanya, sekutaura uku pa forum yeAVEN.

Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati pengochani uye bonde?

Vanhu vakaratidzira vachipesana nekushandiswa kwe "bonde" kutsanangura vanhu vasiri veasexual nekuda kwezvikonzero zvinotevera:

• Kuvhiringidzika. Mazwi ekuti "zvebonde" uye "zvebonde" atoreva chimwe chinhu - uye izvi zvinogona kuvhiringidza. Semuenzaniso, kana tichikurukura nezveungochani, isu tinofanirwa kushandisa "zvepabonde," izwi rinowanzo shandiswa kureva chimwe chinhu chine hukama, asi chakasiyana.
• Kusagadzikana. Kudaidza mumwe munhu kuti "bonde" zvinogona kureva kuti iwe unomuona sechinhu chebonde kana neimwe nzira kuvabata pabonde. Izvi zvinogona kusanzwisisika kune vanhu vakabatwa chibharo, vanhu vakachena nemaune, uye vanhu vanofungidzirwa sevane hypersexual neruzhinji.
• Kusanganisa bonde nehukama hwepabonde. "Zvepabonde" zvinogona kureva kuti mumwe munhu ari kuita zvepabonde. Nekudaro, kuve wese ngochani uye kuita zvepabonde zvinhu zviviri zvakasiyana. Vamwe vanhu vanoita zvebonde havana bonde, uye vamwe vanoita zvepabonde vanoita bonde. Iyo label inofanirwa kunongedza maitiro ako, kwete maitiro ako.

Zvese zvataurwa, vamwe vanhu vachiri kushandisa izwi rekuti "bonde" kureva "vese ngochani."

Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati pengochani uye zvisina-kusangana?

Vanhu vachiri kushandisa izwi rekuti "non-asexual." Nekudaro, izvi hazvibatanidze vanhu vane hupombwe.

Sezvambotaurwa, greysexual vanhu havawanzo kusangana nekukwezva pabonde, kana nehukasha hwakanyanya. Vamwe vanhu vane hupombwe vanoita sevane chikamu cheasexual nharaunda, nepo vamwe vasingadaro.

Saka, izwi rekuti "kwete-asexual" rinoratidza kuti rinoshanda kune wese munhu asiri weasexual - kusanganisira greysexual vanhu vasingazive seasexual.

Izwi rekuti "allosexual" rinoratidza kuti tiri kutaura nezve wese munhu asiri greysexual kana asexual.

Nei mumwe munhu angasarudza kushandisa izwi rimwe pamusoro pevamwe?

Sezvambotaurwa, vanhu vazhinji havadi mazwi ekuti "kwete-asexual" kana "zvepabonde." Zvisinei, vamwe vanhu havadi izwi rekuti "ngochani," zvakare.

Zvimwe zvikonzero nei vanhu vasingade izwi rekuti "ungochani" zvinosanganisira:

• “Allo-” zvinoreva “zvimwe,” izvo zvisiri zvinopesana na “a-.”
• Iri izwi rinogona kuvhiringidza, nepo "isiri-asexual" iri pachena.
• Havadi manzwiro ainoita.

Hapana mazwi akataurwa anoita seanogamuchirwa nemunhu wese, uye inoramba iri nharo nhasi.

Ko kuita ungochani kunoratidzika sei mukuita?

Kuva wengochani zvinongoreva kuti iwe unowana kukwezva pabonde. Izvi zvinogona kutaridzika se:

• kuita zvepabonde nevanhu
• kuita zvekufungidzira nezve vanhu chaivo
• kusarudza kupinda pabonde, kana kutodanana, hukama hwakavakirwa padiki pane ako manzwiro epabonde kwavari
• kusarudza waunorara naye zvichibva nekuti wawakwezva pabonde ndiani
• kunzwisisa uye zvine hukama nevanhu vanotsanangura manzwiro avo ekukwezva pabonde

Iwe unogona kusasangana neyese iyi mienzaniso, kunyangwe iwe uri mese ngochani.

Saizvozvo, vamwe vanhu vanoita zvepabonde vanogona kuzvibatanidza nezvimwe zvezviitiko izvi. Semuenzaniso, vamwe vanoita zvepabonde vane uye vanonakidzwa nebonde.

Kune here mumwe wekudanana naye kune izvi?

Ehe! Alloromantic vanhu vakapesana nevanonhuhwirira vanhu.

Alloromantic vanhu vanoona kudanana kwevanodanana, nepo vanhu vane kunhuhwirira vachisangana kushoma kune kwekudanana.

Iwe unoziva sei kana ungochani iri iro rakakodzera izwi rako?

Iko hakuna bvunzo yekuona kuti iwe uri asexual, greysexual, kana mese ngochani.

Asi unogona kuzviona zvichibatsira kuzvibvunza kuti:

• Kangani kandinowana kukwezva pabonde?
• Kukwezva kwepabonde kwakanyanya sei?
• Ini ndinofanira kunzwa kukwezvwa pabonde kune mumwe munhu kuti ndide hukama navo?
• Ndinonakidzwa sei kuratidza rudo? Zvepabonde zvinoita here mazviri?
• Ndinonzwa sei nezvebonde?
• Ini ndinonzwa kumanikidzwa mukuda uye kunakidzwa nebonde, kana ini ndinonyatso kuida uye kuinakidzwa?
• Ndinganzwa kusununguka kuzivisa seasexual, greysexual, kana bonde? Nei uchidaro?

Iko hakuna "chaiko" mhinduro kumibvunzo iri pamusoro - ndeye kungokubatsira iwe kufunga nezve chako kuzivikanwa uye manzwiro.

Wese murume ngochani akasiyana, uye mhinduro dzavo pane zvataurwa pamusoro zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana.

Chii chinoitika kana iwe usisiri kuziva sewe ngochani?

Zvakanaka! Vanhu vazhinji vanonzwa kuti kwavo kuita bonde kunochinja nekufamba kwenguva.

Iwe unogona kuziva sewese ngochani izvozvi uye asexual kana greysexual gare gare. Saizvozvowo, iwe unogona kunge wakaziva seasexual kana greysexual munguva yakapfuura, uye ikozvino iwe unonzwa kuti uri mese ngochani.

Izvi hazvireve kuti iwe wakanganisa, kana kuvhiringidzika, kana kuputswa - chiitiko chakajairika icho vanhu vazhinji vanacho.

Muchokwadi, iyo 2015 Asexual Census yakawana kuti pamusoro pe80 muzana yeaexual vakapindura vakaonekwa seimwe nongedzo vasati vazivisa seasexual.

Ndekupi kwaunogona kudzidza zvakawanda?

Iwe unogona kudzidza zvakawanda nezve greysexuality uye asexuality pamhepo kana kunzvimbo yemuno mu-munhu meetups.

Kana iwe uine munharaunda LGBTQIA + nharaunda, unogona kukwanisa kubatana nevamwe vanhu ikoko.

Iwe unogona zvakare kudzidza zvakawanda kubva ku:

• Asexual Visibility uye Dzidzo Network (AVEN) wiki saiti, kwaunogona kutsvaga tsananguro dzemazwi akasiyana ane chekuita nezvebonde uye maitiro.
• Iyo LGBTA Wiki, yakafanana neiyo AVEN wiki
• maforamu senge iyo AVEN foramu uye iyo Asexuality subreddit
• Facebook mapoka uye mamwe maforamu epamhepo easexual uye greysexual vanhu

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