Ndakaedza Reddit's Akanyanya Bonde Mazano-uye Zvaive Zvinoshamisa Zvinoshamisa

Zvemukati

• Bonyora Uine Mumwe Wako
• Shingairira In Aftercare
• Dzorerazve Shower Bonde
• Rongedza Bonde Goodie Bag
• Unoda Mamwe Matipi eBonde?
• Ongororo ye

Kuwa pasi iyo Reddit tsuro gomba uye iwe uri kudzvanya kure nezvose iwe zvaungade kuziva nezve nezve ganda, kurara, nhumbu, uye (unogona kushamisika kudzidza) bonde!

Ehe, iwe haugone kutenda zvese zvaunoverenga online uye Reddit tambo dzepabonde hadziongororwe kuti dzive dzechokwadi- "Hapana chinogumbura kuReddit, ini ndinoda saiti, asi inogona kuve nzvimbo yekuberekesa kune vanhu vanofunga kuti vanoziva zvese, "anodaro Lisa Finn, mudzidzisi wezvebonde munzvimbo yekutengesa zvepabonde Babeland - asi hazvireve kuti ino saiti inofarira zvechitendero haisi kuchengeta mamwe matombo.

Saka ndakamhanya mashoma emazano ezvepabonde naFinn naLateef Taylor, mudzidzisi wezvebonde uye mutsigiri wezvebonde, uye nekutenderwa kwavo, ndakavapa kuedza kwangu.

Skroka pasi kuti uverenge nezve mana epamusoro ezvepabonde matipi andakawana paReddit-uye chii chakaitika apo (mumwe wangu uye) ndakavaedza.

Bonyora Uine Mumwe Wako

Mumwe mushandisi weReddit akaenda kuhubhu yepamhepo kuti aone kana vamwe vanhu (kunze kwake iye nemukadzi wake) vachiwana vese bonyora mashiripiti. Mumazuva mashanu chete, vanopfuura zviuru zviviri nemazana mashanu vanhu vakatora nzvimbo kuti vamubvumire ivo vanochida, zvakare.

"Ini ndinowana kugovana kwepedyo kwechimwe chinhu pachedu sekuzvifadza zvisingaite," inonyora iyo yekutanga poster (OP). "Zviri pachokwadi chikuru uye ndinozviona zviri padhuze!" anodaro mumwe mushandisi. Mumwe murondedzeri ane marwadzo asingagumi anonyora bonyora ndeye "godsend" pavanenge vachikuvadzwa: "Ini ndinogona kugara ndakagadzikana pasi pechipfuva changu chekuzorora uye ndichizorora munhengo yeruoko rwemurume wangu uye ndinonzwa kudanana kwazvo."

Chii chiri pamusoro pekuita bonhora chinoita kuti ive yepedyo sezvinotaurwa nevaRedditters? "Senzanga, bonhora ichiri tsika yakanaka. Icho chinhu chinofungidzirwa kuti chiri kuitwa muchivande kana kwete zvachose," anotsanangura Finn. Kugovana izvo nemumwe wako zvinogona kuve zvinokonzeresa kune vamwe, "uye izvo zvakagovana kusagadzikana zvinogona kutungamira mukushushikana kwakanyanya," anodaro.

"Icho chiitiko chikuru chekudzidza," anowedzera Taylor. "Unosvika pakutarisa nekudzidza kuti mumwe wako anoda kubatwa sei." Pamwe unogara uchifambisa minwe yako padivi neapo ivo vachibata pachavo vachishandisa madenderedzwa, kana kuti pamwe unobata vibrator chaipo pane yavo hotspot, ivo vachida kuibvisa parutivi, anodaro Taylor. Iwe unogona kushandisa ese aya ruzivo kuti unakidze mumwe wako pasi pemutsara. (Yakabatana: 13 Pfungwa-Inovhuna Bonhora Matipi)

NDIKATADZWA zvikuru kuti ndiedze iyi tipi, ndakaburitsa imwe yevandinofarira vibrators, mumwe wangu ndokuburitsa lube. Ipapo, isu takabata Bryson Tiller ndokuenderera mberi nekuzvibata, pamwe chete. Uye mhuri, regai ndikuudzei: Zviri padyo uye HO-T senge vashandisi veReddit vangada kuti mutende. Kunyanya kana pakatarisana nemaziso…

Shingairira In Aftercare

Kana kuratidzwa kwako kuBDSM kunogumiraMakumi mashanu Mimvuri yeGrey, unogona kufunga kuti kutamba-simba kunosanganisira kurwadziwa, zvikwapuro, floggers, kana handcuffs. Asi pane chimwe chinhu chausingaoni; "aftercare" chimwe chinhu (chinotarisirwa) vashandi veBDSM vanoita mushure mekuita zvepabonde kana chiitiko uye, maererano nevamwe vashandisi veReddit, chimwe chinhu munhu wose (kinky kana kwete) anofanira kunge achiita. (Yakabatana: Iyo Yekutanga Gwaro kune BDSM).

Chii chinonzi aftercare, chaizvo? Mumwe mushandisi weReddit anotsanangura aftercare achiti, "kuva kutapira uye kupfava uye kuvapo nemumwe mushure mebonde. Saka, kupuruzira, kugumhana, kutaura zvinyoro nyoro, kubvunza kuti zvakanaka here kana kuti pane chimwe chinhu chavanoda. Dzimwe nguva mese munogona kumborara mese. maoko kana kubata maoko. Dzimwe nguva moputirana nemagumbeze kana kukwizana muchitaura."

Finn anoti izvo zvanyanya kana kushomeka, achiwedzera kuti aftercare iri pamusoro pekuita chokwadi kuti iwe nemudiwa wako munzwe makachengeteka, muchiremekedzwa, muchengetwa, uye musununguka. "Kunyangwe zvichikosha kune zvinorema kana zvakanyanya kuomarara zveBDSM, zvinogona zvakare kushandiswa mushure mekuita zvepabonde vanilla (zvisinei iwe unotsanangura izvozvo)," anodaro, achibvuma kuti aftercare ndeye vese.

Muchidimbu, kungopedza nguva pamwe chete mushure mebonde, kubata mumwe nemumwe nerudo, uye kuita kumwe kuongorora mushure mekuita bonde. “Inguva yakanaka yokuti utaure zvawakafarira, zvausina kufarira, zvauri kuda kuedza zvakare, zvawanzwa zvakanaka, kana kuti zvakakuita kuti unzwe sei,” anodaro Finn.

Semunhu anozviti anobvuma kushanda nesimba, zvinogona kundiomera kuwana nguva yekusangana pabonde, ndoda kusvirana mushure mekuita bonde. Ini ndaigona kumira kuisa zvishoma zvishoma aftercare mune yangu bonde nguva-kunyanya tichifunga bhoo yangu yerudo mutauro mazwi ekubvuma uye kubata kwenyama. (Handina chokwadi nemutauro werudo wemudiwa wako? Heano matauriro azvo-uye dzimwe hurukuro dzehupenyu hwepabonde hune hutano.)

Mumwe musi weSvondo mushure mekutamba-tamba nezvimwe zvigadzirwa zvemufaro, mumwe wangu neni takasarudza kupa zvimwe zvido zvekuchengeta mushure mekuyedza. Takapedza maawa tichikoshesa, nekupikira, uye kudanana. Sezvo iwe ungafungidzira, yaive yerudo seye shit uye yakanyatso kuvhura musuwo kwatiri kuti titaure nezve edu ~ manzwiro ~. Zvakare, ndakawana massage, yaive clutch.

Dzorerazve Shower Bonde

Chibvumirano pakati peRedditors ndechekuti bonde rekushambidza, zvakanaka, rinotyisa, uye rakanyanya kuruboshwe kumafirimu. "0/10 ingakurudzira, ndiri kugara kumotokari yakamanikana kana pamubhedha pabonde," anonyora kudaro Reddit. “Ndinotyira upenyu hwangu pandinenge [ndichiita zvepabonde] ndiri mushower,” anonyora kudaro mumwe.

Kunyangwe ichi chinoratidzika sechisiko chese kurwisa bonde rekushambidza, pane tambo yakazara yemazano ekuti iite zvirinani. (Related: A Sexologist's Top Tips for Make Shower Bonde Zvinoshamisa)

Tichifunga mumwe wangu uye isu tichigara tichigeza pamwe asi zvisingawanzo kuita hanky-panky tichiripo, takasarudza kupa imwe yemazano kuyedza: Tsiva yekupinda yekugezera yekutamba neye foreplay.

"Kugeza bonde, kunyange kuchipisa, kunogona kunetsa uye kune njodzi, kunyanya kana paine mukana wekupinda," anodaro Finn. Uye nekuti mvura inoshamba mafuta ekuzora emuviri, kupinda mukati kunogona kusagadzikana, anodaro.

Asi "kutora bonde rinopinda mukati nekuvakadzi nekunobuda patafura haisi nzira yekuchengetedza," anodaro Taylor. "Inobvumidza iwe kuti uongorore bonde remukanwa, vibrator kutamba, kukwiza muviri, kusapinza ruoko pabonde, kukwiza muviri, uye zvimwe zviito zvebonde zvaunogona kungo tarisa." (Yakabatana: Iyo Yakanakisa uye Yakachengeteka Shower Zvepabonde Nzvimbo).

Kekutanga isu patakaedza kugeza "bonde," takaunza Wartenberg pinwheel (ICYDK, ndiyo yekunzwa toy). Zvainakidza kwazvo, takazviedza futi izvo zuva rimwe chete, asi zvakare yakaunza vibrator isina mvura. Mutongo wekupedzisira? Asiri-ekupinda mukati mekushamba pabonde ndiyo nzira yakasimba kupfuura yenguva dzose yekugeza bonde.

Rongedza Bonde Goodie Bag

Wakatombonetsekana nezve kubvunza munhu asina kujairika kukanda kumberi kana iwe uchizenge uchipedza husiku? Vashandisi veReddit vane mhinduro: Gadzira bhegi shoma rehutsanana uye zvigadzirwa zvebonde iwe zvaungade kwehusiku kana romp kure nemusha. (Related: Mibvunzo Yekubvunza Mumwe Munhu Usati Warara Naye).

Mune tambo yehutachiona, vanopfuura zviuru zviviri nemazana matatu evashandisi veReddit vakatora kune zvakataurwa kuti vagovane zvakavharirwa mumasaga avo ebonde. Nepo vamwe vachingochengeta zvigadzirwa zvehutsanana sekugeza kumeso, deodorant, uye bhurasho remazino, zvimwe zvinosanganisira mamwe mapanty, lube, uye matoyi ekuita zvepabonde-iyo yekupedzisira iyo Finn naTaylor vanofunga kuti ndiyo yakanyanya kunaka.

"Pose paunosangana pabonde nemumwe munhu, unoda kuva nemishonga yakachengeteka yepabonde, matoyi epabonde, uye mafuta anozoita kuti unzwe wakasununguka uye uwane mufaro," anodaro Taylor, achiwedzera kuti izvi zvinonyanya kukosha kana uine. chero allergiki kune zvigadzirwa zvinowanzo kuwanikwa mumafuta kana makondomu. "Kugadzirira kwakadai kuchabvisa mibvunzo yakawanda uye kusava nechokwadi, izvo zvinogona kukubatsira kuti usunungukire mukati uye nekudaro unakirwe neruzivo," anodaro Taylor.

Nepo vazhinji vevashandisi veReddit vachichengeta masaga avo epabonde mumotokari dzavo, Finn anoona kuti makondomu nemafuta zvinogona kukuvadzwa nekupisa kwakanyanya. "Mabhodhoro epurasitiki akawanda ekuzora anochengeterwa anotanga kuparara kubva mumoto, uye neratex iri mumakondomu," anodaro. Saka kana iwe uchigara kune imwe nzvimbo inodziya, ita shuwa yekuchinjisa kondomu kune nyowani mushure mekutambanudza kwekupisa kunopisa. (Zvakafanana: 8 Kukanganisa Kondomu Kwaungave Uchiita)

Kunyangwe ini nemumwe wangu takakomba zvakakwana zvekuti handisi kunetsekana nekukumbira chero ma q zvisati zvaitika, ndinoda zano rekuve nezvangu fave zvigadzirwa neni - uye mushure mehusiku hwapfuura, ngatitii ndinofara zvandakaita.

Unoda Mamwe Matipi eBonde?

Kana iwe uchida kuziva kuti ndeapi mamwe matipi ezvepabonde ari kuyangarara akatenderedza Reddit, ini ndinokurudzira kupururudza kuburikidza neiyi tambo, iyo inogara padhuze ne2,000 matipi ekuti ungafadze sei mumwe wako. Ingo chengeta mundangariro, "izvo zvinoshandira mumwe munhu zvinogona kusashandira iwe (neumwe wako)," anodaro Finn. "Uye kana zvikasadaro, hazvireve kuti muviri wako watyoka!"

Uye nokuda kwekuenderera mberi kwe (nyanzvi-vetted!) mazano ezvepabonde, unogona kugara uchinyoreraChimiro'' bonde uye hukama tsamba, NSFW.

Ongororo ye