Ndeupi Muviri Mukuru Wemhondi? Kuzvidya Mwoyo kana Kurwisa-Kushushikana Mishonga?

Zvemukati

• Nei kushushikana kuchikonzera hupenyu hwepabonde husingagutsikane - uye zvipenga
• Zviratidzo zvekushushikana izvo zvinogona kupinda munzira yeBig O
  
• Zvakaoma kupinda mumood
• Kubata-22: Mishonga yekufunganya inoitawo kuti zviome - dzimwe nguva zvisingaite - kuita orgasm
• Mishonga yekushushikana inoita sei kuti ive yakaoma kuita orgasm
  

Vakadzi vazhinji vanonamira mune isingafadzi-Kubata-22.

Liz Lazzara haasi kugara achinzwa kurasikirwa munguva panguva yepabonde, kukurirwa nekunzwa kwekunakidzwa kwake.

Pane kudaro, iye anonzwa kumanikidzwa mukati kuita orgasm nekukurumidza kuitira kuti arege kutsamwisa mumwe wake, izvo zvinowanzoita kuti zviome kwaari kusvika kumagumo.

“Kunyangwe vazhinji vevamwe vangu vasina kugumbuka kana kusashivirira kuti ndinokurumidza sei kuuya, vamwe vakaita. Ndangariro idzodzo dzinobuda zvakajeka mundangariro dzangu, zvichikonzera kushushikana kwangu padhuze nekuguma, ”anodaro.

Lazzara, ane makore makumi matatu ekuberekwa, akagadzira chirwere chekushushikana (GAD) - mamiriro ane mavara mazhinji ezviitiko zvake zvepabonde.

Nyanzvi dzinoti avo vane GAD vanogona kukuwana kwakaoma kuzorora, vanonetseka kuudza mumwe wavo zvavanoda, kana kutarisa zvakanyanya pakufadza mumwe wavo zvekuti havazvinakidze.

Kunyangwe hupenyu hwepabonde hwaLazzara hwakakanganiswa nekushushikana, vakadzi vazhinji vanorapa kushushikana kwavo nemishonga vanoonawo zvichiomera kuchengetedza hupenyu hwepabonde hunogutsa.

Nepo kumhanyisa pfungwa kana kunzwa kwekuzvida kuchiri kukanganisa hupenyu hwepabonde hwaLazzara, iye zvakare anoona kuti mishonga yekurwisa kushushikana yakadzikisira yake yekuita bonde uye yakaita kuti zvinyanye kumuomera kusvika kumagumo.

Sezvo mishonga yekurwisa kushushikana ichivhiringidza hupenyu hwepabonde revanhu senge mhedzisiro, idambudziko rinogona kuratidzika kunge risina mhinduro yakanaka.

Nevakadzi vakapetwa kaviri sevarume vanobatwa nekushushikana, vakadzi vazhinji kunze uko vanogona kunge vari kusangana nedambudziko risingataurwe nezvaro.

Nei kushushikana kuchikonzera hupenyu hwepabonde husingagutsikane - uye zvipenga

Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Laura F. Dabney, MD anoti chimwe chikonzero vanhu vane kushushikana vangangonetsekana kuti vagutsikane hupenyu hwepabonde imhaka yezvinhu zvekutaurirana nemumwe wavo.

Dabney anoti musimboti wekuzvidya mwoyo unowanzo kuve wakanyanya, kusava nemhosva pamusoro pekusangana nemanzwiro akajairwa, senge kutsamwa kana kushaiwa. Vanhu vane GAD vasingazive vanonzwa sekunge vanofanirwa kurangwa nekuda kwekuve nemanzwiro aya.

"Mhosva iyi inokonzeresa kuti vatadze kunyatsotaura manzwiro avo - kana zvachose - saka kazhinji havagone kuudza vavakaroorana navo izvo zvinovaitira uye zvisingavashandire izvo, nenzira, zvisingabatsire kushamwaridzana," Dabney anodaro.

Pamusoro pezvo, anoti vanhu vazhinji vane kushushikana vanonyanya kufunga nezvekufadza vamwe zvekuti vanokundikana kuisa pamberi mufaro wavo.

"Hupenyu hwepabonde hwakafanira, uye hukama mune zvese, kuri kuchengetedza mufaro wako uyezve kubatsira mumwe wako kuti afare - isa yako oxygen mask pakutanga," Dabney anodaro.

Uye zvakare, iyo yekumhanyisa mifungo inowanzo kuve yakabatana nekushushikana inogona kudzvinyirira kunakidzwa kwepabonde. Lazzara ane kushushikana, pamwe nepashure pekushungurudzika kusagadzikana kusagadzikana (PTSD). Anoti zvese izvi zvave kumuomesera kuita bonde panguva yebonde.

Panzvimbo pekunzwa kurasika mune iyo nguva pamwe neyake yakakosha imwe - kukurirwa neruchiva uye mufaro paanosvika padyo nemaronda - Lazzara inofanirwa kurwisa pfungwa dzinopinza, yega yega libido-inouraya bara.

"Ini ndinowanzova nepfungwa dzekumhanya ndichiyedza kuguma, izvo zvinonditadzisa kunzwa kunakidzwa kana kurega kuenda," anodaro. “Pfungwa idzi dzinogona kunge dziri dzezvinhu zvezuva nezuva, sezvinhu zvandinoda kuti zviitwe kana nyaya dzemari. Kana vanogona kunge vachikanganisa, semifananidzo yangu yepabonde ine exes inoshusha kana isina hutano. ”

Zviratidzo zvekushushikana izvo zvinogona kupinda munzira yeBig O

• kumhanya pfungwa dzinopinza mukati menguva dzako dzinonakidza
• mhosva yekutenderedza kuva nemanzwiro akajairwa
• tsika yekutarisisa mafaro evamwe vanhu, kwete yako
• kutaurirana kwakashata neumwe wako pane zvaunoda
• kusanzwa mumanzwiro ebonde kazhinji

Zvakaoma kupinda mumood

Sandra *, makore makumi mashanu nemashanu, akatambura neGAD hupenyu hwake hwese.Anoti kunyangwe achinetsekana, agara aine hutano, anoshanda pabonde hupenyu nemurume wake wemakore makumi maviri nemashanu.

Kusvikira iye atanga kutora Valium makore mashanu apfuura.

Iyo mishonga inoita kuti zvinyanye kuomera Sandra kuve nemaronda. Uye zvakamusiya iye asingatombove mumafaro epabonde.

"Zvakaita senge chimwe chikamu changu chakamira kushuva bonde," anodaro.

Nicole Prause, PhD, chiremba wepfungwa ane rezinesi uye muvambi weLiberos Center, inzvimbo yekutsvaga nezvebonde muLos Angeles. Anoti vanhu vane kushushikana vanowanzoomerwa nekuzorora pakutanga kwekuita bonde, panguva yekumuka.

Pakati peiyi nhanho, kugona kutarisisa pabonde kwakakosha kuti unakirwe. Asi Prause anoti vanhu vane kushushikana kwakanyanya vanogona kuzviwana zvakaoma kurasika munguva, uye vanozofungisisa pachinzvimbo.

Kusakwanisa kuzorora kunogona kutungamira kune vanoona, Prause anoti, zvinoitika kana vanhu vachinzwa sekunge vari kuzvitarisa vachiita bonde kwete kunyudzwa munguva.

Sandra aifanirwa kuedza nesimba kuti akunde yake yakaderera libido, sezvo iye achiziva bonde rakakosha kune hutano hwake uye hutano hwemuchato wake.

Kunyangwe achinetseka kuti anzwe kumutswa, anoti kana zvinhu zvatanga kupisa nemurume wake pamubhedha, anogara achizvifarira.

Inyaya yekuzvipa iyeye yeyeuchidzo yepfungwa yekuti kunyangwe iye asinganzwe kubatidzwa izvozvi, iye achazongobata iye nemurume wake.

"Ndichine hupenyu hwepabonde nekuti ini nenjere ndinosarudza," anodaro Sandra. “Uye kana uchinge waenda, zvese zvakanaka uye zvakanaka. Kungoti handina kukwezvwa kwariri sezvandaimboita. "

Kubata-22: Mishonga yekufunganya inoitawo kuti zviome - dzimwe nguva zvisingaite - kuita orgasm

Vakadzi vazhinji vane GAD, saCohen, vakanamatira muCatch-22. Vane kushushikana, uko kunogona kukanganisa hupenyu hwavo - bonde rinosanganisirwa - uye vanoiswa pamushonga unovabatsira.

Asi iwo mushonga unogona kudzikisa libido yavo uye nekuvapa anorgasmia, iko kusakwanisa kusvika orgasm.

Asi kuenda kunze kwemishonga hakusi sarudzo nguva dzose, sezvo mabhenefiti ayo achikunda yakaderera libido kana anorgasmia.

Pasina mushonga, vakadzi vanogona kutanga kusangana nezviratidzo zvekushushikana izvo zvaimbovadzivirira kubva pakuzadzisa orgasm pakutanga.

Kune maviri epakutanga mafomu emishonga yakatemerwa kurapa GAD. Yekutanga ndeye benzodiazepines senge Xanax kana Valium, iri mishonga inowanzo kutorwa pachinhu chinodiwa kuti ubate kushushikana zvakanyanya.

Ikozve kune SSRIs (inosarudzika serotonin reuptake inhibitors) uye SNRIs (serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors), makirasi emishonga dzimwe nguva anonzi antidepressants - seProzac neEffexor - ayo anonyorerwa kuti abate kunetseka kwenguva refu.

"Hakuna kirasi yemishonga iri nani kubvisa maoregasms," Prause anoti nezveSSRIs.

Muchokwadi, ndakaona kuti matatu anowanzo gadzwa SSRIs, "yakanyanya kuderera libido, kumutsa, nguva yeiyogasm, uye kusimba kweiyo orgasm."

Sandra akatanga kutora antidepressant vhiki nhatu dzakapfuura nekuti vanachiremba havana kuraira kutora Valium kwenguva refu. Asi mishonga yave yakakosha mukutungamira kwekushushikana kwaSandra zvekuti anofunga kuti zvichanetsa kubva pairi.

"Ndinofunga chaizvo ndinofanira kunge ndiri pamushonga," anodaro. "Ini ndaisakwanisa kunge ndiri pachiri, asi ini ndiri munhu akasiyana ndisina. Ndiri munhu anosuruvara. Saka ndinofanira kunge ndiri pairi. ”

Kune vanhu vasingakwanise kuita orgasm seimwe divi mhedzisiro yemishonga iyi, Prause anoti chinongogadzirisa kushandura mishonga kana kubva pamushonga uye edza kurapwa.

Iko hakuna mushonga iwe waunogona kutora, kuwedzera kune antidepressant, izvo zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kune orgasm, anodaro.

Mishonga yekushushikana inoita sei kuti ive yakaoma kuita orgasm

• Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza SSRIs kudzika pabonde kutyaira uye iyo nguva uye kusimba kwemaasgasms
• Anti-kunetseka meds kunogona zvakare kuita kuti zvive zvinonetsa, kana kutopotsa zvisingaite, kune vamwe vanhu kusvika kumagumo
• Nyanzvi dzinotenda izvi ndezvekuti SSRI inopindirana neyekunzwira tsitsi system
• Vanhu vazhinji vachiri kuona kuti mabhenefiti emishonga anodarika mhedzisiro, saka taura nachiremba wako nezvezviratidzo zvako

Lazzara akanzwa mhedzisiro yekudzikiswa libido nekuda kweEffexor, iyo inodzvinyirira yaanotora. "Effexor inoita kuti zvinyanye kundiomera kusangana, zvese kubva mukukurudzira uye kupinda mukati, uye zvinodzora bonde rangu," anodaro.

Anoti iyo SSRI yaaimbove nayo yaive nemhedzisiro yakafanana.

Asi saCohen, mushonga wanga wakakosha kuti maneja waLazzara azvidye mwoyo.

Lazzara akadzidza kubata nematambudziko aanotarisana nawo muhupenyu hwake hwepabonde nekuda kwekugara neGAD. Semuenzaniso, aona kuti kukwezva kwamazamu, vibrator, uye kupota achiona porn nemumwe wake zvinomubatsira kusvika kune clitoral orgasm. Uye anozviyeuchidza kuti kushushikana harisi dambudziko rinogadziriswa - asi asi chikamu chehupenyu hwake hwepabonde nenzira imwecheteyo fetusi, matoyi, kana nzvimbo dzakasarudzika dzinogona kuve chikamu chehupenyu hwepabonde hwemumwe munhu.

"Kana iwe uchirarama nekuzvidya mwoyo, kuvimba, kunyaradzwa, uye kugoneswa simba kwakakosha kana zvasvika kune hwako hwepabonde hupenyu," Lazzara anodaro. "Unofanirwa kurega kuenda nemumwe wako kuitira kudzivirira kusagadzikana, kusagadzikana pfungwa, uye kusagadzikana kwepfungwa kunogona kusangana nekushushikana pabonde."

Zita rakachinjwa

Jamie Friedlander munyori wekuzvimiririra uye mupepeti ane chishuwo chehutano. Basa rake rakaonekwa muThe Cut, Chicago Tribune, Racked, Bhizinesi Insider, uye Kubudirira Magazini. Paanenge asiri kunyora, anogona kuwanikwa achifamba, achinwa zvakawandisa green tea, kana kufambisa Etsy. Unogona kuona mamwe masampuro ebasa rake pawebhusaiti yake. Mutevere pa Twitter.