Mabatiro Anoita Veruzhinji Midhiya Yemagariro Inokanganisa Hutano Hwako Vepfungwa uye Muviri Mufananidzo

Zvemukati

• Mitezo yemukurumbira pasocial media inokanganisa maitiro aunoona muviri wako wega.
• Kunyangwe iwo mazwi aunoona pane ane mukurumbira social media anogona kukukanganisa.
• Heino rubatsiro rwekuti ungadya sei vanhu vane mukurumbira pasocial media uchichengetedza kuzvishingisa kwako.
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Zvemagariro enhau zvazove nharaunda inowedzera inoshamisa yechitarisiko chemuviri mumakore mashoma apfuura, uye vane mukurumbira vakave nesimba rakakura pakuchinja uku - kune zvakanaka kana zvakaipa. (Yakabatana: Zvakaipa Sei Facebook, Twitter, uye Instagram yeMental Health?)

Kune rimwe divi, vasingaverengeki vane mukurumbira vanotumira Photoshopped uye Facetuned mifananidzo yavo inoratidzira runako rusingaite.

Kune rimwe divi, maceleb mazhinji ari kushandisa social media sepuratifomu yekugovera yavo yemuviri-mufananidzo kutamburira senzira yekuti vese vawirirane nevateveri vavo uye kurwisa.kupesana zviyero zvisina musoro izvi. Case in point, Lady Gaga akamudzivirira "dumbu mafuta" pa Instagram. Chrissy Teigen akatsanangura kuti haasati arasikirwa ne "huremu hwemwana" wake wese - uye pamwe haazoedzi kudaro. Demi Lovato akadana mutori venhau nekumuratidza huremu hwake ndicho chinhu chakanyanya kutyisa pamusoro pake.

Uyezve, vanhu vane mukurumbira vanozivikanwa nekusatendeseka-pamabatiro avanoita zvimiro zvavo-ahem, Kim Kardashian uye "flat tummy" tii - vari kushevedzwa nazvimwe celebs nekuda kwekuseka kwavo.The Nzvimbo YakanakaJameela Jamil akazviita basa rake kushevedzera kurudziro yekudya kwevakakurumbira. Nekuti kunyangwe zvakachengeteka kufunga kuti Kim K ane uto revadzidzisi vega, mashefu, vezvekudya, uye mapurasitiki anovhiya achimubatsira kutarisa maitiro aanoita, zvinogona kuve nyore kukanganwa kuti kana mumwe munhu ane hunhu nzanga inoyemura anoti wakawana nzira inokurumidza, iri nyore yekuti iwe utarisesaivo.

Pakazara, zvinhu zviri kuita zvirinani pane mukurumbira-social-media pamberi. Zvakadaro, kuidya kunogona kukanganisa maitiro aunoona muviri wako, maonero aunoita mimwe miviri yevanhu, uye izvo zvaunowana zvinokwezva mune zvese. Izvo hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kurega kutevera celebs zvachose, asi kuve wakashongedzerwa neruzivo rwekuti mukurumbira wemagariro enhau tsika inogona kukukanganisa sei - uchiziva uye nekusaziva - chinhu chakakosha. (Zvakafanana: Kunyadzisa Muviri Mumwe Mumwe Munhu Pakupedzisira Akandidzidzisa Kumira Kutonga Miviri Yevakadzi)

Mitezo yemukurumbira pasocial media inokanganisa maitiro aunoona muviri wako wega.

Kunyangwe uchizviziva kana kuti kwete, unenge uri kuzvienzanisa nemaceleb aunoona pasocial. "Zviri muropa-kana kazhinji zvisina kunaka-kuti vanhu vazvienzanise nevamwe," anodaro Carla Marie Manly, Ph.D., chiremba wepfungwa anobata nekuzviremekedza uye chimiro chemuviri, uye munyori weMufaro Unobva Kukutya. Kana mapikicha "akakwana" evanozivikanwa "vakakwana" akaiswa pachigadziko seye "akakodzera" muyero, "avo vasingakwanise kuzadzikisa mwero wekuperera pachivande (kana kwete-zvakavanzika) vanonzwa kunyara uye kusakwana, " anotsanangura. (Yakabatana: Iyo nhamba yeSelfies Iwe yaunotora Inogona Kukanganisa Muviri Wako Mufananidzo)

Mhedzisiro yekuona mifananidzo yevakakurumbira pachimiro chemuviri, kunyanya muvakadzi, yakanyorwa zvakanaka mukutsvaga. Mune imwe yeakakurumbira zvidzidzo pamusoro wenyaya, vaongorori vakaratidza vana vepuraimari-chikoro mifananidzo yevatete vatete kana mamodheru. “Vakomana vacho vaiita zvejee pamusoro pezvavaifanira kuita kuti varatidzike semifananidzo, asi vasikana vacho vaitaura zvinhu zvakadai sokuti ‘Haufaniri kudya’ kana kuti ‘Waitofanira kudya wozorutsa,’ anotsanangura kudaro. Taryn A. Myers, Ph.D., sachigaro wedhipatimendi rezvepfungwa kuVirginia Wesleyan University uye muongorori wemufananidzo.

Vatsvagiri vakatotarisa mune zvinoitika kana iwe uchinyatso kuyedza kuita sevanozivikanwa: Imwe ongororo yakaratidza kuti vasikana vepakati-vechikoro-vane makore ekukura vaikanganiswa zvakanyanya maererano nemufananidzo wemuviri uye kudya maitiro nekuzvibata kwavo vega pane kungo tarisa echinyakare midhiya mifananidzo. Chimwe chidzidzo chakaratidza kuti kutumira maselfie kwakaita kuti vakadzi vanzwe nekukurumidza kunetseka.

Zvakare mumwe akawana kuti vasikana vachizvienzanisa nemifananidzo yevakakurumbira pasocial media yaive nechokuita nekusagutsikana-kwechifananidzo uye kutyaira kweutete. (Sezvineiwo, zvimwechetezvo zvaive zvisiri zvechokwadi kune vakomana.) "Saka kazhinji, kutarisa kana kutumira mifananidzo zvinogona kutiita kuti tinzwe zvakanyanya pamusoro pemitumbi yedu, uye izvi zvinogona kukwidziridzwa pamifananidzo yemukurumbira," anodaro Myers.

Uye nepo munhu wese achigona kukanganisika kusvika padanho, kune vamwe vanogona kunyanya kukanganiswa nevakakurumbira midhiya midhiya. "Social media ine chekuita zvakanyanya kune avo vanonyanya kutambudzika, vane kuzviremekedza kunobva mumaonero evamwe kana kupindura kwavari uye vanoda 'kukwana," anodaro Adrienne Ressler MA, LMSW., nyanzvi yemufananidzo wemuviri uye mutevedzeri wemutungamiri webudiriro yehunyanzvi paThe Renfrew Center Foundation. "Nhasi, ine chokwadi chinoratidza zvakakurumbira, munhu anogona kufungidzira kuti, nerombo, chero munhu anogona kuva mukurumbira." (Mhoro, #BachelorNation.) Nemamwe manzwi, kana paine munhu anogona kuve ane mukurumbira, anogona kunzwa sekunge munhu wese arizvinotarisirwa kuve akakodzera-mukurumbira.

Kunyangwe iwo mazwi aunoona pane ane mukurumbira social media anogona kukukanganisa.

Haisi chete zvinyorwa zvevanozivikanwa uye mifananidzo pachayo inogona kukubata iwe. Kuona vanhu vane mukurumbira vachitsikwa-tsikwa kana kunyara mumagariro enhau zvinogona kuita kuti iwe uwedzere kuzviita kune vamwe-zvingave zvikaitika IRL kana mumusoro mako. (Zvakaenderana: Aya Mamidhiya Ezvemagariro Anoita Kuti Zvive Nyore Kudzivirira Pamashoko Anovenga uye Kukurudzira Mutsa)

Izvi zvese nekuda kwechimwe chinhu chinonzi social learning theory, nyanzvi dzinodaro. "Isu tinowanzo tarisa vamwe uye toona kuti mhedzisiro yehunhu hwavo ndeyei tisati tasarudza kuita iwo maitiro isu pachedu," anotsanangura kudaro Myers. "Saka kana tikaona vamwe vachitaura zvisina kunaka izvi pasina mhedzisiro (kana kurumbidza kana 'kuda'), saka isu tinokwanisa kuita maitiro iwayo isu pachedu."

Zvino, hazvireve hazvo kuti munhu wese ari kutsikirirana nekuti hunhu hwacho hwakaverengerwa (kunyange hazvoaigona zvinoreva kuti kune vamwe vanhu). Zvingangodaro, vanhu vanotanga kutsika-vamwe-uye ivo-nepfungwa. Chidzidzo chitsva kubva kuYunivhesiti yeMcGill chakawana kuti vakadzi pavakafumurwa nezviitiko zvevanhu vane mukurumbira-vanonyadzisa, vakanzwa kuwedzera kwehunhu hwakashata hune hukama nehuremu.

Vatsvagiridzi vakashandisa dhata kubva kuongororo yepamhepo yaivepo kubva muna2004 kusvika 2015, ichiratidza zviitiko makumi maviri zvakasiyana-siyana zvinonyadzisa zvakaitika munhau - senge nguva iyoyo Scott Disick anonyadzisa muviri Kourtney Kardashian nekuda kwekusadzokera kuhuremu hwepamuviri hwepamuviri. (Ugh.) Zvadaro, vakayera mwero wehuremu hwakarerekera (kana kuita kwevanhu mudumbu kune kukora uye kuonda) mavhiki maviri pamberi uye mavhiki maviri mushure meizvi zviitiko zvekunyadzisa muviri. Vatsvaguriri vakaona spike mumadzimai akajeka anopesana nemafuta maitiro mushure chiitiko chega chega chinorema-chinonyadzisa, uye zvakanyanya "kuzivikanwa" pachiitiko ichi, inokwidza spike. Saka, masikirwo avo akachinjwa kuti arerekera kuuremu. Yikes.

Funga nezvazvo: Wati wambozvitaurira here kuti, "Ah, wow, izvo chaizvo hazvisi zvipfeko zvekunyepedzera" nezve mumwe munhu? Kana kuti "Ugh, dhirezi iri rinoita kuti ndiratidze seakakora. Handifanire kupfeka iri" nezveiwe pachako? Mifungo iyi haibude chero kupi zvako, uye nyangwe uchizvichengeta iwe pachako, inogona kukanganisa mabatiro aunoita uye mabatiro aunoita miviri yevamwe. "Kunyanya patinenge tiri pamberi pehunhu uye nehutsinye, kujairira kwaro kunotikonzera kujairira, pamwe tisingazive kuti zvinogamuchirwa, asi nekudzokorora kwaro kwadzikira kunotishamisa," anotsanangura Ressler. (Yakabatana: 6 Nzira dzekupedzisira Kumira Kuchemera Zvakanaka)

Saka nguva inotevera paunozoona uchifunga pfungwa idzi, zvibvunze kuti: "Ndakawanepi pfungwa iyi yekuti kuva nemhando iyi yemuviri kwakaipa? Ndakadzidza kupi kuti mbatya dzinofanirwa kuenderana neimwe nzira kuti ubate kumeso?" Kana kuti, "Sei ndiri kubatanidza kukosha kwakanyanya kune chitarisiko chemuviri?" Hupenyu hwese hwekunakisa tsika uye tsika yekudya haigone kuregedzerwa nekukasira, asi kubvunza mamiriro ezvinhu kunogona kukubatsira kuti uswedere pedyo nechimiro chemuviri une hutano uye kudzivirira kupa kune chiitiko chetsika chinongobatsira kuwisira vanhu pasi nekuda kwekusataridzika. ane mukurumbira IRL.

Panyaya yakanaka, vamwe vakakurumbira vari kutora nguva yekudaidzira troll uye kuratidza kuti, kunyangwe ivo vachizivikanwa, zvakataurwa nevamwe zvichiri kuvakanganisa.

Mushure mekunge vanhu vataura kuti airatidzika kunge akafuta pachiitiko chegomarara, Pink akaombera maoko nekuisa chinyorwa cheApp Notes paTwitter: “Kunyange ndichibvuma kuti chipfeko ichi hachina kutora mifananidzo sezvachakaita mukicheni mangu, ndinobvumawo kuti ini. ndainzwa ndakanaka. ndinofara chose, uye muviri wangu wakagwinya, une simba uye unopenga uri kuwana nguva chaiyo yekuzorora. Ndatenda nekunetseka kwako.

Heino rubatsiro rwekuti ungadya sei vanhu vane mukurumbira pasocial media uchichengetedza kuzvishingisa kwako.

Nepo mukurumbira wemagariro enhau ari kuchinja, kuchine basa rakawanda rinofanira kuitwa. Rimwe rebasa iro riri pauri, kuti udye mukurumbira wezvenhau zvemukati nenzira inokudzivirira iwe nemufananidzo wemuviri wako. (Yakabatana: Sei Iyi Blogger Yakauya Kuziva Kuti Muviri Positivity Haisi Yese Nguva Nezve Maitiro Aunotarisa)

Media kuverenga nekunyora kiyi. “Zvizivisei nezvemashandisirwo anoitwa mifananidzo iyi ine mukurumbira kunyangwe vanhu vakakurumbira vaine varairidzi vega, ma-ma-up artists, nezvimwewo,” anodaro Myers. "Uye cherekedza kusanzwisisika kuri kuita kuyedza kusangana neizvozvo seyakajairika munhu."

Chengetedza pasocial media munzvimbo yayo. "Kana paine chimwe chinhu chaunoda pamusoro pemunhu ane mukurumbira, cherekedza kuti chii uye nemanzwiro aunove nawo pairi - mufaro, chishuwo, nezvimwe," anodaro Manly. "Cherechedza kuti haufanirwe kuita chimwe chinhu pachiri, tenga, kana kuedza kuva 'iwe'; unogona kungoona kuti uri kuonga chimwe chinhu chehupenyu hweumwe munhu."

Pedzisa kunyadziswa. Ressler anopa zano: “Rega kuzvidaidza mazita asina kunaka. "Zvibate iwe pese paunozviwana uchitsanangura zvauri muhasha kana kutsoropodza. Zviudze kuti, 'Handisi ini.'

Isa cognitive dissonance kushanda. Cognitive dissonance inoreva kusangana nemifungo kana maitiro asingaenderane nezvaunogara uchitenda. "Panyaya iyi, zvinenge zvichitaura zvinhu zvaunofarira pamusoro pemuviri wako pane zvinhu zvaunovenga," anotsanangura kudaro Myers. "Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti zvinoshanda senzira yekurwisa kusagutsikana kwemuviri zvachose, uye bhuku riri kukura rinoratidza kuti rinobatsirawo pasocial media. Ini pachangu ndiri kuitisa chidzidzo apo ndine vakadzi vanonyora chirevo chakanaka pamusoro pemiviri yavo kana chimwe chinhu." kunze kwechitarisiko chavo vochitumira ku Instagram. Ndiri kuona kuti chero rudzi rwekunzwisisa-dissonance chirevo chinoshanda mukuwedzera kuzviremekedza, kunyanya kutarisika kune chekuita nekuzviremekedza, pamwe nekuvandudza hunhu. "

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