Kuita Zvepabonde Zvakawanda Kunotungamira Kuhukama Huri Nani?

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Tese tine shamwari idzo dzinopika kuti dzakanyatsogutsikana nehukama hwavo kunyangwe nguva yekupedzisira yavakabatikana yaive mavhiki apfuura. Zvakanaka, maererano nekudzidza kutsva, havasi ivo chete BS-kukuita-kana, zvirinani, havazvizive. (Psst ... Unoshamisika kuti kangani vamwe vanhu vari kuita bonde?)

Iyo frequency yaunowana frisky ine chekuita nekugutsikana kwaunoita nehukama hwako, maererano netsvagiridzo itsva yakaburitswa mujenari Sayenzi Yepfungwa asi hazvina kujeka sezvaungafunga.

Kubva pakuona kwekushanduka-shanduka, paunowedzera iwe nehae kushandisa nguva mukamuri yekurara, ndipo paunonyanya kugutsikana iwe unofanirwa kuve-chaizvo uye nenzira yekufananidzira. Zvepabonde zvinoshanda senzira yekubatanidza iwe pamwechete (duh), izvo zvakakosha kune izvo zvisikwa-zvinoponesa hunhu sekubereka uye kurera vana. Asi pese apo vatsvakurudzi vanobvunza vakaroorana kuti kakawanda sei vanoita bonde uye kuti vanogutsikana sei nehukama hwavo hwese, havaoni kuwirirana pakati pehuwandu hwepabonde hwauri kuita uye kufara kwaunoita. (Imwe ongororo yakatoona kuti Kuita Bonde Rakawanda Hazvidi Ita Kuti Ufare muhukama.) Chii chinopa?

Kuti vaongorore kusanzwisisika uku, vaongorori kubva kuFlorida State University vakaedza kwete kungoziva kwevakaroora asiwo kwavo kwekusaziva nezvevamwe vavo. Muchidzidzo ichi, mazana maviri negumi nemaviri vachangoroora vakatora ongororo kuyera kugutsikana kwehukama. Vakabvunzwa mibvunzo nezvekuti yakanaka kana yakaipa imba yavo, kuti vakaita bonde kangani, uye kugutsikana kwavakaita nemumwe wavo nehukama hwakazara. Kungofanana nezvidzidzo zvakapfuura, pakanga pasina hukama pakati pekuti vaviri vacho vaiita bonde sei uye nehukama hwavo hwakataurwa kugutsikana.

Asi ipapo vaviri vacho vakapedza basa rekuyedza yavo yegumbo-chikamu yakajeka manzwiro nezve mumwe wavo. Mumwe nemumwe aitora chikamu akaratidzwa izwi ravaifanira kurongedzera sezvakanaka kana kuti zvisina kunaka, asi izwi risati rabuda, mufananidzo wemumwe wavo waipenya pachiratidziri kwesekondi yakakamurwa. Pfungwa ndeyokuti nekupa vatori vechikamu mufananidzo weSO yavo, nguva yavo yekupindura yaizokanganisika-kukurumidza kwavakaita kumashoko akanaka uye kunonoka kwavakaita kumashoko asina kunaka kwaizoratidza manzwiro akanaka ega ega ega nezvemumwe wavo. (Tsvaga kuti Ukama Hwako Hukabatana Sei Nehutano Hwako.)

Iye zvino vaongorori vakawana kuwirirana: Kakawanda kazhinji varoorani pavakabatikana, hushamwari hwakanyanya hwavaive nahwo nemumwe wavo.

Saka izvi zvinoreva here kuti kana usiri kuita zvezuva nezuva pakati pemashizha hukama hwako hwaparara? Kwete. Asi zvinotsanangura kuti sei iwe ungatanga kunzwa kudziya uye kusanzwisisika nezve munhu wauri kurara naye pa reg, usingazvizivi. Pazasi mutsara: Zvepabonde zvinogona kuumba zvinyowani zvakanaka zvimisikidzo zvatisingatomboona isu; teererai, mugozvishandisa nokuchenjera. (Unoda kurudziro? Edza Iwo Ekumusoro Bonde Nzvimbo Mune Nyika Dzakakomberedza Nyika.)

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