Sayenzi Inotaura Kuti Ushamwari Ndihwo Hunokosha Kuutano Hunogara Nomufaro uye Mufarwa

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Mhuri neshamwari marudzi maviri akakosha ehukama muhupenyu hwako, pasina kupokana. Asi kana zvasvika pakukuita kuti ufare kwenguva refu, unogona kushamisika kuti nderipi boka rine simba. Kunyange zvazvo nhengo dzemhuri dzakakosha, kana zvasvika kune hutano hwakanaka uye mufaro, ushamwari hunoita mutsauko mukuru-kunyanya paunenge uchikura, maererano nekutsvakurudza kutsva. (Tsvaga nzira gumi nembiri shamwari yako yepamwoyo inosimudzira hutano hwako.)

Chinyorwa chakaburitswa mujenari Ukama Hwevanhu, iyo inopfupikisa zvakawanikwa muzvidzidzo zviviri zvakabatana, yakaratidza kuti nepo zvese mhuri neshamwari zvichipa hutano uye mufaro, hwaive hukama vanhu vane shamwari huchiva nehunhu hwakakura mushure mehupenyu. Pakazara, vanhu vanopfuura 278,000 vemazera akasiyana kubva kunosvika nyika zana vakaongororwa, vachipa hutano hwavo uye mufaro. Zvinonzwisisika, muchidzidzo chechipiri (icho chakanangana nevakuru, kunyanya), zvakawanikwa kuti apo shamwari dzaive sosi yekunetsekana kana kushushikana, vanhu vakataura zvimwe zvirwere zvisingaperi, nepo mumwe munhu paainzwa achitsigirwa nehukama hwavo, vaitaura zvishoma nezvehutano uye mufaro wakawedzerwa. (Kufanana pavanokubatsira kuti upfuure nekushanda kwakaoma. Hongu, kurovedza muviri neshamwari kunogona kuwedzera kushivirira kwako marwadzo.) Zvakakosha kuziva, zvisinei, kuti vatsvakurudzi havana kutora mutsara wakajeka pakati peimwe inokonzera imwe-a.k.a. kunetsana neshamwari yako hakuzoiti kuti urware.

Sei? Izvo zvese zvinouya pasi pakusarudza, anodaro William Chopik, Ph.D., munyori webepa uye purofesa paMichigan State University. "Ini ndinofunga zvinogona kunge zvine chekuita nekusarudzika kwehukama - tinogona kuramba takatenderedza yatinoda uye zvishoma nezvishoma ichipera kubva pane yatisingade," anotsanangura. "Tinowanzopedza nhandaro neshamwari zvakare, nepo hukama hwemhuri hunogona kunetsa, husina kunaka, kana husina kunaka."

Zvinogonekawo kuti shamwari dzinozadza nzvimbo dzakasiiwa nemhuri kana kupa rutsigiro munzira nhengo dzemhuri dzisingagone kana dzisingagone, anowedzera. Shamwari dzinogona zvakare kukunzwisisa pane imwe nhanho kupfuura yemhuri, nekuda kwezviitiko zvakagovaniswa uye zvaunofarira. Ichi ndicho chikonzero nei zvichikosha kuti urambe uine hukama neshamwari dzekare kana kuita nhamburiko yekubatanidza zvakare kana iwe warasikirwa nekubata neyako hudiki bestie kana hutsinye hanzvadzi. Nepo hupenyu huchichinja uye chinhambwe chinogona kuita kuti izvi zviome dzimwe nguva, mabhenefiti akakodzera kuedza kutora foni kana kutumira iyo email.

"Ushamwari huri pakati pehukama hwakaoma kuchengetedza hupenyu hwose," anodaro Chopik. "Chikamu cheicho chine chekuita nekushaikwa kwezvisungo. Shamwari dzinopedza nguva dziri pamwe nekuti dzinoda uye dzinosarudza, kwete nekuti vanofanirwa."

Nekutenda pane mamwe matanho akareruka ekuchengetedza uye kusimudzira hushamwari hwakakosha. Chopik anokurudzira kuve nechokwadi chekuve chikamu cheshamwari dzako hupenyu hwezuva nezuva nekugovana mukubudirira kwavo uye kutaurirana nekutadza kwavo - zvinyoronyoro kuve cheerleader nefudzi rekutsamira pairi. Pamusoro pezvo, anoti kugovana nekuyedza zviitiko zvitsva pamwe zvinobatsira, sekuratidza kutenda. Kuudza vanhu kuti unovada uye unokoshesa kuvepo kwavo muhupenyu hwako chinhu chidiki kuita, asi zvinogona kuita mutsauko mukuru muhupenyu hwese. Nezve izvo, iwe unofanirwa kunge uchiratidza kutenda kune vese shamwari uye mhuri.

Hapana chimwe cheichi ndechekuti mhuri haina kukosha, asi kuti hushamwari hunopa mabhenefiti akasarudzika, uye iwe unofanirwa kutora nguva yekurera hukama hwakakosha. Ehe, tangokupa humbowo hwesainzi kuti unoda husiku hwevasikana, STAT.

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