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Zvemukati

• Iyo isingagumi-inosimbisa inosimbisa reel
• Moms vachitaura chaiyo nyaya pasocial media
• Matipi ekuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka nevezvenhau
• Tora woenda nazvo

Mapoka epamhepo uye maakaundi anogona kupa rubatsiro runobatsira, asi zvinogona zvakare kugadzira zvisizvo zvinotarisirwa nezvekuti nhumbu kana kuva mubereki kwakaita sei.

Mufananidzo naAlyssa Kiefer

Ah, Zvemagariro venhau. Isu tese tinoishandisa - kana zvirinani kuti vazhinji vedu tinoita.

Yedu feeds izere neshamwari dzedu 'zvinyorwa, memes, mavhidhiyo, nhau, kushambadza, uye vanokurudzira. Yese social media algorithm inoedza kushandisa mashiripiti ayo kutiratidza izvo zvavanofunga kuti tinoda. Uye dzimwe nguva vanozviwana nemazvo. Dzimwe nguva, zvakadaro, ivo havadaro.

Iyo isingagumi-inosimbisa inosimbisa reel

Kune vabereki vanotarisira, vezvenhau vanogona kuva munondo unocheka kaviri. Chingave chinhu chinoshamisa kushamwaridzana nemapoka evabereki kana kuteedzera maakaundi ane ruzivo rwakanangana nepamuviri, asi zvinogona zvakare kugadzira zvisizvo zvinotarisirwa nezvekuti nhumbu kana kuva mubereki kwakaita sei.

"Ini ndinofunga yakanyanya chepfu" anodaro Molly Miller, * wemamirioni amai-vanozove. "Ndinofunga kana iwe uri pasocial media nguva dzese iwe unongobatikana zvakanyanya nezviri kuitwa nevanhu nekuzvienzanisa uye zvakawandisa."

Isu tese tinonzwa izvi. Isu takanzwa kutaura kuti vezvenhau ingori inoratidzira reel, ichingotaridza nguva dzakagadzirwa zvakakwana vanhu vanoda kuti tione. Iyo hairatidze iyo izere mufananidzo wehupenyu - iyo inogona kutipa isu yakashata pfungwa yeizvo vamwe vanhu hupenyu hwakaita.

Kana zvasvika pakubata pamuviri uye kuva mubereki, vezvenhau vanogona kuwedzera imwe nhanho yekuzvidya mwoyo sezvo vabereki vachiedza kufamba nenzira yekuzvitarisira ivo nevana vavo. Kuona isingagumi mifananidzo-yakakwana mifananidzo yevabereki vatsva uye vacheche vavo zvinoita kuti zviite sekunge kune zvimwe zvakanaka izvo iwe zvausiri kusvika, apo izvo chaizvo zvisiri izvo.

“Handifunge kuti ichokwadi. Nguva zhinji vanhu vakakurumbira vanotumira nezve nhumbu dzavo. Handina murairidzi wega, handina shefu kumba ari kundiitira kudya uku kunovaka muviri, ”anodaro Miller.

Aya mazano asiri echokwadi akatodzidziswa nevanoongorora muUnited Kingdom.Joanne Mayoh, PhD, mudzidzisi mukuru mumitambo yekurovedza muviri uye hutano paBournemouth University, achangobva kuburitsa kutsvagurudza achipinda munzira yekuti vezvenhau vanotaura sei izvi zvisizvo zvevakadzi vane nhumbu.

"Instagram inoburitsa mifananidzo yakafanana, kunyanya yemitumbi. … Iyo ndeimwe mhando yemuviri, mukadzi mutete mutete pamahombekombe ari kuita yoga, achinwa smoothie, ”anodaro Mayoh.

Mukutsvagurudza kwake, Mayoh akawana kuti akawanda machira anoedza kuratidza iyo
"Nhumbu yakakwana" nekuratidzira zvigadzirwa zveumbozha nemifananidzo yakasvinwa yematumbu avo ane nhumbu. Tsvagurudzo yake yakaratidza kuti zvinyorwa zvaiwanzo kushomeka zvakasiyana, zvichisiya manzwi evanhu vane ruvara nenhengo dzenharaunda yeLBBTQIA +.

Zvekutarisira amai vakaita saMiller, izvi zvakawanikwa hazvisi zvese zvinoshamisa. Zviri nyore kuwana aya madingindira mune yako wega chikafu, izvo zvinogona kukonzera kushushikana kwakawanda kune vabereki vatsva.

"Ndinonzwa senge nguva zhinji pa Instagram vanhu vanozobata vacheche vavo sechishongedzo kwete semunhu chaiye wavanofanira kuchengeta," anodaro Miller.

Moms vachitaura chaiyo nyaya pasocial media

Paaiita ongororo yake, Mayoh akawana kufamba kwevakadzi vachiedza kushandura nhoroondo yemagariro enhau akatenderedza nhumbu.

"Zvaive zvakangoita sekudzokera shure - vanhukadzi vachishandisa Instagram senzvimbo yekuita basa zvakare uye kubereka pfungwa dzakakurumbira kuratidza mifananidzo yakajeka uye yakajeka yekubata pamuviri nekuzvara. [Ini ndaida] kupokana nepfungwa yekuti [nhumbu inobwinya, inopenya, chiitiko chakakwana, ”anodaro Mayoh.

Chokwadi tese tiri kufara kunzwa nezve vakadzi vakasimba vanouya pamwechete kuita normalize chaiyo nhumbu nguva - asi vamwe vanhu vanotenda kuti vakadzi vari kutumira idzi nguva dzakasarudzika kungo simudzira nhoroondo yavo yemagariro uye kuwana mukurumbira online.

"Vari kunyatso kutumira kubatsira vamwe vanhu kana kuti vari kutumira zvekuda uye mukurumbira?" anobvunza Miller.

Zvakanaka, maererano naMayoh, kunyangwe vakadzi vari kutumira zvekuda uye mukurumbira, hachisi chinhu chikuru. “Hazvina basa nekuti vari kugoverwa. Tinofanirwa kutaura nezvekushushikana kwepashure pokuberekwa, uye tinofanirwa kutaura nezvekuparara kwemimba, uye tinofanirwa kutaura nezvekushungurudzika kuzvarwa, uye chero chinhu chinokurudzira vakadzi kutaura nezvacho chinhu chakanyatsoita uye chinogadzirisa, ”anodaro.

Matipi ekuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka nevezvenhau

Kunyangwe zvingave zviri nyore kutaurwa pane kuzviita, Mayoh anoti hunyanzvi hwekushandisa pasocial media nenzira ine hutano ndeyekuti uve nechokwadi chekuti uri kurongedza mafidha ako kusanganisira zvemukati zvinoita kuti unzwe zvakanaka nezvako uye nhumbu yako.

Heano mamwe matipi, muchidimbu kubva kuNational Alliance yeMental Illness, yekugadzirisa chikafu chako uye kuchengetedza hukama hune hutano nemasocial media:

• Tora danho shure uye utarise maakaunzi aunotevera uye nemabatiro ainoita kuti unzwe.
• Dzivisa kuzadza mafidha ako zvachose ne "pikicha-yakanaka" nhumbu uye nzvimbo dzevabereki.
• Edza kusanganisa maakaundi anoratidza kuti nhumbu uye kuva mubereki chii chaizvo senge. (Hint: Tinoda @hlparenthood).
• Inzwa uine simba rekurega kutevera kana mbeveve maakaunzi asiri kukushandira iwe izvozvi.
• Funga kudzikisira yako nguva yaunoshandisa pasocial media mapuratifomu kana kutozorora kubva kwavari zvizere.

Tora woenda nazvo

Zvemagariro enhau zvinozivikanwa nekuita isu kuti tizvienzanise isu nevamwe. Kune vabereki vatsva uye vanotarisira, izvi zvinogona kuve sosi yekusafanira kuwedzera kunetseka panguva yatove inonetsa nguva.

Kana iwe uri kutanga kunzwa kunge pasocial media iri kukanganisa neako kuzviremekedza kana mufaro wakazara, inogona kunge iri zano rakanaka kutora nhanho kumashure uye kuita dzimwe shanduko kune ako ehukama mafidha kana maitiro.

Zvinogona kukuremedza pakutanga, asi kuita shanduko chaidzo kunogona kukubatsira kuwana zororo uye kutanga kukudziridza hukama hwakanaka nevezvenhau uye - zvinonyanya kukosha - iwe pachako.

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