Kuchinja Kunoita Hukama Hwako Mukudonha
Zvemukati
- Mwaka wekumbundira (uye nekuwedzera kukwikwidza)
- Iko kune 'chaiko' kune hukama hwako
- Inguva 'sangana nevabereki' nguva
- Romance iri mumhepo
- Ongororo ye
Iyo yekuvhuvhu inguva yekuchinja, sezvo mamiriro ekunze anotonhorera uye kutonhorera uye, chokwadika, mashizha anova akanaka, achichinja kubva pamumvuri wegirini kuenda kune akashinga mavara eaka mutsvuku negoridhe. Chokwadi ndechekuti, patsvagiridzo, hukama hwedu hunozivikanwawo nekusangana nekushanduka-shanduka.
Mwaka unozivikanwa kukurudzira kuwirirana pakati pevakaroorana, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana, kusanganisira kuuya kwemazororo emhuri, seKutenda. Iyo yaimbova nguva ye "kudzokera kuchikoro" yave nguva ye "kudzokera kuguyo" sezvatinodzokera kune yakazara yakazara mberi mumabasa edu mushure mezhizha. Izvi zvinoguma ne "chokwadi" maererano nekushanduka kwehukama hwedu, anotsanangura Dr. Jenn Mann, Los Angeles-based psychotherapist, mutungamiri anotungamira paVH1's "Couples Therapy naDr. Jenn," uye munyori webhuku idzva, Hukama Kugadziridza: Dr. Jenn's 6-Nhanho Gwara rekuvandudza Kutaurirana, Kubatana, uye Kushamwaridzana.
Pano, tinobvunza Dr. Jenn-nyanzvi kana zvasvika pakufambisa ebbs/kuyerera kwe coupledom-nezve nzira dzatingatarisira kuti hukama hwedu hukure mukudonha:
Mwaka wekumbundira (uye nekuwedzera kukwikwidza)
Pane zvidzidzo (kusanganisira izvi kubva ku Zvinyorwa zveCustomer Research) izvo zvinoratidza kuti, kana uchitonhora, iwe unotsvaga "mupfungwa" kudziya, izvo zvinokonzerwa nekumbundirana. (Nekuti waida chidzidzo chacho kuti utendeuke.) Pane hukama hwepedyo hunoitika kana mamiriro ekunze achitonhora, uye hazvingave nani kune hukama hwekare / hutsva. Mukana wekuita hurukuro (senge, kunyatsoita hurukuro) inotyisa, nemikana yekugovana muzviitiko zvinogamuchira padyo, sekutamba mutambo weScrabble.
"Mamiriro ekunze anotanga kutonhorera, saka kwakanyanya kutonhora mamiriro ekunze, uye inguva yenguva yekugumbatirwa nechoto uye kugara nekuita hurukuro refu," akadaro Dr. Jenn. "Mukana wekuita zvimwe 'zvinofadza' zviitiko."
Iko kune 'chaiko' kune hukama hwako
Hukama hwakatanga muchirimo/chirimo hunonyanya kunakidza: huripo munyika yakavharwa nenzendo, nemikana yezororo. Asi mukudonha, pane "chokwadi" chinoitika. Ino inguva inopa mukana wekunzwisisa zvakakwirira uye zvishoma zvekudyidzana nemumwe wako. Inguva yekuziva sezvo iwe uchidzokera kunzira dzako, nguva yaunogona kuongorora kudzika kwehukama hwako.
"Chimwe chezvinhu zvakanaka pamusoro pekudonha ndechekuti, muzhizha, inguva ye'fungidziro yechitsuwa'," Dr. Jenn anodaro. "Tiri kuenda kuzororo, tiri kuenda kunofamba-famba pamhenderekedzo yegungwa, uye tiri kurara kunze kwedziva. Tiri kuita mamwe mabasa aya 'efantasy island'. Zvakafanana neThe Bachelor, kwavanoenda. pamazororo ose iwawo.Asi, apo kudonha kunoitika, kunoita kuti hukama hwedu huve hwechokwadi nenzira yakanaka chaizvo.Hatizivi kana hukama hunogona kushanda kutozosvikira taedza 'muupenyu chaihwo.' "Kana uine vana, urikuvaendesa kuchikoro uye unosangana nezvinonetsa zvese izvi. Iwe wakabatikana kushanda. Hupenyu chaihwo chaihwo."
Inguva 'sangana nevabereki' nguva
Mwaka uno wakazadzwa nezviitiko zvine chekuita nemhuri, zvinosanganisira Kutenda pamwe neKisimusi neHannukah, uye zvakakosha kuti unzwisise vabereki vemumwe wako uye hukama hwavo navo. Kazhinji, kusangana nevabereki mukana wekunzwa iro ramangwana rinogona kuitika. Ehe, panogona kuve nekutya kwekugamuchira maropafadzo avo, asi izvi zvakanyanyisa nezve ruzivo rwako sewavo. Mhuri yemumwe wako netsika dzavo, nezvimwe zvinowirirana sei neyako? Tora mukana-uyu mukana wekubatanidza.
"Inogara iri danho rakakura kuita danho rekutanga nezororo uye kuwana kusangana nemhuri," Dr. Jenn anodaro. "Icho chinhu chinobatsira chaizvo kufambisa hukama pamberi."
Romance iri mumhepo
Maawa mashoma ezuva anotsanangudza mwaka akakosha pakuvira kwezuva uye kushure-kwezuva kubatana. Nyura murudo rwemanheru akasviba nezviitiko zviri zveumwe-mumwe, sekudya kwemanheru, uye gamuchira hupombwe hwemwaka!
"Usiku hunofadza kupfuura masikati," anodaro, "Zuva rinokurumidza kunyura, izvo zvinoita kuti kune dzimwe nguva dzakanaka, kunyura kwezuva uye kudya kwemanheru nokuti haugoni kubatidza makenduru kana zuva richiri kunze."
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