Zvepabonde Mushure mekuroora Ndizvozvo Chaunoita Kuti Ugoita - Uye Unogona Kuita Izvo Zvakanaka

Zvemukati

• Vakaroora - kuita bonde rakaipa
• Vakaroora vanhu vanogona kunyatsoita bonde riri nani… uye nezvimwe zvacho
• Ehe, pane zvikonzero huwandu hwebonde hunogona kunyudza
• Kuita bonde, unofanirwa kuzvikoshesa
• Iko kune echisikigo ebb uye kuyerera mu libido nekufamba kwenguva
• Unorega hupenyu hwako hwepabonde hwepamoyo huwira munzira
• Kana iwe usingakwanise kupinda mune iyo mood, funga nezve zviri kuitika kunze kwemba yekurara
• Nzira yakanak yekuita bonde rakanaka? Kurukura
• Dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuzviisa mumood
• Unogona kunyange kuvaka chishuwo zuva rese
• Kudzidza mutauro wemumwe nemumwe uye kuda mutauro kunogona kubatsira
• Rega kuenzanisa hupenyu hwako hwepabonde nehwevamwe vanhu
• Edza chimwe chinhu chakasiyana kunongedza zvinhu kumusoro
• Gadzira Hungu, Kwete, Pamwe nyora
• Enda kumabiko epabonde / kirabhu kana swinger resort
• Tenga toyi yebonde (kana toyispamwe chete
• Tora zvinonyadzisira
• Enda kuzororo!
• Chinokosha

Isu tinosanganisira zvigadzirwa zvatinofunga zvinobatsira kuvaverengi vedu. Kana iwe ukatenga kuburikidza nehukama pane ino peji, isu tinogona kuwana diki komisheni. Heano maitiro edu.

Vakaroora - kuita bonde rakaipa

Kutanga kuuya rudo, kwozouya wanano, kwozouya… bonde rakaipa?

Haisi iyo nzira yemaitirwo, asi ndizvo izvo hoopla dzese dzakatenderedza bonde repashure pemuchato dzaungatenda.

Nhau dzakanaka: Ndizvozvo chaizvo. Hoopla! Kukakavara! Unyengeri!

"Zviuru, mazana ezviuru, mamirioni evakaroora vane hupenyu hwepabonde hunofadza, hutano, uye hunogutsa," anodaro Jess O'Reilly, PhD, muridzi we @SexWithDrJess Podcast. Phew.

Vakaroora vanhu vanogona kunyatsoita bonde riri nani… uye nezvimwe zvacho

Tora rushaya rwako pasi! Zvinonzwisisika kana iwe uchifunga nezvazvo.

"Sezvo iwe paunosvika pakuziva uye kuvimba nemumwe wako, iwe unowanzo kuve wakasununguka kutaura pamusoro pekunzwa kwako, zvaunofarira, uye izvo zvaunofungidzira nezvazvo," anodaro O'Reilly. "Izvi zvinogona kutungamira kune zvinonakidza uye zvinogutsa bonde."

Zvichiri kusagutsikana? "Dhata iri kunze uko inoratidza kuti vanhu vakaroora vari kuita bonde kazhinji kupfuura vanhu vasina murume," anowedzera.

Usatorere kure kureruka kwekuve pamwe / apo neapo anoda / anofarira mudiwa ari padyo newe!

Ehe, pane zvikonzero huwandu hwebonde hunogona kunyudza

Nhanho yekutanga yekuve nezvakawanda? Kunzwisisa nei ungave uine zvishoma!

Kuita bonde, unofanirwa kuzvikoshesa

Kana kuita bonde kwakakosha kwauri uye iwe wakabatikana, fungidzira chii? "Unofanira kuikoshesa," anodaro O'Reilly. "Izvi zvinogona kuve zvinonetsa mushure mekunge iwe uine vana, asi zvinogoneka kana iwe ukaisa mukuedza."

Zano rake rekuisa pamberi? Zviise muchirongwa chako sezvaungaita chero chinhu chekutanga - kungave kuri musangano webhizinesi, kirabhu yemabhuku, kana kunhonga vana kubva kunhabvu tsika.

Iyo kalendari block haifanire kuverenga "Bang My Boo" (kunyangwe ichigona zvachose, kana chiri chinhu chako). Uye kurova hakutombofaniri kuve iyo poindi!

Ingoisa parutivi nguva yekubatana pamwe nekuona kuti ndeapi marudzi ekubata anoitika, anodaro O'Reilly.

Iko kune echisikigo ebb uye kuyerera mu libido nekufamba kwenguva

Icho ichokwadi kune vanhukadzi vese nevakadzi uye zvepabonde.

"Libido inokanganiswa nezvinhu zvakaita sekuzvara, kurwara, kurwadziwa kusingaperi, mishonga, kushushikana, uye kushandisa zvinodhaka," anodaro Holly Richmond, PhD, chiremba wepabonde anozivikanwa uye somatic psychologist kuKY.

Kunyudza muchido chebonde hakusi kuratidza kwepasirese kuti chimwe chinhu chakashata muhukama.

Unorega hupenyu hwako hwepabonde hwepamoyo huwira munzira

Waiziva here kuti libido inobatwa nekushaya bonde, futi?

Zvingaite kunge zvinopesana, asi Richmond anoti, “paunonyanya kuita bonde, ndipo paunonyanya kuchida. Kana uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchina sh ewashoma paunenge uchinacho.

IWY inouya pasi kumahomoni.

"Kana iwe uchiita bonde, pane kusunungurwa kweendorphins uye oxytocin iyo inotiisa isu mune yekuita bonde," anodaro. "Kuita bonde zvakawandisa kunovheneka nzira yemukati inodzidzisa iwe kutarisira kufara."

Zvepabonde izvo zvinogona kuve chiitiko chevanhu vaviri kana chiitiko chemunhu mumwe chete, anodaro.

Kunze kwekubatsira kukuisa iwe mune yekuita yevakabatana pabonde, kuita bonhora kunogona kuvaka chivimbo chako.

Izvo zvinogona zvakare kukubatsira iwe kuona kuti unofarira kubatwa sei kuitira kuti ugone kuraira mumwe wako nenzira yekukubata iwe kana iwe uchiita bonde.

Uyezve, kukwiza imwe kunze kunogona kubatsira kudzikisa kushushikana kwako, izvo zvinogona kukubatsira kuti upinde mumafaro. #Kukunda.

Kana iwe usingakwanise kupinda mune iyo mood, funga nezve zviri kuitika kunze kwemba yekurara

Chikonzero chacho chiri nyore: Izvo zvaunoita kunze kwemubhedha zvinogona kukanganisa zviri kuitika (kana kwete) mubhedhuru.

"Kana iwe uchinge wakakomberedza chigumbu nekuti uchigunun'una uchiita chikamu chisingaenzaniswi chebasa repamba, hausi kuzoongorora chigumbu ichi pamusuwo wemba yekurara," anotsanangura O'Reilly.

"Kungofanana nekuti wakatsamwa nekuti mumwe wako ataura chimwe chinhu kukudzikisira pamberi pevana, hasha hadzisi kuzodzima ipapo paunopinda mumubhedha."

Iwo manzwiro akashata haatomboita kuti ashandurire murudo kana chishuwo chinodiwa kuti uzviwane.

Mhinduro yezvikamu zviviri.

Kutanga, mudiwa ari kufamba mumafungidziro asina kunaka anofanira kutarisana nemumwe wake nezvezvavanonzwa uye nei.

Ipapo, mumwe wacho anofanira kupindura nenzira.

Kana iwe nemumwe wako muine nguva yakaoma kuva nemhando idzi dzehurukuro, unogona kufunga nezvehukama murapi.

Nzira yakanak yekuita bonde rakanaka? Kurukura

Kunyangwe iwe uchifunga kuti iwe nemumwe wako mune peji rimwe chete nezve mhando yebonde raunoda kuve uine uye kangani iwe waunoda kuve uine iyo - kana iwe iwe ziva iwe uri pamapeji akasiyana - iwe unofanirwa kutaura nezvazvo!

"Kutaurirana nezve izvo zvinotarisirwa nemumwe nemumwe wako nezve bonde kwakakosha," anodaro Richmond.

"Unofanira kutaura nezve kangani pazuva, vhiki, kana mwedzi mumwe wako anoda kuita zvepabonde," anodaro.

Kana paine musiyano muhuwandu hwepabonde - uye vazhinji vakaroorana vanozoita imwe nguva muhukama - iwe unofanirwa:

1. Ramba uchitaura nezve bonde.
2. Ita pamberi mamwe maitiro ekubata pabonde uye hwepedyo.
3. Ongorora dzimwe nzira dzehukama hwepedyo.
4. Funga kuona chiremba wepabonde.

Beyond kangani, "iwe unofanirwa zvakare kusarudza kuti ndeupi rudzi rwebonde uye nemanzwiro api aunoda kugadzira kana iwe uinehwo," anodaro Richmond.

Semuenzaniso, ndezve zvese nezve mafaro uye orgasm kana zvakanyanya nezve kubatana?

Kunzwisisa paunomira mese kunogona kubatsira iwe kuenda kunzvimbo yekunzwira tsitsi kwete kuzvidzivirira, izvo zvinoita kuti iwe ugadzire mhinduro uko iwe vaviri unonzwa kugoneswa uye kuzadzikiswa, anodaro.

Dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuzviisa mumood

Chokwadi chinonakidza: Kune maviri marudzi akasiyana ekumutsa.

Iko kune mhando inokurova iwe whamm-o-bamm-o kamwe kamwe (inonzi chishuwo chishuwo), uye mhando iyo inobuda kana iwe nemumwe wako matanga kutsvoda kana kubata (inonzi kudairira kuda).

Kunyange chishuwo chekuda kungoita chingave chinhu chakakodzera apo iwe neNhamba yako yekutanga makatanga kufambidzana, "kune vazhinji vakaroora, uye nevanhu vanga vari muhukama kwenguva yakareba, unofanirwa kuita zvinhu kukumutsidzira uye kukuwana iwe. mumamiriro ezvinhu, ”anodaro O'Reilly.

"Kana iwe ukamirira kuti ude bonde kuti uve naro, unogona kunge wakamirira kwenguva yakareba," anodaro.

Chaizvoizvo iwe (neumwe wako) unozendamira muchido chinoteerera chiri kuzouya kune izvo zvinokutenderedza mese muri vaviri.

Zvinogona kutaridzika sekukwevera padhuze nepedyo pamubhedha, kukumbira kana kupa tsoka tsoka, kunoyamwa kumeso, kukumbatirana, kana kugeza pamwechete.

Unogona kunyange kuvaka chishuwo zuva rese

Imwe nzira yekupinda mumood? Pedza zuva rese kuwana mune mamiriro. Sezvo O'Reilly anoti, "Kuvaka chido kunotanga nguva refu mbatya dzisati dzabuda."

Izvi zvinorevei mukuita, chaizvo?

Sexting, racy masikati machena mafoni, kana saucy manotsi akasiya uko mumwe wako anovawana.

Kurega mumwe wako kuti atore zvipfeko zvako zvemukati zvezuva racho, kugeza pamwe chete (asi kwete kubata!) Mangwanani, kana kungoudza mumwe wako usati wabuda mumba, "Handigoni kumirira kuti ndikunzwe uchichema nhasi manheru."

Unogona zvakare kushandisa inopfeka tech yepabonde kune yako mukana. We We Vibe Moxie, semuenzaniso, ipanty vibrator iyo inogona kudzorwa neapp pafoni yemumwe wako.

Pfeka, udza mumwe wako, wozoenda kunotenga. Kunakidzwa!

Kudzidza mutauro wemumwe nemumwe uye kuda mutauro kunogona kubatsira

“Izvi zvinogona kunge zviri zvinhu zviviri zvakasiyana zvakanyanya - saka zvinosvika pakuziva mitauro yako wega, wobva waita hurukuro dzakajeka, dzechokwadi pamusoro padzo, ”anodaro Richmond.

Pfungwa yemitauro yerudo, yakagadziridzwa naDr Gary Chapman, inoti nzira iyo isu tese yatinopa kana kugashira rudo inogona kukamurwa kuita zvikamu zvishanu:

• zvipo
• nguva yakanaka
• mabasa ebasa
• mazwi ekusimbisa
• kubata chaiko

Iwe nemumwe wako munogona kudzidza mitauro yerudo yemumwe nemumwe nekutora iyi online yemaminitsi mashanu emibvunzo.

Izvi zvinokudzidzisa maitiro ekuita kuti mumwe wako anzwe kudiwa uye kukosheswa, anodaro Richmond. Kana mumwe wako achinzwa kudiwa uye kukosheswa, ivo vanozonyanya mukana wekuve mumamiriro ekupusa.

Unodawo kuziva mumwe wako "chishuwo mutauro," uyo Richmond inotsanangura se, "nzira iyo mumwe wako anoda kuratidzwa kuti ivo vanodikanwa."

Vanofarira kusekwa here? Sexta ivo pamberi pehusiku husiku.

Kudanana kunovaitira here? Ronga zuva rakazara nemakenduru, maruva, bhati, uye maawa akati wandei wakatarirwa iwe chete (isina mutoro kune chero munhu).

Vanoda kushamiswa here? Siya mabhurugwa emukati mubhegi ravo nekatsamba.

Vanoda here kurumbidzwa? Varumbidze ivo!

Rega kuenzanisa hupenyu hwako hwepabonde nehwevamwe vanhu

Iwe unoziva zvavanotaura: Kuenzanisa ndiyo mbavha yemufaro. Izvo zvinoshandawo mubhedhuru!

"Iwe nemumwe wako munofanirwa kuona kuti ingani uye rudzii rwebonde raunoda kuva naro zvichibva pane zvinonyanya kukuitira, kwete zvichibva pane zvaunofunga kuti unofanira kunge uchiita," anodaro Richmond.

Edza chimwe chinhu chakasiyana kunongedza zvinhu kumusoro

"Panogona kuve nekurasikirwa kwechisikigo pabonde nekufamba kwenguva apo hunyanzvi uye mufaro zvinopera," anodaro O'Reilly.

Usatombo kunetseka, zvinokwanisika kudzosa kupisa.

Gadzira Hungu, Kwete, Pamwe nyora

Kana iwe wakave uine mumwe wako kwenguva yakareba, iwe unogona kufunga kuti iwe unoziva zvese nezve kwavo kuda pabonde. Asi iwe ungangodaro uchishamisika nechinhu chimwe chete kana zviviri zvavanoda kuedza!

Uye ndizvo chaizvo nei iwe nemumwe wako muchifanira kuzadza Hungu, Kwete, Pamwe runyorwa (semuenzaniso, iyi kana iyi).

Izvi zvinogona kutaridzika sekuti imi mese muri kuzadza runyorwa rwenyu, mozouya pamwechete kuzokurukura zvinhu zvamungade mese kuedza pamwechete.

Kana, izvo zvinogona kureva kugadzira zuva remanheru nekuzadza imwe pamwe chete.

Enda kumabiko epabonde / kirabhu kana swinger resort

"Vakaroorana vanoita chikamu chikuru chevanoenda kumabiko epabonde," anodaro Melissa Vitale, director director we NSFW, kirabhu inoitisa zviitiko zvine chekuita nezvebonde uye misangano.

"Kuongorora kuita zvebonde uye zvebonde munzvimbo yebonde kunogona kubatsira vaviri kuti vavake hukama hwepedyo, kuvimba, uye kudanana - kunyangwe vachiunza wechipiri, wechitatu, kana wechina, kana kungoita bonde navo munzvimbo iyoyo," anodaro.

Pamwe iwe uchaona chimwe chinhu chichiitika icho imi mese makavhenekerwa mukati uye munofarira kuyedza kana masvika kumba, anowedzera.

Tenga toyi yebonde (kana toyispamwe chete

Sezvineiwo, iwe uchazoda kuita izvi muchitoro, uko kune vadzidzisi vebonde pasi vanogona kupindura chero maQ anouya.

Unogona kuedza kupatsanuka kwemaminetsi gumi nemashanu, wozodzoka pamwe chete kuti uone kuti ndezvipi zvigadzirwa zvinofadza iwe wega zvawakawedzera kungoro.

Kana, iwe unogona kuputira muchitoro pamwe chete, muchichinjana kuwedzera sexcessories kungoro.

Richmond inokurudzira kusiya netoyi iwe yaunoda kushandisa pamwe chete, pamwe nehoyi yaunogona kuyedza wega wega panguva yake.

“Ndinokurudzira vatengi vangu kuti vatsvage vibrator inovashandira vari vega. Uye kuti vauye nayo mubhedhuru newawakaroorana naye - kazhinji kacho mukana mukuru kune mumwe wako. "

Tora zvinonyadzisira

Kunyangwe izvo zvaungave wakanzwa, porn inogona chaizvo kubatsira kune hukama.

"Ndiyo imwe nzira vakaroorana vanogona kupinda munyika yekufungidzira pamwe chete," anodaro Richmond. "Nekubvunzana izvo zvavanoda kutarisa, iwe unowana zvinongedzo nezve izvo zvingangodaro zvimwe zvekuchinja kwavo - zvimwe zvinhu zvavanonyara kukumbira."

"Nezvinonyadzisira, unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti izvi ndezvekuvaraidza chete, kwete zvedzidzo," anodaro.

"Panzvimbo pekushandisa zvinonyadzisira kuisa tarisiro nezvekuti isu kana vamwe vedu tinofanirwa kuratidzika sei kana maitiro atinofanira kuita, ndezvekugadzira fungidziro nenzvimbo inonakidza kunyura zvakanyanya mukunakidzwa."

Kana iwe usingazive pekutangira, tarisa zvevakadzi zvema porn nzvimbo senge CrashPadSeries, Bellesa, uye Lust Cinema.

Enda kuzororo!

Iwe unoziva zvavanotaura: Bonde rezororo ndiro bonde rakanakisa.

Nepo nyanzvi dzichiyambira nezvekuisa dzvinyiriro yakawandisa pauri newavo kuti mutumbuke kunge tsuro nguva dzese dzamunobva, Richmond anoti, "bonde repazororo inzira huru yekumisazve hupenyu hwepabonde kana kuhuisazve."

Haasi iwo machira ehotera kana sevhisi yekamuri inoita bonde repazororo rakanaka kwazvo, zvakadaro.

"Ndezve chokwadi chekuti iwe uri munharaunda inokutendera kuti usiye zvako zvezuva nezuva, zveminiti-kusvika-maminetsi mabasa kumashure," anodaro Richmond. "[Izvi] zvinokuzarurirai mukana iwe nemumwe wako kuti muve nehukama, uye musvike mukufungidzira nekunakidzwa."

Kunyatso kujekesa: Izvi zvinoreva kwete kutarisa Slack, email, kana zvimwe zviziviso, kana zvichibvira.

Zvimwe zvekufambisa-zvine hushamwari zvigadzirwa zvekurongedza:

• Le Wand Point Vibrator, ine kiyi yekufamba
• Unbound Tether, inova TSA-inogamuchirwa kink uye BDSM giya
• 2 Ounce Sliquid Sassy, ​​iyo iwe yaunogona kuunza iko chaiko mukuenderera kwako

Chinokosha

Usarega trope inofinha iyo kuisa mhete pairi ichikanganisa hupenyu hwako hwepabonde - iwe nemumwe wako munosvika pakusarudza kuti bonde rekuroora rinotaridzika sei kwauri.

Kune zvikonzero zvakawanda - kushamwaridzana, kuvimba, rudo, uye kujairana, kutumidza mashoma! - kuti bonde rekuroora rinogona kuzadzikiswa kupfuura bonde rimwe chete, uye dzakawanda nzira dzekumutsiridza hupenyu hwako hwepabonde kana ikatanga kunzwa kushomeka kushoma.

Gabrielle Kassel ndeyeNew York-yakavakirwa pabonde uye hutano munyori uye CrossFit Level 1 Mudzidzisi. Iye ave munhu wemangwanani, akaedzwa anopfuura mazana maviri vibrator, uye akadya, akadhakwa, uye nekukweshwa nemazimbe - zvese muzita rezvenhau. Munguva yake yemahara, anogona kuwanikwa achiverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira uye enganonyorwa dzerudo, kumanikidza bhenji, kana kutamba matanda. Mutevere pa Instagram.