Mindful Minute: Ndiri Kugadzirisa Hukama?

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Vazhinji vanhu vangakuudza kuti kana iwe uri kutozvibvunza pachako, "ndave kugadzirisa?" zvino uri-uye kuti haufanire kudaro. Asi chii chinoitika kana chiono chawakagadzirira mumwe wako chikave chisingaitiki kana chikare? (Pamwe wakafungidzira fungidziro pamusoro pePrince Charming semusikana mudiki uye chick flicks yakawedzera huni kumoto.) Pazasi penzira shanu dzekuputsa murume wako wekurota, zviongorore-uye uve nechokwadi chekuti hukama hwako kukodzera.

1. Ridzira runhare shamwari: Iva nehurukuro nevasikana vako-vane tariro vane maonero akasiyana zvakanyanya-uye uone kuti ndeupi mhinduro yaunowana pamurume wako. Shamwari dzako dzinokuziva iwe mushe-uye vane semi-chinangwa tarisiro pane mukomana muhupenyu hwako. Kana vakatendeseka kwauri, iwe unozokwanisa kuwana mashoma akasiyana maonero pane zvinoonekwa nevamwe kubva muhukama hwako. Pfungwa dzavo dzinoratidza dzako here? Unoshamiswa nechimwe chinhu chavanotaura here?

2. Tora shoko raamai netsanga yemunyu: Ita shuwa kuti kusahadzika kwako pamusoro pekugadzirisa hakusi kubva kumhuri yako. Zvinotapira amai vako vanofunga iwe unofanirwa kushandira murume akakwana sezvo uri musikana akakwana kudaro iwe (ahem), asi pamwe izvo zvinoita kuti ufare zvakasiyana. Mupfungwa dzake, unogona kunge uchigadzirisa, asi mune yako, uri kuita zvakakunakira iwe-uye zvakanaka. Mushure mezvose, baba vako havana kukwana, asi vanogona kuve vakakwana kuna amai vako, handiti?

3. Usarega kutya kuchikukurudzira: Usambofa wakasarudza murume nekuti unotya kuve wega. Vakadzi vazhinji vakaroorwa uye vakasurukirwa chaizvo. Muchokwadi, vakadzi vasina murume vanofara vanorarama nguva yakareba kupfuura chero munhu. Tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti kuroora, kune vakadzi vazhinji, kunoreva maawa akawanda emabasa epamba uye hupenyu hupfupi. Saka usafunga kuti ibvi rinofanirwa-kuve. Nyora kumusoro Singled Out naBella DePaul, Ph.D., kana uchida tsvakiridzo yakawanda uye humbowo hwakaoma hwekuti sei singledom isina kushata zvachose.

4. Ita zvinobatsira: Ita shuwa kuti hausi kuita chero chinhu nekumhanyisa mukati memwedzi mishoma yekutanga yedopamine yekumhanya kwerudo. Kubvumidza hukama hwako kukura nenzira inokodzera kunoita kuti iwe zvakare udzidze zvakawanda uye zvakawanda nezvemunhu wauinaye pane kumhanyira mune chimwe chinhu chakavakirwa panopisa uye chinorema mavhiki ekutanga.

5. Tamba nemanzwiro ako: Edza zano iri. Flip mari yemari-misoro yekumuchengeta, miswe yekuramba uchitarisa, wozoisa pafiripi. Chaizvoizvo pinda mukati menguva, sekunge ichi ndicho chisarudzo chemuchato wako (chekuti "kusvikira rufu rwatiparadzanisa"!) Zvino tarisa. Tichifunga zvinotaurwa nemari yesimbi, dumbu rako rinonyura here kana moyo unoenda kunoridza patter, nenzira yakanaka? Ikozvino ndiyo ruzivo rwakakosha rwesainzi rwekutsenga.

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