Mukoti wechiMuslim Anochinja Mafungiro, Mumwe Mwana mucheche panguva

Zvemukati

• Kuseka mumba yekutakura
• Kuchinja maonero ezvinoreva "Muslim"
• Kuve amai vechiMuslim muAmerica
• Vakadzi vakasiyana, maonero akasiyana
• Kugadzira kubatana

Kubva panguva yaaive mudiki, Malak Kikhia ainakidzwa nepamuviri. “Pese apo amai vangu kana shamwari dzavo pavaive nepamuviri, ini ndaigara ndakaisa ruoko kana nzeve pamatumbu avo, ndichinzwa nekuteerera kuti mwana aridze. Uye ndakabvunza mibvunzo yakawanda, ”anodaro.

Kuva mwanasikana mukuru pavana, iye akatorawo hombe hanzvadzi basa musimba mukubatsira amai vake kuchengeta hanzvadzi dzake. “Ndakagara ndichida vacheche. Ndakanga ndiine kitsi yekutamba muma1980, ine stethoscope, jekiseni, neBand- Aids, uye ndaitamba nayo nezvidhoma zvangu nehanzvadzi dzangu, ”anodaro. "Ndakaziva mumakore angu ekuyaruka kuti ndaida kuzova mukoti webasa uye wekusununguka."

Chaive chiroto chaakaita kuti chizadzike. Iye zvino mukoti wevashandi uye wekutakura muGeorgia, Malak akabatsira kununura vana vanopfuura mazana maviri uye kuverenga. "Ichokwadi zvavanotaura: Kana iwe ukawana basa raunoda, haufanire kushanda kana zuva rimwe chete muhupenyu hwako," anodaro.

Kuseka mumba yekutakura

Malak chizvarwa chekutanga Libyan-American. Vabereki vake vakatama kubva kuBanghazi sevadzidzi mu1973 kuenda kuYunivhesiti yeSanta Barbara. Munguva iyoyo, vaive nevana vavo vaviri vekutanga - kusanganisira Malak - mhuri isati yatamira kuColumbia, Missouri kunopinda University of Missouri. Malak akapedza huzhinji hwehudiki hwake ipapo. Paakaroora muna 1995, akatamira kuGeorgia.

Kushanda muSouth, vazhinji vevarwere vaanoona havasi maArabhu kana maMuslim. Kunyangwe akapfeka ngowani yekukwesha panguva yekusununguka, mushandi wake bheji anodada anoratidza mufananidzo wake akapfeka hijab.

"Handimbovanzi kuti ndiri muMuslim," anodaro. "Kutaura zvazviri, ndinogara ndichiuya nazvo kuvarwere vangu kuti vazive uyu mukadzi anosetsa, akajairika muMuslim." Ivo vanogona kunyange kutora peek yebvudzi rake-rakapenda-bvudzi pasi pekapu yake yekukwesha.

Uye Malak anoti anga aine mazana ezviitiko zvakanaka nemhuri. "Ndinoedza kurerutsa zvinhu uye kuita kuti vanamai vanzwe kusanetseka," anodaro. "Kana ndikaona kuti amai vanotya, ndinogona kuti," Saka chii chiri kuitika pano? Wazvimba here kana kuti gasi kana kuzvimbirwa? ’Vanoseka uye zvinopwanya chando.”

Malak anoti anogamuchira mazhinji mameseji epaFacebook kubva kuvarwere achimutenda nekuita kwavo ruzivo rwekubereka kuve rwakajeka. "Pandakasununguka mwana wangu wechigumi, ndakawana mvumo kubva kumhuri yekutumira mufananidzo wake neni pasocial media, uye zvakaita sekutapukira," anoyeuka. “Varwere vangu vekare pavakaona mufananidzo, vakatanga kutaura kuti vacheche vavo vaive nhamba yakaita sei! Zvakandidonhedza misodzi. ”

Kuchinja maonero ezvinoreva "Muslim"

Sekusimudzira sezvaari, Malak anobvuma kuti akambosangana nerusarura pabasa, zvese zvakananga uye zvisina kunangana. Chiitiko chaicho chakabuda chitsva muchikoro chekuyamwisa, apo iye aishanda pane dialysis centre.

Yakanga iri munzvimbo yekumaruwa yeGeorgia yakanga isina kunyanya kusiyana, uye aipfeka hijab yake pabasa. Anoyeuka varume vakati wandei vachitaura kuti vaisada muArabic anovachengeta.

“Mumwe muchinda akataura pachena kuti aisada kuti ndimuchengete nekuti ndiri muArabhu neMuslim. Akati ainzwa kusachengeteka uye akandiudza, 'Iwe hautomboziva.' ”

Malak akabatana nevamwe vake kuti ave nechokwadi chekuti aichengetwa zvakanaka pese paanenge ari panzvimbo iyi, asi maneja wake paakaona kuti haana kumbomuchengeta, akasangana naMalak.

"Akanditarisa akafa muziso uye akandiudza: 'Iwe uri mukoti anoshamisa. Ndinovimba nemi. Uye iwe wakatora mhiko muchikoro chekuyamwisa kuti unozochengeta varwere vese zvisinei. Ndine musana wako. '”

Kubva panguva iyoyo zvichienda mberi, Malak anotanga kuchengeta murume. "Akatanga kunyunyuta, asi ndaimuudza kuti aive ini kana kumirira kwenguva yakareba kuti mumwe mukoti avepo."

"Anga huff uye puff," anonyemwerera. Asi iye akaramba ari nyanzvi uye akagadzirisa mafungiro ake kusvikira chimwe chinhu chaisatarisirwa chikaitika. "Pakupedzisira, ndakava mukoti waanoda uye aingokumbira kuti ndimuchengete."

Sezvo hukama hwavo hwakawedzera, murume uyu akakumbira ruregerero kuna Malak, achitsanangura kuti aive akaudzwa zvisizvo. "Ndakamuudza kuti ndinonzwisisa uye kuti basa rangu kuratidza maAmerican divi rakanaka reAmerican Muslim."

Kuve amai vechiMuslim muAmerica

Malak haangove mukoti anobatsira amai vatsva kuunza vacheche vavo munyika. Iye zvakare ndiamai pachavo, vane vanakomana vatatu nevanasikana vaviri. Ivo vese vagari vekuAmerican vanozvarwa saiye, uye vese vari kurerwa muMuslim.

Mapatya ake vanakomana vari kuchikoro chesekondari, uye vanasikana vake vane makore gumi nemashanu uye gumi nemaviri, iye mwanakomana wake wedangwe ari kukoreji uye neHondo National Guard.

“Aida kujoina aine makore 17. Ndakarohwa nehana. Handinzwisise mauto uye zvese zvandaifunga ndezvekuti aienda kuhondo, ”anoyeuka kudaro. “Asi murume akasimba uye anodada nenyika ino seni. Ndinodada naye. ”

Kunyangwe Malak achisimudza vanasikana vake nemisimboti yeMuslim, anovasimudzawo kuti vagare vakasununguka kutaura nezvenyaya dzechikadzi uye nezvebonde. “Kubva vachiri vadiki, vakadzidziswa izwi remukadzi. Ndiri mukoti wevashandi nekuzvara, mushure mezvose! "

Iye anovasimudzawo kuti vazvigadzirire ivo pachavo, senge yekupfeka kana kusapfeka hijab. "Sevakadzi, tinofanirwa kodzero yekudzora zvinoitika nemiviri yedu." Anowedzera, "Handiiti vasikana vapfeke hijab. Ini ndinofunga iko kuzvipira, saka kana vakasarudza kuchipfeka, chimwe chinhu chavanofanira kuzvipira kupfeka. "Zviri nani kuti vamirire kuita sarudzo iyi kusvikira vakura."

Vakadzi vakasiyana, maonero akasiyana

Kwete chete kuti Malak ari kushanda achichinja maonero uye fungidziro semukoti naamai, ari kubatsirawo kubvarura tsika dzakakamurwa nedzimwe nzira. Semukadzi wechiMuslim anoshanda muhutano hwevakadzi, ari pachinzvimbo chakasarudzika, dzimwe nguva achibatsira vamwe vakadzi vechiMuslim kufamba nenzvimbo nyowani kana zvasvika pakurapwa.

“Pachivanhu chedu, nyaya dzevanhukadzi dzakaita semazuva ako nenhumbu, dzinoonekwa sevanhu vega uye hadzifanirwe kukurukurwa nevarume. Vamwe vakadzi vanosvika pakutaura nezvenyaya idzi nevarume vavo, ”anodaro, achirangarira imwe yezviitiko zvakawanda zvaakadaidzirwa kuzotaurirana nezvekutakura kwemukadzi anotaura chiArabic ari kusangana nematambudziko. "Vaive nemuturikiri wechirume aitaura naye parunhare, achimuudza kuti abudirire mwana, asi iye aisadaira.

"Ndainzwisisa kuzeza kwake," anodaro. “Akanyara kuti murume achange achimuudza chimwe chinhu nezve nhumbu yake. Saka ndakapinda kumeso kwake ndikamuudza kuti anofanira kusundira mwana panze izvozvi, kana kuti achafa. Akanzwisisa ndokutanga kumusundira panze zvakanaka. ”

Mwedzi mitatu gare gare, mukadzi wemukadzi wemukadzi wemukadzi akazvitakura akauya muchipatara achikumbira Malak. “Akaita basa rekunyepa asi akazodzoka, ndikazoendesa mwana wake. Kubatana kwakaita seizvi kune mubayiro. "

Kugadzira kubatana

Kunyangwe ari kuunza vana vachangoberekwa munyika, achidzidzisa vanasikana vake kugara zvakanaka mumiviri yavo, kana kushandura mafungiro mumwe murwere panguva, Malak anonyatso kuziva nezvekunetsekana - uye nemikana mikuru - yekuva mukoti wechiMuslim muAmerica .

"Nekunze, ini ndiri mukadzi wechiMuslim ndakapfeka hijab ... ndinofamba ndichienda munzvimbo ine ruzhinji, uye yakanyarara vakafa vese vakanditarisa," anodaro.

Kune rimwe divi, sevashandi uye mukoti wekutakura, Malak ari kutevera rake rekurota basa uye kubatana nevanhu panguva dzedzimwe nguva dzepedyo, dzinofadza. Uye zviri mune izvo nguva izvo zvaanoita chimwe chinhu chakakosha - anovaka mabhiriji.