Zvinhu gumi nemana Vakadzi vane makore ekuma50 Vanoti Vaizoita zvakasiyana

Zvemukati

• "Ini ndaizoongorora fundo yangu zvakanyanya"
• "Ndinozvivimba ini nematarenda angu zvakanyanya"
• "Ndainzwisisa zvandaida…"
• "Ndingapedza nguva yakawanda nemwana wangu"
• "Ndingadai ndakatamba zvakanyanya"
• "Ndingadai ndisina kuva nehanya nechitarisiko changu"
• "Ini ndaizowedzera nyasha kwandiri"
• "Ndingadai ndisinganzwi zvakadaro kune vandinoshandira"
• Huchenjeri hwakawanda uye nyaradzo zvinouya nenguva

Sezvo iwe paunenge uchikura, iwe unowana maonero kubva kune rinotarisa girazi rehupenyu hwako.

Chii chiri nezve kuchembera chinoita kuti vakadzi vafare sezvavanokura, kunyanya vari pakati pemakore makumi mashanu kusvika makumi manomwe?

Ongororo ichangobva kuitwa kubva kuAustralia, iyo yakatevera vakadzi kwemakore makumi maviri, inoratidza zvimwe zveizvi kune chokwadi chekuti vakadzi vakagamuchira yakawanda "ini" nguva pavaikura.

Uye neiyo "ini" nguva inouya kuzarurirwa kuzhinji kunogutsa.

Ndakataura nevakadzi gumi nemana vari muma50s nezvezvavaizoita zvakasiyana pavaive vadiki - dai vaiziva chete, zvavanoziva izvozvi:

“Ini ndaishuvira dai ndaipfeka maoko asina hembe ... ” - Kelly J.

“Ini ndaizoudza mudiki wangu kuti arege kutya kusurukirwa. Ndakaita sarudzo dzakawanda kwazvo kungova nechokwadi kuti handingavi ndisina mudiwa kwemasekondi gumi."- Barbara S.

“Ndingadai ndisina kutanga kuputa. Ndanga ndichifunga kuti kwakanaka - hakuna hutano. " - Jill S.

“Ndingadai ndakagamuchira mugamuchiri-ini-ndakafunga-ini-ndaive-pamusoro chinzvimbo ndichishandira seneta weU.S.. ” - Amy R.

“Ndinoshuva [ini] ndisina kubvumira kutya / kusaziva kwevamwe vanhu kundikanganisa zvakadzama zvekuti ndaizokanganisa zvido zvangu / zviroto kuti ndivafadze. Zvakatora ini makumi emakore kuti ndibvise iwo 'musikana akanaka' maitiro."- Kecia L.

"Ini ndaizoongorora fundo yangu zvakanyanya"

"Ndingadai ndakanyanya kufunga nezvekugona kunzwisisa kuverenga nekududzira kuchikoro chesekondari," anodaro Linda G., chiremba wemazino ari pakati pemakore ekuma50. "Ini ndoda kuverenga chimwe chinhu katatu, uye kazhinji ndinofanira kutora makirasi ehunyanzvi zvakare, apo ini ndisinganzwisise zvinhu zvacho."

Linda anonzwa kuti vabereki vake vaive vasina kutarisisa pakudzidza kwake, saka zvakadonha nekumuka.

“Ini ndaive mwana wechitatu. Saka, vabereki vangu vaindida asi vairegeredza. Handina chivimbo chekufungidzira zvekuita nevarwere vangu nekuti ndinonetseka kugadzira zvidimbu zvemashoko. "

Nekuda kweizvi, Linda anobata nekunetseka kwemukati.

“Ndinonzwa sekunge ndaifanira kushanda nesimba pane zvese zvandakawana. "Izvi zvakaita kuti ndiite zvakaomarara pakushandisa masimba angu nekuti ndiri kugara ndichiedza kuratidza kuvimbika kwangu."

"Ndinozvivimba ini nematarenda angu zvakanyanya"

Andrea J., munyori anotengesa zvakanyanya pakati pemakore ekuma50, anoti, "Ndinoona kuti zvandaive uye zvandakaita zvakanditungamira kuhupenyu hunogutsa, asi kana ndikachinja chero chinhu chingave kuvimba matarenda angu kure zera duku. ”

Andrea anonzwa kuti anga asingashiviriri zvakakwana nezvake.

“Ndinoshuva dai ndakakurumidza kuona kuti ndaigona kuzadzikisa chishuwo changu chekunyora mabhuku ndikaramba ndakabatirira pachiri ndikaramba ndichivandudza. Ndakanga ndisingachashiviriri kuti ndibudirire zvekuti ndakarega uye ndikachinja kosi kana budiriro isina kuuya nekukurumidza. "

"Ndainzwisisa zvandaida…"

Gena R., muridzi webvudzi pakati pemakore ekuma50 anonzwa kuti akatora nguva yakareba kuti azive kuti aive ani.

"Maitiro andinoda kutsanangudza mudiki kwandiri nekuzvienzanisa naJulia Roberts mufirimu iyo 'Runaway Muroora,' muchiitiko apo iye aisatomboziva madiro aaiita mazai ake… nekuti aifarira zvakadaro murume wake wazvino akafarira yake. ”

"Saiye, ndaida kuziva kuti ndaive ani ndisina murume, uye kuti ndaifarira sei mazai angu - zvisinei nekuti aifarira sei rake."

Gena anotenda kuti vanhu vaimufunga "musikana ari kuseri kwechigaro" anogara achifara uye anogona kugadzirisa matambudziko avo ese.

Asi iye achinja.

"Ini handichaite zvinhu zvandisingade kuita uye ndazvipa mvumo yekuti nditi 'kwete' ndozorora. Kana ndichida kugara ndichiona mafirimu eHallmark zuva rese ini ndinoita. "Ndinozvikomberedza nevanhu vandinoda kuva pedyo navo uye ndinogara kure nevanhu vanondishungurudza."

“Uye handichanzwi kunyara nekuda kwekukanganisa kwandakaita. Ivo chikamu chenyaya yangu uye zvakandiita munhu anonzwira tsitsi. "

"Ndingapedza nguva yakawanda nemwana wangu"

Stacy J. mugadziri ari pakati pemakore makumi mashanu anoti nguva iyoyo yanga isiri padivi pake.

“Ndinoshuva kuti dai ndakapedza nguva yakawanda ndichitamba nemwana wangu apo aive mudiki. "Ndakanga ndiri kuchikoro nguva yakazara uye ndichishanda uye ndichichengeta hanzvadzi yangu yairwara uye ndakabatikana kuva murombo."

Iye anoziva kuti vana vanokura nekukurumidza zvakadaro, asi haana kuzviziva ipapo.

"Ndinoshuva chaizvo dai ndakaisa zvinhu parutivi uye ndikava nemabiko emabiko etii rokuberekwa emhuka dzake dzakazara."

"Ndingadai ndakatamba zvakanyanya"

"Ndaigara ndichizvifunga uye ndakasarudza ndisati ndarova makumi maviri kuti ndisatambe," anodaro Laurel V., mumakore ake ekuma50. "Uye ini pandakagara padivi pamabiko, vamwe vanhu vaitaura uye vakatamira kumumhanzi."

Laurel anonzwa kuti aisafanira kuve akanetseka zvakadaro.

"Ndinoudza vana vangu, dai ndaigona kudzokera kumashure, ndaizotamba zvakanyanya, uye ndisina basa nezvinofungwa nevanhu… vangangodaro vasina kana kunditarisa."

"Ndingadai ndisina kuva nehanya nechitarisiko changu"

Rajean B., chipangamazano wePR mune ake ekutanga 50s haasisiri uber-yakatarisana nekutaridzika kwake.

“Mumakore makumi maviri nemakumi matatu, basa rangu semutauriri wekambani rakandiisa pamberi pekamera uye ndaiwanzopfuura girazi ndisina kugadzirisa vhudzi rangu, kutarisa mazino angu, kuzora lipstick. Ndakatadza kurara pamusoro penguva dzandakabatiswa chirebvu chechipiri ndichitaura kana kuseka. ”

Rajean aona izvo zvinonyanya kukosha zvinopfuura kunze kwekunze.

“Murume wangu neshamwari dzangu vanondigamuchira uye vanondida zvandiri kwete maonero andinoita chero nguva. Ndinofarira kutarisa runako rwangu rwomukati nesimba. ”

"Ini ndaizowedzera nyasha kwandiri"

"Ini ndaifema ndisati ndaita uye ndinzwisise kuti handifanire kuva nemafungiro pane zvese," anodaro Beth W., ane makore ekupedzisira makumi mashanu, aimboita basa rekumanikidza kwesangano rakakura rekudzidzisa.

“Kana ndikanzwa panjodzi yekusiiwa, kana kusanzwisiswa, ndaivhara pasi kana kurwira kunzwikwa. Zvainetsa zvekuti ndakapedzisira ndave kurwara, neshingi, izvo zvaindimanikidza kutarisana nekutya kwangu. ”

"Chandakadzidza ndechekuti ndinogona kuisa nyasha mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu nekungotora mweya, nekuzvimisikidza nekuisa tsoka dzangu pasi, saka zvinodzora adrenaline uye cortisol kumhanya kuburikidza nesystem yangu."

Beth anoti kuita izvi kwakaderedza mutambo, mhirizhonga, uye kupokana muhupenyu hwake uye kwakasimbisa hukama hwake.

"Ndingadai ndisinganzwi zvakadaro kune vandinoshandira"

Nina A., achisvika makore makumi mashanu mumwedzi mishoma anoti, "Ndakanga ndichiraswa nevanhu vandaishandira. "Handina kuzviziva panguva iyoyo, asi ndinoda kuti vanhu vadiki vanzwisise kuti vasaite zvikanganiso zvakafanana."

“Ndakadanana nemumwe purofesa akura pandaive kukoreji. Aive nezvakawanda zvekubhadhara zvekubata kutaura kumayunivhesiti epasi rose, uye ivo vakabhadhara kugara kwake, futi. Akandikoka kuti ndibatane naye parwendo runoshamisa kuenda kuBali, Java, China, Thailand. Asi ndaive nebasa, uye handina kukwanisa kuenda. "

"Imwe yenguva dzandakazvishandira kuva 'mushandi akanaka' ndipo pandakasiya basa kuti ndiende kuvhurwa kukuru kweRock neRoll Hall yeMukurumbira. Ndakapinda munyatwa zhinji kubasa kwangu. Asi fungidzira chii? "Dhipatimendi richiri kukwanisa kushanda."

Huchenjeri hwakawanda uye nyaradzo zvinouya nenguva

Pachave nenguva dzaunoda zvinopfuura kuraira kuti ukunde wega kurwisana. Dzimwe nguva, mhinduro ingori nguva - yakakwana nguva yekupfuura kurwa muma20s uye 30s ako saka iwe wakagadzira mettle yekuyera matambudziko anouya muma50s ako uye kupfuura.

Pamwe, shefu vane mukurumbira, Cat Cora, mumakore avo ekutanga makumi mashanu, anonyatsopfupikisa kurwira kwevechidiki uye huchenjeri hweiyo yekumashure maonero: Paunenge uchiri mudiki, hasha dzako uye chishuwo chekuve nazvo zvese zvinoita kusagadzikana, "anotiudza.

"Nekukura, ndakakwanisa kuve nekudzikama uye kugonesa kurunyararo munzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu hwangu."