Kugara Kwega Kwakaita Kuti Ushuve Hupenyu Hwakakura Shanduko, Asi Unofanira Kutevedzera Here?

Zvemukati

• Primed for Action
• Zviyese
• Tamba Mutongi uye Jury
• Usawa "Kusvika Hunyengeri"
• Funga Nezve Iyo Yakareba-Nguva
• Pekupedzisira, Funga Mutengo weKusaita
• Ongororo ye

Mikana ndeyekuti, izvozvi urikufungidzira kuti zvingave zvakanaka sei kutamira kuimba hombe ine musana wakanaka. Kana kurota pamusoro pekudonha basa rako kune chimwe chinhu chinogutsa. Kana kufunga kuti hukama hwako hunogona kushandisa kuvandudza. Nekuti kana paine chinhu chimwe chinoita kuti vanhu vade kufamba, chero kufamba, kuri kubatwa munzvimbo. Uye vakomana, vanhu vazhinji vakanamatira.

Kwegore rapfuura nehafu, mazuva ako angangove akave asingagumi, asinganetsi chiuno chekushanda, kubika, kuchenesa, uye kuchengeta vana vako kana zvipfuyo. Shanduko kosi inotanga kunzwa sechinhu chega chinogona kuponesa pfungwa dzako. Izvo zvine musoro wakakwana, anodaro Jacqueline K. Gollan, Ph.D., purofesa wepfungwa nesainzi yehunhu paFeinberg School of Medicine paNorthwestern University, anodzidza nezvekuita sarudzo. "Shanduko inokoka ruzivo muhupenyu hwedu uye inogona kubvisa kuneta," anodaro.

Saka vanhu vazhinji vakaita kumwe kudengenyeka kwenyika. Vanenge mamirioni mapfumbamwe vanhu vakatama mu2020, sekureva kweNational Association of Realtors. Makumi mashanu nemaviri muzana evashandi vari kufunga nezvekuchinja basa, uye 44 muzana vane hurongwa hwekuzviita, sekureva kwazvino. Fast Kambani-Harris sarudzo. Hukama huri kutanga uye kupera. Folks vari kutsvaga rudo (Dating.com's mushandisi chiitiko chiitiko chawedzera 88 muzana kubva denda ratanga), vachiita zvirongwa zvekuroora (jewelers nyika yese vanotaura kuti kutengesa kwezvibvumirano zvindori kuri kuwedzera), uye kuchidaidza kuti kunopera (67 muzana ye Vashandisi veDating.com vakati vakapfuura nekurambana gore rapfuura).

Iyi zvirokwazvo yanga iri nguva yekuverenga, anodaro Melody Wilding, purofesa wehunhu hwevanhu, murairidzi mukuru, uye munyori webhuku idzva Vimba Iwe pachako (Buy It, $ 34, amazon.com), uyo anoti 80 muzana yevatengi vake vari kuita shanduko muhupenyu hwavo. "Denda iri raita kuti vanhu vazhinji vabvunze, 'Ndiri kuita zvandiri kunyatsoda kuita uye kushandisa nguva yangu nenzira inogutsa here?'" Anodaro. "Chokutanga, tine nguva yakawanda yokufungisisa patinenge tiri kumba. Kupfuura izvozvo, kuipa kwemamiriro ezvinhu kwakaratidza kuti upenyu husina kusimba uye kuti nguva yedu ishoma. tsvaga zvimwe zvinoreva."

Primed for Action

Izvo zvakakosha kuti uzive kuti hadzisi dzese shanduko panguva ino dzakaitwa nesarudzo. COVID-19 ndiyo yaive yakanyanya kukanganisa. Vanhu vakarasikirwa nemabasa uye vadiwa. Dzvinyiriro dzemari dzakamanikidza vamwe kutama. Mamirioni evakadzi vakasiya vashandi kuti vachengete vana vavo panguva yekuvhara. Asi kune avo vane rombo rakanaka zvekuzvipira kuedza chimwe chinhu chakasiyana, chishuwo chekuita chakanyanya.

Pane chikonzero cheichoicho cheizvozvo, nyanzvi dzinoti: Kuramba takamira hakuna hunhu hwedu. "Kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti vanhu vane rusaruro pakuita, kunyangwe kana zvisiri izvo," anodaro Gollan. "Tinowanzo funga nezve zvatingaite kusimudzira hupenyu hwedu." Kuita danho kunova kuri nani pane kusaita chinhu zvachose, anodaro, kunyangwe kusaita dzimwe nguva iri sarudzo iri nani.

Dambudziko re COVID rakashandawo sekutanga kwekutangisa vanhu vaitofunga nezvazvo. "Kune matanho ekuchinja," anodaro Wilding. "Chekutanga kufungisisa - kana usiri kunyatsoda kuzviita. Zvino kunouya kufungisisa, kana wava kutanga kufunga zvakanyanya nezve shanduko. Ndinotenda kuti denda ndiro rakakonzera kushandura vanhu kubva kumatanho ekutanga kuenda uko vanga vakagadzirira uye vakazvipira kutora matanho. " (Yakabatana: Sei Kuzviparadzanisa Kunogona Kukanganisa Hutano Hwako Pfungwa - Izvo Zvirinani)

Izvo zvinogona kuve zvakanaka - uye zvakaipa. Kana zvaitwa nezvakanaka zvikonzero, shanduko inogona kukuita iwe kufara uye hutano. Inokuisa iwe munzvimbo iri nani uye zvakare "inoratidza zvaunokwanisa," anodaro Wilding. Icho hunyengeri kuri kuona kuti ndezvipi zvinofamba zvichabhadhara uye ndeapi ekudzokera kure nawo. "Tinowanzo funga kuti shanduko ichagadzirisa zvinhu nekugadzirisa matambudziko edu," anodaro Wilding. "Asi handizvo zvinogara zvakadaro." Heano maitiro ekuziva nguva yekutora leap.

Zviyese

Kuti uone kana shanduko yakakosha, tanga nekuisa zvayakanakira nezvayakaipira kuita shanduko wozoita zvakafanana nekusazviita, anodaro Gollan. "Kana iwe uri kufunga nezvekuchinja mabasa, mutemo wakareruka wechigunwe wekusarudza kana nguva yacho iri yakakodzera apo huwandu hwemazuva akaipa hwakapfuura huwandu hweakanaka," anodaro Wilding.

Chimwe chiratidzo: Kana iwe waedza kugadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu - pamwe iwe wakataura nemaneja wako kana kuzvipira kutora mitezo mitsva yekuvandudza hunyanzvi hwako - asi hauna kwawakawana. "Kana usisiri kukura muchikamu chako uye pasina mukana chaiwo wekudaro, inguva yakanaka yekuchinja," anodaro Wilding.

Tamba Mutongi uye Jury

Izvi zvinonyanya kubatsira pasarudzo hombe. Ngatiti iwe urikufunga zvekuzvidzura wega uye kuenda kune inodziya, inodziya chikamu chenyika. Usati waita chinhu chakanyanya kudaro, "endesa mutongo kudare," anodaro Gollan. Tora data rakawanda sezvaunokwanisa nezve mafambiro - mutengo weimba munzvimbo nyowani, mukana webasa ipapo, mhando dzemikana yauchawana yekusangana nevanhu uye kuita shamwari nyowani - wozoongorora mativi ese equation, sokunge muri mutongi, muchiedza kuzvitonga. Izvi zvinokupa iwe izere pikicha uye nekukubatsira iwe kuona mamiriro acho kubva kumativi ese, anodaro. (Iwe uchazoda kufamba nenzira imwecheteyo kana iwe ukafunga kujoina #VanLife kufamba.)

Usawa "Kusvika Hunyengeri"

Kuchinja mamiriro ezvinhu hakusi kuzoita zvemashiripiti kuvandudza hupenyu hwako. "Vanhu vanofunga kana vangosvika pane chimwe chinhu chitsva [icho nyanzvi dzinodaidza kuti arrival fallacy], ivo vanobva vangofara semugumisiro. Asi ndiko kufunga kwekuda," anodaro Wilding. "Unogona kunge uri kuedza kudzivirira matambudziko auchazosangana nawo pane imwe nguva." Pane kudaro, shandira mukuvandudza hunyanzvi hwaunoda kugadzirisa iyo nyaya, anodaro. “Iva nechokwadi chekuti uri kumhanyira mukana pane kutiza dambudziko,” anodaro. (Yakabatana: Maitiro Ekushandura Hupenyu Hwako Kuti Uve Nani - Pasina Kuvhunduka Nezvazvo)

Funga Nezve Iyo Yakareba-Nguva

Chokwadi, motokari itsva iyoyo inonzwika zvakanaka nhasi. Asi ko zvakadiniko kwemwedzi mitanhatu kubva zvino, apo kubhadhara uye zvikwereti zveinishuwarenzi zviri kuwanda? Kana kuti pamwe hauzopedzi uchiityaira sezvawaifunga kuti uchaita. Usati waita shanduko, zvibvunze kuti: "Chii chichaitika nhanho nhatu pasi pemutsara? Ini ndakagadzirira izvi?" anodaro Gollan.(Inoenderana: Matanho maviri aunofanirwa kutora kana iwe uchida kuita hukuru hupenyu shanduko)

Pekupedzisira, Funga Mutengo weKusaita

Kusaita shanduko zvakare kunotakura njodzi, anodaro Wilding. Unogona kufunga: Ini ndatoisa nguva yakawandisa pabasa iri kana hukama uhu, saka handikwanise kuchinjisa zvinhu izvozvi.

"Asi mutengo wekugara panzvimbo unogona kunge uri mufaro wako nekugara zvakanaka. Uye iyo ndiyo mari inongonyanya kukwirira, "anodaro. "Nyatsofunga kuburikidza nezvisingachaiti kufamba zvinorevei kwauri."

Ongororo ye