Zvinorevei Chaizvo Kuita Bonde Zvakanaka?

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Izwi rekuti "kurara pabonde" ringaite senge rinosanganisira kunzwa 100-muzana kugadzikana uye kuvimba nehunhu hwako hwepabonde uye zvaunofarira, asi Janielle Bryan, MPH, murapi weveruzhinji murapi uye mudzidzisi wezvebonde, anoti icho chingori chikamu cheiyo equation.

Hongu, zvakakosha zvakanyanya kukudziridza hukama hwakanaka, hune rudo, husina nyadzi nemuviri wako uye hutano hwako (kusanganisira, zveshuwa, nhengo dzako dzebonde) uye kutora nguva yekudzidza zvaunoda. Asi "pandinofunga nezvemunhu ari kuita bonde zvakanaka, hazvingori 'ini ndinogumbatira bonde ini," anodaro Bryan. "Zvakanaka - ndiro danho rekutanga.Asi zvakare, hauise nyadzi dzako dzebonde kune vamwe vanhu? Nekuti izvo zvakakoshawo kuita bonde. Hakusi kuti unozviona sei iwe, asiwo maonero aunoita vamwe nehunhu hwavo hwepabonde."

Taura zvakapusa, kurara pabonde kuve nemaonero akanaka nezvebonde, uye kunzwa wakasununguka nezvako zvese hunhu hwepabonde uye hunhu hwevamwe, maererano neInternational Society for Sexual Medicine.

Izvo zvese ndezve kubvumidza munhu wese kuti ave zvake "zvebonde" (nemvumo, hongu), kukudziridza hunhu hwavo hwepabonde uye vagare vakasununguka nazvo, uye kuita chero chavanoda, kunyangwe kuve nevashoma vevakaroora kana kusava neumwe. , anodaro Bryan. Zvinosanganisirawo kuziva kuti mafaro anotaridzika akasiyana kune wese munhu, uye kunyangwe chiitiko chinounza munhu mumwechete mafaro chisingaite sechikufadza, zvakanaka, anowedzera. (Zvakabatana: Maitiro Ekuita Kana Mumwe Wako Akasakura Pauri)

Tichifunga nezvenyaya dzekunyadziswa pabonde idzo nzanga dzakaburutsira vanhu vazhinji, kuita bonde hakuna kunaka sezvazvinonzwika. Izvo zvakati, zviripo; kune zvakwakanakira kuve wakasununguka kukurukura uye kunzwa nezvebonde uye mafaro, anodaro Bryan. "Mamiriro ekurara pabonde anotendera vanhu kurarama hupenyu hwechokwadi," anotsanangura. "Kana tikakwanisa kuita hurukuro iyoyo, ndinogona kuziva mberi kuti zvandinoda nezvamunoda zvingasaenderana, saka handingatambise nguva yangu nekubata nemunhu asingaenderane ... iwe kuti ude iwe pachako izvo zvinokutendera kuti uwirirane nevanhu vanoda zvaunoda kana vanoda kuongorora newe nenzira iyoyo." (Related: 10 Nzira dzekusimudzira Hupenyu Hwako hwepabonde)

Saka, ungawana sei zano rekuti une hutano hwepabonde sei? Tora iyi mibvunzo kuti uone kana iwe uri bonde positivity superstar kana uine imwe nzvimbo yekuvandudza, wobva watora matipi kubva kuna Bryan nezve maitiro ekuwedzera kuita bonde.

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