Izvo Zvakaipa Chaizvoizvo KuGoogle Yako YeApp Match Pamberi Zuva?

Zvemukati

• Ehezve, Hapachina Yepasirese Mhinduro
• Chakanakira Kutsvaga Nekukurumidza: Kuchengetedzeka
• Iyo Inogona Kubatsira Iwe Kucherekedza Chero Kupenya Kusapindirana
• Asi Kune Zero Kubatsirwa kune Kupfuura-Kupa mhosva
• Rangarira: Kutsvaga kwako hakuzotaure Nyaya Yese
• Ongororo ye

Usati wasangana nemumwe munhu kubva kuapplication yekufambidzana, iwe unoGoogle iyo bejesus mupenyu kubva mavari? Kana kutarisa mabatiro avanoita munzanga, kuchema chero mutambo une yavo yakavanzika? Kana hongu, iwe uri muhuwandu. Zvinoenderana neongororo yakaitwa neStatista, makumi mashanu neshanu muzana evanhu vanotora zita remachisi avo kubhawa yekutsvaga vasati vasangana neIRL, ukuwo makumi matanhatu muzana vanopepeta mamechi avo ezvekudyidzana. Zvikamu makumi maviri nezvitatu kubva muzana chete zvevanhu vakaongororwa vanoti havaite zvechitsotsi.

Asi sekuputika, coconut mafuta lube, uye marasha kuchenesa zvakaratidza, nekuda kwekuti chimwe chinhu chakajairika hazviite kuti chive chakanaka. Kana iwe uri kushamisika kuti kana kwete iwe unofanirwa kutevedzera ruzhinji mune iyi kesi, wauya kurudyi nzvimbo. Pazasi, vatatu vehukama nyanzvi vanotaura nezvezvakanaka nezvayakaipira zvekudzidza nezve zuva rako kuburikidza ne URL usati wasangana navo IRL.

Ehezve, Hapachina Yepasirese Mhinduro

Sezvo nevazhinji bonde uye kufambidzana conundrums, mhinduro kune "Ndinofanira Google mutambo wangu?" haasi wepasi rose hongu kana kwete. Hazvina kururama kutaura kuti Googling inogara yakaipa kana kugara yakanaka, anodaro Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, director uye murapi wepabonde kuGender & Sexuality Therapy Center muNYC. “Chakakosha apa ishungu dzako,” vanodaro. Ndeupi manzwiro ari kukutuma iwe kubha yako yekutsvaga: Icho kutya uye kusahadzika? Kuda kuziva uye nosiness? Kufara uye jitters?

Kuziva kuti chii chauri kuongorora kana kutsvaga usati watanga kutsvaga kwakakosha, anodaro nyanzvi yezveutano hwepfungwa Jor-El Caraballo M.Ed., nyanzvi yehukama uye mugadziri pamwe naye weViva Wellness. Nenzira iyoyo iwe unozoziva kana iwe wawana zvauri kutsvaga, anodaro. (Uye iwe unogona kudzivirira kuenda pakadzika kwakadzika kana uchinge waiwana.)

Chakanakira Kutsvaga Nekukurumidza: Kuchengetedzeka

"Kufambidzana nepamhepo kwakura zvakanyanya, uye sezvazvakaita, ndizvo zvakaitawo nhamba yevabati vehove vanogona kuva nenjodzi," anodaro Megan Harrison, murapi wehukama muTampa Bay uye muvambi weCouples Candy. (Vanenge zviuru gumi nezvisere vanhu vakawirwa ne "kubiridzirwa kwerudo" muna 2018, sekureva kweFBI.) Googling inogona kukubatsira kuti udzivise imwe yeava macatifisher nekukubatsira kuona kuti mumwe munhu ndiye wavanoti ndiye. Semuenzaniso, kana yavo nhabvu roster ikakwira, ivo chaizvo vari vepakati-vepakati timu yavo yemuno, uye kana pepanhau repanzvimbo clip nezve yavo remonade bhizinesi bops kumusoro, ivo chaizvo vanoita muzvinabhizimusi.

Nepo aya ekuongorora anogona kukubatsira kuwana runyararo rwepfungwa, Caraballo anokukurudzira kuti utarise mukati uye uongorore kana uine chikonzero chekufungira munhu uyu. "Pane chimwe chinhu chauri kunetsekana nacho here? Kana zvakadaro, zvaunoverenga painternet zvichaita here chaizvo "batsira kunyaradza tsinga dzako?" Kana paine chimwe chinhu kunyanya chauri kunetsekana nacho, "vimba nehunhu hwako," anodaro Kahn. "Usabvuma kusangana nemunhu kunze kwekunge uine chokwadi chekuti ivo ndivanoti iva, uye unonzwa wakasununguka kuzviita. "

Ipfungwa yakanaka kubvunza mumwe munhu wawakasangana naye pamhepo kuti agovane yavo Snap kana Instagram mubato newe, kuti iwe uwane iko kuvimbiswa kwekutanga, anodaro Caraballo. Izwi rakakosha apa: bvunza. Panzvimbo pekutamba mutikitivha, iwe wakananga kumusoro kubvunza mumwe munhu maoko avo.

"Unogona kukumbira mumwe munhu kuti ataure nekukurumidza vhidhiyo usati wabvuma kusangana mumunhu," anodaro. "Izvi zvinokutendera kuti uite vibe cheki, uye zvakare zvinopa imwe yakananga yekuona simbiso yekuti munhu wacho ari sei, uye ndiani, ivo pakutanga vakazvimiririra kuva." (Ona: Ndakaenda Pamazuva Ekutanga Via Vhidhiyo Yekutaura Panguva yeCOVID-19 Quarantine - Heino Maitiro Akaita)

Uye zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti hapana nzira yekuvimbisa kuchengeteka pazuva. Kutanga, vanhu vazhinji vepaInternet vakanyatsorongedzwa kuratidzira mufananidzo, "saka kupururudza kuburikidza nevezvenhau haisiyo nzira chaiyo yekuziva munhu kana hunhu hwake," anodaro Harrison.

Zvekuchengetedza kwako, zvakare zano rakanaka kupa shamwari dzinopfuura mbiri (dzemuno) uye nenhengo dzemhuri mafambiro ezuva rako, pamwe nekugovana nzvimbo yako nemumwe munhu pafoni yako, usati wasangana nemutambo wepamhepo. (Yakabatana: 5 Zvinhu Zvese Munhu wese Anofanirwa Kuziva Nezve Bonde uye Kudanana, Zvinoenderana nehukama Therapist)

Iyo Inogona Kubatsira Iwe Kucherekedza Chero Kupenya Kusapindirana

"Kashoma kekutsvagisa pamhepo kunogona kubatsira kupa ruzivo nezvehunhu hwemunhu kana maonero ezvematongerwo enyika nechitendero," anodaro Harrison. Unogona kuda kunzwa kuti vane hunhu hwausingabvumirani nazvo here, anodaro - kunyanya muchiitiko chavasingape ruzivo rwakawanda pahuwandu hwavo.

Semuenzaniso, pamwe iwe unongofambidzana nevanhu vanovhota bhuruu uye mutambo wako wakapfeka "Make America Great Again" ngowani mumifananidzo yavo yese yeFacebook. Kana, wakadzidza kuti vakazvipira kuchechi-vanoenda kubva ku Instagram, kana iwe usinga tende Mwari zvachose. Kudzidza zvinhu izvi pamberi peiyo IRL hang kunogona kubatsira mukuti ivo vanokuponesa kubva mukusangana nemunhu wausingazombofambidzana naye.

Izvo zvakati, kune nzira dzekugadzira ruzivo urwu pasina bhari yekutsvaga. Sei? Kukurukurirana! Zvakakwana kubvunza mutambo wako kuti hukama hwavo hwezvematongerwo enyika uye maonero enyika ndeapi musati masangana. Unogona semuenzaniso kuti, "Tisati taita zvirongwa zvekusangana isu pachedu, unonetseka here ndikakubvunza kuti ndiani wawakavhotera musarudzo dzapfuura? Ndakadzidza kuti ndinonyatsoenderana nevanhu vanove veDemocratic." Kana kuti, "Handizive kuunza izvi zvisina kujairika, asi ini ndanga ndichida kukuzivisa iwe kuti ini ndiri pro-sarudzo. Ungafunga here kugovana maonero ako pachako pamusoro wenyaya?" (Inoenderana: Nyaya yekuve Pamberi Nezve Zvepabonde Pazuva Rekutanga)

Sokutaura kunoita Caraballo, "Kufambidzana kunongoreva kudzidza zvakawanda nezvemumwe munhu uye kuita kuti uzivikanwe. Kubvunza mibvunzo uye kuda kuziva chimwe chikamu chesimba."

Asi Kune Zero Kubatsirwa kune Kupfuura-Kupa mhosva

Nepo mupumburu mudiki uchikwanisa kukurudzira, "inogona kunge ichityisa kana ukachera wakadzika zvakadzika," anodaro Harrison. "Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchiyeuchidza vangangodaro mukwikwidzi kunzvimbo dzakapfuura dzezororo kana mazita eshamwari dzavo dzese, zvino ndicho chiratidzo chekuti pamwe waenda zvakanyanya," anodaro. (Kana iwe urikungoita kuti utsungirire pre-date nerve, funga imwe yeaya ekutanga-zuva kufungisisa akagadzirwa neHeadspace uye Hinge panzvimbo.)

Kudzidza zvakawandisa nezve mumwe munhu usati wasangana ne IRL zvakare kunotorera iwe mukana wekuti vazvizivise ivo kwauri. Kwete izvozvo chete, asi iwe unogona zvakare kufukidza zvinoreva, fungidziro, uye rondedzero pane zvaunodzidza izvo zvingave kana zvisiri izvo, anodaro Kahn. "Uye izvo zvisirizvo fungidziro dzinogona kukanganisa maitiro aunofunga, kunzwa nezvawo, uye kutaura kune munhu," vanodaro. Mune mamwe mazwi, iwe unogona kupedzisira jongwe-richizvidzivirira iwe neako wega fungidziro!

Kubva pane zvakaitika kwandiri, ndinoziva kudzika kwakadzika kunogona zvakare kutungamira kune kusakosha (uye kunetsa) simba rine simba mune iro munhu anoziva nzira zvakawanda nezvemumwe munhu pane zvinopesana. Pane imwe nguva, ndakaenda kune mumwe munhu aiita sekunge vaindiziva nekuti vaizoverenga rondedzero yemunhu wekutanga (kana mashanu) andakanyora. Sezvo ndakanga ndisina kupiwa mukana wokudzidza mashoko akafanana nezvavo, ndakanzwa kuvhiringidzika zvikuru ndikaguma ndadimbura zuva racho.

Uyezve, haugone kunyatso kuburitsa zvakanangana neizvo zvawakadzidza kuburikidza nekutsvaga kwako. "Kuunza chimwe chinhu kuzuva rako rawakawana online inogona kunge iri nyaya inobata," anodaro Caraballo. Kana iwe wakagovana mapepa ako epamhepo saka unogona kungotaura zvawaona uye kubvunza nezvazvo, anodaro. Asi kune ruzivo rwakawanwa nemamwe masosi (semuenzaniso kutsvaga kweGoogle, LinkedIn lurk, kana Venmo track) inogona kuve yakaoma. "Kubvunza mumwe munhu nezvechimwe chinhu chawakawana [mukutsvaga kwako] kunogona kuita kuti vanzwe kudzivirirwa kana kunyanya kutya," anodaro. Zvakanaka! (Yakabatana: Nei Kushushikana Kwako Dambudziko Richiita Zvekufambidzana PaInternet Saka Damn Hard)

Rangarira: Kutsvaga kwako hakuzotaure Nyaya Yese

Kunze kwekunge iwe ukadzidza chimwe chinhu chinoita kuti usave nechokwadi kuchengeteka kwako, "zvakakosha kutora chaunowana nechibage chemunyu," anodaro Harrison. "Mufananidzo kana tweet inongotaura chikamu chenyaya, uye unopotsa chidimbu chikuru chepuzzle."

Zano rake: Chero bedzi iwe uine gumbo rakanaka pamunhu, "unofanira kubvumidza munhu mukana wekuita pfungwa yake yekutanga mumunhu nekuti iwe unowana zano riri nani rekuti ndiani munhu ari mumunhu." (Ona Zvakawanda: Nzira 5 dzinoshamisa dzeSocial Media Inogona Kubatsira Hukama Hwako)

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