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Kuzvitarisira kuri pa radar yemunhu wese, inova nhau yakanaka kune yedu yakashanda zvakanyanya, tekinoroji-inobatikana pfungwa. Maceleb akaita saJennifer Aniston, Lucy Hale, naAyesha Curry vakataura pamusoro pekuti kuzvitarisira kunovabatsira sei kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo vachiramba vakapusa. (Misoro kumusoro: Runhare-hupenyu huremu chinhu, uye pamwe hauna.)

Chikamu chikuru chekuzvitarisira kuziva miganhu yako uye kunzwisisa kana yave nguva yekugara kunze kwehurongwa hwekushamwaridzana uchifarira kugara mukati. Iyi pfungwa yave yakakurumbira, chaizvoizvo, kuti kune nharaunda yose yepaIndaneti yakatsaurirwa kwairi, inonzi Girls ' Night In Club, iyo inotumira tsamba yevhiki nevhiki yezvinhu zvese zvakanaka zvekuita, kuverenga, uye kuona kana iwe uchigara mukati. Ivo zvakare vanoronga IRL mabhuku emabhuku enhengo dzemaguta gumi kutenderera pasirese. Iri boka parizvino rine nhengo zviuru zana pakati pevanyori vetsamba yavo nevateveri venhau venhau. (Vanopfuura hafu yevakadzi vemireniyumu vakaita kuzvitarisira kwavo kweGore Idzva sarudzo ye2018.)

"Ini ndakatanga Husiku hweVasikana nekuti nekuti pandakanga ndapedza makore angu ekupedzisira makumi maviri, ndakazviwana ndichibuda zvishoma uye ndichikoka shamwari dzangu manheru anowirirana zvakanyanya, kungave kwekunwa uye bhaisikopo, kana kungotandara uye kutaura , "anodaro GNI muvambi Alisha Ramos.

Kubva pakutanga, aida kuti kirabhu ipe chimwe chinhu chakati siyanei nechavo nzira dzekuzvichengeta. "Kune kutarisisa kwakawanda pazvinhu zvemidziyo yekuzvichengeta (semabhomba ekugezesa, kuchengetwa kweganda, nezvimwewo), zvinova zvinhu zvese zvandinoda, asi ndakaona kushaikwa kwekutarisa mukuvandudza kubatana kwakabatana uye hukama. Zvemagariro uye hutano hwepfungwa hunofanira kuverenga zvakangofanana nehutano hwemuviri. " Mune mamwe mazwi, GNI iri nezve zvese zvakajairwa zvinhu zvaunofunga kana iwe uchifunga nezvekuzvichengeta wega * kuwedzera * kukudziridza pfungwa ine nharaunda.

Nyanzvi dzehutano hwepfungwa dzakakwira: "Kugara mukati kunogona kupa rubatsiro rwakakura pakurapa," anodaro Dayna M. Kurtz, ane rezinesi rezvemagariro uye director weAna Keefe Women's Center ku Training Institute for Mental Health.

"Kusarudza kuva wega kunogona kupa mukana wekuti utarise pfungwa dzako mukati, kuti uwanezve simba mumuviri uye nemweya, uye, pakupedzisira, uwane mufaro mukuru uye kugutsikana paunobuda zvekare," anodaro Kurtz. "Ndinokurudzira vakadzi kuti vavhare mazuva mashoma ekupera kwevhiki kana manheru pamwedzi kuitira 'kufambidzana,' sechikamu chemaitiro ekugadzirisa hutano."

Mabhenefiti ndeechokwadi: "Nguva yega yakakosha kwandiri; ndiyo nzira yandinozorodza nekuwanazve simba," anodaro Khalilah, 35, murapi anogara muNew Jersey. "Mushure mezvo, ndinonzwa ndavandudzwa uye ndisinganyanyi kutsamwa, ndinogona kugadzirisa matambudziko zviri nani, uye ndinonyanya kufadza kuva pedyo."

"Sezvo ndakura, ndakaona kuti kutya kurasikirwa hakuchina kukosha muhupenyu hwangu sezvazvaimboita," anodaro Dontaira, 32, gurukota rekutaurirana riri kuFlorida. "Zvakakosha kwandiri ndezvekuchaja nekugadzirisa zvekare. Izvi zvinosanganisira kuve pamba kuti ndinakirwe nezvinhu zvakapusa, sekuzvinyima-kutarisa show yangu yandinofarira pasina kukanganiswa, kugeza yekuzorora, kana kuita yakashata, yechokwadi hurukuro yefoni izere nekuseka shamwari dzandisina kutaura nadzo."

"Ndakatambura neFOMO kudzamara ndaona kuti kuenda husiku hwese kwaisabatsira hutano hwangu hwepanyama kana hwepfungwa," anodaro Brianna, 23, wezvemagariro enhau anogara muColorado. "Zvino, ndinonzwa sekunge ndiri mumwe wevagari vashoma veguta avo husiku hwakawanda vanosarudza kugara pamba pane kutora chikamu mukukambaira bhawa. Panzvimbo pekumhanyisa chinwiwa chinotevera, ndiri kumhanya kuti ndipedze zviratidziro zveNetflix, kubika kudya kwemanheru, kuita yoga, uye apo neapo ndichiedza mask kumeso matsva." Kunyange achiri kusarudza kubuda dzimwe nguva, anonzwa mararamiro ake ari maitiro akaenzana izvozvi. "Pandakatanga kusarudza 'ini' pane kuti 'isu,' ndakawana kuzorora uye ndakaona kuti ndinoda kurarama hupenyu hwangu nemaonero angu, pane kudzorwa neFOMO."

Uye kunyangwe vakadzi vazhinji vakasarudza "husiku" maitiro anosanganisira kushandisa nguva vari vega, Ramos anofarira kumuchengeta-kuzvitarisira pasocial, zvichiratidza zvechokwadi unokwanisa uve nezvakanakisa zvepasi rose. "Nzira yangu yandinoda kupedza husiku ndeyekugadzira chikafu chakabikwa pamba, kukoka shamwari, uye kuona chimwe chinhu paNetflix pamwe chete pamusoro pemabiko. Ini ndinosarudza kugara mukati mehusiku apo pandinoziva kuti ndinoda nguva yekumutsiridza kubva kune chaicho chakabatikana kana svondo rinomhanya-mhanya. Hapana chinokunda kupfeka bhurugwa rejuzi nekumwa rosé neChishanu manheru. "

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