California Yave Nyika Yekutanga Kuita 'Kuba' Kusiri pamutemo

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"Kubira," kana chiito chekubvisa kondomu muchivande mushure mekunge kuchengetedzwa kwabvumirana, kwave kuri kunetsa kwemakore. Asi ikozvino, California iri kuita chiito chisiri pamutemo.

Muna Gumiguru 2021, California yakava nyika yekutanga kurambidza "kuba," Gavhuna Gavin Newson achisaina bhiri iri kuita mutemo. Bhiri rinowedzera tsananguro yenyika yebhatiri repabonde saka rinosanganisira tsika iyi, sekureva Iyo Sacramento Nyuchi, uye inobvumidza vanotambudzwa kuti vatevere kumatare edzimhosva ekukuvara. "Nekupasisa bhiri iri, tiri kusimbisa kukosha kwemvumo," yakanyora hofisi yaGov Newsom muna Gumiguru 2021.

Assemblywoman Cristina Garcia, uyo akabatsira kunyora bhiri iri, akataurawo naro muna Gumiguru 2021 chirevo. “Ndakatanga kugadzirisa nyaya ye ‘kuba’ kubva muna 2017 uye ndinofara kuti pava nemhosva kune vanenge vapara mhosva iyi. Garcia, sekureva kwa Iyo Sacramento Nyuchi.

Stealthing yanga yave chikamu chenhaurirano yenyika yekubatwa chibharo mushure mekunge apedza kudzidza kuYale Law School, Alexandra Brodsky, akaburitsa chidzidzo muna Kubvumbi 2017 achitsanangura kuti varume mune mamwe mapoka epamhepo vanotengeserana sei matipi ekuti vanganyengedza mumwe wavo kuti asashandise dziviriro. Izvi zvaisanganisira zvinhu sekubata kondomu rakaputswa kana kushandisa dzimwe nzvimbo dzebonde kuitira kuti mukadzi asaone murume achibvisa kondomu, zvese kubhengi nepfungwa yekuti aisazoziva zvaitika kusvika nguva dzaenda. Zvikurukuru, varume ava vanonzwa sechishuwo chavo chekuenda bareback chinoshuvira kodzero yemukadzi kuti asaite pamuviri kana kuti asabatwa nechirwere chepabonde. (PSA: Ngozi yezvirwere zvepabonde yakakwirira kupfuura zvaunofunga.)

Izvi hazvisi kungoitika mumapoka mashoma asinganzwisisike ezven'anga. Brodsky akawana kuti vazhinji veshamwari dzake dzechikadzi uye vaaizivana navo vaive nenyaya dzakafanana. Kubva ipapo, kutsvagisa kwakaburitswa kunosimbisa zvaakawana zvakawanikwa. Imwe ongororo ye2019 yevarume makumi matanhatu nevatanhatu (vane makore makumi maviri nemasere kusvika makumi matatu ekuberekwa) muPacific Northwest vakaona kuti gumi muzana vavo vaive vanyura kubva pazera remakore gumi nemana, paavhareji yenguva 3.62. Kumwe kuongorora kwe2019 kwevakadzi makumi mashanu nemakumi mashanu (vane makore makumi maviri nerimwe kusvika pamakumi matatu) vakaona kuti gumi nevaviri muzana vavo vaive nemurume wekurara naye vachiita zvekubira. Chidzidzo chimwe chete ichocho chakawanawo kuti inoda kusvika hafu yevakadzi vakashuma mudiwa anoramba kushandisa kondomu nenzira yekumanikidza (nechisimba kana kutyisidzira); anokwana 87 muzana akataura mumwe wake achiramba kushandisa kondomu nenzira isiri yekumanikidza.

Nepo vakadzi Brodsky vakataura naye vakashuma kunzwa kusagadzikana uye kugumbuka, vazhinji vakanga vasina chokwadi kana kuba "kuchiverengwa" sekubatwa chibharo.

Zvakanaka, zvinoita. Kana mukadzi akabvuma kuita bonde nekondomu, kubvisa akati kondomu pasina mvumo yake zvinoreva kuti bonde harichabvumirwi. Akabvuma kuita bonde pasi pemitemo yekondomu. Shandura mazwi iwayo, uye iwe unoshandura kuda kwake kuenderera mberi nechiito. (Ona: Chii Chibvumirano, Chaizvoizvo?)

Hatigone kusimbisa izvi zvakakwana: Kutaura "hongu" kuita bonde hazvireve kuti iwe unobva wabvuma kune yega bonde kuita ungafungidzira. Uye hazvireve kuti mumwe munhu anogona kushandura mazwi, sekubvisa kondomu, pasina kunaka kwako.

Uye izvo zvekuti varume vacho vari kuzviita "nekunyangira" zvinoratidza kuti ivo ziva hazvina kunaka. Zvikasadaro, wadii kungo tarisa-mberi nezvazvo? Zano: Nekuti kuve nesimba pamusoro pemukadzi chikamu chezvinoita kuti "kubira" kukwezve kune vamwe varume. (Yakabatana: Chii Chinotyisa Masculinity, uye Nei Chichikuvadza Zvakanyanya?)

Sezvineiwo, muna 2017, vamiriri vemitemo vakatanga kutora matanho. Muna Chivabvu 2017, Wisconsin, New York, neCalifornia vese vakaunza zvikwereti zvaizorambidza kubira - asi zvakatora kusvika Gumiguru 2021 kuti bhiri reCalifornia riitwe mutemo, uye mabhiri eNew York neWisconsin haasati apasiswa.

"Kubviswa kwekondomu kusingabvumirwe kunofanirwa kuzivikanwa sekutyora kuvimba uye chiremera," Mumiriri Carolyn Maloney (New York) akadaro mukutaura panguva iyoyo. "Ndiri kutya kuti isu tinotofanira kunge tichiita hurukuro iyi, kuti munhu wekurara naye angatyora chivimbo nemvumo zvemumwe wake seizvi. Kubira kubata chibharo."

Kunyange zvichiratidzika kuti US ine imwe nzira yekuenda nayo kuba kusati kwarambidzwa munyika yose, nyika dzakaita seGermany, New Zealand, neUK dzakatoona kuba senzira yekushungurudza pabonde, sekureva. BBC. Pano tarisira kutonga kweCalifornia kunoisa muenzaniso kune mamwe matunhu eU.S.

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