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Iwe unoziva kuti kuparadzana kunogona kukanganisa uremu hwako-zvingave zviri nani (yakawanda nguva yejimu!) kana zvakanyanya (oh hai, Ben & Jerry's). Asi iwe waiziva here kuti nyaya dzehukama dzinogona kukonzera kuwedzera uremu kunyangwe iwe uri muhukama hwakazvipira? (Dzidza nezve dzimwe nzira dzisinganzwisisike muviri wako unoita nekushushikana.)

Kwemakore mana, vatsvakurudzi vepaYunivhesiti yeMichigan vakatevera vanopfuura zviuru zviviri zvevanhu vakaroorana vane varume nevakadzi vakanga vari pamwe chete kweavhareji yemakore makumi matatu nemana uye vakaita kuti vanyore kutenderera kwechiuno chavo, kunaka kwewanano yakaipa, nhanho yekushushikana, nezvimwe. Vakaona kuti murume wacho paainyanya kunetseka nezvemamiriro ehukama hwake, aibva awedzera kurema uye mudzimai wake akawedzera-kusvika masendimita mana muzviuno zvavo munguva yefundo. (Weirdly zvakakwana, apo vakadzi vaive zvishoma kunyunyuta kwehukama, varume vacho vainyanya kukoshesa. Vatsvagiri vanofunga kuti izvi zvinogona kunge zviri nekuti zvinoreva kuti mukadzi haana hanya.)

"Muchato une simba guru pahutano," munyori anotungamirira Kira Birditt, Ph.D., purofesa anotsvakurudza paYunivhesiti yeMichigan Institute for Social Research akadaro mupepanhau. "Kushushikana kunoitika kune vanobatsirana, uye kwete kushushikana kwemunhu, kwaive kwakabatana nekuwedzera chiuno chakakomberedza. Izvi zvinoita zvekushushikana kwakatonyanya kusimba muhukama hwehukama."

Uye usafunga kuti rudo rwako ruduku runokudzivirira nemhaka bedzi yokuti hauna kuroorana kwamakore makumi matatu. Birditt anoti zvinokonzeresa kushushikana kwemumwe wako zvakafanana kune vakaroorana vadiki, kunyangwe iye achicherekedza kuti ungasanzwa hutano hwakanyanya sevakaroora vakura. (Asi kana uchinge wawana uremu uhu, iwo mazinga akawedzera emafuta emuviri anogona kunyatso kukonzera kushushikana-kurema kwekuwedzera kutenderera.)

Hazvina mhosva kuti chikonzero ndechei, zvakadaro, meseji iri pachena: Kushushikana kwehukama kunokanganisa vese vari vaviri, saka mese munofanira kutora chinhanho chekugadzirisa. "Zvakakosha kuti vakaroorana vawane nzira dzekugadzirisa pamwe chete vachishandisa nzira dzakanaka dzekugadzirisa sekudzidzira pamwe chete, kuva nehurukuro dzakadzikama, nekuumba zvinangwa zvakagoverwa," anodaro.

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