Dzidzo yebonde muU.S. Yaputsika-Sustain Anoda Kugadzirisa

Zvemukati

• Kutanga, maStat Pabonde Ed
• Nei Hwakanaka Hwehutano Zvepabonde Dzidzo Ine Basa?
• Imagining More Comprehensive Bonde Dzidzo
• Chii Chaunotarisira Kubva kune Zvepabonde Zvakawanda
• Maitiro Ekurwira Kune Zvimwe Zvakanyanya Bonde Ed
• Kwamunofanira Kudzidza Zvakawanda Nezve Bonde Munguva Ino
• Ongororo ye

Kana pane chimwe chinhu Vasikana vaneutsinye, Dzidzo yebonde, kana Muromo Mukuru yatidzidzisa, ndezvekuti kwedu kushomeka dzidzo yebonde kosi kunoita kuti tifare kwazvo. Chinhu ndechekuti, hapana chinhu chinonakidza pamusoro pekuti vana havasi kudzidziswa ruzivo rwezvekurapa rwavanoda kuti vaite sarudzo dzine ruzivo nezvemuviri wavo.

Sustain — kambani inonyanya kuzivikanwa nematamponi ayo echisikigo, makondomu, uye mafuta ekuzora — iri pano kuratidza kusasekesa kwazviri. Nhasi uno kambani yatanga mushandirapamwe mutsva unonzi Sexpect More nevhidhiyo (verenga: kuungana kwekuchema) iine mazwi makumi maviri ane simba ekugovana pachena zvavanoshuvira kuti dai vakadzidziswa mune zvevatano. Vavariro: kuratidza kuti mamiriro edzidzo yezvepabonde akashata sei chaizvo muUnited States uye kutanga kurukurirano yechokwadi pamusoro pezvainogona kutaridzika chaizvo.

Verenga pamusoro pezvimwe zvinotyisa nezve zvedzidzo muUnited States. Uyezve, iyo inokurudzira nzira Sustain iri kushanda kuti iigadzirise.

Kutanga, maStat Pabonde Ed

Kana iwe uchirangarira kubaya pamifananidzo yakajeka yezvirwere zvisina kutapuriranwa pabonde kana kuhwinha saamai vanochema vakabvarurwa kubva mukati semwana akatonyanya kurira achiungudza kuti uvepo, uri mumwe we (uye ndinovenga kuzvitaura) rombo rakanaka avo, vakanga vaine chero dzidziso yezvepabonde zvachose.

Kubva muna Chikumi 15, 2020, makumi maviri nemasere chete matunhu nedunhu remubatanidzwa reWashington DC zvinoda dzidziso yepabonde uye dzidzo yeHIV, sekureva kweGuttmacher Institute, rinotungamira rekutsvaga pamwe nesangano rakazvipira kusimudzira hutano hwepabonde nekubereka uye kodzero muUS nepasirese. . Hongu, zvishoma kudarika hafu. Zvakatoipisisa: Pakati penyika idzi, gumi nemanomwe chete inoda kuti dzidzo yavo yepabonde ive yekurapa. Mune mamwe mazwi, zviri pamutemo zvachose kune vadzidzisi kusimuka ipapo uye kubvisa nhema.

Uye nekuti zvinhu zvakati wandei zvinokanganisa dzidzo chaiyo inogashirwa nemudzidzi-kusanganisira mari yenyika nemubatanidzwa, mitemo yenyika uye zvebonde ed, mitemo yechikoro chedunhu-nemwero maererano necurricula uye zvirimo, chirongwa kana kosi yechikoro chega uye murairidzi anodzidzisa chirongwa ichi - ruzivo rwepabonde runogona kusiyana zvakanyanya, kunyangwe kumatunhu kana kumatunhu anoitendera, sekureva kweVamiriri vevechidiki.

Zvinotyisa seizvi: Nyika shanu chete ndidzo dzinoti musoro wemvumo unofanirwa kuve mune yavo yebonde dzidzo yekosi. "Izvi zvinongotyisa, zvinonyadzisa, uye zvinoda kuchinja izvozvi kupfuura nakare kose," anodaro munyori, mutambi, uye mutauri Alok Menon, munyori we Beyond Iyo Gender Binary, mu Sustain vhidhiyo. (Yakabatana: Chii Chibvumirano, Chaizvoizvo?

Nei Hwakanaka Hwehutano Zvepabonde Dzidzo Ine Basa?

Kutanga, sechiitiko kana pfungwa dzinogona kukuudza: Kuzvidzivirira-chete dzidzo yepabonde haitadzise vana kubva pabonde. Zvazvinoita chete kuita kuti vana vasaita bonde rakachengeteka kana rakachengetedzwa. Matanho ezvepabonde pamwe nepamuviri pasingadiwe yevechidiki zvinotsigira izvi International Journal yezvirwere zvepabonde neAIDS, nyika dzine zvirongwa zvekusarara chete dzine huwandu hwezvirwere zvepabonde zvakaita segonorrhea nechlamydia pakati pevachiri kuyaruka. Uye mwero wepamuviri usina kurongwa uye usingadiwe wakakwirawo (kunyanya, zvakapetwa kaviri (!) Kukwirira) muhuwandu hwevanhu uko vana vanowana kosi yekudzidzisa nezvebonde inosimbisa kuzvidzora-chete.

Haisi rocket sainzi: Pasina ruzivo rwakakwana kana rwekurapa kwavanogona, vechidiki havawani mufananidzo wakazara wenjodzi dzinogona kuitika (kana mafaro!) Ebonde. Uye semhedzisiro, ivo chaivo havagone kuita hutano-hwakadzidziswa, sarudzo dzekuziva nezve njodzi kana kutora matanho anodiwa ekuderedza njodzi idzi.

Asi kupfuura izvozvo, chero zvirongwa zvekurega-chete zvinowanzo pedzisira zvaparidza kuroora mukadzi mumwe, hunhu hwakanaka "hunhu hwemhuri," uye chimiro chemhuri yenyukireya. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vanozopedzisira vasipo uye nekunyadzisa vakapukunyuka vakashungurudzwa pabonde, avo vatove kuita zvepabonde, queer uye kubvunza vechidiki, uye kunyangwe vanhu vanobva kumhuri imwechete-dzinochengeta.

Fungidzira uchiudzwa kuti chero munhu anoita bonde musati maroorana ari kuenda kugehena iwe watozviita. Kana, kutanga kubvunza hutano hwako uye kuudzwa kuti P-in-V ndiyo yega mhando yebonde iyo "inoverengeka." Aya marudzi ezvidzidzo (kubva pakusarara-akanangana nebonde-ed kana mamwe mameseji etsika) anogona kubereka kunyadziswa kwepabonde kana kunyadziswa kune chero pfungwa dzepabonde, manzwiro, maitiro, uye maitiro. Zvichireva, rudzi urwu rwekunyadzisa bonde runogona kusiya zvinokanganisa kugona kwemunhu kuve nehutano uye hunonakidza hupenyu hwepabonde uye / kana kuva nehukama hwakanaka nemuviri wavo.

Uye kusvika pakushaikwa kweruzivo rwakatenderedza kubvumirana kunoenda? Sekutaura komediyani uye mutambi Sodnee Washington mumushandirapamwe wevhidhiyo, "Zvakanaka, izvo zvinonzwisisika, tichifunga zvinhu zviri kuitika." Mune mamwe mazwi, hutsika hwenyika hwekubata chibharo hwakakonzerwa, pamwe muchikamu, nekushaikwa kwemvumo kuri kudzidziswa muzvikoro. (Yakabatana: Chii Chibvumirano, Chaizvoizvo? Uye, Sei uye Rini Kuti Uzvibvunze Izvo)

Imagining More Comprehensive Bonde Dzidzo

Dzidzo yezvepabonde yakakwana inofanira kupfuura just kupanana ruzivo nezvezvirwere zvepabonde uye kubata pamuviri. Inofanirwa kuvhara e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-g, kusanganisira anatomi, mafaro, mvumo, hutano hwekubereka, kuzvimiririra kwemuviri, kutaura kwevakadzi, zvepabonde, hukama hwakanaka, hutano hwepfungwa, bonhora, nezvimwe.

Ndinoshuva kuti ini ndakadzidza mune zvebonde ed ndezvekuti haasi ese marabias anotaridzika zvakafanana. Uye kuti vaginas kutarisa zvakasiyana. Uye izvo nekuda kwekuti rako rinotaridzika rakasiyana neiro raungave iwe wakaona hazvireve kuti iwe wakashamisa kana kuti chimwe chinhu chakakanganisika newe. Zvinongoreva kuti ivo vakasiyana, uye zvakasiyana zvine hutano uye zvakasiyana zvakanaka, uye zvakasiyana ndizvo zvinoita kuti miviri ive yakanaka.

Mary Beth Barone, mutambi

Ivo vanopesvedzera avo vari chikamu cheiyo Sustain's danho vanowana zvakatowanda fungidziro nezve iyo yakazara bonde dzidzo ingaite senge. Semuenzaniso, muvhidhiyo, mutambi uye mutambi Tiffany Haddish anowedzera kuti: "Ndinoshuva kuti dai vakadzidzisa vanhu kuti [queefing] inoitika kuitira kuti usachengeteke uye ufunge kuti chibereko chako chatsemuka!" (ICYWW, queefs haisi kungova vagina farts.) Uye vhidhiyo mugadziri Freddie Rhleng anoti, "Ndinoshuva dai ndakadzidza kuti kuita bonhora kwakanaka! Zvakajairika! Kunyange zvine hutano uye [kuti haufanire] kunzwa kunyara nezvazvo." (Tichiri pamusoro wenyaya, heano mamwe eA nzvimbo dzebonyora kuyedza yako, er, ruoko.)

Nekuda kweiyo MIA dzidzo yebonde dzidzo, vanhu vazhinji vanomanikidzwa kuenda kunochera mhinduro kumwe kunhu. Vazhinji vanotsvaga kuchengetwa kwenzvimbo dzepamuviri dzine dambudziko, dzinowanzo fambiswa nemasangano ezvitendero ane dzimwe zvikonzero, maforamu epamhepo seReddit, ayo asina kutariswa nemagwaro, kana kubva kune vanopa hutano. Ndichiri zvinoita sekunge vanachiremba vangave sosi yakanaka yeruzivo rwehutano, vanachiremba vazhinji havana kugadzirira kupindura varwere vavo nezvehutano hwepabonde nemibvunzo; tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti varapi havataure kune vechidiki nezve dzidzo yehutano hwepabonde kunyanya nekuti vanoshaya kudzidziswa uye kuvimba. Mune imwe ongororo yekuongorora kuti chikoro che med chakagadzirira sei vanachiremba kuti vaongorore nekurapa matambudziko epabonde, vaongorori vakaona kuti hutano hwevanhu hwakadzidziswa senzira mune chete ~ makumi matatu muzana ezvikoro. (Ndicho chimwe chikonzero nei vezvokurapa pachavo vakataura nguva nenguva nguva nenguva vachipesana nedzidzo yekuita bonde-chete.

Kuvimba nevanoona nezvehutano hwekudzidzisa nezvebonde kune njodzi zvakanyanya kune varwere vari nhengo dzevashoma vanhu: Mune ongororo ye2019 ye450 oncologists yakaburitswa mu Nyaya yeClinical Oncology, inenge hafu chete yevanachiremba vaiva nechivimbo muruzivo rwavo pamusoro pehutano hwehutano hwengochani, ngochani, uye bisexual varwere vanhu. Chidzidzo chechipiri chinoratidza kuti vatema vatema vanogashira, paavhareji, kutarisirwa kwakanyanya zvichienzaniswa nevarungu vekuAmerican- kudzivirira, kubereka, uye hutano hwepabonde zvese zvinosanganisirwa. (Ona: LGBTQ + Hutano hwakanyanya Kupfuura Vavo Vakati Rudyi Uye Nei Hwakanaka Hwakanaka Zvichifanira Kuva Chikamu Chekukurukurirana Nezve Rudzi)

Uyezve, "haugone kuenda kwachiremba nguva dzese paunenge uine mubvunzo nezvechimwe chinhu chiri kuitwa nemuviri wako kana kuti uchazowana munhu mutsva wekurara naye," anodaro Sustain co-founder uye mutungamiri wenyika, Meika Hollender. "Haisi chokwadi chete."

Saka kana kunyangwe vanachiremba vasiri nzira yakatendeseka yekuzadza maburi akasiiwa akasiya bonde rechikoro chako, ndepapi paungaenda kunodzidza zvakawanda? Kuzivisa: Zvepabonde Zvakawanda.

Chii Chaunotarisira Kubva kune Zvepabonde Zvakawanda

Sustain's Sexpect More danho iri yakawanda-chikamu.Chekutanga, mhando iri kutarisira kuburitsa pachena kushata kwakadii kosi yedzidzo yezvepabonde yenyika - uye nekudaro inoda shanduko - nekuita kuti huwandu huri pamusoro huve hwevakawanda. "Vanhu vazhinji havazivi kuti mamiriro ezvepabonde achiri akaipa sei," anodaro Hollender.

Chechipiri, mushandirapamwe uyu urikutsvaga mari yeAtsigiri Vechidiki, sangano rinorwira kodzero dzevechidiki ruzivo rwechokwadi nezvehutano hwepabonde pamwe nekuwanika, kuvanzika, uye kutarisirwa kwehutano hwepabonde. Sustain arikuikanda nemupiro wemadhora zviuru makumi maviri nezvishanu, uyezve nguva yese iyo vhidhiyo yavo yemushandirapamwe ichigovaniswa nehashtag #sexpectmore, kambani ichapa imwe madhora kusangano. Ditto anoenda kana iwe ukatumira mhinduro kumubvunzo "chii chaive chisipo kubva pabonde rako redzidzo?" pa Instagram, Facebook, kana Twitter (usangokanganwa iyo hashtag).

Chekupedzisira, gare gare gore rino, iyo mhando ichave irikuvhura yayo yakazara, isina-zvachose, dzidzo yebonde dzidzo, zvichibva pamhinduro yakananga kubva muiyi vhidhiyo yemushandirapamwe. "Dzidzo iyi ichave iri danho rekutanga muchinangwa cheSustain chekupa vanhu vazhinji vemazera ese mukana wekuwana bonde," anodaro Hollender.

Maitiro Ekurwira Kune Zvimwe Zvakanyanya Bonde Ed

Pamusoro pekugovana vhidhiyo yaSustain kure nekure, iwe unogona kushandisa yako kodzero yekuvhota musarudzo dzemuno nedzemubatanidzwa. Hutongi hwaMutungamiriri wenyika, VaDonald Trump, hahuna kungoita basa reMutungamiriri wenyika, VaBarack Obama, rekuwedzera dzidzo yezvepabonde, asi vakagoverawo mamiriyoni makumi manomwe nemashanu emadhora kuzvidzidzo zvekusarara. Ndiyo shit ton yemari iri kuenda kuchirongwa chisingashande (peep iwo stats ari pamusoro zvakare), haufunge? (Hauzive kuti unganyoresa sei kuvhota? Enda pano.)

Zvakadaro, nepo zvikoro zvichigona kuwana mari yemubatanidzwa yezvirongwa zvedzidzo yepabonde, Dhipatimendi reDzidzo reU.S. uye hurumende yemubatanidzwa haina kutaura pamusoro pekuti dzidzo yezvepabonde (kana kuti rudzii) inotenderwa muzvikoro; izvo zvinowira pasi pesimba rehurumende nehurumende dzemunharaunda nematunhu echikoro pachavo, sekureva kweVamiriri veVadiki. Kunyange pasina mutemo parizvino unotsigira zvakakwana bonde ed, pane mutemo wakamirira unonzi Iyo Chaiyo Dzidzo Yehutano Hwevechidiki Mutemo, uyo unozoona kuti mari yemubatanidzwa inopihwa kune zvakazara zvirongwa zvehutano hwepabonde zvinopa vechidiki hunyanzvi neruzivo rwavanoda kuti vaziviswe. , zvisarudzo zvine mutoro, uye zvine utano.

Kukurudzira dzidzo yezvepabonde iri nani munharaunda yako, unogona:

• Bata bhodhi rako rechikoro. Vakurudzire kuti vatsvage zvirongwa zvakakwana zvehutano hwepabonde uye vatevedze Mitemo yeNational Sexuality Dzidzo- nhungamiro dzakagadzirwa nenyanzvi muhutano hweveruzhinji nedzidzo yezvebonde nezve izvo zvidiki zvakakosha zvemukati uye hunyanzvi hunodiwa kubatsira vadzidzi kuita sarudzo dzakajeka nezvehutano hwepabonde.
• Joinha Chikoro cheMazano ehutano hweChikoro. Mabhodhi mazhinji echikoro anoyambirwa neSchool Health Advisory Councils (SHACs), ayo anoumbwa nevanhu vanomiririra nharaunda uye vanopa kuraira nezve dzidzo yehutano.
• Bata nhengo dzako dzeCongress. Svikira iwe pachako, nerunhare, kana online kuvakurudzira kuti vatsigire iyo Yechokwadi Dzidzo yehutano Hwechidiki Mutemo.
• Tsvagurudza chero akakodzera mabhiri kana mitemo mudunhu rako. Semuenzaniso, New York State parizvino haidi chero dzidziso yebonde kuti idzidziswe muzvikoro. Kana iwe uri New Yorker, iwe unogona zvakare kutsigira iyo NY State Assembly Bill A6512, iyo inodaidzira yakazara, inosanganisirwa, uye dzidzo yehutano hwepabonde muzvikoro muNYS. Ingonanga kune ino webhusaiti, tinya "hongu" kuti uvhote, wedzera (isarudzo) chinyorwa kuNew York state senator, uye ta-da-mumasekondi makumi matanhatu, waita hudiki hwamangwana hwakasimba. (Heino rondedzero yemutemo wezvepabonde nenyika.)

Kwamunofanira Kudzidza Zvakawanda Nezve Bonde Munguva Ino

Paunenge wakamirira nemoyo murefu Sustain yakazara nzwisiso yebonde kuvhurwa, tarisa aya mamwe mapuratifomu ari kushanda kuzadza garo redzidzo yepabonde senge O.School, OMGYes, Scarleteen, Queer Bonde Ed, uye Afrosexology.

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