4 ProDommes Govera Izvo chaizvo Zvazvakaita Kuve Dominatrix IRL

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• Chii chinonzi Dominatrix, Chaizvoizvo?
• Ndiani Anoenda kuProfessional Dominatrix?
• Zvakanakira Kushanda neDominatrix
• Chii Session ine Professional Dominatrix Yakafanana?
• Kuve Dominatrix Kunotora (Unyanzvi!) Basa
• Zvakaita Sei Kuva Dominatrix?
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Kuzivikanwa kweEuphoria uyeKubatanidza, Zviratidziro zviviri zveTV izvo zvinoratidzira Dominatrix sevatambi vakuru-Kat Hernandez naTiff Chester, zvichiteerana-inoratidza kuti vanhu vanonyanya kunakidzwa nepfungwa yeDominatrix.

Nehurombo, kune kutsoropodza kwakasiyana-siyana kwezviratidziro zvese 'kuratidzwa kweBDSM. Mazwi mazhinji anonetsekana kuti nekuti Kat ari pasi pezera, basa rake seDominatrix harina simba. Vamwe vanokanda ziso kuona kuti zvakaipa zvakadiiKubatanidzaMufananidzo wemvumo uye miganhu muhukama hweD/s. Uye zvese zvinoratidzwa zveTV zvinopomerwa kuenderera mberi nekufinhwa kwekuti vese vanoita zvepabonde vanopona (kazhinji zvepabonde) kushungurudzika.

Ndicho chikonzero "iwe haugoni kuvimba nezvawakaona munhau pamusoro peDominatrix kuti unzwisise zvatiri kuita, nei tichizviita, isu tiri vanaani, kana kuti maitiro akachengeteka eBDSM anoita sei," anodaro Andre Shakti, nyanzvi Dominatrix, mudzidzisi wezvepabonde, uye murairidzi wehukama.

Uine izvozvo mupfungwa, Shakti nevamwe vatatu veDominatrices vane hunyanzvi vanogovana zvazviri chaizvo kuva Dominatrix. Pano, ivo vanotsanangura izvo Dominatrix chaizvo ndezvipi, zvezvinhu zvavanogona kuita nemutengi, zvinoita seshini, uye kuti zvinokanganisa sei hupenyu hwavo husina hunyanzvi.

Chii chinonzi Dominatrix, Chaizvoizvo?

Mudiwa wedu akanaka Merriam Webster anotsanangura Dominatrix se "mukadzi anotonga mumwe wake panyama kana nepfungwa mukutarisana nesadomasochistic." (Uye, hongu, inogara yakashongedzwa, sekubata kumasimba emagetsi anobatanidzwa.)

Iyi dudziro yakawedzera kana zvishoma, anotsanangura Swell Cat, mukadzi wekuchinjika uyo anopenya mwenje seanoshanda pabonde online uye Dominatrix, achicherekedza vazhinji vasiri-mabhinari, vanhukadzi-queer vanhu, kana vanhu vanoenderana nevakadzi vanoziva seDominatrices futi.

Asi kana usingazive kuti "sadomasochistic kusangana" chii, tsananguro iyoyo inenge yakanakira kurova Google kuti uzive kuti une njovhera here. Kusangana kwesadomasochistic ndiko "uko mumwe munhu anotora chinzvimbo chekuzviisa pasi achitsvaga kink neBDSM," anotsanangura Shakti. (Kana iwe uchida zororo paBDSM, skim kuburikidza neBDSM Yekutanga Nhungamiro nekukurumidza chaizvo, wobva wadzoka pano.)

Zvakakosha kutaura kuti pane musiyano pakati pemararamiro Dominatrix uye nyanzvi Dominatrix, anodaro Lola Jean, Dominatrix uye mudzidzisi wepabonde. Vamwe vanhu vanoda kutora chinzvimbo chakakosha 24/7-zvichireva, vane mumwe munhu anovashandira nguva dzese, kunyangwe kunze kwekurara kana mugomba. Aya ndiwo mararamiro eDominatrices.

Kune vamwe, sevaya vakabvunzurudzwa pachinyorwa chino, kuve Dominatrix ibasa rehunyanzvi. "Paunenge uri nyanzvi, unenge uchigona kutonga mukati mekink kana BDSM mamiriro," anotsanangura Shakti. "Vanhu vanouya kwauri for that skillset, and a transaction of money goes. Ibasa repabonde."

Nekudaro, nepo "Dominatrix iri izwi rauchaona kazhinji munhau, harisi iro izwi rinoshandiswa nevanhu vazhinji," anodaro Jean. Panzvimbo pekuziva se "Dominatrix," vanhu vazhinji vanoshandisa izwi rekuti Domme kana Dom. Kana ProDomme / ProDomme kana vari nyanzvi. (Chasara chinyorwa chino chakanangana neProDommes.)

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Ziva izvi: Hakuna Poshi mhando yemutengi. Vanhu veese mazera, varume nevakadzi, maitiro, uye madzinza vanogona kusarudza kuhaya ProDomme. (Kunyangwe zvakakodzera kutaura izvozvo nekuti mazhinji maProDommes anobhadharisa pakati pemadhora mazana maviri nemadhora mazana mana paawa, vatengi vazhinji vari vepakati- kana vepamusoro-kirasi).

"Vatengi vangu vanomhanyisa mitambo kubva kuvakuru vepamusoro maECO, vanovhiya, uye magweta kuenda kune vakaroorana, vakadzi vanoshamisira, vanhu vanoshanduka, uye vanhu vekora yebhuruu vanongotarisa kuti vaongorore uye vawedzere hutano hwavo, kuzviisa pasi, uye kubatana kwavo chaiko," anodaro Ashley Paige, NYC-based nyanzvi Dominatrix.

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Kunetseka kuti nei mumwe munhu angahaya Dominatrix? Zvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana. "Vamwe vanhu vanotitsvaga nekuti vakaona 'Fifty Shades yeGrey' uye vanofarira kuyedza BDSM kekutanga," anodaro Shakti. Mukufunga kwake, "kuhaya nyanzvi ndeimwe yenzira dzakanakisa uye dzakachengeteka dzekutanga kuongorora BDSM, kinks, kana masvikiro." Imhaka yekuti kune nzira dzakachengeteka (r) dzekuita zvinhu zvakaita setyava, kurohwa, kurova, kuvhunga, kana kurova mumwe munhu-zvose izvo nyanzvi dzinoziva, asi mumwe wako angasadaro. Uyezve, a pro inokwanisa kugadzira izvo zvinodaidzwa naJean, "nzvimbo isiri yepanyama yekuongorora zvishuwo zvako," munzira iyo mumwe wako (kunyanya asiri-anoda-shamwari) angave asingakwanise kuita.

Vamwe vanhu vanotsvaga ProDommes kuti vatambe kunze chaiko fantasy. "Dzimwe nguva vatengi vanenge vanyora script yakazara ine mitsara chaiyo yavanoda kuti nditaure panguva yechiitiko," anodaro Shakti. Kana, ivo vanogona kukumbira chaiyo chaiyo bonde chiito. Mune iyo yekupedzisira, vatengi vanohaya nyanzvi ine hunyanzvi mune icho chiitiko (ehe, ProDommes ine hunyanzvi). Paige, semuenzaniso, ane hunyanzvi mu "sadomasochism, hunhu hunogadziriswa, hutongi husina kutsarukana, kutamba zvine mutsindo, uye kuranga pamwe chete, electro-play, kutamba muviri, kurova pasi, kutamba kwepamberi, kudzidziswa kwese chimbuzi, kushaya kwekunzwa uye kuwandisa, kudzidziswa kwevaranda , uye tantric kink nekutarisa pabasa rekufema uye catharsis ... kutaura zvishoma. " Humwe hunyanzvi zvinosanganisira poop, chikafu, kupuruzira, kukwekweta-kurwadzisa, kutamba kwekunzwa, kunyadziswa, kurwadzisa nyini, kutamba kwekurapa, jongwe nekurwadzisa bhora, kurwadzisa mazamu, kutambisa uye kubata. (Kune zvimwe pa ~ zvese izvi ~, ungangoda kuongorora Yekupedzisira Nongedzo yeKink naTristan Taormino naBarbara Carrellas kana Kugadzirisa Yako Kink NaGalen Fous.)

ICYWW, vatengi havafanirwe kuziva chaizvo zvavanoda kuedza vasati vasvika kune ProDomme-nyanzvi inogona kukubatsira kuti uzive izvo. "Kana mumwe munhu asingazive zvavari kuda kuedza, tichataura nezvechinhu chekupedzisira chavakaita bonhora, vanofarira zvinonyadzisa, zvavanofungidzira nezvazvo, uye zvavanoda kunzwa panguva / mushure memusangano," anodaro Jean . "Ndichashandisa ruzivo irworwo ndokurudzira zviito zvandinofunga kuti zvingaenderana nazvo, tozozvitaura." (FYI, aya ndiwo mafungiro akajairika ezvepabonde.)

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Kazhinji, kuchinjana pakati peProDomme nemutengi kunotanga kana mutengi achitsvaga Dominatrix munharaunda yavo uye obata Domme yavanofunga kuti ingave yakakodzera. Ipapo, vaviri vacho vanobva vataurirana (kuburikidza neemail, foni, kana vezvenhau) nezve izvo zviri kutsvaga mutengi; kana zvakakodzera, vacharonga nguva. Kana zvisiri, iyo Domme inowanzo gona kubatanidza mutengi neunyanzvi uyo angave ari nani kukodzera, anodaro Shakti.

Mushure meizvozvo, kazhinji vanobvumirana panzvimbo uye musangano. "Zvirongwa zvakawanda zvinoitika mukamuri yehotera kana mutirongo rekutengesa mune makamuri madiki akawanda," anodaro Jean. Vamwe maDommes vanozoenda kuimba yemutengi kunokwidziridzwa, asi kazhinji chete kana vakamboshanda pamwe kare, "anodaro (nekuti, chengetedzo).

Iwo ekutanga maminetsi mashanu kusvika gumi nemashanu echikamu anosanganisira kungotaura uye kugadzikana kune mumwe nemumwe, maererano naShakti. "Kunyangwe isu takatotaura nezve izvo zvichaitika, tinozozvidzokorora kechipiri. Ipapo tobva tazotaura nezvemuviri wavo chero hurema, kurwadziwa kwemhasuru, kana kurwadziwa kunogona kukanganisa izvo zvatiri kuronga." kuita, "anodaro. "Zvadaro, mutengi achandibhadhara, uye isu tichazopinda muchiitiko." Kuti chiitiko chinotora nguva yakareba sei zvichasiyana, asi kwaari, zvinowanzotora maminitsi 45 kusvika ku50.

Chimwe chinhu chaungashamisika kuziva ndechekuti, kazhinji, zviratidziro hazvisanganisire bonde rinopinza. "Kunyangwe paine zviito zvakawanda zvine hunhu sekubata chibhakera kana kutamba kweprostate, vazhinji maProfessional Dominatrices havaite zvepabonde nevatengi vavo," anodaro Paige.

Mushure, "tichapedza maminetsi mashoma tichiongorora kuti vari kunzwa sei," anodaro Shakti. Zvadaro, kana nzvimbo yacho iine shawa, mutengi angasarudza kuishandisa. “Tinobva tabatana maoko toparadzana,” anodaro.

Vamwe vatengi vane fungidziro yavanongo "kuda" kuti vararame kamwe chete. "Vanhu vatsva kuBDSM vanowanzo kundibhukira zvikamu zvishoma kuitira kuti tikwanise kupinda zvishoma nezvishoma," anodaro Shakti. Vamwe vanhu vane nguva dzose vakamira kugadzwa neProDommes yavo. (Yakabatana: BDSM Yakachengetedza Yangu Inotadza Kuroora Kubva Kurambana)

Kuve Dominatrix Kunotora (Unyanzvi!) Basa

Pane fungidziro isiriyo yekuti basa repabonde harisi "chaiyo" basa (*ye roll*), asi izvo hazvingave kure nechokwadi. "Kuve Dominatrix inzira inopfuura kutora tyava uye kupopotera mumwe munhu," anodaro Paige. Kugona kuita BDSM zvakachengeteka zvinoreva kuziva kurova, kurova, kudzipa, nezvimwewo munhu asingakonzere kukanganisa (kana kusabvumirana) kukuvara. "Avo vedu vanokoshesa nezvebasa redu vanoenda kumashopu, kuverenga mabhuku, kuita tsvakiridzo, uye vane maawa nemaawa ekuzvipira kuitira kuti munhu wese agone kufamba akazara uye ari nani kupfuura kare-kunyangwe zvichireva kufamba ne (kubvumirana). kukuvadza kana maviri, "anodaro.

MaDominatrices anodawo hunyanzvi hwakasimba hwekudyidzana. “Zvinonetsa kuburitsa ruzivo kubva kune vamwe vatengi, uye unofanira kukwanisa kusvika pasi pezvavanoda nezvavanoda usingaite sekunge uri kudzura mazino,” anodaro Shakti. Iwe unodawo intuition yakasimba uye kukwanisa kuyera simba revanhu, "kuitira kuti uvaite kuti vanzwe vachitsigirwa, vakasimbiswa, uye vakachengeteka muchikamu chose," anodaro. Vazhinji vatengi vanopinda muchikamu vane kunyadziswa kukuru pamusoro pezvavanoda pabonde kana zvido zvavo, uye ProDomme inofanirwa kuvabatsira kusakura kuburikidza nemanzwiro avo, zvakare, anodaro Shakti. (Ndicho chikonzero nei vakadzi vazhinji vari kushandisa BDSM senzira yekurapa.)

Ah, uye "iwe unofanirwa kuve iwe wega mumiririri, maneja, webhusaiti dhizaina, mushambadzi, mushambadzi-mushambadzi, manejimendi midhiya maneja, kopi-munyori, uye mutori mifananidzo / videographer," anowedzera. Hongu, pane chikonzero basa repabonde rinonzi bondeshanda.

Asi usazviverenge zvisizvo: Izvo hazvireve kuti ese maDominatrices ari kukunguruka muhupfu. "Pane fungidziro isiriyo yekuti isu hatina pekugara kana kukanda mazana, asi hachisi chokwadi," anodaro Shakti. "Kune vakawanda vanoita zvepabonde vari pakati."

Zvakaita Sei Kuva Dominatrix?

Zvechokwadi zvakasiyana paneKubatanidza kanaEuphoria dai watenda. Kune kutanga, izvi zvinoratidzwa zvinogona kuratidza kuti ProDommes haikwanise kuve muhukama hune hutano / hwerudo. Chaizvoizvo, izvo manyepo. "Vazhinji vedu tinokwanisa kuchengetedza hukama kunze kwebasa redu!" anodaro Jean. "Hongu, dzimwe nguva basa redu rinoita kuti riome nekuti tinoda vatinoshanda navo vanonzwisisa uye vanotsigira basa redu, asi zvinokwanisika." Nepo dzimwe nguva ProDommes iri zvakare maDommes mune yavo yekudanana / hukama hwepabonde IRL, "vamwe switch, kuzviisa pasi, kana vanilla muhupenyu hwavo chaihwo," anowedzera Shakti. (Zvinoreva, vanogona kusarudza kusiya kutonga dzimwe nguva kana nguva dzese, kana kusarudza hupenyu hwepabonde pasina kink kana BDSM.)

Kupfuura izvozvo, Paige anogovera kuti kuve Professional Dominatrix kwakawedzera hupenyu hwake.“Zvakandibatsira kuwana simba rangu uye kuti ndive ndega nenzira dzakawanda kupfuura dzandinogona kuverenga,” anodaro. "Uye hunyanzvi hwakawanda uye zviitiko zvandakawana kubva pakuva Dominatrix, ndakakwanisa kuzvishandisa kune zvese zvehupenyu hwangu ... ndiri munhu ari nani anokwanisa kurarama ane chinangwa. hupenyu semhedzisiro yekuve Dominatrix. " (Ichokwadi: Kinky Bonde Inogona Kuita Kuti Uwedzere Kufunga.)

Chinonyanya kukosha: "Vanhu vazhinji havana rombo rekuve vechokwadi uye vechokwadi nechishuwo chavo chero kupi zvako muhupenyu hwavo," anodaro Paige. "Kunyange zvakadaro, hongu, kuve Dominatrix kunogona kusanganisira zvese zvidzidziso zvezvikwapuro nemaketani aunoona paTV, ndeyechokwadi zvakanyanya nezve kubatana, kubvumidzwa, uye kugadzira catharsis. Chinhu chatinoda zvimwe munyika ino inopenga," anodaro. Chokwadi izvozvo.

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