Zvinhu zvisere Vanhu vane Yakakwira-Inoshanda Kushushikana Vanoda Iwe Kuti Uzive

Zvemukati

• 1. Unonzwa kunge uri kugara uchizvinyepera
• 2. Unofanira kuratidza kuti uri kutambura uye unoda rubatsiro
• 3. Mazuva akanaka anenge "akajairika"
• 4. Asi mazuva akaipa haatsungiririki
• 5. Kupfuura nemumazuva akashata kunoda huwandu hukuru hwesimba
• 6. Unogona kunetseka kuti utarise, uye unzwe senge usiri kuita nepose paunogona napo
• 7. Kugara nekushushikana kwepamusoro-soro kunetesa
• 8. Kukumbira rubatsiro ndicho chinhu chakasimba kwazvo chaungaite

Kunyangwe zvingave zvisiri pachena, kusvika mukati mezuva kunonetesa.

Maitiro atinoona maumbirwo epasi rose atinosarudza kuva - uye kugovana zviitiko zvinomanikidza zvinogona kuumba nzira yatinoitirana nayo, ive nani. Aya maonero akasimba.

Zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kuona zviratidzo zveumwe munhu ane yakanyanya-kushanda kushushikana. Imhaka yekuti, nekunze, vanowanzooneka vakanyatsonaka. Ivo vanoenda kunoshanda, vanoita mabasa avo, uye vanochengeta hukama. Uye sezvavanenge vachifamba nenzira yekuchengetedza hupenyu hwavo hwezuva nezuva, mukati vari kupopota.

"Wese munhu anotaura nezve kushushikana uye kushushikana, uye zvinoreva zvinhu zvakasiyana kuvanhu vakasiyana," anodaro Dr. Carol A. Bernstein, purofesa wezvepfungwa uye neurology ku NYU Langone Health.

"Kushushikana kwepamusoro-soro hakusi kwechikamu chekuongorora kubva pakurapa. Vanhu vanogona kunzwa kuora mwoyo, asi mubvunzo nekushushikana ndewenguva yakareba sei, uye zvinokanganisa zvakadii kugona kwedu kuenderera nehupenyu [hwedu]? ”

Hapana musiyano pakati pekuora mwoyo uye kushanda kwepamusoro-kushanda. Kushungurudzika kunosiyana kubva pakunyoro kusvika pakuenzanisa kusvika pakukutu. Muna 2016, vangangoita mamirioni gumi nematanhatu emamamerica vaive nechikamu chimwechete chekushungurudzika kukuru.

"Vamwe vanhu vane kushushikana havagone kuenda kubasa kana kuchikoro, kana kuita kwavo kunotambura zvakanyanya nekuda kwazvo," anodaro Ashley C. Smith, ane rezinesi rekuclinic mushandi wemagariro. “Iyo haisi iyo nyaya kune vanhu vane hutachiona hwepamusoro-kushanda. Vanogona kushanda muhupenyu, kazhinji. ”

Asi kukwanisa kupfuura nezuva hazvireve kuti zviri nyore. Hezvino zvakataurwa nevanhu vanomwe nezve izvo zvakaita sekurarama nekushanda pamwe nepamusoro-kushanda kushushikana.

1. Unonzwa kunge uri kugara uchizvinyepera

"Isu tinonzwa zvakawanda ikozvino nezve imposter syndrome, apo vanhu vanonzwa kuti vari kungo" fakeka "uye havana kubatana sekufunga kwevanhu. Pane chimiro cheichi kune avo vanogadzirisa kushushikana kukuru uye mamwe marudzi ehurwere hwepfungwa. Unobva waita hunyanzvi 'hwekuzvitamba,' uchiita chinzvimbo chemunhu uyo ​​vanhu vakatenderedza vanotarisira kuona nekuona. "

- Daniel, mutori venhau, Maryland

2. Unofanira kuratidza kuti uri kutambura uye unoda rubatsiro

“Kugara nekushushikana kwepamusoro kunoshanda zvakanyanya. Kunyangwe iwe uchikwanisa kuenda kuburikidza nebasa nehupenyu uye kazhinji kuita kuti zvinhu zviitwe, hausi kuzviita kuti zviitwe kune kugona kwako kuzere.

“Kupfuura izvozvo, hapana munhu anotenda zvechokwadi kuti uri kutambura nekuti hupenyu hwako hausi kudonha zvakadaro. Ndakanga ndichizviuraya uye ndave pedyo nekuzvipedza zvese kuyunivhesiti uye hapana aigona kunditenda nekuti ini ndanga ndisiri kukundikana chikoro kana kupfeka senge yakazara tsvina. Kubasa, zvakafanana. Tinofanira kutenda vanhu kana vachikumbira rutsigiro.

“Chekupedzisira, mabasa mazhinji ehutano hwepfungwa ane zvinodiwa, uko kwaunofanirwa kuoneka huwandu hwevakaora mwoyo kuti uwane rutsigiro. Kunyange kana mwoyo wangu wakadzikira uye ndichigara ndichifunga kuzviuraya, ndinofanira kunyepa nezve mashandiro angu kuti ndikwanise kuwana rubatsiro. ”

- Alicia, mutauri wehutano hwepfungwa / munyori, Toronto

3. Mazuva akanaka anenge "akajairika"

“Zuva rakanaka ndiri kukwanisa kumuka pamberi kana kurudyi paaramu yangu, kugeza, uye kupfeka kumeso. Ini ndinogona kusundira kuburikidza nekuve pakati pevanhu, sebasa rangu semurairidzi wesoftware anondidaidza kwariri. Ini handisi chigamba kana kushushikana-kwakazara. Ini ndinogona kusundira mukati memanheru uye kuita hurukuro nevandinoshanda navo ndisina kunzwa kupera moyo kwakazara. Pazuva rakanaka, ini ndinotarisa uye kujekesa kwepfungwa. Ndinonzwa semunhu anokwanisa, anobudirira. ”

- Mukristu, software mudzidzisi, Dallas

4. Asi mazuva akaipa haatsungiririki

“Zvino kwezuva rakaipa… ndinorwa neni kuti ndimuke uye ndinofanira kuzvinyadzisa mukugeza uye kuzviunganidza pamwe chete. Ndinoisa poda-poda [kuti ndirege] kunyevera vanhu nezvezvangu zvemukati nyaya. Handidi kutaura kana kunetswa nechero ani. Ini ndinonyepedzera kuva munhu, sezvo ndine rent yekubhadhara uye handidi kuomesa hupenyu hwangu chero zvazviri.

“Ndapedza basa, ndinongoda kuenda kuimba yangu yehotera ndotenderera pa Instagram kana YouTube. Ini ndichadya chikafu chisina kunaka, uye ndinonzwa sekurasikirwa uye kuzvidzikisira.

“Ndine mazuva akaipa kupfuura akanaka, asi ndawana hunyanzvi hwekunyepedzera kuitira kuti vatengi vangu vafunge kuti ndiri mushandi mukuru. Ini ndinowanzo tumirwa kudos yekuita kwangu. "Asi mukati, ndinoziva kuti handina kusvitsa padanho randinoziva."

- Mukristu

5. Kupfuura nemumazuva akashata kunoda huwandu hukuru hwesimba

“Kunonetesa zvakanyanya kupedza zuva risina kunaka. Ini ndinowana basa kuti riitwe, asi hazvisi zvangu kugona. Zvinotora nguva yakareba kuti uite mabasa. Pane zvakawanda zvekutarisa kunze muchadenga, kuyedza kudzoreredza kudzora kwepfungwa dzangu.

“Ndinozviona ndichigumbuka nyore nevandinoshanda navo, kunyangwe ndichiziva kuti hapana nzira yavanoziva kuti ndiri kushushikana. Pamazuva akaipa, ndinonyanya kuzvitsoropodza uye ndinowanzo sada kuratidza mukuru wangu chero ripi zvaro rebasa rangu nekuti ndinotya kuti angafunga kuti handikwanise.

“Chimwe chezvinhu zvinonyanya kubatsira zvandinoita pamazuva akaipa kuisa pamberi mabasa angu. Ndinoziva kuti pandinozvimanikidza zvakanyanya, ndipo pandinonyanya kukona, saka ndinova nechokwadi chekuti ndinoita zvinhu zvakawandisa kana ndiine simba rakawanda. ”

- Courtney, nyanzvi yekushambadzira, North Carolina

6. Unogona kunetseka kuti utarise, uye unzwe senge usiri kuita nepose paunogona napo

“Dzimwe nguva, hapana chinoitwa. Ini ndinogona kuve mune yakareba yakadhonzwa daze zuva rese, kana zvinotora zuva rese kupedzisa zvishoma zvinhu. Sezvo ini ndiri muhukama neruzhinji uye ini ndichishanda nevanhu uye makambani anotsigira chikuru chikonzero, icho chinowanzo dhonza pamoyo wevanhu, basa rangu rinogona kundipinza mune rakatonyanya kushushikana.

“Ndinogona kunge ndichiita nyaya, uye pandiri kutaipa ndine misodzi ichiyerera pachiso changu. Izvo zvinogona kunyatso shandira mukana wemutengi wangu nekuti ini ndine moyo wakawanda uye kushuvira kwakatenderedza nyaya dzine musoro, asi zvinotyisa nekuti manzwiro anomhanya zvakanyanya.

- Tonya, mushambadzi, California

7. Kugara nekushushikana kwepamusoro-soro kunetesa

"Muhupenyu hwangu, kurarama nehutachiona hwepamusoro-soro kunonetesa. Iri kupedza zuva uchinyemwerera uye kumanikidza kuseka kana iwe uchinetswa nekunzwa kuti vanhu vaunofambidzana navo vanongokuregerera iwe nekuvapo kwako munyika.

"Zviri kuziva kuti haubatsiri uye kutambisa oxygen ... uye uchiita zvese musimba rako kuratidza izvo zvisirizvo nekuve mudzidzi akanakisa, mwanasikana akanakisa, mushandi wepamoyo waungave iwe. Iri kuramba ichikwira nekupfuura zuva rese mazuva ese mune tarisiro yekuti unogona kuita kuti mumwe munhu anzwe kuti unokodzera nguva yavo, nekuti haunzwi senge uri. "

- Meaghan, mudzidzi wezvemitemo, New York

8. Kukumbira rubatsiro ndicho chinhu chakasimba kwazvo chaungaite

“Kukumbira rubatsiro hakuiti kuti uve munhu asina simba. Muchokwadi, zvinokuita iwe unopesana chaizvo. Kushungurudzika kwangu kwakazviratidza kuburikidza nekutora kwakanyanya mukunwa. Zvakakomba kwazvo, kutaura zvazviri, ndakapedza vhiki nhanhatu mu rehab muna 2017. Ini ndinongonyara kwemwedzi gumi nemisere yekusagadzikana.

"Wese munhu anogona kuva nemaonero ake, asi mativi ese matatu eatatu ehutano hwepfungwa dzangu - kurega kunwa, kurapa kwekutaura, uye mishonga - zvave zvakakosha. Kunyanya, mushonga unondibatsira kuti ndirambe ndakaenzana zuva nezuva uye wanga uri chikamu chakaomarara chekupora kwangu. ”

- Kate, mumiriri wekufamba, New York

“Kana kushushikana kuri kukanganisa hupenyu hwako, kana iwe uchifunga kuti uri kunzwa zviri nani, tsvaga rubatsiro. Ona wako wekutanga wekuchengeta chiremba nezvazvo - vazhinji vakadzidziswa kubata nekushushikana - uye tsvaga kutumira kune murapi.

"Kunyangwe pachine kunyadziswa kwakanyanya kuve nekurwara nepfungwa, ndingati isu tiri kutanga, zvishoma nezvishoma, kuti chiono ichi chidzikire. Hapana chakaipa kubvuma kuti une nyaya uye unogona kushandisa rubatsiro. ”

- Dhanieri

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