Nguva Yekutaura Nezvekuderera Kwehuremu Paunenge Uchifambidzana

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Theodora Blanchfield, ane makore makumi matatu nematatu, maneja wezvemagariro kubva kuManhattan anodada nenyaya yekuti makore mashanu apfuura, akarasikirwa nemapaundi makumi mashanu. Muchokwadi, irwo rwendo rwaakagovana kuruzhinji mubhurogu Yake Kurasikirwa Nesimba Muguta. Zvakadaro kune vamwe vanhu vaanoramba kudurura kwavari: mazuva ake erudo.

"Zvinopesana nezvose zvandinotenda mazviri, asi chokwadi chekuti ndaimboremerwa chinoita kuti ndinzwe kusununguka uye kunyara," anodaro Blanchfield. "Ndinozvidya moyo vachatofunga kuti ndozviwanazve. Kana kuti ini ndinogara ndichidya uye handizove chero chinonakidza-sekunge zvese zvandinoita kudya masaladi uye kushanda." (Nakidzwa nemisi, maawa anofara, uye zvimwe neaya Matipi Ekudzora Kurema Kwega Kwega Kwekupera Kwevhiki. Mumwe mukadzi waaiziva akashevedzera mhiri kwebhawa, "Ndinoda bhurogi rako!" zvichiita kuti zuva rake ribvunze Blanchfield kuti iro blog raive nezvei. Akamuudza-uye haana kuzombonzwa kubva kwaari zvakare.

Blanchfield haazomboziva kuti nei zuva rake rakanyangarika, asi nyanzvi dzinobvuma kuti kuchenjera kumirira kusvikira iwe wave nemazita akati wandei usati wagovana ruzivo rwemunhu sekurema. "Kana imwe yemafungiro ako ekutanga ari ruzivo rwekuti iwe uchangobva kudonhedza huremu hwakakura, iye achaona ichi seimwe yeanonyanya kutsanangura maficha," anotsanangura Mimi Tanner, munyori webhuku. Iyo Reverse Ultimatum: Tora Kuzvipira Pasina Kupokana. Saka sei chaizvo ita iwe unotaura nezve yako yapfuura?

Iise muMharidzo Yekusimbisa-Kwete Kunyara

"Panzvimbo pokuti 'Ndaimbova mafuta,' edza kuti, 'Ndakatanga kudzidzira marathon gore rapfuura, uye ndakarasikirwa nehuremu hwakawanda. Zvaive zvakanaka, "anowedzera Sara Eckel, munyori webhuku. Hausi Iwe: 27 (Zvakaipa) Zvikonzero Iwe Usina Kuroora. "Vanhu vazhinji vanoda kudzidza kuti wakazviita sei. Iwe wakatora kutonga pane chimwe chinhu muhupenyu hwako." Shanda musoro wenyaya mukutaurirana zvisina kukodzera pane kudonhedza bhomba. (Mushure mezvose, urikungogovana zvawaimboita saizi-kwete kuti wakabira imba yemuvakidzani wako.) Blanchfield-uyo achangoshandura zita reblog rake kuThe Preppy Runner-atora iyi nzira nyowani. "Ini ndine chinangwa chekudzikisa huremu uye nekusimbisa kusimba," anodaro.

Nguva Yakakosha

Zviri kuyedza kuda kuratidza hunhu hwakakubatsira iwe kuita inoyevedza chinangwa. Ndiani asingade kufambidzana nemumwe munhu ane ratidziro yekutarisisa kushinga, kuzvipira, uye kuzvidzora? Kana iwe uchifanira kuuya nenhamba, zuva rechishanu ndiyo nguva yakanakisa yekuratidza kukuru, anodaro Tanner. "Vachange vachitokuziva panguva iyoyo uye vachakwanisa kuisa ruzivo rutsva urwu rwusinga kukuvadze maitiro avo ekutanga," anodaro. (Kuti uwane mamwe mazano enguva, verenga Iyo Yakakodzera Nguva Yekutaura Nezvese Chinhu muhukama.)

Zvichida chiratidzo chiri nani chenguva yakafanira yokutaura, kunyange zvakadaro, ndepaunenge inzwa gadzirira. "Hausungirwe kuudza munhu wese nyaya yako yeupenyu kubva pachiremwaremwa," anosimbisa Eckel. "Zviri nani kubva kunzvimbo yekuzviremekedza. Pane kufunga kuti, 'Achanditonga here?' funga kuti, ‘Ndinonzwa ndakasununguka here kupa munhu uyu mashoko aya?’ Uri kuzvipa simba."

Ilyssa Israel, makumi matatu nemapfumbamwe, mubatsiri mukuru kubva kuSpringfield, NJ, akanzwa akasununguka kune mumwe murume zvekuti akamuudza pazuva rechipiri kuti akange arasikirwa nemapaunzi zana mushure mekuvhiyiwa gastric bypass-uye akawedzera kuvhiyiwa kuti abvise ganda rakawandisa. . Mhinduro yake: "Zvakanaka! Zvakanaka kwauri!" Ipapo akareurura kurwisana kwake pachake nehuremu uye chimiro chemuviri. "Ndinofunga kumuudza kare zvakatiswededza padyo," anodaro Israel. "Tinogona kuudza mumwe nemumwe zvakavanzika zvedu zvakadzika zvakasviba uye kubvuma zvizere." Vakaroora makore maviri gare gare.

Dzora Zvidzoreso

Hazvina mhosva kuti iwe unotaurira zvakapfuura nehungwaru sei, haugone kudzora kuti vamwe vanozvinzwa sei. Iva wakagadzirira kuti vamwe vave vasina kudzika kana kuti vepamusoro, anowedzera Eckel. Asi ziva kuti dzimwe nguva, vanhu vanokushamisa. Blanchfield akabayiwa mwoyo apo mumwe mukomana waaifambidzana naye akamuudza kuti akanga amufemera uye gare gare, akarasikirwa nehuremu hwakakura. “Zvaifadza kuziva kuti kuchinja upenyu hwangu nekuhuisa kunze uko kwakabatsira mumwe munhu,” anodaro. (Wedzera icho kune 6 Kwete-Saka-Zviratidzo Zviratidzo Iye Muchengeti.)

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