Nei Cancer Isiri "Hondo"

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Kana iwe uchitaura nezve gomarara, iwe unotii? Kuti mumwe munhu 'akarasikirwa' nehondo yake nekenza? Kuti vari 'kurwira' hupenyu hwavo? Kuti 'vakakunda' chirwere? Makomendi ako haasi kubatsira, anodaro tsvagiridzo nyowani yakaburitswa mumagazini Hunhu uye Zvemagariro Psychology Bulletin-uye vamwe vemazuva ano uye vekare varwere vekenza vanobvumirana. Zvinogona kunge zvisiri nyore kutyora mutauro uyu, asi zvakakosha. Mutauro wehondo-kushandisa mazwi akaita sehondo, kurwa, kurarama, muvengi, kurasikirwa, uye kukunda-zvinogona kukanganisa kunzwisiswa kwekenza uye nemabatiro anoita vanhu kwazviri, sekureva kwevanyori vekudzidza. Muchokwadi, mhedzisiro yavo inoratidza kuti madimikira emuvengi egomarara anogona kukuvadza hutano hweveruzhinji. (Ona Zvinhu 6 Zvausina Kuziva Nezve Kenza Yezamu)

"Kune mutsara wakatetepa," anodaro Geralyn Lucas, munyori uye aimbove mugadziri weterevhizheni akanyora mabhuku maviri nezveruzivo rwake rwegomarara rezamu. "Ndiri kuda kuti mukadzi wese ashandise mutauro unotaura naye, asi pakabuda bhuku rangu nyowani," Ipapo Kwakauya Hupenyu, ndakanga ndisingadi chero mutauro iwoyo pabutiro rangu," anodaro. "Handina kuhwina kana kukundwa ... chemo yangu yakashanda. Uye handinzwe ndakasununguka kutaura kuti ndakairova, nekuti handina chekuita nazvo. Yakanga iine zvishoma zvekuita neni uye zvimwe zvine chekuita nerudzi rwangu rwechitokisi, "anotsanangura.

"Kudzoka shure, handifunge kuti ruzhinji rwevanhu vakandikomberedza vanoshandisa kana kushandisa mazwi ekurwisa, kana kufunga kuti uku kwaive kukunda / kurasikirwa mamiriro," anodaro Jessica Oldwyn, anonyora nezvekuita bundu repfungwa kana bhurogu yake. Asi anoti dzimwe shamwari dzake dzine kenza dzinosema zvachose mazwi ehondo anoshandiswa kurondedzera gomarara. "Ndinonzwisisa kuti izwi rekurwa rinoisa kudzvinyirira kwakawanda kune avo vatova pasi pekunetseka kusingakundiki kuti vabudirire mumamiriro ezvinhu aDavid naGoriyati. Asi ini ndinoona rumwe rutivi zvakare: kuti zvakaoma zvikuru kuziva zvokutaura kana kutaura nemunhu ane cancer. " Zvisinei, Oldwyn anoti kuita nhaurirano nemunhu ane gomarara nekuvateerera kunovabatsira kunzwa vachitsigirwa. “Tanga nemibvunzo yakapfava uone kwazvinobva ipapo,” anopa zano. "Uye ndokumbirawo murangarire kuti kunyangwe kana tapedza nemishonga, hatina kuzombopedza pachokwadi. Inoramba iripo mazuva ese, kutya gomarara kuchimuka zvakare. Kutya kufa."

Mandi Hudson anonyora zvakare nezve ruzivo rwake nekenza yemazamu pane rake bhurogu Darn Yakanaka Lemonade uye anobvuma kuti kunyangwe iye iye asingasarure mutauro wehondo kutaura nezve mumwe munhu ane gomarara, anonzwisisa kuti sei vanhu vachitaura nenzira idzodzo. "Kurapa kwakaoma," anodaro. "Paunenge wapedza nekurapwa unoda chimwe chinhu chekupemberera, chimwe chinhu chekuchidaidza, imwe nzira yekuti" Ndakaita izvi, zvaityisa - asi ndiri pano! "" Kunyangwe zvakadaro, "handina chokwadi kuti ndinoda vanhu kutaura kuti ndakakundwa necancer yemazamu, kana kuti ndakakundikana. zvinoita sekunge ndisina kuyedza zvakakwana, "anobvuma.

Kunyange zvakadaro, vamwe vanogona kuwana mutauro uyu uchinyaradza. "Rudzi urwu rwehurukuro harupi Lauren manzwiro akashata," anodaro Lisa Hill, amai va19-makore-ekuzvarwa Lauren Hill, mutambi webhasikiti paMount St. Joseph's University uyo akawanikwa aine Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma (DIPG), a kashoma uye isingarapike fomu yekenza yeuropi. "Ari muhondo nebundu muuropi. Iye anozviona semunhu ari kurwira hupenyu hwake, uye ari murwi weDIPG anorwira vese vana vanobatwa," anodaro Lisa Hill. Muchokwadi, Lauren akasarudza kushandisa mazuva ake ekupedzisira 'kurwira' vamwe, nekusimudza mari yeChechi Inotanga Izvozvi nheyo kuburikidza newebhusaiti yake.

“Chinetso chepfungwa dzinorwisana nderekuti kune vanokunda uye vanokundwa, uye nekuti wakarasikirwa nehondo yako yegomarara, hazvireve kuti wakundikana,” anodaro Sandra Haber, Ph.D., chiremba wepfungwa anorapa gomarara. manejimendi (aivewo nekenza iye). "Zvakafanana nekumhanya marathon," anodaro. “Kana wapedza unongohwina kunyangwe usina kuwana nguva yakanaka, tikangoti ‘wakunda’ kana kuti ‘hauna kuhwina’ tinorasikirwa zvikuru pakuita izvozvo. kuramba simba rose nebasa uye zvishuvo. Kubudirira, kwete kuhwina. Kunyange kune munhu ari kufa, anogona kuramba achibudirira. Hazviiti kuti vasayemuke."

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