7 Vakadzi Vanogovana Yakanakisa Yega-Yekuda Mazano Ivo Ivo Yavakawana Kubva Kuna Ivo Baba

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• Ongororo ye

Kana zvasvika pakukunda muviri wemifananidzo yehondo, isu tinowanzo funga nezve vanamai vari kumberi-izvo zvine musoro nekuti amai vanowanzo gadzirisa nezviitiko zvekuzvida zvakafanana zvaunotarisana nazvo. Asi kune mumwe munhu anowanzove aripo zvakare, achikukurudzira kuti uite zvaunogona uye kukuda sezvauri: baba vako.

Mazuva ano, vanababa-vangave vekuzvarwa, vakagamuchirwa, newanano, kana avo vanotora chinzvimbo chababa-vakakosha kupfuura nakare kose kuvanasikana vavo. Ivo vane pesvedzero ine simba pabasa remwanasikana wavo, hukama, uye sarudzo dzehupenyu, sekutsvaga kwakaitwa naLinda Nielsen, Ph.D., purofesa wezvedzidzo uye kuyaruka psychology kuWake Forest University uye munyori we Baba-Mwanasikana Ukama: Chazvino Ongororo & Zvinyorwa. Mumwe muenzaniso? Vakadzi mazuva ano vane mukana wakapetwa katatu wekutevera avo yababa nzira yebasa. Uye hazviregi nemabasa; Vakadzi vane baba vanobatanidzwa vane mikana mishoma yekuva nedambudziko rekudya, uye vanowanzoita zvirinani kuchikoro, anodaro Dr. Nielsen.

Varume vane maonero akasiyana-uye isu tisiri kugogodza zano raAmai, dzimwe nguva kurudziro ine simba kwazvo, zano, kana mazwi ekurarama nawo anobva kuna baba vako. Hongu, dzimwe nguva varume vanotaurirana zvakasiyana, saka mazano avo anogona kuuya nenzira isina kujairika, asi inogonawo kuva chaizvo zvaunoda kunzwa. Kubhadhara rukudzo kuna Baba vekare vanodiwa, takakumbira vakadzi vasere kuti vagovane rairo yavakagamuchira iyo yakavabatsira kudzidza kuda miviri yavo, kuvandudza matarenda avo, uye kungonzwa kutyisa pamusoro pavo.

Ona runako pasi pezvese zvimwe.

"Semuyaruka ndanga ndichiyedza kugadzira uye ini ndichiri kuyeuka ndichiuya pasi pamatanho uye maitiro ababa vangu. Akaratidza kushamisika ndokuti, 'Iwe wakanaka chero zvodii, asi sei wakapfeka iyo pendi yese? saamai vako-haudi zvekuzora kuti uve wakanaka.' "Vabereki vangu vese vakaisa chivimbo chemukati nekunze mandiri, asi baba vangu vanotyisa pakuzviita nenzira dzakananga."-Meghan S., Houston

Ratidza matarenda ako uye uwane kudanwa kwako muhupenyu.

"Pandaiva nemakore 14, baba vangu vaindiendesa kumba uye vakandibvunza kana ndakanga ndambofunga nezvezvandaida kuita muupenyu hwangu pandakakura. Ndakati ndakanga ndisati ndaziva. Vakabva vandiudza kuti vaifunga kuti ini." d kuva mukoti akanaka kwazvo zvichibva pahunhu hwangu hwetsitsi, kunzwisisika, uye nekukurumidza pfungwa. basa randinonyatsoda-uye ndizvo chaizvo chikonzero. "-Amy I., Arvada, CO

Shandisa chinhu chinoparadza kuti udzoke zvakatosimba.

"Baba vangu vagara vari mutsigiri wangu mukuru. Kukura kwake kwakaita kuti ndinzwe senge ndinogona kuita chero chinhu. Akandidzidzisawo kutevedzera hunhu hwangu nemoyo uye ndirambe ndakatendeka pane zvandinokoshesa. Ichi chidzidzo chakasvika pandakarambana nemurume wangu gore rapfuura.Ndakaziva kuti ndaiita chinhu chakakodzera, asi ndaitya kuva ndega uye naamai vasina murume.Pandakaudza baba vangu nezve kupatsanurwa, ndakatya, asi vakapindura vachiti vanondida, zvinogara zviripo ndipei pano, uye ndinoziva kuti ndine simba rekuita izvi.-Tracy P., Lakeville, MN

Kuda kuremekedzwa semumhanyi uye somukadzi.

"Baba vangu vakanga vasiri mutauri mukuru asi vaigara vachiteerera kune zvandaiita. Muchikoro chesekondari, vakaratidza kune imwe neimwe yemitambo yangu yevolleyball nemitambo yemitambo, uye kana ndakambokundikana mune chimwe chinhu, pane kudaro. yekundidzora, aindibatsira kudzidza kuita zvirinani.Taipedza maawa tichidzidzira hunyanzvi hwevolleyball pamberi pechivanze.Pamusoro pezvo, paaindikumbira kuti nditambe kumichato, aiti, 'Rimwe zuva mukomana achauya.Vazhinji vachadaro.Anokuda zvakanyanya anotamba zvishoma nezvishoma uye anokuswededza pedyo uye anokuteerera.Kana vakakurumidza kufamba,unoenda mberi."-Christie K., Shakopee, MN

Isa pakutanga zvaunoda iwe pachako.

"Pakupera kwevhiki, taienda kunhandare yendege uko baba vangu vaive nendege-kubhururuka chaive chinhu chavo chavanofarira. Ndinoyeuka maitiro avakaita neni uye ini ndotandara, toenda tichifamba. Iye aigara achizvikudza kwazvo kuti ave neni pamwe chete naye.Ini nguva dzose ndainzwa kugamuchirwa uye ndaida pane zvaaifarira, semumwe mutyairi wendege uye shamwari.Muenzaniso wake wakandidzidzisa kuve nechokwadi kuti handikanganwe kuzviisa pakutanga dzimwe nguva uye kugadzira nzvimbo muhupenyu hwangu pane zvandinoda. "-Sarah T., Minneapolis

Edza nepaunogona napo wozogutsikana nazvo.

"Baba vangu vanoramba vari kurudziro yangu kunyangwe vakapfuura makore gumi apfuura. Vakandidzidzisa kukoshesa uye kuzvida ini nekuti vaindikoshesa uye vaindida kunyangwe zvodii. Vakandidzidzisa kuyedza nepandinogona napo, asizve kuti ndive akagwinya kwete kuva zvakanakisa. Akandidzidzisa kuona kugona kwangu kwechokwadi uye kusamborega. "Ndamusuwa zvisingaite, asi ndinotenda zvikuru nhaka yake yerudo."-Marianne F., Martinsburg, WV

Dada nezvauri uye kubudirira kwako.

"Mumakore angu okutanga 20s ndakabva kumusikana wetaundi duku kuenda kune mumwe muzvinabhizimisi wechikadzi aibudirira, achishanda munyika dzakawanda. Amai vangu vakanga vasingatsigiri zvandaiita. Vakatanga kukwikwidzana neni uye vakashora maitiro angu ebasa. Kuita kwavo kwakaita kuti ndifunge kuti ndaifanira kuita basa rangu. ndokumbirawo ruregerero rwekubudirira kwangu.Ndanga ndichiri kuda hukama nemhuri yangu uye ndainetseka kuti pane zvandiri kuita zvisirizvo.Pakupedzisira rimwe zuva baba vangu vakandikwevera kudivi ndokundiudza kuzvikudza kwavo uye kusambokumbira ruregerero-kuna amai vangu kana ani zvake -nokuda kwekubudirira kwandakaita."-Theresa V., Reno, NV

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