Kufara Kwako Kunogona Kubatsira Kuderedza Kushungurudzika Kweshamwari Dzako

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Unonetsekana kuti kutandara neshamwari yako yeDebby Downer kuri kukanganisa manzwiro ako? Tsvagurudzo nyowani kubva kuEngland iri pano kuti ichengetedze hushamwari hwako: Kushungurudzika hakuparadzirane-asi mufaro ndizvo, anodaro unofara kudzidza kutsva mukati Zvikumbiro zveRoyal Society B.

Basting stereotypes pamusoro pekuora mwoyo uye kuratidza simba rehushamwari, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti imwe yemishonga inoshanda yechirwere chepfungwa inogona kunge isiri kure kupfuura rondedzero yekubata pafoni yako. (Uyezve, iwe unowana idzi 12 Nzira Shamwari Yako Yepachokwadi Inosimudzira Hutano Hwako.)

Kuti aongorore kuti mafungiro eshamwari anochinja sei mumwe, masayendisiti okuUniversity of Manchester neWarwick akafunda vadzidzi 2 000 vokusekondari vokuUnited States, vachishandisa mhando dzemakombiyuta kuona mafungiro avo. Vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti zvinopesana nekutenda kwakakurumbira, kushushikana pamoyo hakupararira kubva kune mumwe munhu kuenda kune mumwe. Uye kuunganidza zviwanikwa zvinokurudzira, vakawanawo mafaro anofara muchokwadi ita.

Izvo zvekuti iwe unogona kukurudzira shamwari iri pasi hazvishamise, akadaro munyori wekudzidza Thomas House, Ph.D., mudzidzisi mukuru mune akashandisa masvomhu kubva kuYunivhesiti yeManchester, mupepanhau. "Tinoziva zvemagariro evanhu-somuenzaniso kugara uri woga kana kuva nechiitiko chekushungurudzwa muhuduku-kukanganisa kana mumwe munhu akaora mwoyo. Tinozivawo kuti rubatsiro rwemagariro evanhu hunokosha pakugadzirisa kubva pakuora mwoyo, semuenzaniso kuva nevanhu vekutaura navo, "akatsanangura kudaro. (Dzidza zvakawanda nezve Brain Yako Pa: Kushungurudzika.)

Uye muuyo weshamwari ine hanya pakuora mwoyo kwomunhu wakanga uchikosha zvikuru. Nepo tsvakiridzo yapfuura yakawana kuti mishonga inongobatsira chikamu chimwe muzvitatu chevanhu vakaora mwoyo, chidzidzo ichi chakawana "chiyero chekurapa" che50 muzana pakati pevanhu vakaora mwoyo vane rutsigiro rwakasimba munharaunda. Mhedzisiro iyi yakakura, Imba inoti, tisingataure kuti yakasimba pasocial network inzira yekurapa yakachipa.

Aya haasi mashoko akanaka chete kuna Debbie Downers, asiwo kune vanhu vanovada. Kwete chete haufanire kunetseka nezve "kubata" kushushikana kubva kushamwari, asi kushandisa nguva navo-kana chero rudzi rweshamwari pachinhu icho-kunogona kubatsira iwe mupfungwa nomumuviri zvakare. Ongororo ya2013 yakaitwa neUnited Health Group yakawana kuti 76 muzana yevakuru veUS vanoshandisa nguva kubatsira vamwe vakashuma kuti kuita izvi kwaita kuti vanzwe vane hutano mumuviri, uye 78 muzana vaive nedambudziko rekudzikira kupfuura vanhu vakuru vasingayedze kushandira vamwe . Uye ongororo yakaburitswa neAmerican Psychological Association yakawana kuti avo vanoenda munzira yavo kubatsira vamwe nguva dzose vane njodzi shoma yekuora mwoyo uye vanorarama kwenguva yakareba. (Unombozvibvunza kuti Sei Zvakaoma Kuita Shamwari Somunhu Mukuru? Tine mazano ekubatsira!)

Saka nguva inotevera yaunoona shamwari ichiimba "Ndingori gore dema remvura," svika kwavari - munguva pfupi zvese ridza muridzo unofadza.

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