5 Mibvunzo Iwe Haufanire Kubvunza paFirst Date

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Meso ako akasangana mhiri kamuri, kana, wako paIndaneti kufambidzana Profiles chete "tinya." Chero angave mamiriro ezvinhu, iwe ukaona zvingangoitika, akakubvunza kunze, uye ikozvino wagadzirira iro butterflies-mune-rako-dumbu rekutanga zuva.

Saka chii chinoitika kana mese makagara mhiri kwetafura kubva kune mumwe uye nhaurirano yochinja kuva yemunhu? Vazhinji vedu tinoziva kugara kure nenyaya dzinopokana senge zvematongerwo enyika nechitendero, asi chii ndizvo Mutambo wakanaka wevanhu vaviri vari kuyedza kuzivana? Kana iwe uchitarisira kumutendeutsa kubva pazuva rekutanga kuenda kune mumwe mweya, heino mibvunzo mishanu yaunofanirwa kwete bvunza.

1. Kubvunza nezve "The Ex."

Uyu anowanzo kutsvedza mukutaura nyaya kana uchidya nezve ndangariro dzezororo, mazuva akaipa, kana ngano dzekare dzekoreji. "Edza kuzvichengeta zvakanyanya sezvinobvira," anodaro Hilary Rushford, muvambi wegentlemen's branding blog dapper & the duchess. "Iwe haudi kunzwika wakarembera kune mumwe munhu. Nyangwe pfungwa yemunhu wekupedzisira wawakapengera inogona kunge iri zhowe zhowe." Zvakafanana zvinoenda nekubvunza zuva rako kuti nei hukama hwake hwekupedzisira hwakakundikana, kana kuti nei "achiri" asina kuroora.

2. Nzvimbo yako kana yangu?

Kuda kuziva ndiyo inokurumidza nzira yekuuraya kubatana - kunyanya kana zvasvika pakurota muhupenyu hwepabonde rako. Sekureva kwaMurairidzi Steph, "nyanzvi yerudo" ine mukurumbira, kukwezva pabonde-kunyangwe nenzira yemubvunzo-kunogona kunzi kusaremekedza uye kunyange kunyadzisa.

"Zuva rekutanga mukana wekuziva munhu ari pamberi pako, uye munhu iyeye anozonzwa kukanganiswa kana hurukuro ikakurumidza-kubva pane chaunofarira chikafu kuenda kunzvimbo yaunofarira," anodaro. Rushford anobvumirana. "Zvinongova zvisina kufanira. Kunze kwekunge chinangwa chako chiri chekuita bonde husiku ihwohwo, chengetedza kutamba nemoyo usina moyo, uye chengetedza huwandu hwevakabatana uye 'wanga une makore mangani kana' mibvunzo kuti inguvai yakakodzera."

3. Unoita marii?

Hurukuro yemari inotaura zvakawanda, uye inzira yechokwadi yokumutyisidzira nayo. "Varume havacheri musikana anochera goridhe" anodaro 'relationshipologist' Lindsay Kriger, "uye kubvunza nezvemari yake kunoreva izvozvo."

"Kutaura pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu epanguva ino yenyika kana hupfumi hwenyika zvakanaka uye zvechokwadi panguva yakakodzera iye zvino. Asi kutaura pamusoro pemamiriro emari emunhu hakuna miganhu kusvikira hukama hwega hwatangwa, "anodaro Carol Brody Fleet, munyori webhuku. Chirikadzi Dzapfeka Stilettos (New Horizon Press, 2009).

4. Unofunga kuti hukama uhwu huri kuenda kupi?

Kana iwe ukangosangana uye wave kutotaura zvekuroora, urikufamba zvakanyanya. Kunyangwe iwe uchifunga kuti anogona kuve Iye, "iwe uchiri kufanira kukakata karoti," akadaro Samantha Goldberg, nyanzvi yehupenyu. Kriger anobvumirana nazvo. "Varume vanofarira kuvhima saka musaite mhembwe yakafa."

Zvinoenderana nemukurumbira wekufambidzana uye murairidzi wehukama David Wygant, kana iwe uchifungidzira uchifara nekusingaperi uye pitter patter yetsoka diki, zvichengete kwauri iwe-ikozvino. "Usambomubvunza kuti vana vangani vaanoda pazuva rekutanga. Unogonawo kutenga minivan izvozvi woenda kuimba hombe iri kumasabhabha iwe-anofunga kuti urikutsvaga munhu anopa hurume," Wygant anodaro .

5. Ndiyo hairpiece here?

Taura nezvemubvunzo wakaremerwa. Chirevo chega chinogona kutuka zuva rako, kunyangwe dai iwe waireva nenzira yakanaka. Asi Murairidzi Steph anoti kutaura nezve chitarisiko hakuna miganhu zvachose.

"Kumuudza kuti 'akanaka kwazvo' kana kuti 'ane maziso akakurisa' hakusi kungotsamwisa chete, asi zvinomuita kuti asagadzikane. Achanyemwerera, uye achava netsika, asi haazobudi newe zvakare," anodaro.

Kungofanana nekutaura pamusoro pechitarisiko chake hakubvumirwe, usamukumbira kuti ataure nezve ako, futi. "Kumubvunza kuti 'unondiwana ndichiyevedza, ndakanaka, kana kunakidza,' kana chero chinhu chinopopota 'Ini handina kuchengeteka uye ndinoda kuvimbiswa' zvinomutyisa nekukurumidza. Ehe iye anofunga kuti uri mukuru, akakukumbira kunze pazuva! anodaro nyanzvi yekufambidzana uye munyori Marina Sbrochi.

Chinyorwa chekupedzisira: Haasi murapi wako.

Kunyangwe uyu usiri mubvunzo wega wega, nyanzvi dzedu dzaive nezano shoma kupfuura rekutanga hurukuro dzekutanga. Iwe unogona kugadzikana naye uye unonzwa sekunge iwe unogona kugovera chero chinhu mukati menguva yekutanga iyo yekutanga, asi Rushford anopa zano, siya mukwende wako pamusuwo.

"Wese munhu ane nyaya, asi edza kusatungamira neyakaipisisa iwe kubuda kunze kwegedhi rekutanga. Rangarira, munhu uyu haakuzive uye unoda kuona kuti urikugovana zvakawanda zveakanakisa zvikamu zve iwe kupfuura mapundu atinawo tese."

Edza kutarisa pane zvakanaka muhupenyu hwako, uye kwete kuita nharo pamusoro pezvinokugumbura - zuva rako rinotyisa, vaunoshanda navo vakashata, kana mukuru wako akaipa. "Izvi hazviite kuti uve unokwezva kana kumanikidza," anodaro Rushford. "Panzvimbo iyoyo, tarisa pane izvo zvinokuvhenekera, zvinokuunzira mufaro, uye zvinokuita kuti ufare." Uye rimwe zuva, anogona kunge ari iye.

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