5 Zvikonzero Iwe Haufanire Kutendera Shamwari Dzako Kukumisikidza Iwe

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Pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwako, ungangove wakafunga kuti shamwari dzako dzikumisire zuva kana kuti iwe watoita zvekukwikwidza. Zvinotaridza senge rakakura zano-kana iwe uri shamwari navo vese, ivo vanofanirwa kuve nemujenya wakafanana uye vangangozvirova, handiti? Kwete chaizvo. Chidzidzo chitsva kubva kuHarvard Bhizinesi Chikoro chakawana kuti kukwikwidzana kunounza mufaro kune vanokwikwidza asi kwete hazvo kune avo vari kugadzwa. [Tita izvi chokwadi!]

"Kunyange hazvo zvinoita sekunge shamwari dzako dzinogona kunge dziri ivo vekupedzisira vanowirirana nekuti vanoziva iwe uye zvaunofarira kwazvo, chokwadi ndechekuti kuva nekumisikidza kunogona kutungamira kune akawanda mamiriro anokuvadza," anodaro Christie Hartman, Ph.D. , chiremba wepfungwa uye nyanzvi yekufambidzana muDenver. Funga nezvezvinhu izvi zvishanu uye funga kaviri usati warega shamwari dzako dzichitamba Cupid.

1. Inogona Kuparadza Hushamwari Hwenyu

Iti shamwari yako inokumisikidza neshamwari yake John. Iye mukuru-kusvikira, pasina pese, anokupoko. Unotendeukira kushamwari yako kuti ubatsirwe, asi pachinzvimbo chekusvika padanho rako, anokwenya musoro achiti ari kugara kunze kweiyi-achikusiya uchipisa. "Kana shamwari yako ikakumisikidza, inozoita yepakati, izvo zvinogona kukonzera kusagadzikana pakati penyu," anodaro Hartman. "Unogona kupedzisira waisa mutoro kwaari kana mamiriro acho asingashande, kana mhedzisiro yacho isiri mhosva yake." Uye iwo mutambo wemhosva unogona kukanganisa zvakanyanya hushamwari hwako.

Imwe nzira iyo setup inogona kukuvadza yako BFF-ness ndeye kana iwe uchifunga kuti mutambo wako ndeye yakazara dud uye usingatende kuti pfungwa yekuti akakunakira iwe yakapinda muuropi hwake kwesekondi yakakamurwa. "Kana shamwari yako ikakumisikidza nemumwe munhu asiri padanho rako, unogona kufunga kuti haafunge kuti wakakodzera mukomana ari nani," anodaro Hartman. Uye kunyangwe kana iri fungidziro yenhema pane iwe chikamu, icho icho chaunofunga kuti chingave chechokwadi chakaringana kukurudzira hondo isingakoshi uye inogona kukuvadza.

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2. Unonzwa Kumanikidzwa muhukama

Ngatitii pane kuti John akupumhe mweya, iwe unoneta naye uye unomubuda kunze. Asi iwe unonzwa uine mhosva yekuzvipedza naye sezvo ari "mumhuri" zvekuti unorega zvinhu zvichitamba kwenguva yakareba kupfuura zvavanofanira kuita. “Paunobvumira shamwari dzako kuti dzikugadzirisire, unopedzisira wava kukanganisa rusununguko rwako rwokudanana nomumwe munhu nokuti unonzwa sokuti une chikwereti kwavari chokupa shamwari dzavo mikana mirefu kupfuura yawaizopa vamwe,” anotsanangura kudaro Marni Battista, mudzidzisi wokupfimbana uye wehukama. muLos Angeles uye muvambi weDating with Dignity. Kunzwa mubhokisi mukati kunogona kukonzera kuti ubate murume ari mubvunzo zvakaipa nekushungurudzika, Battista anowedzera, izvo zvinogona kukuvadza manzwiro ake kupfuura kana iwe ukacheka zvisungo panguva yakakodzera.

3. Inoisa makore Kutonga Kwako

Kumanikidza kumwechete "mumhuri" kunogona kukukanganisa iwe: Sezvo John akaongororwa kare, zviri nyore kusvetukira pamhedziso yekuti iwe unozongozvirova naye. Usati wazviziva iwe, iwe uri kurota pamusoro pezvinoshamisa zvakapetwa kaviri misi iwe yauchazoenderera neshamwari yako nemukomana wake-uye pamwe nemuchato wako nemazita evacheche zvakare. Deredza pasi, musikana! "Dambudziko netarisiro dzakakwirira nderekuti vanogona kukuomesera kuti utore zvinhu pavanouya, uye zvakare zvinokuomera kuti uzive kana imi vaviri musiri kukodzera," anodaro Hartman. Nekuti iwe unoda kuti zvinhu zvishande zvakashata zvakanyanya, iwe unogona kuyedza kumanikidza kubatana uko kusipo chete. Kana kuti zvakatoipisisa, unogona kupedzisira wava kubvuma kufunga nezvake pane kuona iye chaiye, anogona kunge ari munhu asina kukukodzera. Chero angave mamiriro ezvinhu, bummer ndeyekuti iko kukwirira zvaunotarisira, ndipo paunonyanya kuora moyo paunonzwa kana zvikasashanda-kunyangwe dai anga asiri mutambo wakanaka kubva pakuenda. [Tita izvi chokwadi!]

4. Shamwari Yako Inogona Kuva Nezvakanaka Zvinangwa

Mikana yekuti shamwari yako ingangove iri kuedza kukuisa iwe uchingofunga zvakanakira zvako. Nekudaro pane zvakare mukana mudiki wekuti angave ari kupwanya pana John uye chero chikonzero chisinganzwe kusununguka kuenda kwaari akananga-saka iye anosarudza kukumisikidza naye, nenzira iyoyo anenge aine chekutaura naye. "Ndinoona izvi zvakanyanya nevatengi vangu," Battista anodaro. "Chii chinoitika ndechekuti shamwari inotanga kutaura nemukomana zvakanyanya, saka anobva ave mubatsiri wake, nokudaro achigadzira pfungwa yekunyepedzera-kushamwaridzana." Uye unosiiwa usina ukama hwepedyo hwaunokodzera.

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5. Zvakaoma Kubata Nekutsemuka

Kazhinji kana iwe uchipedza zvinhu nemumwe munhu, unogona kuita yakachena social media kutsvaira uye kusamutevera pa Instagram ne Twitter uye kumubvisa shamwari paFacebook. Asi kana shamwari dzemurume neshamwari yako, uchiri kuzomuona-pamhepo uye uri munhu. "Kudanana neshamwari yeshamwari kunoita kuti kuputsa kuome zvakanyanya nekuti iwe unoramba uchinzwa zvidiki zvidiki pamusoro pake kuburikidza nemuzambiringa, uye anogona kubuda mumifananidzo yeFacebook kunyangwe usisiri shamwari naye," Battista anodaro. Mune mamwe mazwi, anogara aripo, izvo zvinoita kuti zvikuomere kuti ufambe kuenda kumberi.

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